Pehea e launa pū ai me nā kānaka iʻole lākou e aloha mai iaʻu?

ʻO ka hoaaloha keʻano like ma ka pilina o kēlā me kēia kanaka, e like me ke aloha. No laila, makemake mākou a pau e loaʻa nā hoaaloha. ʻO kekahi mau kaikamāhine makemake i ka lāhui wahine wale nō, akā, hikiʻole i kekahi poʻe ke ola me ka hui kāneʻole. Akā, me ke kamaʻilio kūkākūkāʻana me nā poʻe, loaʻa i kahi manawa e loaʻa ai i kekahi o kou aloha ke aloha, a he mea hōʻeha maoli kēia. ʻO ia ke kumu i makemake ai nā kaikamāhine he nui i ka nīnau, pehea e aʻo ai i ke aloha me nā kānaka iʻole lākou e aloha?


E haʻi i kaʻohe "no"

Inā makemakeʻoe e launa me nā'ōpio, maiʻaeʻoe i kouʻano e hana i nā mea e noʻonoʻo ai i kekahi mea ma mua o kahi pilikino'ōlohelohe aloha. He nui nā kaikamāhine e hoʻohui wale me nā kānaka wale nō i mea e hoʻonani iki ai a hoʻonui i ko lākou manaʻo pono'ī. Me nā hoaaloha maikaʻiʻoiʻole ka hana. ʻAʻole maopopo nā keiki i nā kaikamāhine e pono e hoʻoholo wale no ke koi waleʻana,ʻaʻole naʻe no ka mea e makemake aiʻo ia a makemakeʻo ia e loaʻa iā ia kekahi mea ma mua o ka pilina pilikino. No laila, inā e hoʻolei akuʻoe i nā mea hoʻowahāwahā makaʻole i ke kanaka'ōpio, e "pana" nā maka a pēlā aku, hiki i kaʻike eʻike i keʻano o ka hōʻailona e like me ka hōʻailona i ka hana a e ho'āʻo e hoʻokumu iāʻoe i kahiʻano aloha. No laila, inā makemakeʻoleʻoe e nalowale kekahi hoaaloha, e hana me nā hoaaloha a me nā hoaaloha. Ma hope o nā mea a pau,ʻaʻoleʻoe e leʻaleʻa i ke kaikamahine'ē aʻe aʻaʻoleʻoe e nānā pono iā lākou. Me nā keikikāne, ponoʻoe e hana i keʻano like. Pono lākou eʻike mau i kouʻike wale i loko o lākou he mau hoaaloha wale nō,ʻaʻole i ka moekolohe. Inā he wahine kūponoʻole ka mea i hāʻawi iā ia iho a me ke kanaka, no laila, e noʻonoʻo anaʻo ia no ka wahine, a oiai lākou e'ōlelo neiʻaʻoleʻoe e hoʻokaumaha i ka aloha,ʻaʻole loa ka hihia. ʻO ke kanaka iʻike i ka mea hope loa e like me ke hoaaloha, hiki ke hoʻomaopopo koke i kona aloha, a ināʻaʻole i hoʻololiʻia nā manaʻo, a laila, hiki i ke alohaʻoiaʻiʻo ke lilo i ka huhū, a me ka inaina. No laila, e nā kaikamāhine, e hoʻomanaʻo mau i kāu hana i ka hui o nā kāne, iʻole e wehewehe i nā hopena o ka hopena i hanaʻia eʻoe.

He hoaalohaʻiʻoʻoe

Inā makemakeʻoe i ka poʻe'ōpio meʻoe wale nō i mea e hoaaloha ai, ponoʻoe e lilo i kā lākou hoaaloha,ʻaʻoleʻoe he hoaaloha. Ma ke ala,ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo e koiʻiaʻoe e hana i nā mea a pau e hiki ai i nā poʻe ke hoʻopoina loa i kouʻano hōʻailona o ka wahine maikaʻi. Pono nā kāne e hōʻihi i kouʻano he kaikamahine, kōkua a pēlā aku. He meaʻokoʻa loa kēia. Ponoʻoe e hoʻomaopopo i nā keiki a e like me kā lākou makemake. Loaʻa me nā hoaaloha a nā poʻe e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka pāʻani, e pili ana i nā kaʻa, a me nā kapa. I ka manawa e hoʻomaka ai ka wahine e hōʻole i ko lākou makemake, e hoʻokau i ka manaʻo wahine pono a pēlā aku, ua pau ke kanaka i kaʻikeʻole i kona hoaaloha. No nā poʻe he mea maʻalahi a hoʻomaopopo hoʻiʻaʻole nā ​​wāhine e hoʻomaopopo. Aia lākou i laila aʻaeʻia. Pili lākou i kā lākou mau kaikamāhine, akā,ʻaʻole maopopo i kā lākou mau hoa. No laila, inā makemakeʻoe e hoaaloha a he hoaaloha wale nō, e hanaʻoe e like me ke hoaaloha. Ponoʻoe e mākaukau no kaʻoiaʻiʻo e kamaʻilioʻia me nā wāhine'ē aʻe a me ka lanakila pili iā lākou,ʻaʻole naʻe i nā manawa maʻamau. E heleʻoe i luna o lākou ma ka pāʻani, e kūkākūkā i nā moʻolelo o nā pāʻani rorohiko, e noho i loko o ka hale kaʻa a inu, e ho'āʻo ana e noʻonoʻo i ka mea i loaʻa i ka kaʻa i kēia manawa. . ʻAʻole hiki ke aloha o ke kanaka iāʻoe, inā i loko o kona manaʻo he hoa alohaʻoe, akā he nerd. No laila, e ho'āʻo mau e hana i ka mea e hikiʻole ai i nā'ōpio ke hoʻomanaʻo he wahineʻoe, me nāʻanoʻokoʻa'ē aʻe e hiki ai iāʻoe ke aloha, akāʻaʻole hiki iāʻoe ke hoaaloha.

Inā mākou e wahine?

He nui nā kaikamāhine e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka nīnau,ʻo ka hopena o ka hanaʻana i ka hana a nā kānaka iā mākou. ʻOiai no ka hopena, pili ia, akā,ʻaʻole ia he mea e pale ana ka wahine i ka wahine no ka pono o kona pilina me nā poʻe. Eia naʻe, pono e kāohi keʻano palupalu a kōkuaʻole. He nui nā wāhine e hana mau ana i ka hoihoi, e hāʻawi i nā kāne i ka manawa e manaʻo ai iā lākou iho he mau mea pale ikaika, aʻo kēia manaʻo e hāpai i ka pukaʻana o ke aloha. No laila, ināʻaʻoleʻoe e makemake i nā kāne e hana iāʻoe e like me ke kaikamahine he kaikamahine, e kūʻokoʻaʻoe. ʻAʻole kēia manaʻoʻaʻole ponoʻoe e huli i nā hoaaloha no ke kōkua. ʻAʻohe mea e like me kēia, no ka mea, kōkua kekahi i kekahi. "Ināʻike waleʻoe iāʻoe e hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻoponopono i ka pilikia,ʻaʻoleʻoe e nānā i kāu mau hoa me ka pōʻinoʻole a hōʻikeʻole i ka hikiʻole ke kōkua. I kaʻikeʻana o nā kānaka i kā lākou kaikamahine wahine i nele i ka nele, ua hoʻokauʻia lākou me ka mahaloʻana o ke kāne, e like me kā lāua. No laila, e waiho i kāu mau meaʻoluʻolu no nā kāne e makemake maoli e hoʻopunipuni. A hōʻike aku kou mau hoaaloha iā lākou i kahiʻano ikaika a kūʻokoʻa, hiki iā lākou ke hele i kahi pāʻani me lākou, a lawe i kahi kīʻaha, a kōkua i kekahi mea. ʻOiai,ʻaʻole ponoʻoe e hele lōʻihi e ho'āʻo e hana i ka mea i hikiʻole i ka'īhelu helu maʻamau ke hana. ʻAʻole ponoʻoe e hōʻoia i kekahi kanaka he kanaka likeʻoe e like me lākou. Loaʻa iāʻoe nā kuleana a pau e lilo i wahine, eʻaʻahu i kou kuʻekuʻe wāwae, a me ka heleʻana i kahi kokoke i kou mau hoaaloha i loko o kahi hōʻailona. E haʻaheo maoli lākou i ka loaʻaʻana o kā lākou hoaaloha nani a nani. Akā ma ka manawa like e pono ai e hoʻomau iā lākou me keʻano o ko lākou "mau kumu", eʻoluʻolu iā lākou e like me lākou a me ka manawaʻole me ka'ōlohelohe a me ka zhidkompereobuyvatsya i nā kāmele, e kau i ka lole kahiko a hele pū me nā poʻe no kā lākou hana. E hoʻomanaʻo i kēia mau mea, a laila hiki iāʻoe ke lilo i kā lākou hoaaloha maoli.

Akā naʻe, mai pāʻani aiʻole e ho'āʻo e like me ka mea āu iʻikeʻole ai. ʻOiai,ʻo nā kaikamāhine wale nō i makemake nui i kēia mau mea pāʻani keiki, keʻano o ko lākou ola, kā lākou mauʻaʻa, ko lākou manawa, hiki iā lākou ke hoaaloha me nā keikikāne. No laila, ua maʻalahi nā'ōpiopio e hoʻomaopopo i nā'ōpio, no ka mea,ʻo lākou iho kēiaʻano manaʻo. Inā e ho'āʻo ke kaikamahine e like me ia, e pakele ana iā ia iho, a laila,ʻo ka meaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻo ka pilina me nā keiki, heʻoi loa ia, aʻo ia wale nō e ho'āʻo ai e hōʻoia i kekahi mea. ʻAʻole pono kēia e hana. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, mai hoʻoikaika iāʻoe iho e lilo i mau hoaaloha me kekahi. ʻO kahi kaikamahine heʻoi aku ka maikaʻi loa i ka nohona wahine, aʻo kekahi ma nā kāne. ʻAʻohe mea weliweli ma kēia. Inā wale nō, inā e pāʻani waleʻoe i ka pilina, a laila eʻike nō nā poʻe i kouʻano hilahila aʻaʻole eʻike iāʻoe he hoaaloha. Aʻo ke ala pololei kēia e aloha ai, aiʻole i ka inaina. No laila, inā he poʻe hoaalohaʻoe me nā kānaka, ponoʻoe e maopopo e makemakeʻoe iā lākou i ka pilina.

Manaʻo nui ka poʻe ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahineʻaʻole hiki ke lilo i hoaaloha. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻaʻole kēiaʻoiaʻiʻo. ʻAʻole hiki i kekahi mau kaikamāhine ke hanaʻole iā lākou iho me nā kāne wale nō he mau hoaaloha, a he mea hoʻonāukiuki kēia i nā kānaka e unuhi i ka pilina mai nā pilikana a me nā poʻe'ē aʻe. Inā makemake ka wahine e lilo i mau hoaaloha,ʻaʻole e ho'āʻo e hoʻowalewale a hāʻule i ke aloha, a laila ma kahi kokoke iā ia, he mau hoaaloha maikaʻi loa ia,ʻoiaʻiʻo, aʻoiaʻiʻo.