He aha kāna makemake?
He aha ka mea e pono ai ka wahine holomua? He aha keʻano o ke kanaka e nānā nei?
ʻOiai,ʻo kēlā mau wāhine i hiki ke mālama iā lākou iho, ua makemake i nā kāne e like me nā mea'ē aʻe, akā,ʻoi aʻe ko lākou mau koi no nā kāne. Makemake lākou eʻike i kekahi kanaka e pili ana i ka mea like i hiki ke kūlike i keʻano o ke ola, akā,ʻaʻoleʻo ia e kāpae.
ʻO ka haʻawina, uaʻae like kēlā mau wāhine e lilo i mau kahu wahine aiʻole mālama i ke kāne, no laila,ʻo ka hōʻailona o ka pilina maikaʻi me lākou,ʻo ia ka mahalo a me ke kaulike. Ināʻaʻoleʻoe iʻike i keʻano e lanakila ai i ka wahine lanakila, a laila,ʻo ka mea mua loa, ponoʻoe e lilo i mea - ikaika, kūlana wiwoʻole, lanakila, akā,ʻaʻole i maʻalahi a hiki ke kūpono. ʻO nā wāhine koʻikoʻi hoʻi e makemake i kahiʻohana mahana a ikaika, he nui ka poʻe e moeʻuhane ana i nā keiki,ʻaʻole lākou i mākaukau e kūkulu i ka pilina me kekahi mea e hālāwai ai i loko o ko lākou olaʻana aʻoi aku keʻano koʻikoʻi e pili ana i kēia pilikia. He aha e mālamaʻia i ka wā e hālāwai ai me kahi wahine paʻakikī.
Pehea e mālama ai?
Pehea e lanakila ai i ka wahine lanakila i loaʻa nā mea a pau? He paʻakikī ka nīnau, akā he pane ia. ʻO ka mea mua, mai hoʻoiho i ka mea i kohoʻia me kāu mau pilikia. ʻOiai inā he mau pilikia i loko o kou ola, mai ho'āʻo e hōʻolo i nā mea no ka mea. Ma ke ola o nā poʻe pōmaikaʻi, loaʻa iā lākou nā pilikia pono'ī a lākou i makemake ai e hana. ʻO nā pilikia o nā kānaka'ē aʻe,ʻaʻole ia e hoʻokipa i ke aloha, akā wale nō ke kānalua, no ke aha e hikiʻole ai i kahi kāne makua ke hana me ke kōkuaʻoleʻia e ka wahine.
ʻO ka lua,ʻo ka ho'āʻoʻana e lanakila i ka wahine me ka kālā,ʻaʻole ia he kūpono maikaʻi. Ma keʻano he kūlana, loaʻa nā wāhine maikaʻi i ka waiwai aʻaʻole pono lākou e kākoʻo kālā. Inā hāʻawiʻoe i nā makana , a lailaʻaʻole pono e lawaiʻa, e koho i nā mea nani i hanaʻia me kaʻono, akā, mai ho'āʻo e uku i kāu mea i koho ai. Ināʻoe e pilina, pono kēia kahi e kūlike me ke kiʻekiʻe o ka wahine. ʻAʻole paha he hale kūʻai maikaʻi kēia, i kekahi manawa he pōʻai aloha ma luna o ka hale o kahi hale maʻamau e waiho ai i nā manaʻo maikaʻi aʻe ma mua o nāʻoihana papa. ʻO ka mea nui,ʻaʻoleʻo ia eʻike i ka pilikia.
ʻO ke kolu, e hilinaʻi i ka naʻau ma mua o ka manaʻo. Hāʻawi nā wāhine lanakila i ka lokomaikaʻi a me ka hoihoi nui,ʻaʻole i ka noʻonoʻo naʻauʻole. Inā hoʻoikaika ka wahine i ka holomua i ke ola, inā ua lawaʻo ia i kahi e maopopo ai kaʻike. E hāʻawi i kahi kūpono kūpono.
ʻO ka hā, ke hoʻokaʻawale i kāu pilina ma waena o ka pilina aloha. Hiki i nā wāhine lanakila i kēia manawa ke kū i nā hiʻohiʻona, ke ho'āʻo nei lākou e hoʻohana i kā lākou mau hana pono'ī. ʻIke lākou i keʻano eʻike ai i kēlā poʻe, aʻaʻole loa lākou e hāʻule no ka'ō'ō,ʻo ka mea āu e manaʻo ai.
Ua hoʻololi iki nā kāne i ko lākou manaʻo ma ka waiwai o kekahi mauʻano o nā wāhine no ka pilina koʻikoʻi. Akā,ʻaʻole lākou i mākaukau e hoʻololi i nā kuʻi hope loa i nā wāhine pono'ī, no ka mea,ʻaʻole lākou iʻike i keʻano o ka lanakilaʻana i ka wahine lanakila. I ko lākou manaʻo,ʻo nāʻano likeʻole a nā keiki maʻamau i maʻalahiʻole e kūʻai,ʻaʻole lākou e hana, uaʻoi aku ka mākaukau, kūlana wiwoʻole, a pinepine hoʻi i ke kuhi. Hoʻopili kēia mau mea a pau i nā kānaka a me nā hopu i ka manawa like. ʻO ka mea huna,ʻo ia nōʻoe. Ināʻaʻohe maikaʻi kāu kālā a me kou kūlana, e like me nā mea maʻamau me nā kaikamahine maʻamau, a laila he manawa e makemake ai kāu mea i waeʻia i kou manaʻo, ka pilina, kaʻike, keʻano o ka kamaʻilioʻana, ka maluhia o loko. Inā maopopo i ke kanaka he waiwai kāna e hāʻawi aku ai i kēlā wahine, koe wale nō ke kālā, e lanakilaʻo ia.