Hiki iā mākou ke hopohopo o ka mea i waeʻia e likeʻole me kāu aloha i hala. A e hoʻomaopopo koke pahaʻo ia? A laila e hāʻawi akuʻo ia iāʻoe i kēlā mau manaʻo iʻikeʻia e ke kanaka i hala.
Ke hopohopo neiʻoe eʻae aku i ke aloha o ke kanaka, no ka mea, manaʻoʻoe e hihia aiʻoe, aiʻole ia i kumakaiaʻia. Ma muli o kēia makaʻu, pinepine ka pilina pilikino aʻaʻole paha iʻaeʻia e hoʻomaka. No kēia kumu, wae pinepine nā wāhine i nā pilina lōʻihi, i kapaʻia no ka wahine. Akā, ma hope o ka olaʻana i ka kumakaiaʻana o kekahi hoa, ua hoʻokipa ka wahine psychologically i ka hiki o ka pilina hou, hopohopo e hilinaʻi a wehe i kahi hoa.
Aia kekahi kumu e makaʻu ai i kahi pilina hou. ʻO kēia kumu no ka wā kamaliʻi. Ināʻaʻole nā mākua i hoʻohālike o kaʻohanaʻoliʻoli, a laila hiki mai ka wahine i ka hopenaʻaʻoleʻo ia e loaʻa kaʻohanaʻoluʻolu. ʻAʻole hiki iā ia ke hiki i nā pilina ke maʻalahi, ka hauʻoli, a me ka leʻaleʻa. ʻO kaʻikeʻole o nā mākua i ka hanaʻana i nā pilina, hana lākou i ka makaʻu e hoʻomaka i ko lākou pilina.
Inā ulu kahi wahine i kahiʻohana hauʻoli loa a aloha, kahi i ho'āʻo mau aiʻo ia e hōʻoia i kaʻikeʻoleʻia o kēlāʻano o kaʻohanaʻelua. ʻO kēia ke alakaʻiʻana i kaʻoiaʻiʻo o ka manaʻo nui o nā wāhine no kaʻohana a me nā pilina. Aʻike i ka mea ponoʻole hikiʻole.
Ināʻoe e nīnau i kahi wahine i ka nīnau no konaʻikeʻana i kona pilina o ka wā e hiki mai ana, a laila, e hoʻomakaʻo ia e hoʻopaʻa inoa i nā pono e pono ai ke kanaka. Pono kaʻohana e hauʻoli,ʻaʻole kūpono ka hakakā a me nā kūlana hakakā. Ināʻaʻoleʻo ia i maopopo he mea like nā mea a pau, ua maʻalahi ka noho hoʻokahiʻana ma mua o kaʻeha ma ka maleʻoliʻoliʻole. Hoʻopili nā kānaka hoʻonaʻauao i ka pilikia nui o nā wāhine, ka mea e hopohopo ai i ka pilikino hou -ʻo ia ke manaʻo lākou i kahi kanaka e "lole hou i loko o ka hale kūʻai." ʻO kāna mau noi wale nō i mālamaʻia. I ka wā mua,ʻaʻoleʻo ia i mākaukau e hāʻawi i kahi pilina.
Inā lanakila ka wahine iā ia iho, uaʻaeʻo ia i ke ola a me nā mea a pau e puni ana iā ia, a laila e loaʻa iā ia kahi kūpono maikaʻi loa e kūkulu i kahi pilina mau loa. ʻO ka hopohopo a me ka hoʻoikaikaʻana o nā hiʻohiʻona e hōʻikeʻole i nā hiʻohiʻona o nā mākua a me nā pono pilikino.
ʻO ka palekana ka makaʻu hou i kahi pilina hou. ʻO ka haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa e pili ana i ka manaʻo o ka wahineʻaʻole hiki ke kūkulu i kahiʻohana aiʻole e hana paha i kahi aloha lōʻihi.
Ma kēia kūlana, hoʻokahi wale nō'ōlelo aʻo: e hoʻomaka i ke aloha a me ka hilinaʻi iāʻoe iho.
Ke hopohopo nei nā wāhine ikaika, i ka pilina. Aia kekahi mau hiʻohiʻona i loko o lākou,ʻo ia ka ikaika a me ke kūlana e hoʻoweliweli i kekahi kanaka. ʻO kona pūpū ka ikaika, ka maikaʻi, ka hilinaʻi iā ia iho, ka hanohano ma luna o kekahi. Aʻo ka meaʻoiaʻiʻo, i loko o ka wahine wahine e noho nei i kahi kaikamahine aloha e makemake i kahi manaʻo mālie a nani - aloha.
ʻO ka hopohopo o ka liloʻana o ke kūʻokoʻa, ke hoʻopaʻaʻia e nā manaʻo a me nā kuleana ma nā lima a me nā wāwae. He ola ko kekahi wahine,ʻaʻohe kanaka i komo i loko o kekahi niche. Ma luna ona a me ka pilina pili ponoʻole ka manawa, no ka mea, ua paʻiʻia kēlā me kēia lā ma nā mea liʻiliʻi.
ʻO ka hopohopo nui i kahi pilina hou eʻikeʻia e nā wāhine i hānau keiki ma hope o ko lāua male mua. Me he mea lāʻaʻole eʻae nā keiki i ka mea i koho houʻia, aʻaʻole paha e hiki iā ia ke kū i nā hana hou,ʻaʻoleʻo ia e aloha i nā keiki, e like me kona makemake. Ma kēiaʻano, he mea pono e hoʻomaopopo o nā keiki e liʻuliʻu a nui paha e ulu aʻe a hana i nā hua kīnaʻi o kaʻohana, ae noho anaʻoe ma kahi o ka wāwae.