Ke aloha nui nei ke kanaka iaʻu? - ke hopohopo nei kēia nīnau i nā wāhine he nui. A inā he kānalua ka wahine i keʻanoʻoiaʻiʻo o nā manaʻo, a laila, he mau nīnau - pehea e nānā ai i nā manaʻo o ke kanaka, pehea e maopopo ai ke aloha nui kahi kanaka iaʻu? He mea pono ke nānā i kona mau manaʻo noʻu?
E nānā pono i nā manaʻo o nā kānaka, no ka mea, ma ke ola, i kekahi mau manawa i hana i nāʻano e hōʻike ana he manaʻo kanaka iāʻoe aʻaʻole paha. Akā,ʻaʻole ponoʻoe e hele ma nā aniani'ōmaʻomaʻo: e hoʻomaʻamaʻaʻoe i ka maʻa mau i ka mea i waeʻia, no ka mea, e hilinaʻi ana kāu e hiki mai ana ma kēia hope aku! He mea pono ke hoʻomanaʻo i ka'ōlelo kaulana i haʻiʻia e Sharon Stone "ʻO nā wāhine wale nō e hiki ke hoʻohālikelike i ka hoʻokae a me nā kāne." Ke hoʻololi nei i kahi manaʻo o kahi kanaka, akā makemakeʻoe e komo i ka pāʻani likeʻole?
No kaʻikeʻana i nā manaʻo o kāu koho, kōkua ka'ōlelo ma lalo.
Keʻano o nā manaʻo maoli o kānaka:
- ʻAʻoleʻoe e manaʻo e neleʻoe i ke aloha kāne. I ka hoʻiʻana, loaʻa iāʻoe ke aloha mai kahi kanaka e like me kāu.
- Makemake ke kanaka e mālama iāʻoe. Ināʻoe i maʻi, e mālamaʻo ia iāʻoe, e minaminaʻo ia iāʻoe.
- He lili ke kanaka.
- He mea nui i ke kanaka eʻike i kou manaʻo. Inā loaʻa kekahi paio me nā kānaka'ē aʻe, aia paha e kū lākou ma kouʻaoʻao. E hāʻawi aku i nā manaʻo kūpono, no ka mea he mea nui iā ia ke hauʻoli neiʻoe.
- E hoʻomanaʻo mau kekahi kanaka i ka pehea a me keʻano o kou nohoʻana, kāu mea e hana ai i kona wā e hele ai, i kāu mea e aloha ai, a me kou makemake. Eia naʻe,ʻaʻole pono ka haʻiʻana aku i kāna mea i koho ai e pili ana i ka holoʻana o ka lā i nā mea kiko'ī,ʻaʻole makemake nā kānaka i iaʻano "hōʻike."
- Eʻoluʻoluʻole kahi kanaka i nā mea maikaʻi wale nō, a laila e hoʻopiliʻiaʻo ia i kou mau hewa.
- Makemake kekahi kanaka e honi iāʻoe, ae hana no ia no kekahi hana.
- Hāʻawi ke kanaka i ke aloha, akā naʻeʻaʻoleʻo ia i ka manawa koke,ʻo ia hoʻi kona manaʻo no kaʻikeʻana no ka manawa lōʻihi.
- Ke nānā pono nei ke kāne iāʻoe i kēlā manawa i kēia manawa, makemake nui e hoʻopā iāʻoe, e moe (akāʻo ka hapanui o ka manawa e hōʻike ana kēia mau mea iā ia wale nō i nā mahina mua o kaʻike).
- ʻO kēlā kanaka i kā lākou mau leka uila, e kākau inoaʻia nā leka me nā hua'ōlelo e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ke aloha - "alohaʻoe", "kiss", "me ke aloha."
- Ke makaʻu nei kekahi kanaka e lilo iāʻoe.
Nā manaʻo hoʻopiʻi o nā kāne, i hōʻikeʻia penei:
- Ke manaʻo neiʻoeʻaʻole iʻae kāu koho iāʻoe ma nāʻaoʻao a pau o kou ola. Ke manaʻo neiʻoe e hūnā anaʻo ia i kekahi mea,ʻaʻole e haʻi. ʻAʻole hiki i kahi kanaka ke haʻi iāʻoe no nā ex-girls, akā ua haʻi muaʻoe iā ia no kāu aloha i hala. Hiki ke hōʻoia kēia hana a ke kanakaʻaʻoleʻo ia i hilinaʻi iāʻoe.
- ʻAʻole ke kanaka i lili.
- ʻAʻole mālama kahi kanaka i kou manaʻo. ʻO kāna hoʻoholoʻana, inā e pili ana i nā meaʻelua, aʻaʻoleʻoe e kū'ē iā ia,ʻo ia ka hopena.
- ʻAʻole pono kahi kanaka e pili iāʻoe, ināʻoe e pono i ke kōkua.
- ʻAʻole hōʻike kekahi kanaka iāʻoe i kona mau hoaaloha aiʻole ia e lawe mau iāʻoe i nā manawa a pau - ka lawaiʻa, ka pāʻani, a me ka pā.
- Ke huhū nei ke kanaka i kāu leo.
- Ma mua o ka lāʻelua a i ka hopena o ka hālāwai mua, hoʻounaʻo ia iāʻoe i ka mahalo, ke'ōlelo neiʻo ia i kona aloha iāʻoe.
ʻAʻohe kanaka i manaʻo iāʻoe inā:
- ʻAʻole i hōʻike ke kanaka i kona mau manaʻo iāʻoe. ʻAʻoleʻoe i lohe iā ia i nā hua'ōlelo wela,ʻaʻole hoʻi i kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka hōʻoia o ke aloha.
- ʻAʻole hiki i ke kanaka ke hīmeni ma waena o nā pilina pili pono,ʻoiai inā ua hālāwai lōʻihiʻoe. Ma konaʻaoʻao ma kaʻaoʻao o kou kino,ʻaʻohe hemahema!
Ināʻaʻole hiki iāʻoe ke maopopo inā makemake kāu mea i aloha iāʻoe, e noi aku i kāu pokii e kōkua iāʻoe, e like me kāuʻike, mai waho iʻike maikaʻiʻoe. E hoʻokipa i kahi hoaaloha i nā manaʻo o ke kanaka iāʻoe. No kēia mea, hiki iāʻoe ke hele i kahi cafe (hiki iāʻoe ke koho i kekahi manawa hui,ʻo ka mea nuiʻoʻoe pū me kāu mea i waeʻia, a ua hele mai kāu kaikamahine me ia). ʻO ka hoa,ʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻaʻoleʻo ia e'ōlelo pololei inā he aloha kou i waeʻia iāʻoe, akā e hiki iā ia ke noʻonoʻo inā he hana maikaʻiʻo ia iāʻoe. Hiki iāʻoe ke haʻi pololei iāʻoe ināʻikeʻo ia i nā hōʻailona o ka mahaloʻole i kouʻano. Inā hōʻoleʻole kekahi kanaka iāʻoe, a laila,ʻaʻole hiki iāʻoe ke kali e aloha i ke kanaka.
Ke hoʻomakaʻoe i kahi pilina hou me kahi kauā, e makaʻala a lailaʻaʻoleʻoe e nalo i nā hōʻailona hauʻoli a iʻole e weliweli paha e kamaʻilio ana i nā manaʻo o ke kanaka iāʻoe!