No laila, peheaʻoe e loaʻa ai i ka pōmaikaʻi maikaʻi i ka hauʻoli hauʻoli i kaʻoiaʻiʻo? ʻO ka mea mua, he mea pono e hōʻike i kahi mea nona pono'ī,ʻo ia hoʻi ka wahine i loko o kāna hana. E hoʻomanaʻo i ka nani o kahi kaikamahine nani a maikaʻi, i kona akamai, he likeʻole ia me nā kaikamahine'ē aʻe. ʻOiai ināʻaʻole ia he mea nui ka nui o nā kaikamāhine i loko o ke kūlanakauhale e komo nei i ke kākahu like, ke kāhili a iʻole ka helehelena e like me kāu. ʻO ka mea nui ma waho o ka lehulehu a lilo i mea kūikawā. Eia nā kulekele paeʻelima e kōkua iāʻoe e lilo i mea maikaʻi aʻaʻole wale wale nō, akā,ʻo ka mea nui loa,ʻo ia ke hōʻoiaʻana i ka hōʻoluʻoluʻikeʻia mai ka kāne kāne o ka heluna kanaka.
1. He aha ka mea nui a maikaʻi i loko o kahi kaikamahine? He aha ka mea i hana pinepine ai i ka puʻuwai kanaka e paʻi ikaika a hoʻolei iāʻoe ma hope o nā maka o ka mahalo? ʻOiaʻiʻo, kēiaʻike. Akā maʻaneʻi, ma keʻano he kumuhana, hiki iā mākou ke hoʻonohonoho pono i kāu mau lole, ka hulu, ka umauma, ka pū'ī, ka pūpū, ka wāwae, ka lauoho, ka make-up, ka lauoho lauoho a me kou mau pono a me kāu mau hana. ʻO ka mea mua, ponoʻoe eʻike pono i kēia a laila e hoʻouna. Eia ke kumu nui o ka lanakila a me ka mahaloʻana i kahi kaikamahine nani. No laila, e hoʻomanaʻo mau i kou'ōlohelohe, nā hana hou hou loa o ka honua o ke kāhiko, nā lauoho a me nāʻaʻahu. E hoʻomanaʻo, i mea e leʻaleʻa ai, ponoʻoe e nānā mau e like me "me nā nila."
2. Ma ka hihiaʻelua, ponoʻoe e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i kou "kūlana" i ka hui. E nīnau anaʻoe, pehea keʻano o kēia? He mea maʻalahi ka pane a mākou: e loaʻa i ka nui o nā makamaka i hiki iāʻoe, e hōʻike iāʻoe e hana maikaʻiʻia e nā poʻe a pau e pili ana iāʻoe (hoahana, hoa haumāna a me nā hoaaloha a me nā hoa noho). No ka hanaʻana i kēia, ponoʻoe e lilo i makuahine a me ke ola o kekahi hui. Eia hou, hiki iāʻoe ke lanakila i kekahi mau hana maʻamau (hāmeʻa, hula, mele, pāʻani i ke guitar a pēlā aku). "E piʻi i luna o ke kīwai o ka nani" ma kekahi o kāu mau makemake punahele. Ma ke ala, e hoʻomanaʻo e hiki iāʻoe ke pāʻani i kou "kūlana" ma ka hui kaiaulu e like me kou makemake,ʻo ka mea nuiʻo ia nā mea a pau i loko o nā palena a me nā palena o ke kuhi. Eia hou, pono e hōʻike pono iāʻoe iho a maikaʻi. Akā e noʻonoʻo pono, no ka mea, eia wale nō keʻano o kou ola. No laila,ʻaʻole loaʻoe e hoʻokuʻu iāʻoe iho i kēia, aiʻoleʻoe e hōʻinoʻia a nele i ka makemake. ʻO kēia mau mea e pili ana i nā poʻe e nānā iāʻoe he kaikamahine'ōpio i kūkulu i ka mea nui ma mua o ka mea nāna i pani.
3. Akā, ma ke kolu o ka hihia, eʻike kākou i ka mea e hūnāʻia ma hope o ka kapa i kapaʻiaʻo "kou" kūlana. Akā maʻaneʻi, e hoʻomanaʻoʻoe i kāu hoʻomaka wahine maikaʻi. ʻO nā'ōlelo'ē aʻe,ʻo kouʻano aloha, ka makemake e kōkua i ka hoʻomaha i kahi manawa paʻakikī no lākou, kou hiki ke akahai, palekana, nāwaliwali, a me ka wahine ikaika i ka manawa hoʻokahi. E hoʻomanaʻo, ua hāʻawiʻia kēia mauʻano maikaʻi iā mākou e ka nāwaliwali o ke kino, keʻano aʻaʻole pono mākou e hōʻole aku iā lākou a hōʻole paha iā lākou. Akā, eʻike nō hoʻi he hikiʻole ke ola mau loa, e hilinaʻi ana i kēia mau "hoʻopunipuni" ponoʻole. Ponoʻoe e hoʻonaʻauao i ka hiki ke ho'āʻo a me nāʻano kāne kāne. ʻO ia hoʻi, ke ikaika, paʻa, a hoʻoholo. I kēia manawa e hiki iāʻoe ke lilo i mea kūleʻa i nā mea a pau, no ka meaʻaʻole e lawe, a me kou ola pono'ī.
4. E maʻalahiʻoe i nā manawa a pau, e hilinaʻi ana i ka hopena o kāu e hana nei, e ho'āʻo nei i nā kuleana hou nou iho. Mai ho'āʻo eʻoluʻolu i nā mea a pau. Inā mālama mauʻoe i keʻano,ʻano maikaʻi, eʻikeʻiaʻoe he "pōkole". Heʻoiaʻiʻo loa kēia i nā kāne e pili ana i nā mea a pau, eʻikeʻoe iāʻoe e hiki ke maʻalahi me ka "maʻalahi", aʻaʻole pēlā he kanaka hoihoi. No laila, i kekahi manawa e ho'āʻo i keʻano wiwoʻole a me ka noʻonoʻo, e hoʻonele i kahi kanaka. E manaÿoÿiÿo, maanei e loaÿa iä ÿoe ka mahalo i ke käne o kou nohona. E hoʻomanaʻo i ke kanaka e hakakā nei,ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o ka pono a me ka maʻalahi. Ma ke ala, mai hoʻopoina i ka hana. E ho'āʻo mau, e like me ka noʻonoʻoʻana i ka papa o nā hanana, mai manaʻoʻoe e lawe maiʻoe i ka "hauʻoli ma kahi pā kālā". E hakakā mau no ka hopena a hiki i ka hopena a ināʻikeʻoeʻo kāu ia, e hele i kahi i lanakila. Mai makaʻuʻoe e paio me nā poʻe'ē aʻe. ʻO kēia e hāʻawi iāʻoe i ka ikaika a me ke kōkua e lilo i mea maikaʻi a paleʻole i kēlā me kēia kūlana.
5. Aʻo ka rula hope loa o nāʻelima e lilo i mea kūponoʻole iāʻoe. ʻO ka hapanui pinepine kēia hana maʻamau me nā kāne. Manaʻo mau lākou i hiki iā lākou keʻike mua i keʻano o ka wahine. ʻO ka mea mua, ke manaʻo nei lākou inā ua lanakila lākou i ka wahine i ko lākou kino, hiki iā lākou ke hana i ka mea a lākou e makemake ai. No laila, e noho wale i wahine. Hiki iāʻoe ke paio ma ka manawa kūpono a me ka manawa i manaʻoʻoleʻia. A,ʻo ka mea nui loa, e ho'āʻo mau i ka hana i kāu hana aiʻole e like me ka'ōlelo a kouʻuhane iāʻoe. E hoʻomanaʻo i ka hilahilaʻole o ka wahine i ka hoʻopiʻiʻoleʻana, a me keʻano'āponoʻole,ʻaʻole e loaʻa i nā kānaka maoli wale nō kekahi waiwai nui, akā ma hope o lākou ka holomua a me ka hiki ke hauʻoli.
No laila, ua ninaninau mākou i nā kulekele, nāʻoluʻolu, ka lanakila, ka pōmaikaʻi a me ka hauʻoli no kēlā me kēia kaikamahine. I kēia manawa, ke manaʻo nei mākou e hiki iāʻoe, ma ka nānāʻana iā lākou, ka mea e hauʻoli maoli ai, ae lanakila i nā mea a pau, no ka meaʻaʻole e lawe. Aʻo ka mea nui, no ka loaʻaʻana o ka hauʻoli ma kou ola pono'ī. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, no loko mai ia o ka hapalua o ka noho maikaʻiʻana o kekahi kaikamahine.
A no ka hopena, makemake au e'ōlelo, he mea pili wale nō ia e aʻo ai i ka pōmaikaʻi a me ka hauʻoli, e hopuʻia me nā limaʻelua. E hoʻomanaʻo,ʻaʻole i kahe ka wai ma lalo o kahi wai kūmole. No laila e hana a hoʻonui iāʻoe iho, i kou ola, i kou manaʻo ma luna o ia mea a me kou helehelena. Alohaʻoe!