Ka hōʻehaʻana i nā keiki makua ma ka pilikino o nā mākua

I ko mākou wā'ōpio, ua moe mākou i nā "kūpuna" e ho'ōki i ka piʻiʻana i kā mākou mau mea pilikino. A i kēia manawa, ua ulu a ua kū'ē mākou i nā ola o ko mākou mau mākua. No ke aha mākou i hoʻololi ai i nā kuleana? A pehea e hōʻoki ai i ka noʻonoʻo psychologically i kou mau mākua e hoʻomaka e ola i kou ola pono'ī, a na kou mau mākua e ola i ko lākou pono iho? Mālie aʻoiaʻiʻo
ʻO ka hapanui o nā manawa, uaʻikeʻia ka hihia o ka pilikino o nā mākua ma kaʻoiaʻiʻoʻaʻole mākou e haʻalele i ko mākou home. ʻAʻole hiki ke weheweheʻia i kēlā manawa i kēia paio ma muli o ka naʻaupō o ke keiki ulu.

I kekahi manawa,'ōlelo pololei nā mākua: "Ua uluʻoe," akā, hoʻokomo hou i kekahi mea'ē aʻe, i mua o ka mua: "Mai ulu." ʻO ka hapanui pinepine, heʻano kū'ē'ē kēia i loko o nāʻohana kahi i ulu mau ai keʻano hoʻohālike o ka hoʻokaʻawaleʻana,ʻo ia hoʻi,ʻaʻole ia eʻae i nā keiki e ulu, ma muli o ka naʻau a me keʻano kaʻawale mai ko lākou mau mākua. Eia kekahi laʻana,ʻaʻole i kēlā manawa ma mua, i ka wā o ka Soviet, ua'āponoʻia: ma hope o nā mea a pau, hoʻokahi wale nō e kū nei i ka poʻohiwi, e maʻalahi ka ola a me ka mālama i ka hopohopo. I kēia mau lā, ua loli ka honua, hiki i nā keiki ke noho kaʻawale, akā, ua maʻalahi ka hoʻoikaikaʻana i nā hana i kaʻike. ʻO ia ke kumu no ka hoʻomauʻana o ka poʻe he nui i nā manaʻo o ko lākou mau mākua, a me nā mākua - mai nā manaʻo maikaʻi loa, kū'ē iā lākou iho, mālama i nā keiki kokoke iā lākou iho.

Inā makemakeʻoe e haʻalele i kou mau mākua, he mea nui eʻike i kēia mau hōʻailona mai ka makuahine a me ka makua. No ka hanaʻana i kēia, ua lawa ka nānāʻana i kou mau manaʻo. Ma keʻano he kūlana, hana lākou i ke kū'ē i loko: keʻae nei mākou me nā mākua, ke manaʻo nei mākou -ʻo ia, heʻoiaʻiʻo nā mea a pau, akā, i loko o kaʻuhane, aia ka hihia, kānalua a hopohopo. Ma ka hoʻomaopopoʻana i ka mea e hana nei, hiki iāʻoe ke akahai, e hoʻokomo i nā mākua i kāu kiʻi hou. E hōʻoluʻolu i nā mea a pau a lākou e hana ai a wehewehe ua makaukau lākou e hana ma ke kaʻawale. A no nā mākua e noʻonoʻo i kēia mau hua'ōlelo, he mea makemake ia e hoʻihoʻi iā lākou me nā hana, e mālama i nā kuleana no nā hopena. No ka laʻana, e hāʻawi iā lākou i ke kumumanaʻo, e like me ka mea e loaʻa ai iāʻoe iho i ke ola, e helu i ka manawa o ka manawa e komo i loko o kēia, a hōʻike i ka hopena o ka hopena. ʻAʻole e hiki koke mai kēia, ma waena paha o ka poʻe i aloha nuiʻia e nā mākua. Ke makaʻu nei nā keiki, a me nā mākua, e hana i ke kūʻokoʻa ma muli o ka makaʻu nui i ka hōʻole. Ma hope o nā mea a pau,ʻaʻole lākou iʻike i kaʻikeʻana i ka hemahema "hoʻokahi ma hoʻokahi", pēlā lākou e hoʻomau ai i nā mākua i ko lākou ola makua. Akā,ʻo nā hana kūikawā mua loa e kōkua iā ia e noʻonoʻo pehea e lilo i ke kanaka makua. ʻAʻole ia e pale i ka hiki ke noi i ka'ōlelo aʻo i loko o kahi pilikia.

He mea nui e nānā i nā hiʻohiʻona maikaʻi i ka moku'āina o kaʻAmelika, e hauoli i nā lanakila liʻiliʻi.

Aloha-kūʻai
No ka hoʻokomo pinepineʻana i ka pilina o nā mākua,ʻaʻole pono e māhele i kahi kahi noho me lākou. Hiki iāʻoe ke hana i kēia mai kekahi lumi'ē aʻe, he kūlanakauhale a he'āina paha.

ʻO kahi hōʻailona o ke ola
ʻO kahi kaikamahine 30 makahiki i ulu nui i noho i loko o kona lumi no ka manawa lōʻihi, akā i kekahi manawa ua manaʻoʻo ia ua hoʻololi pahaʻo ia a me kona makuahine: ua kūʻai aku ke kaikamahine iā ia i kahi lumi, ke holo nei hoʻiʻo ia ma kāna uku, a ua huhū loa kāna kaikamahine i ka hoʻoloheʻole o kona makuahine i kona manaʻo. ʻO kekahi laʻana, no kāna kāne kīwila, ka mea iʻike i kāna kaikamahine he mea pauʻole ia i ka hilinaʻi aʻaʻole pono i ka makuahine o ke kāne.

Hiki ke kū i kahi kūlana likeʻole ināʻaʻole nui ka manaʻo o ka makua i kāna kaikamahine i ke wā'ōpiopio. Hiki paha i kahi keiki ke haʻalele i ka hana kolohe. A he mea hiki loa paha e hoʻonui i kona ola hou a lilo i'āpana kāpili no ka huliʻana i ke aloha a me kaʻaeʻana. A i kekahi manawa uaʻikeʻoe hiki iāʻoe ke loaʻa kēia mau manaʻo e makemakeʻia ana me ke kōkua o kahi mea mana mana i hikiʻole ke loaʻa i kāu kālā'ōpiopio. Eia naʻe, i ka nui o nā manawa, e hōʻole loa ka makuahine i kēia kūlana: "ʻAʻole i aʻoʻia nā hena i ka hen,ʻoiai inā heʻelua mauʻoihana kiʻekiʻe a he Ph.D." Ma muli paha o ka hikiʻole ke hāʻawi i ke aloha a me kaʻaeʻana,ʻo ia kekahi o nā hiʻohiʻona o ka makua. Aʻo ka ho'āʻoʻana e kūʻai aku i ke aloha,ʻo ia wale nō ke alakaʻi i kahi hopena make. Hiki iāʻoe ke kaumaha no ka manawa lōʻihi e pili ana i ka mea hikiʻole iāʻoe ke loaʻa, akā hiki iāʻoe keʻaeʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻololi i kēia kūlana. He meaʻeha kēia, akā mai kēia manawa e hiki ai i nā pilina maoli,ʻo ka pilina maoli me Mom ke hoʻomaka. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, hiki i kahi kanaka makua ke kākoʻo iā ia iho, aʻo ia ke kākoʻo, aʻo ka noiʻana iā ia mai kona makuahine he hōʻailona o ka naʻauʻole, i loko o ka naʻauʻole.

No ka hōʻoiaʻana i ke kino o loko, he mea nui e aʻo e noho pū me kou makuahine ma kahi kūwae like: e noi,ʻaʻole e noi. Eʻike,ʻaʻole e kali. E nīnau iā ia inā makemakeʻo ia i kāu mea hana. ʻO ka mea hope loa, eʻike i ka mea e like me ia,ʻaʻole naʻe e like me kā mākou makemake eʻike. ʻOiaʻiʻo,ʻaʻole hiki ke maʻalahi ke hana, a no ka mea paha e nele paha ke kōkua i ka mea noi. No ka mea, ināʻaʻole hiki i kou makuahine ke hāʻawi i kāu mea makemake, a hiki i ka wā e loaʻa aiʻoe iāʻoe iho e kākoʻo a'āpono, hiki iāʻoe keʻike i nā pilina'ē aʻe kahi e hiki ai.

He hoaaloha maoli
ʻOiai,ʻo koʻu makuahine a me koʻu makuakāne he mau pilina aloha ia, he mea maikaʻi e haʻalele i nā mea a pau a makemakeʻole.

ʻO kahi hōʻailona o ke ola
ʻO nā mākua he kanaka kūikawā loa no kā lākou kaikamahine 26 makahiki. ʻO lākou kona mau hoaaloha, nā kākā'ōlelo,ʻo ia wale nō ke hilinaʻi iā lākou. Pēlā mai ka wāʻuʻuku mai. Ua kaumahaʻo ia ināʻaʻoleʻo ia iʻike iā lākou noʻekolu lāʻoi aʻe, no ka meaʻaʻohe hoa'ē aʻe he hoaaloha ...

Akā naʻe,ʻaʻole hiki ke kapaʻia kēia kūlana idyllic. ʻO ka mea maikaʻi, maikaʻi ke piliʻana o ka pilina pili ma waena o nā keiki makua a me nā mākua. Akā, he mea weliweli loa ka makuahine makua a me ka makua kāne wale nō ke kākoʻo no ke keiki ulu. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, ke hoʻomanaʻo nei ke kūlana kūlohelohe i kēlā me kēia makahiki, e ulu ana ka pilina o ka pilina a me nā pilikino, e ulu ana ke aupuni kaiaulu. ʻO ka manaʻo o nā mākua "hiki iāʻoe ke hilinaʻi mau i koʻu" a lilo i mea pāpāʻia "Mai hilinaʻi i kekahi." ʻO ka manawa ma kahi manawaʻaʻole e hōʻoluʻolu nā mākua mai keʻano o kaʻoiaʻiʻo a me ka pili aloha, akā he paʻakikī iā lākou keʻae i ka pae o "kanaka kokoke loa" i kekahi.

Ke hāʻawiʻia nā mākua i ke kūlana o ka mea pili wale nō, hikiʻole i nā kānaka'ē ke komo i kahi kokoke. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, i ka hoʻohālikelikeʻana i ka pilina, e nalowale kekahi. He mea maʻalahi ka paʻakikī e lawe i kēia mau hana. Ma hope o nā mea a pau,ʻaʻole ka nīnau e hoʻonui i ka lila o ke kamaʻilioʻana, akā, e aʻo e aʻo i nā poʻe hou. A e hiki iāʻoe ke hana i kēia wale nō ma ka hana, ma o kaʻike.

Ma kēiaʻano, e kōkua kaʻike: ua hoʻolei kaʻu hoa i ka pipi ma ke alanui, hiki iaʻu ke hilinaʻi i kēlā mea? A i kona haʻiʻana i kaʻu mau mea huna i kekahi poʻe, hiki anei iaʻu? Ma hope o nā mea a pau, pili ka hilinaʻi i kā mākou mau pilikino pono'ī, no laila he mea nui ka hoʻomakaʻana e hoʻomaopopo.

ʻOiaʻiʻo, eʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ke ola ma mua o ka pepa. Akā,ʻoiaʻiʻo, hiki iāʻoe ke noho i lalo a kamaʻilio me kahi mea aloha e pili ana i ka mea e pilikia ai iāʻoe. A iʻole ma keʻano e ho'āʻo ai e kōkua i ko mākou mau mākua e ola i ko lākou mau ola, aʻo mākou nō hoʻi.