E hāʻawi kākou i kekahi hiʻohiʻona,'ōlelo kahi wahine 35 makahiki iā ia ua mareʻo ia i kekahi kanaka he 30 makahiki. Ma mua o ka maleʻana, hālāwai lāua me 10 makahiki. E like me ka'ōlelo a ka wahine, he pilina maikaʻi loa kā lākou, akā aia kekahi "akā" -ʻo ka makuahine o kāna kāne ka mea e pahu wale ana i kāna mea pupule. "Ua mālamaʻo ia i kaʻu kāne e like me ke keikikāne. No kēlā me kēia manawa, huliʻo ia iā ia, a hoʻoloheʻo ia i ka hoʻopakele. Ināʻaeʻole ke kāne me kekahi mea, kāheaʻo ia iā ia, aʻaeʻia. A i nā manawa a pau e hele ai au i kahi ahiahi me kaʻu kāne, hiki i kekahi mea i kahi makuahine a ua hoʻopauʻia nā mea a pau, "wahi a ka wahine.
Manaʻo kēia wahine i ka haʻalele, no ka mea ua kipaku pinepine kāna kāne iā ia a me nā keiki i kahi kaʻawale, e hana ana i kekahi mea no kona makuahine. ʻOiai he mea maikaʻi e mahaloʻo ia i kona makuahine a ho'āʻo e kōkua iā ia, akā, ma ka hanaʻana i kēia, ua lukuʻo ia i ka mareʻana o kānaʻohana, makemake ka wahine iā ia e lawe i ka'ōpū i loko o nā lima o kāna kanaka, a ma hope liloʻo ia i kanaka. A manaʻo nā wāhine a pau i kēiaʻano:
- no ke aha i hikiʻole ai i kēia kanaka ke'ōlelo aku, i kekahi manawa ma kekahi manawa;
- no ke aha i mana ai kona makuahine ma luna o kaʻu kāne?
- a he aha kāu e noʻonoʻo ai e hoʻokaʻawale i kēia mau mea mai kekahi i kekahi e hoʻomaka ai e kūkulu i kou ola iho?
No laila, i ka nīnau "No ka mea aʻu i mare ai, no ka" keiki a kuʻu makua "a no kekahi kanaka paha,"ʻaʻole paha he mea hōʻoluʻolu ka pane, akā e alakaʻi ana i ka noʻonoʻo.
ʻO ka pane - e hoʻopau i ka hanaʻana i nā hōʻailona a pau a keʻae aku i kāu kāne he keiki mama ia, no ka mea, uaʻaeʻoe iā ia e like me kēlā. ʻO kēia kou hewa. ʻO ka meaʻoiaʻiʻo, ua hoʻokumuʻia kona makuahine i nā mea a me nā mea e pono ai no ia, aʻaʻoleʻo kāna wahine.
ʻO kahi kanaka maoli ua makaukau a ua hauʻoli e ola i kāu mau kauoha keʻike lākou iā ia, a ua maopopo iā ia inā e hahaiʻo ia i kēia mau rula, e hoʻohauʻoliʻo ia i kāna wahine aloha.
No laila, mai kinohi mai o kou pilina, ponoʻoe e hoʻokumu i nā rula a me ka mālama pono i ke kanaka iā lākou. Ināʻole, e hahaiʻo ia i nā rula o kona makuahine.
ʻO kona makuahine ka wahine mua e haʻi aku iā ia i kahi e pili ai, aʻo ka meaʻole; inā hōʻikeʻo ia iā ia i kona manawa e hoʻi ai i ka home, holoi i kona mau lima ma mua o kaʻaiʻana, palekana i kona kaikuaʻana, a hoʻolohe mau a mālama i kona makuahine, noʻonoʻo i ka mea e hana ai kēia keiki? No laila e hahaiʻo ia i kēia mau rula, no ka mea,ʻaʻole ia e hōʻole i kona makuahine, akā, no kona aloha iā ia. I ke kūʻana o ka manawa, hiki ke hoʻololi i nā kānāwai o kona makuahine i kona mau makahiki, i nā mea e like me ia, aʻaʻole loaʻo ia e haʻalele i kēia mau koi - aʻo kāna keiki, inā aloha, a aloha,ʻaʻole ia e hoʻi hou mai iā lākou, a mahalo, palekana, alohaʻole a hāʻawi i wahine, nāna i hāʻawi iā ia ke ola.
ʻO nā kānāwai nui no kāna kāne
Inā e loaʻa iā ia kekahi wahine akamai e aloha iā ia a alohaʻo ia iā ia,ʻo ia ka mea hiki ke hoʻokumu i nā koi a me nā rula no ka pilina. ʻO nā kulekele nui:
- E mahalo i.
- ʻO kā mākou mau keiki me aʻu ma luna o nā mea a pau ma hope o ke Akua.
- E wehewehe i nā mea a pau a mākou e kamaʻilio ai, pono lākou e mahalo iaʻu a me kā mākou pilina.
Ināʻaʻoleʻoe i kau i nā kānāwai no kou pilina, pehea lā eʻike ai ke kanaka i kāu pilina pili,ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke heluhelu i nā manaʻo a no laila e olaʻo ia e like me nā koi a me nā kānāwai o ka mea i hoʻokomo iā lākou,ʻo ia kona makuahine. ʻAʻoleʻo ia ka mea e ho'āʻo ai kona makuahine e mālama i kāu kāne, akāʻaʻoleʻoe i lawe i ka'ōpū o ke aupuni i loko o kou lima.
ʻO ka heroine o kā mākou moʻolelo no nā makahiki heʻumi i noho mālie aʻae i ka hōʻino wale i kona makuahōnōwai wahine, no ka mea ua hopohopoʻo ia e haʻalele kāna kāne iā ia ae koho i kona makuahine inā hoʻomakaʻo ia e hoʻoili i ka male ma waena o kona makuahine a me kāna keiki. Akā, keʻanoʻokoʻa loa nā kāne, inā aloha maoli ke kanaka iāʻoe, a inā he kanaka maoli kēia, a laila e loaʻa iā ia kahi ala e hoʻomāmā ai i nā kū'ē'ē ma waena o ka wahine me kona makuahōnōwai wahine.
Eʻikeʻoeʻaʻoleʻoe e paio me kona makuahine i hoʻololi i kāu mau mea pepepe i kāu kāne,ʻo wai ka meaʻike a hiki ke kuke i kāna mea punahele, aʻike iā ia he lōʻihi aʻoi aku hoʻi ma mua o kou. ʻAʻole hiki iāʻoe ke kū ma waena o kāu keiki a me kona makuahine inā alohaʻo ia i kona makuahine.
No kaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hanaʻana i kahi pilina me ke kanaka e mahalo a aloha i kona makuahine ma mua o ka mea hoʻowahāwahā i kona makuahine aʻo wai ka mea hikiʻole ke noho me ka wahine.
Ma keʻano maoli, hiki iāʻoe ke pilina me ke kāne a me kona makuahine, a ma ka manawa like e mālama ai i ka mea e hiki ai iāʻoe ke hoʻomalu i ka hoʻohanaʻana i kou mana e hoʻokumu i nā rula a me nā mea maʻamau eʻike aiʻoe i ke kūkuluʻana i kouʻohana.
Ma kahi o ka hopohopo no ka mea ua haʻalele houʻo ia iāʻoe a me nā keiki a holo akula i kona makuahine i ka waenakonu o ka pō, e ala i ka puka o ka lumi moe a'ōlelo aku - "Uaʻike wau i kouʻano no kou makuahine,ʻike wau e alohaʻoe iā ia e hanaʻoe i nā mea a pau āna e noi ai, akāʻo ka mea e hoʻi hou neiʻoe iaʻu a me nā keiki i mea e kōkua ai e hoʻoneʻe i nā kapaʻaʻahu,ʻaʻole ia e maliuʻia e aʻu. Inā e heleʻoe, e noho ma laila i ka pō. "
Ma kēia hihia, e haʻi akuʻoe iā ia e pili ana i kāu mau kaulike, e like me kāu e makemake ai e ola a kohoʻia i kēia manawa, hiki iā ia ke hele a wehewehe i kona makuahineʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hele mai i kēia lā, akā e kāheaʻo ia i ka lāʻapōpō. ʻAʻole hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻomalu i nā manaʻo a me nā hana a kāu kāne a me kona makuahine, akā, hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻomalu i kou mau manaʻo a me nā mea i manaʻoʻia e kāu mau kāne.
I ka hoʻomaka muaʻana o kāu pilina e hāpai i ka nīnau e pili ana i keʻanoʻaʻoleʻoe makemake e paio me kona makuahine aʻaʻole makemake e ala i waena o lākou, no laila pono iā ia e haʻi i kona makuahine:
- ʻO ka pono o kāna wahine,ʻo ka wahine mare,ʻaʻole pono e hoʻokuʻuʻia i ke kumu;
- Ponoʻo ia e mahalo i nā pono o ke keiki e lilo i mea kālā a mea palekana no ka wahine aloha, āna i koho ai he hoa i loko o kona ola.
He aha ka hana a kekahi wahine?
ʻO nā kāne maoli e makemake i kahi wahine aloha ma lalo o kona makuahine, a maopopo iā ia. Ua maopopo nō iā ia inā makemakeʻo ia e loaʻa ka noho paʻa, ka noho mālie a mau loa me ka wahine, pono iā ia eʻoki i ke kaula umbilical e pili iā ia a me kona makuahine. Ua liloʻo ia i kanaka makua a me ke kākoʻo i loaʻa mai iā ia mai kona makuahine: hale,ʻaʻahu, hoʻonaʻauao, mālama, a pēlā aku, e pau.
Ponoʻoe e haʻi pololei iā ia i kāu mea e pono ai e mālama a mālama iāʻoe me kāu mau keiki, e hānai iā lākou, e lilo i hōʻailona no nā keiki, e lilo i poʻo o kēiaʻohana. Ināʻoe e'ōlelo pēlā,ʻo kāu mau leka a me kāu mau koi e pinepine ana i ka makemake o kona makuahine.