Nā kūlanaʻohana i ka hui kaiaulu hou

E pane i ka neʻeʻana i ka nīnau: "He aha ka mea i komo i loko o ka manaʻo o" nāʻohana pili ", a me nā mea i loaʻa iāʻoe"? Nā kūlanaʻohana i ka hui kaiaulu - pehea ia a pehea pehea e wehewehe ai ia mau mea?

ʻO ka wā hou, nā mele hou

ʻO nā mea koʻikoʻi o kaʻohana -ʻo kēia ka mea koʻikoʻi, waiwai nui (tautology, akāʻaʻole pēlā!), Kūkākūkāʻia e nā mea o kaʻohana, ke kahua āpau o kā lākou pono. No ka hapanui, uaʻano like nā loina o kaʻohana: aloha, makua, kūpaʻa, hilinaʻi, pili i nā kūpuna, hale ... Ma ka pōkole, nā mea a pau e hikiʻole ai i kaʻohana a me kaʻohana ke kāhea. Eia kekahi -ʻo kaʻohana pono'ī, ma keʻano he lālā hui o kēia mau mea, he mea nui hoʻi ia! Akā,ʻaʻole i nā manawa kūpono nā manawa i'ōleloʻia, no ka mea, ke ulu nei ke kaiāulu, i kēlā me kēia me kēiaʻano o ka pilina ma waena o ka poʻe kokoke a me ka waiwai e pili ana i kēia mau pilina. Eia ka laʻana: i ka wā i paʻa ka lima lima ma mua o ka 20st century, nui nāʻohana nui, aiʻole -ʻo ka home o kekahi mauʻohana pili like - he mea pono i kekahi ke mahiʻai i ka'āina, mālama i ka mahiʻai. Me ka hikiʻana mai o ka makahiki iwakālua, ua loli nā mea a pau: mai ka heluna o nā lālā o kaʻohana,ʻaʻohe pono o ka pōmaikaʻi, ma mua - ko lākou "ʻano": aʻo, kūlana pili kanaka. Uaʻike maopopoʻia ka hoʻololiʻana o nā mea i kaʻohana:ʻo ka nui o nā keiki a me nā hanauna a me nā'āpana o ka huina ma luna o nā mīkini kaulike kaulike ua aneane ua hala, ua laweʻia ko lākou wahi e nā mea hou: hoʻokahi aʻelua paha keiki i loko o kaʻohana a he pono keʻala i ko lākouʻohana. ʻO kekahi o kēia mau hoʻololiʻana no ka maikaʻi, akā,ʻaʻole kekahi. Hoʻololiʻia nā hoʻololi i kēia mau lā. Eia kekahi, no ka wikiwiki hou o ke ola -ʻoi aku ka ikaika. He aha nā waiwai e loaʻa ai ka mea kahiko a pehea e mālama ai i ka maikaʻi o lākou?

ʻO ke kūʻokoʻa i kohoʻia

Ua lilo ia i mea waiwai nui, i hiki i kēlā me kēiaʻohana o ka hale ke hāʻawi i ka manawa kūpono e wehewehe i kona manaʻo, me ka hoʻomaopopoʻanaʻaʻole iʻahaʻia konaʻano. ʻO ka mea mua no nā wāhine a me nā keiki. ʻO ke kumu o kēia mau wāhine i kēia lā - loaʻa pinepine ka nui, ināʻaʻoleʻoi aku, nā kāne, a hāʻawi iā lākou i ke kuokoa. No nā keiki, manaʻo lākou, hana aʻike i nā mea ma keʻano'ē aʻe ma mua o ko lākou mau mākua, pinepine -ʻike nui. ʻO kaʻikeʻana o nā keiki e ulu aʻe ma mua o nā makahiki,ʻo nā lunakahiko e hoʻonāwaliwali i kā lākou mau kaula. ʻO ka maikaʻi hou, he maikaʻi, akā, pono e hoʻomaopopoʻia ka pono e hoʻokomoʻia i ka kuleana - no ka hana a kekahi. Aʻo ka makua kāne e hoʻolimalima i nā makahikiʻeono - no nā kaikamāhine a me nā keikikāne. I kēia makahiki e hele ana ke keiki i ke kula a haʻalele i ka'āpana o ka hopena palenaʻole o ka makuahine, akā no ke aha e like me ka makua? Ua maʻalahi nā wāhine, uaʻoi aku ko lākou mihi no kā lākou mau keiki, a no laila ke kala nui nei lākou. ʻIke ka makua i ke kumukūʻai o ka hua'ōlelo i hāʻawiʻia, e lawe i ka hopohopo no ia mea, a hiki iā ia ke hōʻike i ke keiki,ʻo ia hoʻi, e aʻo ia i kahi hōʻailona pilikino. E loaʻa i ka makua ka pane i ka nīnau "No ke aha i hana aiʻoe i kēia mea?", A e minamina koʻu makuahine. Inā loheʻoe, ma ka liʻiliʻi paha i kekahi mau weheweheʻana mai ke keiki i ka makahiki 6, e loheʻoe ma 16.

Keena Pāʻani

ʻO kēia ka pono o kēlā me kēiaʻohana o kaʻohana ma kahi kikowaena no ka ho'ōla pono'īʻana. I ko mākou wā pilikia a me ka luhi mau loa, hoʻomaka nā kānaka eʻimi i ka hūnā a me ka maluhia. ʻO nāʻohana'ōpio -ʻoiai, akā pinepine lākou e koiʻia e noho me ko lākou mau mākua. ʻO ka hōʻeuʻeu o nāʻohana hou o kaʻohana e noho me lākou, e like me nā meaʻoiaʻiʻo, ua pololei loa. Akā, ua hōʻino kēia kumukānāwai i nā pili pili lua. ʻO ka hoʻomanaʻoʻana i nā lāʻai ma ka papaʻaina a me nā pilina o nā makahiki a pau mai nā āpana a pau he mea lapuwale ia, e hoʻohaunaha i nā aʻa o kaʻohana. ʻO ka manawa pinepineʻole iʻikeʻole nā ​​keiki i nā inoa o nā kupunawahine i make aku, he mau mākua kāne nā mākua. ʻO ke ala hoʻokahi wale nō e aʻo ai a huki i kāu kumuʻohana. ʻIke i kou mau kūpunaʻo ka maʻamau. Eia kekahi, he mea maikaʻi loa i loko o psychotherapy, no ka mea, i ka wā e heluhelu pono ai i nā "aʻa" iʻike kokeʻia nā loina o nā hanauna hou: pehea lākou i hana ai ma nāʻano likeʻole o nā kūpuna,ʻehia mau keiki a lākou, inā he kumakaia i loko o kaʻohana. ʻO ka mea nuiʻaʻole loa e hoʻokolokolo: ināʻaʻole lākou,ʻaʻole mākou. Akā,ʻo kaʻoiaʻiʻo paha inā e hilinaʻi i ka hānaiʻiaʻana o nā keiki i nā kupunawahine, - e hoʻololiʻia nā manaʻo o nā mea hoʻonaʻauao. Ma kekahiʻaoʻao, he mea hōʻoiaʻiʻo ia eʻike ana ke keiki i konaʻano maikaʻi, e noʻonoʻo i ka pilina o nā hanauna, e mahaloʻo ia i nā kuʻunaʻohana. Akā, ma kekahiʻaoʻao,ʻo nā kupunawahine - he mau manaʻo kūponoʻole a me ka hanauna'ōpioʻole lākou e pono. Eia hou,ʻo ka ikaika o ka poʻe kahiko i loaʻa ka hopena maikaʻiʻole i ke koko'ōpiopio - ua maopopo ia i nā Slav. No laila, no nā lā a me nā lā i ke kupunawahine -'ōmaʻomaʻo'ōmaʻomaʻo, no ka hoʻonaʻauao mau loa -ʻulaʻula.

ʻO kaʻohanaʻohana

Heʻano pili hou kēia o ka pilina ma kaʻohana (ʻoiai ma ka neleʻana o nā keiki), kahi nui, alohaʻole ka aloha hoʻokahi i ka violin mua: ua lawaʻo ia no ka hōʻoluʻolu, kaʻaeʻana, ka mahalo. ʻO kēia kumu ke kumu. ʻO ia mauʻano he nui aʻoi aku:ʻo ka pilina maikaʻi, a me ka hauʻoli pū me ia aʻaʻole hoʻi he mea e hoʻopilikia i ko lākou kūlike, hiki ke loina. ʻO nāʻano pilikino o ia aʻo ia, hiki i ka paleʻana i nāʻano kūponoʻole i ka pūʻali koa, he mea nui loa ia maʻaneʻi. ʻO ke ala palekana i kēlā me kēia kūlana a me ka nele o nā mea hōʻino a me nā haʻalulu keʻano pilikino o kēlāʻohana. ʻO ka weheʻana a me ka inoa wahine i loko o kēia hihia,ʻaʻole ia he hōʻino a iʻole ka hopena, akāʻo ka hoʻokahuli wale nō i kahiʻano o kaʻaelike. ʻOiaiʻaʻohe keiki,ʻaʻohe hewa i ka hana hou, no ka loaʻaʻana o kēlā me kēia mea i kā lākou makemake. Akā, hiki i kahi keiki ke uhaki i kahi hilahilaʻole (e hōʻoia i kēia manawa ua kūpono kekahi no kekahi mea'ē aʻe), a laila e hoʻonuiʻia kaʻohana iʻole. ʻO ke alahele ma waho o ka hānauʻana o ka hoʻoilina aʻaʻole loa e hōʻeha i nā hua'ōlelo o ka "ʻaelike". Ma ke ala, nā manaʻo e hoʻolūlū i ka manawa, aʻo ka noho mau o ka mahalo a me kaʻike, me ke alohaʻole,ʻo ia ke kumu kihi o ka pilinaʻohana.