He nui nā kānaka e hiki ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa a hōʻoia i waena o lākou i ka pilina wale nō a ke manaʻo nei lākou i kona olaʻana. A o ka makemake o kekahi i kekahi, no ka mea, koe wale no ka oluolu, aohe mea e pili ana. E like me mākou a pau eʻike nei,ʻo mākou nā wāhine he nāwaliwali a he palupalu a he mau kākoʻo a kākoʻo hoʻi i kekahi poʻohiwi paʻa. Pehea mākou e lilo ai i hoaaloha no ke kanaka, inā he kākoʻo nui ka pilina, pehea lā e hiki ai iā mākou ke kākoʻo i kekahi mea iʻike makaʻoleʻia e mākou ka makuakāne o kaʻohana a me ka mea kū'ē?
Eia kekahi,ʻaʻole e hiki i ke kāne ke lilo i hoaaloha no ka wahine, no ka mea, ma kekahi hihia iʻikeʻo ia i kekahi wahine i loko ona, e loiloi i kānaʻikepili waho, eʻike ai i kona ala. I kekahi hihia,ʻo ka wahine no ke kāne, he mea moekolohe. A inā loaʻa kaʻikepili waho maikaʻi o kahi wahine, eʻikeʻia nāʻano holoholona i loko o ke kāne a lilo ka wahine i waiwai pio nona. Aʻoiaiʻo ia i ho'āʻo ai e hoʻokomo i kēia mau manaʻo i loko ona ae hōʻoiaʻiʻo iā ia iho he pili wale nō i waena o lākou, ma hope koke aku paha e pau loa nā mea a pau.
E'ōlelo mākou ua liloʻoe i hoaaloha me kahi kanaka. ʻO kou mau pilina aloha e halaʻole. Akā, i ka hoʻomakaʻana o ka'ōlelo aʻo, a hoʻomakaʻoe e hopohopo kekahi i kekahi, aiaʻoe i loko o kahi moe hoʻokahi me ia. ʻO ka hapanui pinepine hiki ke loaʻa iāʻoe i ka manawa e hewa aiʻoe ma ka lua. Ke hana mau neiʻo ia i ka wā e hewa ai nā mea a pau iā ia a i ka manawa like me nā pilikia me ia, ua māheleʻo ia me kāna wahine aloha. I kēia manawa ua hoʻomaopopo lākou i kekahi i kekahi me he meaʻole. Hoʻomaka lākou e haʻi i kaʻino o ka naʻau a me kaʻuhane. Ma hope o ko lākou hoʻoholoʻana e hele i ka haleʻaina a inu pū, e lilo i mea maʻalahi i ko lākou manaʻo. A laila, ma hope o ka pā, he kāne paha, e like me ka'ōleloʻana a kekahi hoaaloha e hoʻolimalima i kāna hoaaloha, iʻole e loaʻa i kēlāʻaha kū'ē. A laila, i ka manawa e lawe aku ai ua kanaka nei iāʻoe i kahi komo, e hele wikiwiki akuʻoe i ona lā me ka waimaka i kou mau lima a'ōlelo mai peheaʻoeʻaʻole e makemake e noho wale i kēia lā. ʻO kahi kanaka e manaʻoʻiʻo nei heʻoluʻolu wale nōʻoe e lawe i kīʻaha kope iāʻoe a kākoʻo iāʻoe i kahi manawa pilikia. ʻIkeʻoe i kaʻawa a hele i kahi moe. ʻO ka hapanui ma loko o kahi moe hoʻokahi, no ka mea, ke manaʻo neiʻoeʻaʻole i waena oʻoukouʻo ka pilikino wale nō. Akā i kouʻikeʻana i ka paʻi o kona lima, i kēia manawa, ua heleʻoe i waho i ka pilina a pau aʻai i ka hua i kapuʻia. ʻO ia ka uluʻana o ka pilina ma waena o ke kane a me ka wahine.
I kekahi manawa,ʻo kekahi oʻoukou, manaʻoʻia inā ma hope o kēia, e ikaika ana koʻoukou pilina. Akā,ʻo ka pilina e huli i ke aloha, he hoʻomauʻana, a he mea'ē aʻe kekahi. Ma kahi pilina aloha, hoʻomaka mākou eʻike i kekahi kanaka i ka mea iʻikeʻoleʻia ma mua aʻo ka pilina e pili ana i kēia mau mea e hoʻopau pinepineʻia.
ʻO ka pilina ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine he mea pilinaʻole ia. A he mau pilina like no kēia manawa lōʻihi wale nō inā makemake lākou i kekahi i kekahi. A iʻole he mau pilikia e hikiʻole ke hanaʻia e pale aku ai i ka liloʻana i poʻe aloha. Hiki nō hoʻi he pilina ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine, i ka manawa e ikaika ai kekahi o nāʻaoʻao i kekahi hoa aiʻole i ka hoahana, akā,ʻikeʻoleʻo ka hapaluaʻole e pane pānaʻi.
Mai ka pilina i ka moe, ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine he hoʻokahi wale nōʻanuʻu. I ka wā mua,ʻikeʻia nā pilina alohaʻole, akā, me ka manaʻoʻoleʻia e kekahi o nā hoa, ua lilo kēia mau pilina i ke aloha. ʻO ka manawa pinepine mākou e aloha ai i kekahi meaʻaʻole he mau hoaaloha a he mau hoaaloha paha, akā, no ka hopohopo o ka hōʻoleʻana, uaʻae mākou i nā'ōlelo o ka pilina. E hele kokoke mai i ka hapalua o ka manawa a kokoke i kahi kokoke. Akā, ma kēia hope aku, hōʻikeʻia kēia mau pilina a hele i loko o ke aloha a iʻole i kahi hoʻomaha maʻamau. ʻO ka pilina ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahineʻaʻole hiki ke maʻa wale, he mea koʻikoʻi kēia aʻikeʻia e ke ola.
Manaʻo mākou ua pane mākou i kāu nīnau, aia he aloha ma waena o ke kāne a wahine paha? A mai manaʻoʻiʻo i ka wā e haʻi aku aiʻoe iāʻoeʻelua wale nō mau hoa i pili i nā kāne'ē aʻe. Ma lalo o ko lākou pili, ua hūnāʻia kekahi mea'ē aʻe, kahi mea āu iʻikeʻole ai.