ʻO mare a male paha i kekahi kanaka'ōpiopio loa, e maʻa mau aiʻole e hūnā mai i nā hopena o "ka maʻi waena". Hiki iāʻoe keʻike i nā kāne maleʻole. ʻO ke kanahā makahiki ka mea e koi ai i ke kanaka,ʻaʻole i maʻa mau, e hōʻuluʻulu i nā hopena o nā hopena o kona ola. Ke hōʻoluʻoluʻia nā hualoaʻa,ʻaʻohe pilikia e like me kēia, ke hele mālie nei ke kanaka i ke oʻoʻana. Akā, inā "ua pau ke ola",ʻaʻole makemake kaʻohana (me ka wahine i loko o ka pilina a me ka'ōlohelohe a iʻole ka pūpū o nā'ōlelo hōʻino), a laila, nui nā hopohopo "e hoʻololi":ʻaʻole iʻikeʻia, ola olaʻole, akā'ōpio, olakino a maikaʻiʻole hoʻi. Ke hopohopo i ke kuhiʻana o kekahi i nā hana hewa.
Hoʻopiha i ka malody
I ko mākou manawa, ua ulu ka hopohopo i ka'ōpio, aʻo ka hapanui o mākou a hiki i kēia lāʻaʻoleʻike i ka mareʻana. ʻO ka hiʻohiʻona iʻikeʻia a me kahi kino lōkahi he mau hōʻailona ia o ka holomua. Uaʻikeʻia kaʻelemakule ma ko mākou'āina e like me ka maopopoʻole o ka pōʻino: "ʻO kaʻelemakuleʻaʻole he hauʻoli." No laila, ho'āʻo nā kānaka e mālama i kā lākou'ōpiopio me ko lākou ikaika. Aʻo ka'ōpiopio'ōpiopio kekahi o kona mau "heleuma". ʻO ka hopena,ʻo kaʻelemakule i loko o kekahi mau kāne, e hoʻomaka ana e noho ma keʻano'ōpio'ōpio, a ma ke kino, a me ka naʻau, a me kaʻike. Inā nānā ka wahine'ōpio i kāna kāne ma keʻano he guru, a he wahine'ōpiopio paha no ka wahine,ʻo ia ka mō'īwahine e hikiʻole ke lilo, a laila, he mea e leʻaleʻa ai. Akā, aia ma lalo o keʻano: "ʻo ka muli loa" i kekahi hihia, hikiʻole ke ulu aʻe, ua like like. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, ua hoʻopauʻia ka pūnaewele, no ka mea, ua hanaʻia kēlāʻano maleʻana.
Nā kūlana no ka holomua
Hiki i kekahi hui like ke holomua loa. I loko o ia mau maleʻana, "noho pū me kaʻoluʻolu" ka "superfunctional" a me "underfunctional". Hiki ke pili i ke kālā, ka makahiki, ka nohona pili kanaka. "Nedofunktsional" i nā manawa a pau e ho'āʻo nei e loaʻa kekahi mea mai ka wahine mai, a "hoʻolālāʻole" e ho'āʻo nei e kaʻana wale. Hiki i kekahi'ōpiopio ke aʻo i kahi mea nui mai kāna wahine hānau. He mea nui ka mālamaʻana i ke koena o ka mana.
ʻO ka hoihoi waiwai
ʻO ka manawa pinepine uaʻikeʻia kēlāʻano kuʻikahi e like me ka male mare. ʻAʻole pono kaʻoiaʻiʻo o nā manaʻo. I loko o kahi wahine'ōpio,ʻike lākou iā Alfonso. ʻAʻole kēia wale nō ka manaʻo o nā poʻe'ē aʻe. He wahine akamai i wahine maikaʻi aʻikeʻo ia iā ia iho ma kēiaʻano he "mea kūʻai" iā ia: "Ke hāʻawi nei au i kuʻu kālā iāʻoe, akā, hāʻawi maiʻoe iaʻu i ka hilinaʻi pono'ī, e ka'ōpio, i ka nani." Ināʻoe e mare a mare paha i ke kanaka waiwai, a laila,ʻikeʻia ke kālā he mea hikiʻole ke hoʻokaʻawaleʻia. A i kēia manawa,ʻaʻohe ona kuleana e nele i kēia kālā. No laila, makemake au e'ōlelo aku i ka mareʻana o ka wahine ma ka manawa o ka wā,ʻaʻole e hoʻokūhāhā i kekahi mea, no laila,ʻo ka hapa nui o nā pilina o nā pop popup e kūkuluʻia ma luna o nā wāhine maleʻole. Ināʻaʻoleʻoe i'ōpiopio, hiki i kou 25 makahiki a hiki i kou 25 makahiki, a makemakeʻoe e mālama i kou nani a me kouʻoluʻolu i nā poʻe e pili nei, e mare me ka wiwoʻole -ʻo ka mareʻanaʻole i ka moeʻana e hoʻokōʻia nā moe. No ka loaʻaʻana o ka hauʻoli a me kaʻakaʻaka, hiki i ka'ōpio'ōpio ke maʻalahi, aʻo ka mareʻoleʻana he mea ia e hoʻomākaukau ai no ka hapanui o nā poʻe makua.