ʻO wai ka mea e lawe i ke kolu: he kāne a he wahine paha?
Hiki i nā kohoʻelua: he wahine, a he kāne paha. ʻO ke kumu, ināʻo ke noi no ka moekolohe mai loko mai o ke kāne,ʻo ia,ʻo ia, ke hāʻawi iā ia iho i loko o ka hui o nā wāhine maikaʻiʻelua e hoʻopiha i kona mau makemake. ʻO ke kāne, e like me ke kāne maoli, hikiʻole iā ia keʻike i ka pono o kāna wahine i kekahi kāne, no laila,ʻaʻole i loaʻa ka māhele MFM no nā kāne he nui. ʻO ia keʻano o nā lula e haʻiʻia e ka manaʻo o nā kāne:ʻo ka waiwai (ʻo ka makemake e hāʻawiʻia nā wāhine a pau iā ia wale nō), manaʻo hoʻohilahila (ka makemakeʻole e "hāʻawi" aku i kāna wahine me kekahi kanaka'ē) a me ka haʻaheo e hiki keʻeha i ka mea e hana nei (ʻoiai, ua makemake paha kāna wahine i ka wahine kanaka). Wahi a ka nui, hiki i ka wahine ke hoʻololi i keʻano o ka MZHM no ke kanaka inā loaʻaʻelua mau hoaʻike (ʻikeʻole paha) i kahi wahine maikaʻi loa aʻikeʻole i kahi manawa me ia ma kahi moe. ʻAʻohe hoʻohiki,ʻaʻohe hōʻike, aʻo ka mea nui loa -ʻaʻole loa e pili kēia wahine i ke kāne aʻaʻoleʻo ia i helu i kāna waiwai.
ʻO ka manawa pinepine i ke kāne nāna e hāʻawi i ka wahine i ka wahine (wahine)ʻekolu mau mea,ʻike i keʻano o ke kolu, aʻo ke kolu, he hoaaloha maʻamau a he hoaaloha paha. Ma keʻano maoli, eʻae koke mai paha kekahi wahine i kēlā noi,ʻoiaiʻo ia ke noi eʻae i kāna kāne e hoʻololi me kāna hoaaloha i kona mau maka. ʻO ia mau kamaʻilioʻanaʻaʻole ia e alakaʻi i kekahi mea maikaʻi, aʻaʻole makemake ka wahine e noʻonoʻo e pili i ka wahine i ka wahine. I kēia manawa, e nā kānaka, ala, "hele" i ka hema, iʻike ai i ko lākou manaʻo me kaʻole o ke komoʻana o ka wahine a me kaʻikeʻole. No laila, ma mua o kou hōʻoleʻana i kēlāʻano moekolohe, ponoʻoe e kaupaona i nā mea a pau a hiki i kahi hoʻoholo i ka loaʻaʻana i ka hoa aiʻole i ka hoahana no nā leʻaleʻa. ʻAʻole ponoʻo ia he hoaaloha (ʻo wai e koho ai no kēia kuleana, e kamaʻilio iki paha ma hope aku), a ma keʻano he wahineʻokoʻa loa.
Inā hāʻawi ka wahine i ka hoa i ka wahine (aiʻole nā moeʻuhane o kēlā manawa leʻaleʻa), aia hoʻi eia keʻano o nā mea a pau,ʻoiai paha, uaʻikeʻo ia iā ia iho a hoʻopuniʻia e nā kāneʻelua,ʻaʻole paha iʻikeʻole. ʻOiai, e like me ka hōʻikeʻana o nāʻikepili inoaʻole, he nui nā wāhine i ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka wahine me nā kāneʻelua a hana pū me nā kāneʻelua. Ke'ōlelo nei lākou me kaʻoluʻolu nui, eʻae lākou i ka noi e loaʻa ka male ma ka hōʻailona ZHMZ ma mua o MZHM. No ka wahine,ʻoiai inā ua māʻonaʻo ia i kona helehelena a me kona hiʻohiʻona, makemakeʻia ka moekoloheʻana no ka leʻaleʻa wale nō, akā, no ka manaʻo hoʻohihi. Hiki iā mākou ke hoʻoholo i ka hopenaʻo ka wahine wale nō i makemakeʻole iā ia iho e haʻalele i ka wahine o MZHM. Aʻo ka mea i manaʻo i ka moekolohe a me keʻano kūlohelohe,ʻoiaiʻaʻole loa e komo i loko o ko lākou poʻo kēia koho no nā wāhine e moe i ka wahine.
ʻOʻoeʻekolu?
ʻO wai ka mea e koho ai no ke kūlana o ke kolu? Ma ka'ōleloʻana e pili ana i keʻano o ka ZHMZH, hiki iā mākou ke'ōlelo e'ōlelo pinepine nā kāne e lawe pū me lākou e moe i kahi o nā hoaaloha a kāna wahine a iʻole ia. He nui nā kānaka e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kahi wahine i kēlā hihia ke makemake lākou e moe me ia me kaʻole o ka hui pū o kā lāua hoa hui. He maikaʻi ke hoʻomakaʻana i kahi hulina me nā hoa noho mamao, uaʻikeʻoe i kekahi i kekahi manawa i loko o kou ola aʻaʻole iʻikeʻia inā eʻike pahaʻoeʻaʻole paha ma hope o kaʻaʻa. Hiki iāʻoe keʻimi i ke kolu aʻekolu paha o ka pūnaewele. ʻOiai nā wahine a me nā kaikamāhine eʻimi ana i nā mea he nui no ka hoʻokipaʻana i nā moe kolohe,ʻo ka loaʻaʻana o ka pono e hiki ke paʻakikī. Ke pane koke nei nā kamaliʻi liʻiliʻi i nā hoʻolaha i kauʻia ma ka pūnaewele a hele aku e launa. Loaʻa ka maʻalahi o kahi kanaka, akā nui ka koiʻana i ka wahine ma ka palapala MJM. He mea'ē aʻe kēia koho i hikiʻole iāʻoe ke hilinaʻi loa i kahi hoa piliʻole a iʻole ka pilikā, ponoʻoe e makaʻala i nā pilikino, ponoʻoe e hoʻohana i ka condom a me nā mea pale'ē aʻe. Eia kekahi, hiki iāʻoe ke hele i loko o nā nānā leka uila a emi loa i mea e hilinaʻi ai i kona maʻemaʻe a me kona olakino.
No nā mea he nui, heʻekolu manawa o nā hoʻolimalimaʻekolu,ʻo kekahi e hana i kekahi manawa. I mea e lilo ai i meaʻoluʻolu,ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma luna o ka hilinaʻi piha ma waena o nā hoa a me ke aloha nui.