E noʻonoʻo i ke kumuhana - inā he aloha


"He aloha anei?" He aha kona mau hōʻailona? ʻAʻole au i manaʻo i ia mea ... "- ua nīnauʻia kēia nīnau iaʻu e kahi kaikamahine heʻumikūmālima makahiki. Ua noʻonoʻo wau ...ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻo ka kūkākūkā ma ke kumuhana - inā paha e hoʻomaka pinepine ka aloha iā mākou ma ka'ōpiopio. I loko nō o kēia mau makahiki e hālāwai mua mākou i nā hanana aloha mua, nā pilikia a me nā pilikia. He aha ka mea iā mākou e hana nei: ke kūkulu houʻiaʻana i ka hormonal o ke kino a iʻole kaʻike mua i ke kula o ke ola?

I loko o nā makahiki, i ka loaʻaʻana o kaʻike i ka pilina me ka wahine'ē, uaʻano likeʻole mākou i ke aloha, a me nā hopena o ka hopena. ʻO ka mea nui,ʻo ka hōʻeha mua o ka'ōpiopio'ōpioʻaʻole i ka hopena maikaʻi i ka manaʻo o ke kaikamahine a me kona mau manaʻo i ke ola a me nā kāne. He mea maikaʻi i ka loaʻaʻana o kahi kākā'ōlelo akamai ma hope ona, maikaʻi,ʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻo ka makuahine aʻo kekahi mea pono'ē aʻe.

Ke hāʻawiʻia nei kaʻano pilikino o ka'ōpiopio'ōpiopio a me ka mākaukauʻole o ka'ōpiopio'ōpio eʻike pono i ka hōʻeuʻeu o ke ola, he mea nui a he mea maikaʻiʻole ka holoʻana me ka wahine mua. ʻO ke kaikamahine, he mea nui ia,ʻo ia ka mea mua no ka meaʻo ke aloha ke hiki aʻaʻole no ke ola, iʻole e alohaʻia. ʻO ka wahine muaʻaʻole he "uku" no ke aloha a me kaʻona o kekahi. ʻO ka wahine wale nō ke hoʻonani i ka wahine pono'ī, me kaʻole e koi i kekahi mea.

No laila he aha ke aloha? Kūleʻa pinepine mākou, e noi ana i ka kuʻikahi. ʻO kekahi haʻawina pilikino: "ʻOʻoe iāʻoe -ʻo wau iāʻoe" ...ʻO ka pololei, aloha alohaʻole ka mea e koi aku ai i kekahi mea, akāʻo ke alohaʻole he meaʻole, aʻaʻole hoʻi e lawe mai i ka hauʻoli i ke kanaka aloha. I ka manawa pinepine, ua huikau ke aloha aloha me ke aloha maoli. ʻO ke alohaʻole, heʻano leʻaleʻa loa ia,ʻo ka hopena o keʻano o nā homoni likeʻole: e'ā ana mākou, e'āʻana, e lilo i ko mākou poʻo, a ma hope o ka manawa hikiʻole iā mākou ke hoʻomaopopo i ka mea i loaʻa iā mākou ma ke kumu o ko mākou hoʻomana.

Ke aloha neiʻoe, e hoʻomanawanuiʻoe, e kali mālie, me ka hopohopoʻole a me ka manaʻo o ka hauʻoli i loko. E like me ka'ōlelo a kekahi kaikamahine: "ʻO ke aloha kaʻikeʻana o ka makuahine i ka nohoʻana o Daddy ma ka halepaku, aʻaʻoleʻo ia e noʻonoʻo." Ke hōʻoia nei kēia mau mea i ka manawa hou, ua nui ka aloha, he nui nā hōʻailona o ke aloha, a hiki i kēlā me kēia kanaka ke hōʻike i kona manaʻo no kēia manaʻo.

No ka mea,ʻaʻohe kanakaʻelua like, no lailaʻaʻoheʻelua hōʻike likeʻole o ke aloha. Pili kēlā me kēia kanaka i nāʻano likeʻole, e like me ia i hāʻawiʻia. No laila,ʻo ke aloha o ka wahine hoʻokahi a me nā kāne'ē aʻe, eʻano likeʻole ia: me keʻano hoʻokahi, naʻaupō a me ka pōʻino i ka manawa hoʻokahi, me kekahi - hoʻomaha, malu a kūpono. Akā,ʻaʻole kēia e'ōlelo ana ua aloha a nui paha ka mea mua aʻelua paha iā ia, a ua hana pahaʻo ia ...

Me nā makahiki ua aʻo mākou e aloha. A inā heʻumikūmālima mau makahiki a mākou iʻoki ai i ko mākou mau lima a uē i loko o kahi uluna mai kahiʻano o ke aloha aloha, a laila ma ka iwakāluakūmālima,ʻaʻole kēlā wahine kēia wahine e hoʻopilikia iā ia iho. Hanaʻiaʻo ia e like me ke kanaka, no kaʻike pono i kona pono pono'ī, ua aʻo kekahi wahine e lilo i "makaikai" i ka huliʻana i nā kāne. Inā he hana'ē aʻe ia, a ke holo neiʻoe i ka leo mua o kahi kanaka, a laila, no ka mea, e wikiwiki anaʻo ia i ka hilinaʻi iāʻoe.

ʻAe, he aloha i kaʻike mua, ke manaʻoʻiʻo nei au i kēia, akā,ʻaʻole i loaʻa i nā mea a pau ka manawa e loaʻa ai i kēlā aloha. ʻO ka naʻau maoli ke hānau pinepineʻoleʻia mai nā minuke mua o ka hālāwai, akā ma hope aku,ʻo kekahi manawa ma hope o ka makahiki. No laila, e hiki i kekahi ke aʻo a pehea e hana ai i ia mau pilina e lilo aku i mea ikaika a ikaika i kēlā lā i kēia lā. ʻO keʻano maoli, no kēlāʻano kūpono e pono aiʻoe i kekahiʻanoʻike a iʻole kekahi kālena i hānauʻia.

A noʻonoʻo e noʻonoʻo i ka manaʻo o ka "aloha". Uaʻikeʻia heʻokoʻa ke aloha, ma muli o kēia, e hoʻomaopopo i nāʻano o ke aloha.

Nāʻano o ke aloha

  1. Eros - ke aloha nui, ka hopena, ma mua o nā mea a pau, ma ka hoʻonaninaniʻana. ʻO ke kuko nui, ka kino a me kaʻuhane,ʻoi aku iāʻoe iho ma mua o kekahi,ʻo ke aloha a me ka hoihoi. ʻO kēiaʻano alohaʻaʻole he mea hauʻoli wale nō, no ka mea, i ka wā o keʻano o ka manaʻo, uaʻoki pinepine nā poʻo i nā poʻo, a laila hele mai ka manawa o ke "noʻonoʻo".
  2. Filia - aloha-aloha, aloha-makemake no ka koho a noʻonoʻo pono. ʻO kēia keʻano hoʻomehana. I kekahiʻaoʻao, i loko o kēia aloha, hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻomaopopo i kekahi helu, e like me ka nānā a nānāʻana o ke kanaka i kona pilina. I nā aʻo a Plato, ua hoʻokiʻekiʻeʻia kēiaʻano aloha i ka pae kiʻekiʻe loa.
  3. ʻO Agape he alohaʻuhane, aloha nui. ʻO ke aloha ka aloha, ke aloha no ka manaʻo o kekahi,ʻo ia hoʻi ka mōhai iāʻoe iho. Uaʻike nā poʻe o ke ao nei i kēia aloha e like me ke kiʻekiʻe o ka honua. ʻAʻole hiki i kēlā me kēia kanaka ke aloha me ke aloha, aloha me kaʻole e noi i kekahi mea. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻo ke alohaʻoiaʻiʻo kēia. He mea minamina pinepine pinepine kēiaʻano aloha.
  4. ʻO Storge - alohaʻohana, aloha-aloha, aloha-aloha. ʻO kēia aloha e noho ma kahiʻohana maikaʻi, kahi e noho aliʻi ai kaʻikeʻana, e mahalo ai kekahi i kekahi. I ka manawa pinepine i kēiaʻano o ke aloha eʻoi aku ana i nāʻano i luna.
  5. ʻO Mania he mea aloha nui,ʻo ia ka wela wela, ka hilahila a me kaʻeha i loko o kaʻuhane, ka pohō o ka hiamoe a me kaʻona. He mea weliweli loa ia,ʻoiai he nui nā kaikamāhine i ko lākou mau'ōpiopio e "pōpilikia" me kēiaʻano aloha.

ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo:ʻo ka aloha ke hōʻike ma nāʻano likeʻole a me nā kala. A a me nāʻano o ke aloha, nānā mau,ʻo ia aʻo ia. Aʻo kāu mea e makemake ai,ʻo ia kona hōʻike - eros, pili, agape, storge a mania paha, e koho a manaʻo wale iāʻoe. Ua ho'āʻo aneiʻoe e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kahi aloha paha me kekahi hoaaloha a mea paha i alohaʻia a me kahi mea i alohaʻia? He mea maikaʻi eʻike i kona manaʻo pono'ī. ʻOiai, e'ōleloʻia ana kaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻaʻole nā ​​mea a pau e haʻi iāʻoe i kaʻoiaʻiʻo o ko lākou ola ...