ʻO kekahi o nā mahele o ka hana a ka homelogist o kaʻohana e kōkua ana i ka hoʻoponoponoʻana i nā pilikia e pili ana i nā pilina ma waena o nā kāne, inā he kipi, nā pilikia o ka papahele moekolohe a me ka hemo. I kekahi mau mea,ʻo nā manaʻo ikaika maoli ma waena o ka kāne a me ka wahine,ʻaʻole ia he mea e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ai i ka noʻonoʻoʻana i loko o kaʻohana:ʻo ka noho pūʻana e ulu pinepine i ka hoʻonuiʻana i nā pilikia nui, nā hakakā a me nā hakakā. A i kekahi manawa ua lawa nā kūkākūkā maʻalahi o ka pilikia. Ma kahi noho kaʻawale, he kāne a he wahine e hiki ke loaʻa i kekahi mau hola i ka hebedoma no ke kamaʻilio kūpono me ka mea lapaʻau e pili ana i ko lākou mauʻokoʻa ma nā manaʻo, e hoʻomaopopo i nā kumu o ka hopena a loaʻa i kahi kūpono i kā lākou hopena, loaʻa ka manaolana no ka hopena maikaʻi o nā hanana.
ʻO nā mea hana i nā pilikia,ʻaʻole lākou i nā manawa ponoʻole i nā kāne pono'ī. I nā manawa pinepine, pono ka kāne a me kāna wahine e hoʻololi i nā kūlana hou o ka nohona hou, e like me ka hoʻololiʻana i kahi noho, ka hoʻoponopono houʻana ma ka honua, ka poho o kaʻohana, ka maʻi, a pēlā aku.
ʻO ka hui hui pūʻana i kaʻohana psychologist kahi mea e kōkua ai i ka hoʻololi houʻana o ka hilinaʻi ma waena o nā wāhine. Ma hope o ka nānāʻana i ke kūlana o kaʻohana me ka nānā hou, e maʻalahi kaʻikeʻana i ke kumu o nā pilikia a ho'ākāka i nā ala e hoʻopau ai iā lākou.
Hoʻokumu kekahi meaʻimi loio ma kaʻohana i kahi papahana pono no kēlā me kēia mau kāne male, no nā kumu o ka kū'ē'ēʻana ma waena o kā lāua mau hoa. ʻAʻole pili kēiaʻanoʻano i kēia hihia wale nō, akā, i nāʻano o kēlā me kēia hoa. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, e like me kaʻikeʻia, pehea ka nui o nā pilikia i loaʻa, a me nāʻano he nui e hoʻoponopono ai.
ʻO nā kumu o ka mākaʻikaʻiʻana i kahi mea loiloi i kaʻohana e kau palenaʻoleʻia i nā pilikia o ka pilina ma waena o ka kāne me ka wahine. ʻO ke kumu o ka mākaʻikaʻi keʻano o ka pilina ma waena o nā mākua a me nā keiki aiʻole ka launaʻana o ke keiki me nā poʻe a puni ia. He nui nāʻano likeʻole mai ke ola: hōʻoiaʻole, hana kula haʻahaʻa, paio, hoʻololi pinepine i ka manaʻo a me keʻano, nā hewaʻole, nā pilikia i ka launaʻana me nā keiki o ka makahiki a me ka poʻe.
ʻO kahi kanaka makua ka mālama nui o nā mākua. Akā, i ka nānāʻana i kahi mea liʻiliʻi ma hope aku, hiki ke hopena i nā hopena maikaʻi - he kū'ē i ka kamaʻilioʻana o ke keiki me nāʻohana o kaʻohana a me nā poʻe a puni e noho nei.
E like me keʻano hoʻohālike me ka wahine i mareʻia, ua koho ka psychologist i kahi kūikawā kūikawā i ka mea kūʻai. He mea kūpono e haʻi aku i kahi mea nāna e mālama i ka'ōlelo loiloiʻole e hiki i kānaʻohana ke hoʻonaʻauao ma nāʻano likeʻole: hiki iā ia ke hana me kaʻohana a pau, me nā wāhine, a me kahi keiki a me kona mau mākua, me kahi kanaka kūikawā mai kaʻohana. Hiki i nā kānaka ke kūkākūkā, no ka kumu no kekahi kumu a iʻoleʻole i loko o kaʻohana aʻaʻole paha i kēia manawa. Hiki i nā mea ke kōkua i ke kōkua o kaʻohana psychologist.
Nui nā poʻe i ka makemake eʻimi i ke kōkua a ka mea kālaiʻike. Ke kānalua nei lākouʻaʻole hiki i kahi kanaka mai ke alanui ke kū'ē i ka hopena o ko lākou mau pilikia, no ka mea,ʻaʻoleʻo ia i maʻa i kekahi o nāʻohana o kaʻohana.
Me nā mea a pau, pono ke ho'āʻo. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, he mau mea loea ka hoʻonaʻauao o nāʻohana psychologists i hiki iā lākou ke hoʻomaopopo i ka pilikia mai kahi kūlana. ʻAʻole lākou e koi iāʻoe e hana e like me ko lākou manaʻo, akā e alakaʻi wale iāʻoe, e kōkua ana e puka i waho o ke kūlana a paipai i nāʻohana o kaʻohana e noʻonoʻo i ko lākou kūlana. E alakaʻi iāʻoe i ka manaʻo kūpono, i hiki ai i nā mea maʻi a pau ke hele mai.
I kēia manawa, hiki iā mākou ke pane i ka pane pololei i ka nīnau o keʻano o ka home psychologist. ʻO ia ke kanaka iʻike pono i kānaʻoihana, e kōkua ai i ka hoʻonuiʻana i kaʻikeʻana i kaʻohana, e hoʻonui i ka pilina ma waena o nā mākua a me nā keiki, e kōkua i ka weheweheʻana i nā manaʻo o lākou, me ka weheʻole i ka'ōlelo. A no kaʻikeʻana i kahi alahele o nā mea e noho nei, e lanakila i nā kūlana o kāu mau hana a hana i nā mea hou, nā meaʻoi aku ka maikaʻi loa, e hoʻomaopopo i nā kumu o ka hoʻomohalaʻana o ka naʻau o nā mea i loko o kaʻohana a iʻole e hana i kahi papahana hoʻokahi no nā mākua i ka wā e hiki mai ana.