Nā pōmaikaʻiʻike
Ke pili nei mākou iā lākou, ke komo nei mākou i ko lākou ola. Ua makaukau mākou e hoʻolālā i ko mākou manawa manawa a mālama iā lākou i ke kāhikoʻana, ka holoʻana i kaʻohana a me ka loaʻaʻana o ka meaʻai maikaʻi ... Ke pale nei mākou i nā mea a pau e pili ana i kā lākou mālamaʻana:ʻo ko lākou hulu hipa, ʻO ko lākou mau hiʻona maʻamau. No ka mea, heaha kēia mau mea pōpilikia a pau? Ma mua o kēia manawa, uaʻae nā mea loiloi a pau i ka hanaʻana i kahi pipi ma ka hale e hoʻokani i kahi kūpono. Eia kekahi laʻana, i mua o kāna'īlio, he keiki iʻikeʻole i keʻano o ka noʻonoʻo a nele i ka manawa e aʻo ai i nā mele, e hoʻokuʻu koke mai ia mau mea me kaʻole o ke kaula. Loaʻa i ka poʻeʻelemakule ka launa pūʻana me nā pets me ka nele o nā manaʻo. Makemake mākou e launa pū me nā mea puaʻa no ka mea he palekana i loko o ka naʻau, hiki keʻike a hiki ke hoʻomaopopo. ʻIke mākou i ka wā e hele ai mākou i ka paepae o ka hale, e hoʻomaka ka leo o ka'īlio aloha e'ōkōkī a pā i nā wāwae. A no ka nui o kā mākou hoʻoleiʻana i ka poepoe, e laweʻiʻo mai kā mākou'īlio iā mākou i nā niho. ʻO ka pilinaʻana me ko mākou mau kaikaina liʻiliʻi e lawe mai iā mākou i nā meaʻoluʻolu maoli a me nā pāʻani me ka maikaʻi, he meaʻoluʻolu ia no mākou. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, kamaʻilio mākou iā lākou, māhele i ko mākou mau hilahila a me nā mea iʻikeʻia, me ka manaʻo e hoʻolohe nā holoholona iā mākou a hoʻomaopopo i nā mea a pau. Ma nā'ōlelo'ē aʻe, maopopo iā mākou e loaʻa ana iā mākou ka pane o ka naʻau mai kekahi o kā mākou hana a iʻole kekahi hua'ōlelo, he mea nui ia iā mākou. Ma keʻano maʻamau, hiki i ka'īlio a iʻole ka pipi ma ka home he mau pono. Me he mea lā iā mākou ke hoʻomaopopo nei mākou iā mākou, keʻike nei mākou i ko lākou mahalo a me ke aloha no mākou. ʻAʻole lākou e hōʻino mai iā mākou, eʻae mai iā mākou e like me mākou. Ma hope o nā mea a pau,ʻaʻole he mea nui ka'īlio ma ka nui a me ka maikaʻi o ke kanaka. He mea like ia me kaʻaeʻoleʻana i ka hana, i hānauʻia mai ka makuahine i kāna pēpē pono'ī. A ma hope o nā mea a pau,ʻo mākou ka mea i nele i ka wā e ulu ana mākou.
Kūpono,ʻaʻole loa ia e maʻalahi a palekana no mākou e hui pū me nā poʻe'ē aʻe,ʻo nā mea kokoke loa. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, he mea kānaluaʻole lākou, pinepine hoʻi kā lākou mau hua'ōlelo a me nā hana i nā meaʻeha. Eia hou, ke loiloi nei lākou iā mākou,ʻaʻole naʻe i nā manawa maikaʻi, pinepine i ka hoʻohewaʻia. Ma ke kaiaulu o nā kānaka, hikiʻole iā mākou ke helu i nā manaʻo e loaʻa iā mākou mai ka launa pūʻana me kāu'īlio punahele a me ka'īlio. Ma kēiaʻano,ʻaʻole mākou a pau e loaʻa i nā mea kūkākūkā ikaika ma ka paio me ka mea kākau o ka'ōlelo hoʻokūkū kaulana: "ʻO ka nui o kaʻikeʻana aku i nā kānaka,ʻo kaʻoi aku ka makemake i nā'īlio." A laila, wale nō me nā mea puaʻa eʻoi aku ka ikaika a ikaika. Ma hope o nā mea a pau,ʻo ko lākou ola, ola maikaʻi a me ka hauʻoli e hilinaʻi maoliʻia mai iā mākou a me kā mākou mau hoʻoholo. Aʻo kaʻike maʻalahi a mākou eʻike nei, e'ōlelo ana i kahi puaʻa, hōʻoluʻolu lākou iā lākou. Aʻo ka pane i ka nīnau, no ke aha i lilo ai nā mea momona o ke koko me kā mākou mau puaʻa, me he mea lā e maopopo. Akā,ʻaʻole nā mea a pau i maʻalahi. Hāʻawi mākou i nā mea nui i loko o kā mākou mau puaʻa ma muli wale nō o ko mākou wikiwiki a makemake mākou.
Hāʻawi mākou i kā mākou mau manaʻo, nā hana, nā manaʻo a me nā manaʻo. ʻAʻohe mea e noʻonoʻo ai i kekahi manawa he meaʻuʻuku - a hoʻomakaʻo ia e'ōlelo, a lilo i kanaka holoʻokoʻa. Kapaʻia kēiaʻano anthropomorphism. ʻO keʻano o ka hānaiʻana i kahi puaʻa i hoʻololiʻia i ka manawa i lilo ai i mea hui piha loa no kaʻohana no mākou. Hoʻokomoʻia kēia i ko mākou olaʻohana. ʻAʻole ia he meaʻole kekahi mau makahiki,ʻaʻohe keiki a mau keiki paha, ua ulu a haʻalele i ka home o ko lākou mau mākua, e nānā i kā lākou'īlio a'īlio paha e like me kā lākou keiki. 'Ōlelo pinepine lākou i kaʻaeʻaʻole lākou iʻike i nā manaʻo ikaika i kā lākou mau keiki.
He mau kauāʻehā
ʻAʻoleʻo nā hoʻonaʻauao hou nei i hōʻoia i nā hopena e pili ana i ke kuleana maikaʻi o ka'īlio a me ka pipi i ka hoʻouluʻana i kaʻohana. ʻO kaʻike o mākou,ʻaʻole mākou eʻike i kēia, e hoʻohana i kā mākou mau puaʻa ma keʻano he mau mea pili i ka pilina me nā lālā'ē aʻe. ʻO ka pinepine o ka heleʻana o kekahi hoaalohaʻehā i loko o kaʻohana, he hōʻailona ia no ka nele o ka pilina pili i kekahiʻano. I kekahi'ōlelo'ē aʻe, hiki i ka holoholona ke hoʻonāwaliwali i ka pilikia, aiʻole, ma keʻano'ē aʻe, hiki ke hoʻonāukiuki ia. Akā,ʻaʻole loa ia e hoʻoholo. He manawa hapalua ia. Uaʻikeʻia he hiki i ka meaʻai holoholona ke "kākoʻo" i kaʻohana ma nāʻano likeʻole o kona uluʻana, ke ola o ka nohona. Eia nō hoʻi,ʻaʻole kona pōʻino i kona heleʻana i loko o kaʻohana. ʻO ka hoʻoholoʻana e hoʻomaka i kahi'īlio a'īlio paha i kahi manawa kūponoʻole i ka manawa - i ka manawa e ulu ai kaʻohana (i ka manawa o ka wahine i ka hānauʻana, ma hope koke iho o ka hānauʻana o ke keiki a i ka wā pahaʻo ia i 3, aiʻole 13-15). No ka mea e ho'āʻo ana nāʻohana o kaʻohana e hōʻemi i ke kaumaha o ke kino, ka hopohopo i hanaʻia e kēia mau hoʻololi me ke kōkuaʻana o kahi puaʻa. A ma kahi o ka pakeleʻana iā lākou,ʻaʻole i mākaukau kaʻohana no lākou,ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke pale aku iā lākou. A laila, lilo ka pipiʻehā i lilo i pahi. Eia kekahi, i ia mau manawa, he mea hikiʻole ke hoʻohuli i kaʻohana e hoʻomakaʻole i kahi puaʻa.
ʻOʻoeʻekolu?
I loko o ka hoʻomehanaʻana o kaʻohana, ua manaʻoʻia heʻoi aʻe ka lōʻihi o ka triad ma mua o ka dyad. I nā hua'ōlelo'ē aʻe,ʻo kahiʻohana oʻekolu mau kānaka iʻoi aʻe kaʻoi o ka paʻa ma mua o nā kāne. ʻO ke kolu ka mea i hiki i nāʻohanaʻelua o kaʻohana e hoʻohaʻahaʻa i ka manaʻo. ʻO ka mea maʻamau,ʻo ke kolu he keiki. ʻO kēia ka pūnaewele paʻa loa no ka hōʻikeʻana i nā manaʻo o nā mākua: i ka manawa e kamaʻilio ai no kahi keiki, hikiʻole i nā mākua ke hoʻopā aku i nā pilikia o nā pilina e kū nei ma waena o lākou. I loko o kahi'ōpiopio'ōpio iʻole he keiki, aiʻole i kahi maʻamau kahi i kaʻawale ai nā keiki makua mai ko lākou mau mākua mai, ua hoʻololi kekahi pēpē a he kālepa psychologically ... he keiki. A no kahi'ōpio'ōpiopio, a no kaʻoihana uluʻoi aʻe e hiki ke hoʻokani i ka "keiki maikaʻi". I kēia hihia,ʻaʻoleʻo ia eʻae iā lākou e aʻo e hoʻoholo i nā hakakā o ka hakakā. ʻAʻole iʻae i kaʻohana e neʻe i ka manawa hou o ke olaʻana - e loaʻa i kahi keiki aiʻole e hoʻokuʻu i nā keiki ulu.
Hoʻololi unhelpful
I kekahi manawa, hiki i kahi hoaalohaʻehāʻehā ke pani ma hope o ke keiki wale nō, akā kekahi lālā o kaʻohana. E'ōlelo aku, inā he kāne ke kū'ē iā ia e hoʻokuʻu i ka hoʻouka kaua, hoʻomaka ka wahine i kahi'īlio weliweli a'īlio. Ma muli o ka ho'āʻoʻana o ka mea aʻo, hoʻonāukiuki ka mea nāna i ka'īlio e hōʻike i ka hana hoʻonāukiuki. Ma kēia kūlana, ua hoʻihoʻi ka wahine i ka nohona maʻamau o ka "wīwī-wīwī",ʻo ia iʻike i ka male. I kēia hihia,ʻaʻole pono ka hana o kahi pipi holoholona. Ma kekahiʻano'ē aʻe, e hiki i kahi'īlio a he pupule paha ke kōkua i ke ola i ka pilikia e pili ana i ka makeʻana o kekahi lālā nui o kaʻohana. Eia ka hana o ka pipi he maikaʻi.
Luna Kānāwai Kūikawā
ʻO ka manawa pinepine, he mea e hina ai nā puaʻa i nā pilina ma waena o nā'ōpio. Ke hoʻohana nei lākou i ke kumumanaʻo - ināʻaʻoleʻoe i aloha i kaʻu pipi /'īlio, a lailaʻaʻoleʻoe aloha iaʻu. No laila,ʻo ka hūnāʻana iā lākou iho i nā mea hopohopo, nā kānalua a me nā manaʻo pili i ka hoa. E'ōlelo, ua hālāwai kahi kaikamahine i kahi'ōpiopio, a he'īlio kona home. I kahi manawa, pono ka wahine e hoʻoholo inā paha e hele i kahi o lākou aʻaʻole paha? Ua hoʻopilikiaʻia ke kaikamahine e ka nīnau: he kanaka'ōpiopio ke maʻi i ka lauoho holoholona, no lailaʻaʻoleʻo ia makemake i kāna pipi, pehea? ʻO ka hopena, ua hoʻoholo ka wahine e hoʻokaʻawale me kekahi kāne. I kēiaʻano, ua lilo ka pipi me kaʻikeʻoleʻia, i mea hana kaʻawale. Ua kānalua loa ke kaikamahine a me ka manaʻo o ke kanaka'ōpio. Uaʻikeʻo ia i kahi alahele, e hoʻololi ana i ka nānāʻana i ka pipi. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, inā ua hilinaʻi ke kaikamahine me ka mea nāna e ola i kona ola, e hānau keiki, a pēlā aku, hiki ke nānāʻia kāna pipi no nā mea'ē aʻe. Ināʻaʻole, hiki i nā puaʻaʻehāʻehā ke hana i kahi kūpono, ke kōkua i nā'ōpio e hoʻokaʻawale mai ka mālama mauʻana i nā mākua.