ʻO ka Loneliness ka pilikia a me ka hauʻoli o ka wahine o kēia wā?


"Ua likeʻoe me ke kuokoa - i ka wā'ōpiopio," i'ōlelo mai ai ke kaikuaʻana a Lena iā ia, me ka makemake e mare i kā mākou hoa hele likeʻo Vladik. - a he mau makahiki 5-6 - aʻo iaʻo ia! ʻAʻoleʻoe e hōʻoleʻia nā keiki, he mea kūponoʻole i kaʻike ...ʻAʻohe mea e mare hou. ʻAʻoleʻoe hopohopo i ka loli?

"No laila," pane wau, "He 5-6 mau makahiki hauʻoli koʻu. A ke ku neiʻoe iāʻoe iho i ka laka a me ka kī.

Ua hala nā makahiki heʻumi mai ia manawa mai. Keʻano'ē paha, he'ōpiopio wau. Akā naʻe,ʻaʻole i houʻia nā kupa: ua pani lākou i nā kānaka kūpaʻa (akā,ʻaʻole i nā manawaʻole). I ka hīʻike aʻaʻole hoʻi e hele (koe wale nō ma nā pūnaewele), akā, he 10 mau makahiki ma ka'āina iʻikeʻia a hoʻonui nuiʻia nā pō pōpō a me nā hale kula hikiʻole, kahi e hele ai kahi makua, kahi wahine kūʻokoʻa ... LenkaʻAʻole au iʻike i ke kumumalima holoʻokoʻa makahiki heʻelua. nā keiki, a he mau hoaaloha hou koʻu, hana a he nui nā mea. ʻO Vadik ke hālāwai pinepine wau i hoʻokahi o nāʻaina ahiahi. Heleʻo ia ma laila me kona hoa (e like me kaʻuʻike,ʻaʻoleʻo Lena iʻike). ʻAʻole wau e hopohopo wale i ka nīnau: he loneliness ka pōʻino a iʻole ka hauʻoli o kekahi wahine hou? Akā ...

Ke makaʻu nei au i ka hoʻomaha? Ma keʻano he hiʻohiʻona - ma keʻano hoʻohālikelike makaʻu wau, akā,ʻaʻole wau e manaʻoʻiʻo i ia. ʻO ia,ʻo wau,ʻoiaʻiʻo, e noʻonoʻo i ke kūlana: paniʻia ka puka, ua weheʻia ke kelepona, a ma lalo o nā pukapihi, no ka mea he pōmaikaʻi,ʻaʻohe mea hele -ʻaʻole e kamaʻilio aʻaʻole kōkua paha ... Ua heluhelu wau i nā puke no nā lāʻekolu a moe paha, Manaʻo wau e hoʻomanaʻo kekahi mai ka pilina, nā hoaaloha, a me nā limahana pahaʻaʻole au i hea nui aku (ʻaʻole au i komo no kahi kūkākūkā,ʻaʻole i lawe i ka mea i ka wā). A inā uaʻike lākou iaʻu. Ma keʻano maʻamau, hikiʻole ke kaʻawale ka nohoʻana ma ke kūlanakauhale hou. A ma kekahi kūlanakauhale liʻiliʻi hikiʻole ke hana, a ma kahi kauhale hoʻi. No ka mea, i ko mākou manawa he hana ka hana. A noʻonoʻo - ka launaʻana, a me ka hopena o nā pilikia o kēlā me kēia la - a me ka launa pū (ʻaʻole naʻe i nā manawa likeʻole). A e noʻonoʻo i ka mea like - ma kahi lumi i hoʻopaʻaʻia - he wahine i mareʻia. E ka wahine, e'ōlelo kāua, heleʻo ia ma kekahi huakaʻiʻoihana me kona hoa ... A, paha, e hoʻopaʻaʻiaʻo ia i loko o ke keʻena. E'ōlelo pū paha mākou i nā lāʻekolu e hopohopo ana ko kāua mauʻohana ...ʻOiaiʻaʻole paha ia, no ka mea,ʻaʻole hiki i nā wāhine mare ke kamaʻilio pinepine me nā kaiāulu, a no laila,ʻaʻoleʻoe e hōʻailona i kou mau lāʻekolu lā. I ka hebedoma e hoʻomaka ana nā hoahana e hopohopo. E kāhea aku lākou i kāu leka pūnaewele i ka lā a pau, a laila e hoʻoholo lākou: "Inā he mea weliweli i hanaʻia, ua kāhea aku kāna kāne iā ia!", Hāʻawi lākou i kāu hana i kekahi mea'ē aʻe, e unuhi mai iāʻoe mai ko lākou uku - a e hōʻoluʻolu hoʻi. E hoʻomaka ana nā hoaaloha i hope (inā lākou aia ma laila), akā me ka manaʻo hoʻoholo pono eʻole e nalowaleʻoʻolua, e hoʻi hou lākou i kā lākouʻoihana. A e lilo loa ia i meaʻole, me keʻanoʻole, ka waiho waleʻana. ʻOiai inā ma loko o ke keʻena e palekanaʻoe me kāu kāne.

7 Nā kumu no ka lili.

ʻO nā kaikamahine i hānauʻia i loko o nā moʻomeheu o ka hana hale, ua kapaʻia he mau mea maleʻole. Ke manaʻoʻiʻo nei lākou he pilikia ke kaʻawale, a ho'āʻo e mare i kekahi. ʻO ka mea kaulanaʻo Khayyamov "ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi i ka hiamoe ma mua o ka mea eʻai ai, aʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka noho waleʻana ma mua o kekahi" -ʻaʻole kēia no mākou. ʻAʻole loa! ʻAʻole wau i hea aku no ka paleʻana i nāʻaina mare. Inā hikiʻole i nā kānaka ke ola me kaʻole kekahi, pono, pono lākou e hui. Akāʻo ka maleʻana ma ka manaʻo o "e lilo i ..." maikaʻi loa e pane pono iāʻoe iho i ka nīnau: he aha ka mea a ka wahine i mareʻia ai, he aha kāu mea?

Penei ka pane e pane ai:ʻo ke kāne. Aʻoi aku paha?

1. Aia iā ia kahi mea e kamaʻilio ai ma hope o ka hana. Auhea ia! ʻAʻole ia he meaʻole ka'ōlelo a nā psychologists: mai hōʻehaʻeha me ke kanaka ma hope o ka hana, e hoʻomaha ... A laila ua'anoleʻa ke kanaka no ka mea "kau kāna wahine" ma ke kelepona. ʻAʻoleʻoe i kekahi meaʻinoʻino: e kau i ke kelepona e like me kou makemake - ma ka liʻiliʻi me kahi hoaaloha, ma keʻano me kahi mea aloha.

2. He mea nāna e mālama. ʻO kahi paio kānalua. Akā, inā pilikiaʻo ia iāʻoe, e kiʻi i kahi pipi.

3. Lawe ke kāne i kālā i ka hale. ʻAʻole kaʻoiaʻiʻo! Hōʻalo pinepine nā kāne i ka hale i ka mea a kā lāua wahine i lawe mai ai. Aʻo wai ka mea nāna e pale aku iāʻoe mai ka hana a me ka loaʻaʻana?

4. Me ke kāne,ʻaʻohe weliweli i ka heleʻana ma nā alanui pō; ua'ōpalaʻo ia i ka pahu i ka mea hōʻino i kāna wahine. ʻO ka mea mua loa,ʻo ka lōʻihi o ka wahine i mareʻia,ʻo ka mea pinepineʻoleʻo ia e hele i nā alanui pō;ʻaʻole nā ​​wāhineʻohana i nāʻaoʻao. Aʻo ka lua, he kāneʻole nā ​​kāne ma ke kāne, aʻo nā kāne - alas! - ma keʻano he kūlana,ʻaʻole i nā kānaka nui. No laila, i loko o kaʻoluʻolu a me ke kuʻokoa - hiki ke hele i kahi ala pō ma lalo o ke kiko me ka puʻupuʻu liʻiliʻi, hiki ke hāʻawi i kahi pāʻani i kekahi.

5. He kāne pono ke kūkino. ʻO nā wāhine mare wale nō i loaʻa i ka hilahilaʻole a hikiʻole ke hana i kekahi mea: makemake kāna kāne i ka liʻiliʻi a me kaʻuʻuku. ʻAi likeʻole iā lākou,ʻaʻoleʻoe i pāpāʻia e nīnau i ka pō no kahi hoaaloha, e kono i kahi hoa hana e hele a kūʻai i kahi vibrator.

6. E noho nā kāne ma kahi hana e kūkākūkā i ka wahine mare ma nā maka ... He kumu'ē aʻe e hauʻoli aiʻaʻoleʻo ia i hoʻopili aku i kekahi o kēia mau kāne.

7.ʻAʻohe mea nāna e hāʻawi mai iaʻu i ke aniani wai i ka wāʻelemakule! E ka walaʻau mau loa o nā wāhine i nā manawa a pau! I ka maʻamau, he 14 makahiki ka lōʻihi o kahi wahine i Rusia ma mua o ke kanaka. No laila me nā mea aniani e pono ai e holo i laila.

Pehea e hoʻohana ai i ka loli?

•ʻAʻole kūlanaʻole ke kaumaha. Pono nā kānaka a puniʻoe e aʻo i ka pehea e kamaʻilio aku ai me lākou a leʻaleʻa. Ināʻoe ma hope o ka hana a me kaʻikeʻana i ka pilina me kou mau hoaaloha eʻikeʻoe i ka pono e kāhea aku i kekahi mea'ē aʻe no ke ola (haʻi aku i ka hoʻohenehene, e nīnau i kekahi nīnau mai ka māhele o ka physics), hiki iāʻoe ke kau i loko o nā pahu beer lovers (nā mea hōʻiliʻili, Stalin's admirers) Ke KulanuiʻO'Eton.

•ʻAʻole ka loli i kahi kūpono. ʻO kēia ka hikiʻole ke kamaʻilio. Mai hoʻokaʻawale i ka pilina me nā pilina a me nā hoaaloha o ka'ōpio: hele mai nā kāne a hele, akā e noho.

•ʻO ka lōʻihi ka laulā āpau. Ināʻaʻoleʻoe e paʻa i nā kuleana, a laila,ʻaʻoleʻoe e hoʻololi i kouʻano a iʻoleʻoe i nā meaʻono.

•ʻO ka leʻaleʻa ka nele o ka kamaʻilio. Ua aʻoʻia e kahi kanaka i ka pehea e noʻonoʻo ai. I kona hikiʻana mai me ka manaʻo, wikiwikiʻo ia e hoʻolei aku i kona mau manaʻo i nā poʻe'ē aʻe ... Akā, ināʻaʻole he mau mea'ē aʻe, e mau ana ka manaʻo ma kuʻu poʻo a ulu i ka nui o kahi hoʻomanaʻo a iʻole ka manaʻo epekema. ʻO ka meaʻike i keʻano e noʻonoʻo ai,ʻaʻoleʻo ia e hoʻonāukiuki iā ia iho.

•ʻO ke kaumaha ka ala i ka kaulana. No ka mea inā i hoʻololi'ēʻoe i kou mau manaʻo i loko o kou poʻo poʻo - e noho i lalo e kākau i lalo. Nui loa nā wahine - mai Zinaida Gippius iā Alexandra Marinina - ua hoʻokaulana i ko lākou inoa a me ko lākou kūpaʻa i nā puke.

•ʻO ka lōʻihi ka manawa kūpono e kūkulu ai i kahiʻoihana a loaʻa kālā. No ka mea ināʻoe e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka hana ma ka hana,ʻaʻole i kahi e kūʻai ai i nā sausage, a laila eʻike nā luna.

Ke kaumaha nei aneiʻoe no kou noho kaʻawaleʻana? E hele nei nā hoa a pau i hea, a eiaʻoe maʻaneʻi a pau. .. Akā, uaʻikeʻoeʻo nā mea a pau i hōʻikeʻia ma luna neiʻo ia kaʻoiaʻiʻo. A no ka hoʻopaʻapaʻaʻana i kēia mau mea, he meaʻoleʻole ia, he meaʻole ka mihi no kou mau manawa. ʻOiai kekahi manawa makemake wau. Akā, inā uaʻikeʻoe i kēia mau mea a pau, uaʻike kokeʻiaʻoe e kahi'āpiopio'āpiopio a makemake e makemake eʻoli i ka mahina aiʻole e wikiwiki paha e kāhea i ka lawelawe kūkāʻana - e nānā wale i ka papalena. Loaʻa iāʻoe wale nō ka maʻi o ka premenstrual.