ʻO keʻano o ka makuahine e pili ana i ke keiki a kāna kaikamahine e alakaʻiʻia ma muli o konaʻano i ke kaikamahine pono'ī. ʻAe,ʻo ia, i loko o kēiaʻano manaʻo likeʻole, i kapaʻia he aloha makuahine, he poʻe kālepa maʻamau kaʻaoʻao.
Maanei, e hoʻomanaʻo i ka hana a kou makuahine iāʻoe ma nāʻokoʻa o ke ola. Pehea ia i hōʻike mai i kona mau manaʻo iāʻoe? Ua makaukau aneiʻo ia e hana i kāna mea e makemake ai no kāna kaikamahine?
ʻOiai, he meaʻuʻuku loa nā kānaka e hōʻike i kona kino he kanaka malulu a naʻauʻole, a ua hūnāʻo ia i kona ola a pau ma hope o ka pale o kahi kanaka paʻakikī a me ka peremptory. ʻOiai e hana ana kēia, aʻaʻole iki iki, e like me ka mea e pono ai. No ke aha mai kēia hana? Hiki i nā kumu ke kumu nui - hoʻomaka me ke kāohi maoli, ka mea e holo maʻamau ai i kēlā me kēia lā, i ka hopena, me ka hopena i kahi o ka wahine iʻoi aku kaʻino aʻoi aku kaʻino. Malia paha kekahiʻanoʻeha pilikino, i hōʻikeʻia ma kēiaʻano ma konaʻano i kāna mau keiki. ʻAʻole ka helu. ʻO ka mea nui - ināʻikeʻoe ua makaʻu kou makuahine i kona ola a pau e hōʻike i kona mau manaʻo - hiki ke hoʻopili i konaʻano i kāu hoaaloha.
ʻO kekahi wahine makuahine, he makuahine, ua manaʻoʻo ia heʻano ola pilikino - a pēlāʻiʻo nō. Ma keʻano pololei, heʻoiaʻiʻo ua loaʻa iā ia nā mea he nui e kōkua iā ia e loaʻa i kēiaʻike nui loa. Akā, inā pahaʻo ia i hoʻohana i kēia mau mea -ʻo ia maʻamau loa.
E'ōlelo mākou he pilikia ko makuahine i kona manawa (ʻo ia paha me kou makuakāne). Peheaʻo ia e hana ai inā hoʻi maiʻoe i ka home me kāu hoaaloha? ʻElua mau koho nui.
ʻO ka mua o lākou: i ka manawa a pau eʻike ai i kāu hoaaloha hou, ua maikaʻi loa ka heleʻana o koʻu makuahine. Malia paha iʻoluʻolu iki i kāna mau ho'āʻo huhū e kūkulu i kahi leʻaleʻa hauʻoli o ka hālāwai. Hāʻawiʻo ia iā ia i ke kīʻaha o ke kī me kāna pai lima. Akā,ʻaʻole. Ma kona mau maka, e hiki nō iā ia ke heluhelu i nā hana a kou makuahine e hana nei iʻole e "lele i nā ala." Akā, i ka wā e pani ai kāu'ōpiopio i ka puka - ponoʻoe e hoʻolohe i ka nui o ka "nani" e pili ana i kāu mea koho. Inā makemake kou makuahine e hoʻonui, e lohe ponoʻoe e "makemake wale lākou a pau i nā kaikamāhine mai nā kaikamāhine" a "nani loaʻo ia e mālama pono iāʻoe - ke manaʻo nei au, a ke hele neiʻo ia i kona hoa". Ma kēiaʻano,ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kaʻoluʻolu,ʻaʻoleʻoe e hōʻino. E ho'āʻo pono e hoʻomaopopo i kou makuahine he kanaka maikaʻi kāu kāne. E nui ana ināʻoe e hāʻawi iā ia i kekahi hiʻohiʻona o nā mea kupanaha loa e hōʻikeʻia ai kāu hoaaloha e like me ke kanaka aloha a mālama. Hoʻoholo i ka paneʻana o ka makua "hoʻoponopono o nā flights"ʻaʻole pono -ʻo ka mea mua, mai kēia mau mea e loliʻole kona mau manaʻo i kāu hoaaloha. Aʻo ka lua,ʻo ia kou makuahine, ua hopohopoʻo ia e pili ana iāʻoe aʻaʻoleʻo ia makemake iāʻoe i kona wāʻelemakule (aʻo nā makahiki o nā keiki no ko lākou mau mākua i ke akahai wale)ʻaʻole i holo i loko o ka pilikia. ʻAʻole ia manaʻo he pono ka loaʻaʻana o kou makuahine i ke kūpaʻaʻole, no ka mea, hiki iā ia ke hōʻino iā ia. Akāʻo ka hoʻoleiʻana iā ia ma keʻano o ka hua'ōlelo āna i hewa ai,ʻaʻohe mea e pono ai. Ma nā makahiki o ke ola pū, ua loaʻa iāʻoe kēlā mau kaula o kaʻuhane o ka makuahine, kahi hiki iāʻoe ke pāʻani me ka makaʻuʻole i ka hanaʻino. E hōʻoia iā ia ua makehewa kona mauʻike. Hōʻike e hoʻomanaʻoʻoe i kāna mau hua'ōlelo. E ho'āʻo e hōʻalo i ka paio - a, ma ka wā e hiki mai ana i kahi e hana aiʻo ia i ka hoaaloha o kou makuakāne me kaʻoiaʻiʻo.
ʻO kekahi kumu'ē aʻe no ka hoʻolālāʻana i kouʻike mua me kou makuahine,ʻo ia ke hālāwai me ka hoʻoulu a me ka hoʻonāukiuki o nā hanana. ʻAʻole ia he mea huna ma waena o nā kāne a me nā wāhine he mau kākā'ōlelo nui i makemake nui i ka hoʻokumuʻana i nāʻoihana pono'ī aʻaʻole lākou e hopohopo e hoʻololi i ka manaʻo o kaʻohana a pau. ʻO nā poʻe i maʻalahiʻole,ʻaʻole lākou iʻike i ka hana a me ka makemake e haʻi i nā mea āpau i ko lākou manaʻo. A inā ma kekahi mauʻano maikaʻi loa, a laila ma mua o kou alakaʻiʻana i ka makuahine o ke kāne, ponoʻoe e noʻonoʻo pono.
Ua kūponoʻo ia ma kahi o kāna mau manaʻo no ke kanaka maikaʻi? Inā hikiʻoe,ʻaʻoleʻoe e pono e hoʻomākaukau i ka lepo no ka manawa lōʻihi. Mahalo, ināʻikeʻoe i kahi kanaka maikaʻi i loko o kaʻaʻahu me kahi bouquet o chic Roses e pāʻani pāʻani ana me nā kī o ke kaʻa, e hoʻoheheʻeʻia kou makuahine aʻaʻole e'ōlelo kū'ē iā ia. Akā he mea paʻakikī kēia -ʻaʻohe mea eʻoluʻolu i ka momona i ka hopena i nā manaʻo. No laila, ma mua o ka hoʻolālāʻana i kahi mea iʻike, e hoʻomaka i kahi hoʻolālā hoʻoikaika e hoʻomākaukau ai i ka makuahine a me ke kanaka no kahi hālāwaiʻaʻala.
Pono e hōʻike ka makuahine e pili ana i kāna mea i waeʻia e'āponoʻo ia ma kekahi hihia. ʻOiai,ʻaʻoleʻo iaʻo kāna hoaaloha. Aʻo kaʻikeʻole i nāʻano kūlohelohe o keʻano o ke kanakaʻaʻole pono. Eʻikeʻo ia i kāna mea e kau nei ma waho. Akā, pono ka mākaukau o ke kanaka no kaʻoiaʻiʻo ma waho o ka paepae o kou hale e hiki iā ia ke kali i ka holoʻana o nā manaʻo, aʻaʻole maikaʻi. E aʻo iā ia i kekahiʻano o ka hana, kahi e hiki ai ke pale i ka hihia. Akā, hana haʻahaʻa:ʻaʻoleʻoe e hoʻonoho mua iā lākou e kū'ē i kekahi. No laila, e haʻi aku i ka naita e pili ana i keʻano o ka popo i hiki i kou makuahine,ʻaʻole ponoʻoe - e hōʻea koke i ka makaʻu a hoʻololi i kou manaʻo? I ka hopena, inā paʻakikī ka hopena, hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻokuʻu i kā lākou kamaʻilioʻana, a iʻole e ho'ēmi iā lākou i kaʻole ma ka holoiʻana i nā mea i kauʻia.
Akā, aia kekahi mau kaikamāhine e hiki iā lākou ke'ōlelo malū mai ua laʻa lākou me ko lākou makuahine. ʻAʻole,ʻaʻole au i manaʻo he pōmaikaʻi ka poʻe i loaʻa i ka makuahine. Akā, mai ka manaʻo o ke kanaka,ʻoi aku ka nicer ma laila, kahi e mahalo nuiʻia aiʻoe ma kahi'ē, aʻaʻole eʻimi ana i kahi kumu no nā'ōmole.
Inā i loaʻa iāʻoe kahi pilina hilinaʻi a pilina me kou makuahine mai kona wā'ōpiopio - nui ia! Ināʻoe i hoʻokaʻawale i kāna mauʻike e pili ana i nā keikikāne ma ke kula a loaʻa wale ke kākoʻo a kōkua iā ia - hiki iāʻoe ke manaʻoʻaʻoleʻoe e hopohopo. ʻO ka nui o nā wāhine iʻole nā keikikāne e loaʻa nā keiki i kā lākou kaikamahine i waeʻia. A lailaʻaʻole "e lele" ke kanaka mai ka mālama mau a mālama i kou makuahine. I kēlā mauʻano, he pili maikaʻi ko lākou,ʻo kekahi manawa e hoʻonāukiuki ana i ka huhū iāʻoe! Akāʻo kēia ka mea e hauoli ai iāʻoe!
Akā ināʻo nā mea i ho'ākākaʻia ma luna nei e pili ana i ka palena palena ma waena o ka makuahine a me ke kaikamahine a ke kaikamahine, aia kekahiʻano kūʻokoʻa, aʻo keʻano o ke alohaʻia e nā kāne. ʻAʻole hiki i kou makuahine ke haʻi i kona manaʻo no kāu kohoʻana, e'āponoʻo ia i kona helehelena aʻo ka hana maʻamau iā ia e like me ka hoaaloha. Hiki hiki iāʻoe ke makemakeʻole - akāʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o ka manawa e noho mau anaʻoe ma ka home e kū'ē i kahi mea aloha.
Aʻo ka mea nui, hiki iā mākou ke'ōlelo aku ma nāʻano he nui ka hopena o ka makuahine a me konaʻano e pili ana iā ia. Ma keʻano pololei, mai ka pehea e hōʻike ai i kānaʻike e pili ana iā ia, pehea keʻano o ka kiʻi e hana mua ma kona poʻo. Akā,ʻikeʻoe i kou makuahine,ʻikeʻoe i kona makemake mau iāʻoe - no laila, ināʻoe e hana i nā mea a pau me ka akamai, a laila e ulu ka pilina ma waena o ka mom a me ke keiki e like me ka mea maʻamau. Malia paha me ke alohaʻole, akā me ka inainaʻole - akā,ʻo kaʻenemi ma waena o nā mea nui a me nā maka'āinana,ʻaʻole loa ia e lawe i kekahi mea maikaʻi. ʻAʻole makemakeʻoe e nalowale iā lāuaʻelua,ʻoʻoe?