ʻO ka makuahōnōwai wahine a me ka hūnōna wahine -ʻaʻole e ulu mau ka pilina ma waena o nā wāhineʻelua ma ke ala maikaʻi loa. ʻOiai ma nāʻano o nā kānaka, e like paha me nā'ōlelo hoʻohālike a me nā'ōlelo, uaʻikeʻia kēia mau launaʻole (ʻo ka makuahōnōwai ma ka ipu, aia ka'īlio i ke kaulahao, a - mai ka hūnōna makuahine e pīpī me nā waimaka) kahi o ka hūnōna wahine i ka manawa iʻeha.
ʻO ka mea maʻamau i nā papa mua o ka olaʻana o kahi'ōpio'ōpio, ua nui nā hakakā a me ka makuahōnōwai wahine. I kekahi mau manawaʻaʻole paʻa nā paio no nā makahiki he nui. He mea paʻakikī i ka hūnōna wahine ke ola i ka ikaika mau o kona makuahōnōwai wahine, ka mea, mai ka kiʻekiʻe o kona olaʻana, e manaʻo ai e hiki ke pale i ka nohoʻana o kahiʻohana'ōpiopio. Eia kekahi,ʻo ka hakakā nui ma waena o ka hūnōna wahine a me ka makuahōnōwai wahine, no muliʻole ia o ka nānāʻana o nā manaʻo ma ka mahiʻai, ka hoʻouluʻana o nā keiki, aʻoi aku. A ma ka manaʻo nui, pono wale mākou e hoʻomanaʻo i kaʻoiaʻiʻo iʻikeʻia -ʻaʻole he poʻe likeʻole i ke ao nei, a no laila keʻano o ka manaʻo hoʻokahi.
ʻAe,ʻaʻohe mea maʻalahi ke lilo i makuahine, akā ke hoʻopauʻoleʻoe i ka liliʻana i kahi keikikāne i kāna wahine. Akā, hiki i nā mea a pau ke maikaʻi ke hoʻololiʻoe i kouʻano i kāu hūnōna wahine. ʻAe, ua paʻakikī, akā, he aliʻi wahineʻoe a lawe i loko o ka hale, i loko o kouʻohana he kanaka hou. Peheaʻoe e kūkulu ai i ka pilina mai ka hoʻomakaʻana,ʻo ia. E lawe i kēia wahine e like me kāu e hana ai, e like me kāu mālama i kāu keiki. Ua alohaʻo ia iā ia - ua maikaʻiʻo ia me ia a ua hauʻoliʻo ia. A he aha nā mea'ē aʻe e pono ai ka makuahine no ka hauʻoli, e like me kaʻike e hauʻoli ana kāu keiki. Hana i kahi hūnōna wahine i kaikamahine, a noʻonoʻo mauʻoe i nā hanana a pau loa aʻaʻole loa e waiho waleʻia. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, ua loaʻa iāʻoe nā kuleana likeʻole -ʻo ia ka mālamaʻana i kāu keikikāne, ka pilina o konaʻohana.
Pehea e hoʻoholo ai i ka paio ma waena o ka wahine a me ka makuahine. Hoʻomaopopo nā kānaka hoʻonaʻauao i ka piliʻole o nā kuʻikahi ma waena o ka hūnōna wahine a me ka makuahonowai wahine me ke kū'ē mau -ʻo wau aʻo ia paha. ʻO nā mea a pau a kāna hūnōna wahine i hana ai,ʻaʻole pēlā kona makuahōnōwai wahine. ʻO ka holoi holoi holoiʻana i ka hewa,ʻaʻoleʻo ia e holoi, i loko o hoʻokahi hua'ōlelo ua hewa nā mea a pau. Ua hewa nā kaikamāhine a me nā hūnōna wahine i ka wā e ho'āʻo ai lākou e pale i ko lākou makuahōnōwai wahine, a me ka manaʻo hoihoi. ʻO ka hewaʻole i ka wā e hoʻopiʻi ai ka makuahōnōwai kāne a me ka hūnōna wahine i kā lāua keiki kāne me ke kāne. ʻAʻole ia e alakaʻi i kekahi mea maikaʻi.
Inā hoʻoloheʻoe i nā wāhine i noho ma kahi o nā makahiki heʻumi ma ka maleʻana,ʻike maopopo ia he hikiʻole ke loaʻa i kahi meaʻai maʻamau no kāu pilina. E ho'āʻo mākou e aloha wale i koʻu makuahōnōwai wahine, e mahalo iā ia -ʻo ia ka mea nāna i hānau a hānai i kāu mea aloha.
He pilikia nui ka pilikia no ka nui o nā nīnau ma mua o nā pane. I kēlā me kēiaʻohana, ua hoʻoholo i nā mea a pau ma konaʻano iho. He mea paʻakikī i ka hūnōna wahine ke komo i loko o kaʻohana a mālama i kona wahi, aʻo ka makuahōnōwai wahine e paʻakikī e hoʻolauleʻa me kēia kūlana. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻo kēia no ka noho kaʻawale. Akā nō naʻe,ʻaʻole i nā manawa a pau, ua loli, mālama i ka pilina maʻamau. A inā heʻohana'ōpiopio e noho ma lalo o ka hale like me ko lākou mau mākua, a laila he pilikia no nāʻohana wahineʻelua ma kahi kīhini hoʻokahi. A i loko o kēlāʻohana he nīnau e kūkulu hou i nā lula hou o ka hana, aʻaʻole hiki ke maʻalahi.
Malia paha kahi kūlana. ʻO ka mea ola mua ke kaʻawale, a mālama mau ka makua mālama mālama i kēlā me kēia kaʻina. Loaʻa kona manaʻo i nā mea a pau - ke olakino, i kahi e hoʻomaha ai a hiki i ka leka o ka pepa kiʻi kiʻi. A inā noho kekahi makuahōnōwai me nā poʻe'ōpio i ka hale hoʻokahi, e hele mauʻo ia me ka kīkēkēʻole i loko o ke keʻena a hana i kēlā mea kēia mea e makemake ai. E holoi i ka lepo, e uhi i kahi moe a hoʻonāukiukiʻia, ināʻaʻohe mea e mahalo. ʻO ka'ōlelo nui i ka hūnōna wahine i kēia kūlana,ʻaʻole ia e hele e hoʻopiʻi i kāna kāne e pili ana i kona makuahine. E kamaʻilio me ia a e haʻi i kou manaʻo.
ʻAʻole hiki i ke kāne ke hoʻoholo i kahi hakakā ma waena o nā wāhineʻelua ma kona makuahine a me kāna wahine,ʻo ia kaʻoiaʻiʻo. I kēia kūlana,ʻo ia kaʻaoʻao iʻeha,ʻo ia ka mea i kūpono i kahi koho. E makaʻuʻo ia, akā,ʻaʻoleʻo ia e koho. A inā he mea hikiʻole ke koho, a laila e pau ka maleʻana.
Wahi a nā kānakaʻepekema -ʻaʻohe mea e hoʻokokoke i nā pilikia o kaʻohana ma muli o ke kumu o ka pono a me ka hala. E ho'āʻo kāua e hoʻomaopopo, no ka mea o nā hopena o ka nohona i loaʻa nā pilikia i ka pilina ma waena o ka hūnōna wahine a me ka makuahine.
ʻO ka mua -ʻelua wāhine e māhele i ke kāne a me ka lua - he wahi ma kaʻohana, ka maheleʻana o nā hana, aia ka manaʻo lili a me ka makemake e hoʻopau i ka hoa paio. Ma iaʻano kūpono e kūpono a hoʻomaopopo i kahi wahi i nohoʻia. He paʻakikī, akā he hiki.
Eia kekahi mau'ōlelo aʻo no ka makuahine, pehea e pale ai i nā paio. Hoʻohanohano i ke kohoʻana o kahi keikikāne, ua hauʻoliʻo ia me kāna wahine, a ponoʻoe e lawe iā ia no ka meaʻo ia. E ho'āʻo e hāʻawi i kāu'ōlelo aʻo wale nō ke noiʻiaʻoe e hana pēlā. E hāʻawi i ka manawa kūpono i ka wahine'ōpio e kū ai, e hoʻomauʻo ia i kona manaʻo, aʻaʻole loa e hiki ke hakakā. Mai hoʻopiʻi i kāu hūnōna kāne i kāu keiki. Hoʻoholo i nā mea a pau me ka hūnōna wahine, ma muli o nā mea a pau ma ke kula meʻoe ka kuleana e koho balota i kaʻohana. Aʻikeʻia nā moʻopuna, loaʻa iāʻoe ka kūlana o kahi kupuna wahine. He kuleana nui kēia, akāʻaʻole e hāʻawi iāʻoe i ka pono e lawe i nā hana o ka makuahine. E ho'āʻo e hoʻomaopopo he hikiʻole iāʻoe ke pani i kahi makuahine me kahi keiki. Ua'ōleloʻo Marlene Dietrich: "Ināʻikeʻoe he mau'ēheu ma hope o kou mau poʻohiwi, a laila, he makuahine maikaʻi kou." He mea maikaʻi inā pili ka manaʻo o ko kaikoʻeke.
A pehea lā e hana ai ka hūnōna wahine, i mea e pili ai ka pilina me kona makuahōnōwai wahine. Pono e hoʻomaopopo ponoʻoe e komo anaʻoe i kahiʻohana kahi kahi makuahine, a me kekahi mau rula o kaʻohana, a ponoʻoe e aʻo i ka mahaloʻana iā lākou. I ka manawa o ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa, e mālama i ka pale o kaʻuhane a me ke ahonui. Mai hoʻopiʻi i kāu kāne e pili ana i kou makuahōnōwai wahine,ʻo kēia ke alakaʻi pinepine nei i kahi hoʻonāukiuki o ka hopena. E hoʻoholo i ka paio ma oʻoe iho a mai komo i kahi kāne ma ia mea.
Mai kamaʻilio me kou makuahōnōwai i ka pilina ma waena oʻoe a me kāu kāne. Mai hōʻino i kou makuahōnōwai wahine no ka hoʻouluʻana o kāu wahine. E hana i kou pilina me ia, kohoʻoe iā ia. E mālama i ke ola o kou makuahōnōwai me ka mahalo. ʻO kāna mau'ōlelo aʻo e pili ana i ka hanaʻana i nāʻoihana e hiki ke kōkua iāʻoe. A i ka hānauʻana o ke keiki, e hoʻoholo koke i kahi o kāu hana mua i ka hānaiʻana o ke keiki. A mai poina e pili ana i ka mahalo i ke kanaka makua.
Pehea e hoʻoholo ai i ka paio ma waena o ka wahine a me ka makuahine. ʻO ka mea nui loa,ʻaʻole ia e poina i ka kalaʻana a noi aku i kalaʻia. ʻO wai ka mea naʻauao e hana i kēia. ʻO ka maluhia ma ka hale ka mea nui loa o ka hauʻoli wahine.