Hiki koke ia, i ka wā e "pāʻani" ke keiki i nā hormones a hoʻomaka i ka wā'ōpio. He hoihoi kona i kekahi mau puke, e nānā i kekahi mau kiʻiʻoniʻoni, e lilo i mea aloha nui a ua loaʻa iā ia ka manaolana e uluʻo ia ae loaʻa iā ia he aloha nui a nani - he manaʻo aloha. A pehea e aʻo aiʻaʻole e makaʻu i ke aloha.
Keʻikeʻia ka hiʻohiʻona o ke aloha,ʻikeʻia ka piko e hikiʻole ke loaʻa, no ka mea, ua pili nā manaʻo a pau o kēia keiki me ke aloha. I kekahi manawa ua lilo kēia aloha i mea hōʻino maoli -'ānō he kūlana maikaʻi ka hōʻino o ke keiki. Hanaʻo ia iā ia me kaʻikeʻole, akāʻaʻoleʻo ia e hoʻomaopopo iā ia iho.
ʻOi ka mea iʻoi aku ma mua o nā kūnaho o ka honua, ua hoʻohuiʻia mai kekahi mau kiʻi, mai kekahi mau puke, mai kekahi mele, mai kekahi mau kiʻiʻoniʻoni. Hoʻomaka ke keiki e koho i ka hopena o kēia wahine a me kēia kanaka - pehea ka nui, ka nani, kaʻono, kaʻaʻahu, a pēlā aku.
ʻO nā mea a pau loa i nā manaʻo nui-hypochondriacs e hana i kēia. Aia i loko oʻehiku mau makahiki i hala aʻe nei, ua hoʻomaka lākou e hopohopo i nā makahiki he 12-14, a hiki i nā makahiki he 14 a ua lilo lākou i kiʻi maʻamau o ka mea aloha i ka wā e hiki mai ana. He kiʻi likeʻole kēia, akā, e noho mau ana ia i kahi anuanu i keʻano o kahi maikaʻi. Mai kēia manawa e pale aku ana ke keiki iā ia iho, e pani ana me ka mālamalama e hanaʻo ia i ke kūlana maikaʻi,ʻo kaʻoi aku o ka hoʻopaʻiʻana e lilo i meaʻole.
No ke aha i hanaʻia ai kēia mau mea a pau? Mahalo i kēia mea maikaʻi, nā keiki e pale aku iā lākou iho mai ke ola. Ua hala'ē lākou i ko lākou naʻau maʻalahi, i ko lākou noho ponoʻole, i ko lākou maʻemaʻe, aʻo kēia keʻano o ka paniʻana iā lākou iho, iʻole lākou e pōpilikia hou iʻole e hoʻokomo i loko o ko lākou ola i kekahi kanaka'ē aʻe. Ua makaʻuʻo ia e aloha.
I kēia manawa ua palekana loaʻia ke keiki mai ka poʻe'ē aʻe. Iā ia e'ōlelo ana: "ʻAʻole au makemake i kēia keiki," i aʻo aku aiʻo ia i nā poʻe'ē aʻe he makemake waleʻo ia i kekahiʻano o nā'ōpio, ke aʻo aku nei hoʻi ke keikikāne e makemakeʻo ia i kekahiʻano o nā kaikamāhine, akā i ka makaʻu maoli, makaʻu lākou i ke aloha .
Hoʻomaka ke keiki e hōʻike iā ia iho, e hōʻike i kona alohaʻole iā haʻi. No ka mea, he manawa manawa kona e kali ai, a ke ulu nei ka haunaele i pili i ka manaolana o ke aloha. I kēia manawa,ʻo ke keiki e like me ia, e nānā i ka hanaʻana a kekahi. Kūlana nuiʻo ia. A hoʻomakaʻo ia eʻike i keʻano o nā keiki'ē aʻe. Mālama kēia i kahi maʻi hauʻoli-hypothetical, hopohopoʻo ia e aloha. Hōʻikeʻo ia i ka mahaloʻole a me ka hoʻowahāwahā,ʻaʻoleʻo ia iʻae i kekahi i loko, akāʻo kona mau moe a me nā moeʻuhane o ke aloha.
Ma muli o kēia pilina kokoke, hoʻomaka ke keiki i nā wahi a pau eʻike i ka manaʻoʻole iā ia iho. I kēia manawa, ke hōʻike nei ke ao nei i kekahiʻano. Mai ka hopena weliweli o kona puʻuwai, ke 'ʻomi neiʻo ia i ka lāʻauʻawaʻawa,ʻaʻoleʻo ia e hōʻike ana iā ia iho,ʻaʻoleʻo ia i kūpono i ka pono,ʻaʻoleʻo ia e ulu a hoʻomaka kokoke e pani aʻoi aku i konaʻikeʻana i kēiaʻeha. I kēia manawaʻaʻoleʻo ia i manaʻoʻiʻo i kēlā aloha, e hopohopoʻo ia e aloha.
Aʻo ka mea hope loa, ua hiki mai kēia aloha iā ia, i kekahi mau makahiki, hiki mai kekahi keikikāne me ka'ōlelo: "aloha au iāʻoe!". Akā,ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke wehe, e hauʻoliʻo ia, e kali ana,ʻaʻole ponoʻo ia, moeʻuhane, makemakeʻo ia, ua nānāʻo ia ma nā maka a pau. Akā naʻe, i ka wā i hoʻokokoke aku ai lākou iā ia, uaʻikeʻoleʻo ia i ka mea e hana ai. ʻAʻohe ona manaʻo,ʻaʻohe ona koho no ka mea e hana ai. Ke hopohopo neiʻo ia i ke kaumaha i loko ona.
No laila ke koho: aiʻoleʻoleʻo ia e hōʻole e haʻi aku, me ka hopohopo e haʻalele iā ia, aiʻole e hoʻomaka pahaʻo ia e kū'ē i kekahi, he mea paʻakikī iā ia ke aʻo i ke aloha. Ināʻaʻoleʻo ia i makemake i ke keiki, hoʻomakaʻo ia e hōʻike i keʻano hoʻohaʻahaʻa, i kona manaʻoʻole, e hōʻike aiʻaʻoleʻo ia i makemake iā ia, i ka wā hoʻokahi, e paʻa ana,ʻaʻoleʻike i keʻano e hana ai,ʻaʻohe manawa e wehe ai i mua o kekahi.
Keʻike nei kēia mau keiki i kahi pōʻino i loko,ʻaʻole lākou iʻike i keʻano o ko lākou makaʻuʻole e aloha. ʻO ke kanaka alohaʻole e ola, pono iā ia ke loaʻa kaʻike mai ke aloha mai. A laila uaʻikeʻia kahi mea eʻikea ana, akā,ʻaʻole eʻae i ka mea maikaʻi loa, ua hūnāʻia nā wahi āpau. ʻO kēlā kanaka i loko o ia he meaʻeha.
Manaʻoʻo ia he mau paʻi ma nā wahi a pau, ma nā wahi āpau e pani waleʻia nā puka no ia. Hele mai ke aloha,ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hoʻomāʻona, aiʻole ia e mahana, no ke kumu i kūponoʻole ai kāna kūlana maikaʻi, aʻo ia i hele mai ai me kāna mauʻike.
ʻAʻole hiki iā ia ke hōʻike iā ia iho, no ka mea, uaʻikeʻo ia i ka pōʻino o kaʻeha, a me ka manaʻoʻole o nā mea a pau iā ia. ʻO ka hele a pau wale nō ia i ka skew: e hōʻike ana, a hūnā paha. ʻO kēlā me nā wahi kiʻekiʻe loa. ʻAʻohe wahi e hauʻoli ai ke keiki keiki. Pēlā ke olaʻana o ke kanaka.
No lailaʻaʻole maikaʻi e pāʻani me kou psyche. Pono e aʻoʻia nā keiki i hikiʻole iā lākou ke hana likeʻole e aʻo ai lākou iʻole e hopohopo e aloha. Ma muli o ka noʻonoʻo he'ōnaehana maʻamau. A inā hele kekahi i laila, lawe mai i kekahi mea, a laila e noho ana ia i laila. A lawe mai lākou i nā mea a pau, i nā manawa a pau, me kaʻikeʻole.
Hanaʻia nā mea a pau mai ke kino loa mai o ka naʻau o zapichkan. A i ka hopena, e hikiʻole i kēia mau keiki, a me nā mea makua, ke ola i ka piha. I ko lākou ola a pau, e makemake lākou i ke aloha, e pono a palekana. No ke kumu i makaʻu loa ai lākou no kaʻikeʻana,ʻaʻole lākou e mahana.