ʻO keʻano o ka pilina ma waena o nā kāne a me nā kaikamāhine e noho mau i ka manawa o ka pilina - a laila e noho mau i loko o ia mea, aiʻole e ulu ai i loko o ka pilina kūlohelohe, a uhaʻi paha, aiʻole e lilo iʻano hōʻailona o ka pilina a me ka pilina. He nui ka poʻe e hakakā inā paha he kāne a he wahine paha ka hoaaloha. ʻOiai, hiki iā lākou. Akā wale nō i ka hihia ināʻaʻole lākou e hele i ka moekino i kekahi i kekahi. Eʻoluʻoluʻoe, no ka mea,ʻoiai keʻikeʻoe i kahi kanaka,ʻikeʻoe: ua likeʻo ia me he kaikunāne iaʻu. ʻO kekahi manaʻo e hiki iā ia ke lilo i mea hou aku, he huhū a he mea hoʻopailua. ʻO kēiaʻano o ka pilina,ʻo ka meaʻoi aku, e hoʻopau loa i ke ola aʻaʻole e peretechet i kekahi mea'ē aʻe. Aʻo ka nele o kahi hoʻouluʻana,ʻaʻole ia he kūponoʻole i keʻano'ōpiopioʻole o ke kanaka'ōpio a hana paha e like me ke kaikamahine. ʻOiaʻiʻo, i loko o ko kākou ola, i kekahi manawa, aia nā poʻeʻaʻole loa i ko kākouʻano. Akā i ka manawa hoʻokahi, ua pili kokoke lākou iā mākou. ʻO ia ka manawa eʻikeʻia ai kēiaʻano o ka pilinaʻana, ka pilinaʻohana, ka mea e uluʻole ai i loko o ke kuko o ke kino. ʻO ka mea pōʻino,ʻaʻole maikaʻi nā wāhine a pau i kēia. ʻAʻole iʻike kekahi i kēia mau kānaka, aʻo nā poʻe'ē aʻe,ʻaʻole lākou iʻike i keʻano he hoaaloha. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻo ka pilina ma waena o ke kāne a me ke kaikamahine he makana nuiʻo ia. ʻO kahi wale nō ka mea e hāʻawi nei i kēia mau makana mai kahi melekopia, a aneaneʻole e loaʻa iā lākou,ʻo ia ke kumu i manaʻoʻiʻoʻole aiʻo ia.
Inā he mau hoaaloha ke kanaka a me ke kaikamahine, hiki keʻoi aku ka ikaika o ko lāua pilina ma waena o nā hoaalohaʻelua, nā hoaaloha, a me nā wāhine. ʻOiai,ʻaʻole lākou iʻike kekahi i kekahi ma ka hakakā aʻaʻole a lākou mea e māhele like ai. Eia kekahi, nā kāne e hoʻohana mau nei i kahi paʻa ma kahi kāne kāne, ma mua o ka hikiʻana i kā lākou makamaka maikaʻi ke hoʻoneʻe i ka pale huna a hana me kaʻoiaʻiʻo, no laila ke mahalo nui nei lākou. A no laila, hiki i nā kaikamāhine ke noi i nā'ōlelo aʻo e pili ana i nā lālā o ka wahine ikaika. Me nā hoaaloha, pinepine lākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea i hikiʻole i nā kaikamāhine ke haʻi aku. ʻO ka manawa e hiki ai i ka hoaaloha, pinepine,ʻike aʻoi aku ka nui o nā koi. No laila, ua hoʻohanaʻia mākou no ka hoʻomaopopoʻana i kā mākou poʻe keiki aloha, no laila mākou e ho'āʻo e hoʻololi iā lākou, e hoʻololi i nā mea kūpono. Akāʻo nā hoaaloha maikaʻi eʻike i nā mea a pau e like me lākou. ʻO ia ke kumu e hiki ai ke hilinaʻiʻia nā hoaaloha me nā mea huna huna a pau, e noi aku i ka hoʻolohe a hoʻolohe mau i kona manaʻo. Hana pū nā kaikamāhine i kā lākou mau hoaaloha. ʻO ia mauʻano,ʻo ka manawa pinepine,ʻo ia ka mea maikaʻi loa o ka hoaaloha, no ka mea,ʻaʻohe kāne e huhū a me ka huā wahine. Ma kēia pilina, e hoʻomau nā mea a pau i konaʻano, ma mua o ka ho'āʻoʻana e hōʻike i kahi hoaaloha heʻoi aku kona maikaʻi,ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi aʻoi aku ka nani. Inā he mau hetero kāne nā hoaaloha, ua like lākou aʻoi aku ma mua o kēlā a me kēia, no ka mea, uaʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kēlā me kēia o lākou ma ko lākouʻano pono'ī aʻaʻole lākou eʻike i ka haʻaheo a me ka hoʻokūkū. ʻO ka pilina ma kēiaʻano he pilina maikaʻi loa a me ka pilina ma waena o nāʻelele o nā hui likeʻole.
Akā, me ka pilina ma konaʻano maʻemaʻe, aia nō hoʻi ka pilina me nā pono. I loko o ia mau pilina, pili ka pilina ma ka moekolohe. I kēia hihia, loaʻa nā kānaka i ka pilina o kekahi i kekahi, akā,ʻaʻole lawa nā manaʻo a me nā manaʻo. A iʻole paha,ʻo kekahi o lākou e aloha a koho wale i ia mau pilina e hiki ai i ka meaʻole.
ʻO ka manawa pinepine, he mau mea like kēia mau hoa, akā,ʻaʻole lākou e hōʻike i ka lehulehu ma keʻano maʻalahi a me kaʻoluʻolu e like me nā hoaaloha mau. ʻO keʻano,ʻo nā poʻe aloha aloha e hoʻohālike nei i waena o lākouʻaʻole he mea'ē aʻe ka pilina wale nō. ʻOiai, ua maopopo lākou he meaʻoleʻole ka hūnā, akā, hoʻomau lākou i ka pāʻani i ko lākou mau kuleana. I loko o ia mau pilina,ʻo ka mea nuiʻaʻole ia e hōʻeha i kekahi. Ināʻelua wale nō ka hopena ma ke kūlana kino, aia nā mea a pau. Hiki i kēlā mau hoaaloha ke pāʻani i ka pôpeka i ke ao, a moe i ka pō aʻo ka mea e pili ana iā lākou. Inā loaʻa i kekahi o ia mau wāhine he hoa a he hoaaloha nona iho, a laila, eʻoluʻolu loa ka meaʻelua iā ia a lilo i hoaaloha maʻamau.
Heʻoi aku ka maikaʻi loa, ke aloha kekahi o nā hoaaloha i ka lua. I kēia manawa,ʻo ia wale nō ka mea e hana wale i ka hoaaloha, a pinepine,ʻaʻole i hana kēia kanaka ma muli o kona makemake pono'ī, akā no ka mea he mea pono ka mea aloha.
Inā kamaʻilioʻoe e pili ana i kahi mea āu e aloha ai, a laila hiki iā ia ke hele no ka pilinaʻana, no ka mea, he aloha nuiʻo ia me kāna hoaaloha, akāʻaʻole makemakeʻo ia, mai ka manaʻo hopohopoʻole a me ka makeʻole. ʻO ka manawa pinepine, ua pau kēia hoaaloha i nāʻano likeʻole.
ʻO ka koho mua - loaʻa kekahi i kaʻoiaʻiʻo maoli. I kēia hihia, hoʻomaka ka lua i ka maʻi aʻeha a ho'āʻo e hoʻihoʻi i nā mea a pau. Akā,ʻaʻohe mea e hoʻi ai, uaʻoi aku ka ikaika o ka hoʻopaʻi. ʻAʻole kēia he mea kānalua, no ka mea ua haʻihaʻiʻia ka haunaele, a, i kēia manawa, pono e ola me kaʻikeʻana ua hoʻopunipuni ke kanaka iā ia iho. I kēlā mau hihia, haʻalele ka launaʻana iʻole ka emiʻana i ka palena iki. ʻAʻole paha,ʻaʻole no ka wā pauʻole, akā, no kēlā manawa,ʻoiai ke alohaʻole o ka mea aloha,ʻaʻole e hoʻonāwaliwali nā manaʻo.
ʻO ka lua o ka kohoʻana,ʻo ia ke aloha i loko o ka hana o iaʻano aloha. Ma kēiaʻano, pili ka pilina ma keʻano like, akā,ʻaʻohe mea iʻeha hou, aiʻole, ke ho'ōki nei a lilo ka poʻe i mau hoaaloha. Hiki i nā pilina pilina maʻamau ma hope o ka moekolohe. ʻO ka mea nui,ʻaʻohe mea e hopohopo i kekahi i kekahi.
ʻO ka kohoʻekolu kahi,ʻo ia ke aloha. I kēia hihia,ʻo ka mea nāna i hoʻomau i ka pilina, e hoʻomaopopo mau ana he manaʻo kona. Ua hiki paha iā lākou ke hele pū me ia i ka manawa mua, akāʻaʻole hiki iā ia keʻae aku iā ia iho, kona hoaaloha, e hele i ka hoaaloha, ma keʻano nui, i mua o nā mea a pau. ʻO ia mauʻano, a pinepine paha. Hoʻomaha nā kānaka ma hope o ka moekolohe e hūnā i ka makemake e kūkulu i kahi pilina maʻamau. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻo kēia koho ka mea kūpono loa a'āponoʻia no nāʻaoʻaoʻelua.
No laila, hiki iā mākou ke hoʻoholo he mauʻano likeʻole ka pilina ma waena o nā kāne me nā kaikamāhine. Hiki ke lilo i ka pilina maʻemaʻe, i ka aloha maʻemaʻe a me kekahi mea hoʻonāukiuki e hoʻohui i waena o kēia mau manaʻo. ʻO kēia keʻano o ka hakakā nui a ke hoʻokūhā neiʻoe inā he alohaʻole ka pilina, a me ka pilina me ke alohaʻole.