Manaʻo nā kānaka he nui ka pilina o ia pilina - no ka mea, kokoke i nā wāhine a pau eʻike i nāʻanoʻokoʻa. Akā, eia anei keʻano o ka pilina ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine? A iʻole paha, heʻano likeʻoleʻo ia ma ka piliʻana i ka pili wahine.
Loaʻa i kaʻepekema - ka'ikekino o nā pilina. Nānāʻo ia i nāʻano likeʻole o nā pilina kanaka, a me nā mea maikaʻi loa iā mākou - ka moekolohe.
ʻO ka pili pili i ka pilina ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine, kahi e pili ai ka male o ka pilina pili.
ʻO ia hoʻi, hiki i nā pili pili kālā ke pili i ka piliʻana i ka piliʻana i ka pili o ka mea i hanaʻia aiʻole ka haku paha me kona manaʻo ma keʻano he mea lawe i kāna wahine, i. nā kāne a me nā wāhine paha. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻo kēia kaʻoihanaʻoihana maʻamau o ke kāne a me ka wahine. I kēia hihia, hikiʻole i nā hoa ma kēiaʻano o ka moekolohe e hiamoe aiʻole e moe pono paha kekahi i kekahi.
Mai ka manaʻo o kēiaʻike,ʻo ka pilina ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine kekahi o nā'ōpiopio o ka moekolohe. ʻO kona moʻolelo he kumu ia no kekahi meaʻokoʻa, e noʻonoʻo kākou i konaʻano.
ʻO ka mea mua, e hoʻomanaʻo i ka pili o kēia pilina male.
• Ke kūkākūkā nā makamaka me kekahi ma muli o ko lākou hoihoi like.
Pili lākou i ka mea like a makemake paha lākou e hana i kekahi mea:ʻohi i nā kāpena, e kūkākūkā ana i nā mea maʻamau, hakakā me nā pahi lāʻau, a pēlā aku.
• Hoʻomalu nā hoa i kekahi i kekahi.
ʻAʻole lākou makaʻu i ka hōʻikeʻana iā lākou iho kekahi i kekahi "no ka hewaʻole," no ka mea, uaʻike lākouʻaʻole e hoʻohoka kekahi i ka mea'ē aʻe. ʻAʻole lākou e kākau iā lākou iho i loko o kā lākou mau puke a iʻole ka hoʻomanaʻo i ka hua a me ka pia.
•ʻAʻole i manaʻo nā hoa i kekahi i kekahi "paʻa".
ʻAʻole lākou i hoʻonohonoho i nā hanana, inā hoʻonohonoho kekahi i kahi pāʻina a me ka pākeke, a'ōlelo kekahi e hikiʻole iā iaʻaʻoleʻole makemake e hele i ia. A inā paha e haʻi aku kekahi i kekahiʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke kōkua i kekahi mea. ʻAʻole hiki iāʻoe aʻaʻole makemake i - ka pono a kahi hoaloha eʻike ai ma hope o kekahi.
•ʻAʻole hae nā hoa i kekahi i kekahi.
ʻO ka holomua o kekahiʻaʻole ia he pōʻino o kekahi. Eia kekahi,ʻo nā hoaaloha mau loa e hauʻoli i nā holomua o kekahi i kekahi.
• Ua pili nā pilina.
ʻAʻole hiki iā lākou ke ho'ākāka i keʻano o kēia pilina, akāʻo kēia ka mea i kapaʻia e ko mākou mau kūpuna i ka hua'ōlelo "pili". ʻO kēia pilina pili i ka pilinaʻohana a me ka pilina pili, akāʻokoʻa ia.
• Loaʻa nā ola o nā kamaliʻi.
Hoʻolālā nā mea aloha i ko lākou mau ola me ka maka o kekahi i kekahi a me ka heluʻana no "ka launaʻana." Noho wale nā hoa. ʻAʻole kēia manaʻoʻaʻole hiki iā lākou keʻaelike i kekahi mea.
• Ke kamaʻilio maʻalahi nā makamaka.
Hoʻoikaika wale kaʻikeʻana i kā lākou kamaʻilio. Ināʻole, ala, ua nalowale.
He loiloi kūikawā kēia. Pēlā nō ia no ka pilina ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine, me kekahiʻano'ē aʻe: hoʻokahi a iʻole lāuaʻelua e makemake i kekahi'ē aʻe, akā, no kekahi kumu,ʻaʻole lākou e moe. ʻO kekahi mea e like me ke aloha Platonic ...
Pehea e ala ai?
ʻO ka mea kākauʻo S. Chekmayev i loko o ka puke "Vesukha" e hoʻomaopopo i kaʻike ponoʻana o ke kāne a me ka wahine he meaʻole ma waena o lāua,ʻo ia hoʻi ka hilinaʻi loa o ko lāua pilina.
ʻO ia keʻano o ka pilina ma waena o ke kāne,ʻo ia keʻano o ka moekolohe, i ka wā i makemake ai kekahi kāne i kahi wahine, uaʻikeʻo ia "ʻaʻoleʻo ia e", akā ua makemakeʻo ia iā ia he kanaka i hoʻoholoʻo ia eʻimi i nā kamaʻilio maʻamau me kāna. Ma ka liʻuliʻu, hiki ke ulu ikaika ka kamaʻilioʻana ma kēia kūkā, a me ka pilina me nāʻano a pau, e like me "kahi kōkua e kōkua mau ai."
No ke aha ke kanaka o kaʻaoʻao hana?
ʻO ka meaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻo ka hapanui o nā wāhine ua kohoʻia e leʻaleʻa i nāʻano a pau o ka kamaʻilioʻana, a no laila, makemakeʻia ka launa pūʻana me ke kanaka e like me ke kanaka no lākou. ʻAʻole iʻuʻuku nā kāne i nāʻano o ka pilikanaka, e pili ana i ka moekolohe; he meaʻuʻuku loa ka poʻe eʻoluʻolu mai iā lākou. No ka hoʻokumuʻana i ka pili holoʻokoʻa e pono ai ka komoʻana o nāʻaoʻaoʻelua, pono ka wahine e kali me ka lohi, inā paha he kāne me ka maikaʻi i hōʻikeʻia ma luna nei.
ʻO ka mea nui loa no ka maopopoʻana o nā mea'ē aʻe,ʻo kaʻimiʻana i kekahi i kekahi,ʻaʻole ia he mea hikiʻole ke launa. ʻAʻole ia he meaʻokoʻa keʻano kūlohelohe o ke kino, kahi mea e hoʻokaʻawale ai i ka pilina ma waena o ka wahine.
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