ʻO ka mea hōʻeuʻeu no ka wahine ua mau loa a he mea weliweli ia. ʻO kaʻike e pili ana i ka kumakaiaʻana o kāna kāne, i loko o kaʻuhane o ka wahine i ka manawa hoʻokahi e hakakā ana i nā manaʻo e like me ka huhū a me ka huhū o kāna kāne, ke kānalua i ka wā e hiki mai ana a me ka haunaele, ka hae. Nui nā ala e puka ai i kēia kūlana. Akā, ināʻaʻole i hiki ke kipi, pehea lā? He aha inā inā hoʻomaka wale nā hōʻailona mua o ka flirting wale nō? He aha inā iaʻu iʻike ai i kahiʻoiaʻiʻoʻole -ʻo ke hoaaloha e hoaaloha me kuʻu kāne?
ʻO ka mea mua, e hoʻomaopopo iāʻoe ihoʻaʻole hiki ke kapaʻia kekahi wahine e hakakā me kāu wahine. ʻO kēlā wahine he mea kōkua i ka hana, he hoaaloha, he hoa hele muaʻo ia, ma keʻano nui, e kekahi, akā,ʻaʻole wale i kahi hoaaloha. No ka waihoʻana i nā mea a pau i kona wahi, hiki iāʻoe ke kono i kāu hoa paio i ka cafe aʻoiaiʻoe e inu waina, e kamaʻilio kūkākūkā me ia. Akā, pono e hoʻohanaʻia kēia koho ināʻo ka hakakā kekahi o nā hoa pili, a pili aloha. ʻO kahi kamaʻilio kūkākūkāʻana me kekahi hoaaloha i kēia hihia e kōkua iāʻoe e hōʻoki i kou mau manaʻo hilahila, aiʻole e hoʻopaʻa. Malia paha, ma hope o ka kūkā kamaʻilio maikaʻi, e hukiʻia ana e kāna hoaaloha a makemake e hoʻomau i kou pilina. Eia naʻe, hiki ke hoʻohanaʻia kēia koho wale nō inā heʻoiaʻiʻo maoli nō kāu.
Akā i ka manawa pinepine, aia kekahiʻano'ē aʻe: ke hoʻohinu nei kāu kāne me kāu hoa noho a hoa paha. Ma kēia hihia, hiki iāʻoe ke kamaʻilio me ka wahine, akā inā he hilinaʻi hilinaʻiʻoe a haʻi iā ia i ka mea e pilikia ai iāʻoe. ʻO ka manawa i loko o kaʻohana i loaʻa ai ka pilina aloha ma waena o nā wāhine ma waho o nāʻaha pili i ka pilina, ua hoʻoponopono maikaʻiʻia kēlā mau pilikia. Inā he kāne maoli kahi kāne a manaʻoʻo ia i nā manaʻo e pili ana iā ia,ʻaʻoleʻo ia e wahaheʻe iāʻoe no ka mahalo nui iāʻoe. Akā, inā he kanaka kekahi aʻaʻoleʻo ia i manaʻo i kekahi mea no ia, a laila hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻoholo pū i kāu mau hana.
ʻAe, inā alohaʻoe i kāu kāne aʻaʻaʻole e kamaʻilio aku iā ia e pili ana i kou mau manaʻo hilahila, pehea lā ka mea e koe e hanaʻia? E kali a hahai i nā hanana. Inā hikiʻole iāʻoe ke kānalua e pili ana kekahi hoaaloha me kāu wahine, e kaohi i kāna kamaʻilio me ia ma ka home. Akā,ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, e hoʻopau i kekahi kamaʻilio me kēia hoaaloha. Inā kūkala ka mea lanakila me ka hoa wahine i mua o kou mau maka, a laila,ʻaʻole paha e hoʻonohonoho i nā "kū'ē" a me nā haʻalulu paha, hiki i ka hōʻailona ke hoʻonui i ka makemake o kou hoa paio e hōʻoki i kāu wahine.
E hoʻomanaʻo i ka maʻalahi o ka paleʻana i kahi pilikia, ma mua o ka hoʻopauʻana i nā hopena e hoʻokomoʻia. No laila, e ho'āʻoʻoe e hoʻokokoke loa me kāu mau hoaaloha. ʻAʻole pono i ka mau kaikamāhine ke hōʻike pono aku iāʻoe a me ke ola o kāu kāne. He maikaʻi maoli ka hoaaloha, akā, ma waena o nā hoaaloha pili pono, he wahi mamao paha.
Inā heleʻokoʻa kāu wahine wahine me kāu kāne, e hana i nā mea a pau i kāna kāne e hoʻolohe ai iāʻoe a lailaʻaʻoleʻo ia e manawa e hoʻolohe ai i ka hana a kāu hoaaloha. I kekahi manawa ke'ōleloʻoe i kahi kanaka: "Uaʻike au eʻike anaʻo Irochka iāʻoe i nā manawa a pau,ʻaʻoleʻoe e pili ana iāʻoe, aʻoʻoe, uaʻike au, e pānaʻi. Inā maikaʻi, ināʻoe e hoʻoholo e hoʻohui i kou hopena me ia, a laila,ʻaʻole wau e paʻa iāʻoe! ". Aʻo nā kānaka, e like me kouʻike, aloha i ka hua i kapuʻia. No laila, ma hope o kēlā "'ōlelo manaʻo" kūpono, hiki i ke kāne ke lilo i mea makemake nui i ka hoʻoholoʻana i ka mea lanakila.
Akāʻo kēlā me kēia, i kēlā me kēia kūlana kūikawā, ponoʻoe e hana ma nā kūlana, no ka mea,ʻaʻole i "ola" nā "mea noʻonoʻo" e pili ana i nā kūlana a pau.
I ka hoʻonani hewaʻole,ʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻaʻohe mea weliweli, ināʻaʻole kēia hoʻopauʻana ma waho aʻe o kaʻaeʻia. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, hiki paha i hoʻokahi manawa i kou ola e hoʻohuiʻia me kekahi o nā limahana o ka wahine, e like me ka la i ka makahiki hou o ka makahiki. ʻO ia ke kumu e noke houʻole aiʻo ia iāʻoe i nā hui kaiaulu o kona mau hoaaloha. Inā heʻano kēia, a laila ua akamai kou kāne, no ka mea,ʻaʻoleʻo ia i lilo i mea kūlana kūpono e kāhea ai no ke kamaʻilioʻana, akā, hoʻopuni wale iāʻoe me ka nānā a me ka mālama pono a mālama iāʻoeʻaʻoleʻoe i hālāwai me ka mea lanakila. No ke aha i hanaʻole aiʻoe pēlā.