No laila, he aha keʻano o kaʻokoʻa ma ke kāne ma ka wahine? Ua pili kēia nīnau i nā mea'imikala a me nā kauka i nā'āina likeʻole. Eia kekahi laʻana, i nāʻohana Finnish, ua manaʻoʻia no ka hānauʻana o nā keiki olakino i ka likeʻole o ka makahiki ma waena o nā kāne heʻumikumamālima mau makahiki.
Akā, i kaʻoiaʻiʻo, uaʻano likeʻole nā mea a pau. ʻAʻole i nui nāʻohana "pololei" ma Finland. I ka maʻamau, uaʻoi aku ka hānauʻana o kahi kāne Finnish ma mua o kāna wahine no 3 mau makahiki wale nō. Manaʻo nā kānakaʻepekema Finnishʻo kēia kekahi o nā kumu i hānauʻoleʻia ai nā keiki hānai maikaʻi.
Ma Suetena,ʻaʻole i hilinaʻiʻia nā'ōlelo o ka Finns. He kāne e hoʻomaha ana i ka moekolohe e kali hou i 15 mau makahiki, i ka wā e ulu ana kona'ōpiopio'ōpiopio? Ua hoʻoholo nā Swedes, ma hope o ka hoʻonaʻauaoʻana i kahi nui o nā kāne male, ua hoʻoholo lākou i kaʻokoʻa o ka makahiki mawaena o ke kane a me ka wahine e pono ka liʻiliʻi 6 makahiki . Aʻo ka mea kupaianaha,ʻo ka mea nui i ka kohoʻana i ka hoa hana ola,ʻaʻoleʻo ia ke aloha, akā,ʻo ka noho ponoʻana o nā wāhine. ʻO ia,ʻo ka hoa hana maikaʻi loa no ka maleʻana, he kāne ia e loaʻa kālā maikaʻi, he hana mau aʻoi aku ka maikaʻi. Aʻo ke aloha ... he kula kiʻekiʻe.
Uaʻikeʻia kekahiʻano likeʻole i nāʻokoʻa makahiki ma ka'ōlelo Pelekānia. Eia naʻe, makemake lākou i kekahi nīnau. Hiki i ka paeʻauao o nā kāne ke pā i ka olakino o kā lākou mau keiki?
ʻO nā haʻawina i alakaʻiʻia e ka poʻeʻepekema Pelekane i kahi hopena maikaʻi -ʻo kaʻoi aku o ka maʻalahi o ke kāne,ʻo ka nui o nā manawa e hānauʻia kāna mau keiki i ka olakino. Ke ho'ākāka nei lākou i kēia ma kaʻikeʻana i nā kānaka me kaʻike kiʻekiʻe eʻoi aku ka waiwai, loaʻa ka hana maikaʻi, a no laila ke hoʻonui nei i ka hoihoi i nā wāhine o ka wahine'ē. ʻOiai, maʻEnelani, kokoke i ka hapalua o nāʻohana,ʻaʻole ke kāne iʻoi aku ma mua o kāna wahine iʻoi aku i ka 5 mau makahiki,ʻo ka hapalua o nāʻohana i māhele likeʻia i kahi o ka wahine i'ōpiopio ma mua o kāna wahine, aʻo kahi kahi iʻoi aku ai ka wahine ma mua o kāna kāne no nā makahiki he 6.
E like me nā manawa a pau, hōʻoia nāʻAmelika. Ua hoʻoholo lākou i ka hoʻokaʻawale o ka makahiki ma waena o ke kane a me ka wahine aneaneʻaʻole e pili ka ola o kā lākou mau keiki. ʻO ka nui loa aku o ka makahiki i make ai ka wahine i kona puʻupaʻaʻana. Ua hānauʻia nā keiki hānai maikaʻi i ka poʻe i nalowale i ko lākou puʻupaʻa ma ka makahiki 17 a hiki i kaʻumikumamāwalu. A ua hoʻomāhuahua hoʻi lākou i ka loaʻaʻana o kaʻohana i piha i kaʻohana me nā keiki (aʻo kaʻAmelika e emi a emiʻole nāʻohana i kēlā me kēia makahiki). I nā keiki o nā wāhine i hoʻomaka i ka moekolohe ma mua, aiʻole, ma keʻano likeʻole, ma hope o kēia makahiki, nui nā maʻi iʻoi aku.
ʻO nā kauka Lūkini, ma hope o ka huliʻana i ka nui o nā wāhine, aia i loko o kekahi o nā maleʻekolu, he kāne ke kāne ma mua o kāna wahine no nā makahiki 2 a 5. Ma kahi likeʻole o nāʻohana i ulu ai ka wahine no nā makahiki he nui a he 6 a hiki i ka 10 mau makahiki. He mau māhele iki aʻe ma waena o nā hoa. Wahi a nāʻikepili, hoʻoholo pinepineʻia ka maleʻana ma waena o nā makahiki he hoʻokahi a'ōpio. A i loko o hoʻokahi o nāʻohana he iwakālua wale nō kaʻokoʻa i loko ka makahiki ma waena o nā kāne no nā makahiki heʻumi.
Aia kekahi meaʻoluʻolu'ē aʻe. ʻO kahi wahine iʻoi aku ka nui ma mua o kāna kāne, loaʻa iā ia ka nui. ʻO ka liʻiliʻi o ka makahiki ma waena o nā kāne,ʻo ka emi loa o ka loaʻaʻana o ka wahine i kāna kāne ma keʻano o ka loaʻa kālā.
Akā, he mea pono ke kaulike i ka waiwai nui i kaʻokoʻa o ka makahiki? ʻO ka mea pōmaikaʻi,ʻoi aku ka nui o nā mare no ke aloha ma mua o ka maʻalahi. A inā he aloha,ʻaʻohe kumu nui o kaʻelemakule. Ke manaʻo nei au he wahine keʻakeʻa iki ma mua o kāna kāne. Eʻoi aku ka ikaika o kēlāʻohana.