ʻO kēia anei? ʻO kēlā me kēia o lākou,'ōpio a "Balzac mau makahiki", lahilahi a pampushka, wahine kālepa a me ka wahine hale wahine kekahi mau manaʻo a me nā koi no nā kāne. A no keʻano o ka nānā a me ka mea e hana ai, ua nui kēia mau helu like.
ʻAʻohe ho'āʻo e hoʻopiha i ka papa inoa o nā "makemake" wahine a kekahi kanaka. I ka maikaʻi, e lanakilaʻo ia i ka hapalua nui. A no ke aha? He mea maʻalahi! ʻO nā makemake o nā wāhine he mea paʻakikī kēia, he mau kilokilo maoli wale nō e hiki ai ke hoʻokō. ʻOiai e hoʻomaopopo ana i kēia,ʻo ka hapalua o ka lāhui kanaka,ʻaʻole ia e haʻalele i kāna mau moeʻuhane, akā e haʻi i ka hapa nui no ka nele o kaʻike a me ke aloha. Inā paha he kanaka aloha i nā pepeiao e hoʻokō i nā makemake a pau o kāna i koho ai,ʻaʻole e pili kēia i kāna mea i waeʻia. E loaʻa ana i kāna mea aloha ka kumu no ka hoʻomahaʻoleʻana a e hoʻopaʻiʻia no ka nawaliwali a me ka podkabluchnichestve. ʻO ka manaʻo o ke kū'ēʻoleʻana o nā wāhine he pono ia no nā hana nui aʻoi loa o nā mea kākau kaulana loa, akā,ʻo ka mea pohihihi o nāʻuhane wahine ka mea i hoʻopaʻaʻoleʻia no nā kāne wale nō, akā no nā wāhine pono'ī.
A hou hou ka nīnau: "No ke aha?"
Hiki iāʻoe ke ho'āʻo e loaʻa ka pane i loko o ka mōʻaukala. No nā kenekulia he nui,ʻaʻole i hana ka wahine i kona ola pono'ī. Hana mua kēia mau hana me kona mau mākua, a laila me nā kāne. ʻAʻole i manaʻo nā mākua i ke kōkuaʻana mai kā lākou mau kaikamāhine i ko lākou wāʻelemakule a uaʻimi i nā mea kōkua no lākou. Ua hoʻololiʻia nā kuleana no ka mālamaʻana i nā mākua i nā mākua i nā keiki. ʻO nā wāhine, he "hoʻoponopono" wale nō, he mea kōkua i ke kāne. E hoʻomanaʻo i ka hua'ōlelo "Married." Ua ho'āʻo nā mākua o ka wahine "hoʻoponopono" i ka hoʻokomo kokeʻana i ke kaikamahine, hāʻawi iā ia i ka male a me ka luhi i ka loaʻaʻana o ka waiwai o ka kāne kāne i ka waiwai a kūlana kiʻekiʻe paha ma ka hui. ʻAʻole i loaʻa i nā wāhine o ia mau mea ke kū'ē i kēia ala. Me ka koho maikaʻi, loaʻa iā lākou kekahi mau pono waiwai a pilikanaka. Ua alohaʻia anei? ʻAʻole nā kānaka a pau i hoʻolohe i kēiaʻano o ka olaʻohana.
Me ka hoʻoholoʻana o nā manawa, ua hoʻololiʻia ke kūlana o nā wāhine ma kaʻohana a me nā pilina ma waena o nā kāne. ʻO nā wāhine, ke loaʻaʻana o ke kūlana kūʻokoʻa, ka manawa kūpono e loaʻa ai ka maikaʻi, hoʻomaka e noi i nā pilina'ē aʻe i loko o kaʻohana. Ua makemake lākou i ke aloha a me ka mahalo. Ua lilo kēia mau manaʻo i mea koʻikoʻi ma ka kohoʻana i nā hoa mare a heʻoi aku kaʻoihana ma mua o nā kumuhana a me nā kumu o ka maleʻana. Manaʻo nā kāne a me nā wāhine i kēia, akā ke hana maʻalahi nei lākou iā ia. He nui nā wāhine e mau nei i ka kulekele kahiko eʻimi ana i nā mea iʻikeʻoleʻia: "ʻO nā kāne ke kumu nui e pale ai i nā pilikia o nā wāhine." A pinepine lākou i nā hua'ōlelo e like me "mea aloha, ke aloha nui neiʻoe iaʻu?" ʻAe? Nui! A laila hana / kūʻai / hoʻonohonoho / kūkulu a ... "He aha hou aku ka mea nāwaliwali o ka pilikia nui?
ʻOiaʻiʻo, ka hanaʻana o kahiʻohana. E hoʻomanaʻo no ke kumu kumu o ka wahine? ʻO ka pono,ʻo ka wahine ke kahu mālama hale. A me ka nui o nā wāhine i kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā pilina piliʻole a me nā noho male kāne, ka hapanui o lākou i moeʻuhane no kaʻohana, a he kāne aloha a me nā keiki. Ke pili i kaʻohana a me nā keiki,ʻo ka mea e hiki mai ana ke ola o nā keiki, nāʻohana a me nā pilina. Ma hope o nā mea a pau,ʻaʻoheʻino iʻoi aku ka kaumaha ma muli o ka maʻi a iʻole ka makeʻana o nā maka'āinana. ʻAʻohe mea e haʻiʻia ai: "He olakino ia, hiki i nā mea a pau ke kūʻai aku."
He aha ka wahine e makemake ai i ke kanaka me ke alohaʻole, inā heʻohana hauʻoli kona, he kāne aloha a he mau keiki maikaʻi? ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻaʻole hoʻokahi wahine e hoʻoholo i kēia iho. ʻO ka makemake hou ka pōmaikaʻi. Makemake nā wāhine i ka pono waiwai! ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo i kēia makemake, kēlā mea kēia mea e mālama i ko lākou mau pono. Pono kekahi e makemake i kahi hale hoʻokipa me ka nānāʻana i ke kai, kahi kaʻa ukana i loko o ka kaʻa, ke gula a me nā manimana, e lawa ka mea'ē aʻe i kāu hana punahele a me nā hana maikaʻi, kahi hale liʻiliʻi maikaʻi, hōʻoluʻolu, ka lole kūpono o ka lumi a me nā mea hana ma ka lumi kuke. Hiki ke hoʻohuiʻia ia mau manaʻo a me nā manaʻo likeʻole e ka hoʻohālike maʻamau -ʻole i kekahi mea aʻaʻole hoʻi e hōʻoleʻoe iāʻoe iho. ʻAʻohe,ʻo ka wahine lanakila loa,ʻaʻole ia e hāʻawi i ka waiwai waiwai mai kekahi kanaka aloha, ināʻaʻoleʻo ia eʻae i ka leo me ka leo nui.
ʻO ka makemake hou e huna kēlā wahine kēia wahine i loko ona,ʻo ia ka hōʻoiaʻana e nā kāne o konaʻono. He aha ka pilikia i kēlā? Ua mahaloʻia ka manaʻo i ka wā kahiko a mahaloʻia i ka wā e hiki mai ana. I nā manawa o kēia manawa, he mau manawa kūpono ka nani ma mua o ka wā ma mua. Ma kēlā kihi kēia kihi, he mau lole laʻauʻulaʻula, nā haʻaka maikaʻi a me nā kauka lāʻau lapaʻau. Inā hikiʻole i ke kanaka ke hana iā ia iho i mea pilikino i hana alohaʻia, hana nui, pale aku i nā wrinkles a me ka momona momona, a laila, na ka mea e pale aku i nā mea'ē aʻe mai ka hanaʻana.
He aha nā manaʻo'ē aʻe e hiki ai i kahi wahine maikaʻi a maikaʻi, ka wahine a me ka makuahine? ʻAʻole pēlā. He mau mea hou ka mea e pono ai ke komoʻana o nā kāne. ʻO ka wahine wahine i kēia manawa, makemakeʻo ia e hoʻomaopopo pono a me kona kūʻokoʻa. No laila, makemakeʻoe e loaʻa kahi hana hoihoi a alohaʻia i kaʻike. No laila, hoʻokahi hana hou no ke kanaka aloha - e kōkua i ka wahine o kona puʻuwai e hoʻomaopopo iā ia iho, e hoʻokō i nā pahuhopu a me ka hilinaʻi i ka wā e hiki mai ana.
Mai noho malihini i nā lā o kēia au a me ka makemake maʻamau: e kiʻi i nā pua a me nā makana, e lohe i nā hanana a me nā kōkua ma kā lākou kūlana, e nāwaliwali me kahi hoa ikaika, aloha a me ke aloha. Ma muli o keʻano o nā wāhine kūʻokoʻa a kūʻokoʻa, ua hauʻoli nui lākou i ka manaʻo e mālama i nā kāne.
ʻO ka mea nui, hiki i nā wāhine ke noi i hoʻokahi miliona mau makemake, akā,ʻo ka mea nui loa o lākou he kanaka aloha, aʻo ke koena e hana mālieʻo ia a me kaʻikeʻole (inā pahaʻo ia e hana me nā kāne kāne) ...