ʻO ka moeʻuhane huna a kahi wahine maikaʻi .
Ma muli o kahi noiʻi kaiapuni,ʻo ka hapanui o nā wāhine he kanakolukumamālima e makemake e pilina me kahi keikikāne. No laila, no loko oʻekolu mau nīnau i nīnauʻia i nā wāhine i waena o nā makahiki, he 50 a meʻekolu pakenekaʻaʻole lākou e hūnā i kā lākou kūlana mua no ka poʻe'ōpio ma lalo o kaʻumi a hiki i ka iwakālua. Akā, he kanakolukumamāhiku pakeneka o nā wāhine i paʻakikī i ka paneʻana i kēia nīnau, aʻo ka hapene o ka poʻe i paneʻia uaʻae lākou e alakaʻi i nā'ōpio i loko o kā lākou mau moeʻuhane, akā i loko o ke ola maoliʻaʻole lākou eʻae aku i kēlā pilina. Wahi a psychologists,ʻo ke kumu no kēlāʻano muaʻana o nā wāhine i nā kāne'ōpio ma mua o lākou iho, hiki ke kāheaʻia aku ka makemake o nā wāhine kūpono, e ola i kā lākou "keiki lua" ma hope o kahi'ōpio.
Ma waena o nā mea'ē aʻe,ʻo iaʻano pilinaʻana me kahi kāne eʻoi aku ana ma mua o kona puʻuwai e kōkua i ka wahine e'ōlelo iā ia iho he kanaka, eʻoluʻolu me ia iho a hōʻoia iā ia iho he nani ia a he mea mahalo no iaʻano. ʻO ka mea pōʻino, ua hiki i nā psychologists me kēia nīnau ke ninaninau i kekahi mau wāhine i kēia mau makahiki,ʻoiai,ʻo kēlā mau wāhine i hoʻonāukiuki i nā'ōpio a makemake lākou eʻike pū me lākou, he mea iʻoi aku.
ʻO nā mea hōʻeha wahine i nā'ōpio a me ka lono .
Ma ka pilinaʻole o nā kānaka, he lono no ka manawa lōʻihi. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, ua "holo wikiwiki" ia mau pilina i loko o ka maka o kānaka. He nui ka poʻe o lākou e hoʻohewa, a he nui nā kākoʻo. Ma keʻano maʻamau, ehia mau kānaka, nā manaʻo he nui no kēia mea. Ma ke ala, he meaʻoluʻoluʻo ka piliʻole o ka pilina, i ka wā e kūleʻa ai ke kāne ma mua o ka huiʻana o ka wahine, no ka mea maʻamau, akā,ʻo ka pilina pili o kahi wahine - e lilo ana i kumu o ka hakakā a me ka nedomekov. ʻO ka hapanui pinepineʻana,ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻoponoponoʻia ia mau pilina ma nā hoa wale nō a me nā hoahana wale nō, akā, no nāʻohana. No kēia kumu, pono e kū like kēlā mau hoa i kēia mau pilikia a ke pale mau wale aku no ko lākou hauʻoli pono'ī, akā, no ka hōʻoiaʻiʻoʻana i kekahi poʻe i ko lākou aloha a me ka pono iā ia. Ma ke ala, e hiki ke kapaʻia ia mau pilina me ka holomua a me ka pōmaikaʻi, a lilo i ka male. ʻAʻoleʻo ia wale nō nā poʻe a pau e manaʻoʻiʻo nei i ka hopena, e hoʻokākīkē ana i nā mea a me nā pono o ka wahine makua a me kahi'ōpio.
Ke kumu o ka launaʻole .
Mahalo pinepine ka poʻe wāhine i nā'ōpio, ke manaʻoʻole lākou i kaʻaoʻao o ia mau pilina. ʻO nā wāhine, e like me ke kānāwai, no ka manawa lōʻihi uaʻike mua lākou i loko o ke ola a mālamaʻia e like me ke kanaka. ʻO kēia mau wāhine ua loaʻa iā lākou kahi kūlana uku kiʻekiʻe, ko lākou mau hale pono'ī aʻaʻole lākou e nele i kahi mea'ē aʻe ma ka aloha a me ke aloha wale nō. ʻO ia ke kumu, no ka kaliʻana i kahi kanaka'ōpio ma mua o kona iho, kākoʻo kālā,ʻaʻole makemake ka wahine i ke au. ʻO ka mea mua, i loko o ia mau pilina, hiki iā ia ke pili i ka noho pili wahine me kekahi hoa'ōpio. ʻO kēia ke kumu nui o kaʻikeʻana o nā wāhine i nā meaʻano kūikawā a me keʻano o ke kino: ua piha nā pō i ke aloha,ʻo ia ka mea e kōkua iā ia e hōʻoia i ka makemakeʻole, akā he'ōpiopio hou naʻe. A ma hope o nā mea a pau, hiki i nā kāne ma hope o nā kanahā he paʻakikī e hāʻawi i ka wahine i ke kuko nui, no ka hiki iā ia ke hāʻawi i kahi'ōpiopio. ʻO kaʻikeʻoiaʻiʻo, i ka halaʻana o nā makahiki he kanakolu, uaʻike nā wāhine i ka'āpana o ka moekolohe, akā i ke kāne, he mea'ē aʻe, e emi iho ana.
Ma waho aʻe o ka mea i luna, ua hoʻolakoʻia ia mau pilina me ka mālama a mālama pono. No nā kāne'ōpio, hiki i ka wahine likeʻole ke pani i kahi makuahine, lilo i mea kōkua a alakaʻi i ke ola, kōkua iā ia e hoʻomaopopo iā ia iho aʻike i kona niche ma ka hui kaiaulu. ʻO kēiaʻano o ka mālamaʻana a nā wāhine i ka manawa a pau i mahaloʻia a laweʻia e nā wāhine.
Pehea e mālama ai i ka pilina like me ka pilina a me kaʻike ?
ʻO ka mea mua,ʻo ka wahine i nele i ka nāwaliwali no nā kāneʻoi aʻe ma mua o ia iho, e hiki iā ia ke nānā pono iā ia iho e nānā mau i kēlā me keʻano o keʻano o keʻano o keʻano o keʻano o ke kula. Makemakeʻo ia i kēia mau mea a pau i hiki iā ia ke paio me nā kaikamāhine. Akā,ʻo ka manaʻo e like me ka lili wahine, he mea pōʻino, he kuleana nui ia o ia mau pilina. ʻO ia ke kumu e loaʻa ai i nā wāhine nā kāleka puʻupuʻu a pau e mālama ai i ke kanaka'ōpio kokoke iā ia.
I waena o nā mea'ē aʻe,ʻaʻole e hoʻokomoʻia kahi'ōpiopio'ōpio i ka "keiki". ʻO kēia ma muli o kaʻoiaʻiʻo o nā kānaka a pau (ʻo ia hoʻi i ka makahiki he iwakālua) ke alakaʻi i ke alakaʻi i nā mea a pau loa. ʻO ia ke kumu e pono ai ke kanaka e paipai i kēia kūlana kūikawā aʻaʻole hoʻi e hīmei ma kaʻikeʻole o ke ola.
ʻAʻole pono kekahi e pili i ia mau pilina me nā kālā. Inā he waiwai nui ka wahine a hoʻomanaʻo mau i kēia'ōpio, me he mea lā e kūʻai ana i kona manaʻo, makemakeʻole i ka wahine maikaʻi a me ke kuko wale nō, he mea pono paha i kahi'ōpio ke hoʻohana. ʻO ia ke kumu o ka pono o ka noho ponoʻana maʻaneʻiʻaʻole pono e komo i kahi kuleana, akā,ʻo kaʻike a me ka wehewehe ka hopena nui o nā launaʻole ma waena o kekahi wahine iʻoi aʻe ma mua o ke kāne.
Ma kēlā mau pilina, e hoʻomahaʻole ma hope o ka maleʻana. Mai hoʻokaumahaʻoe i ke kanaka, hewa a lili i ka pīhoihoi pīhoihoi, inā kohoʻo ia i kahi wahine iʻoi aku ma mua o kona pono'ī, pono'īʻo ia, e haʻaheo i kēia!
A no ka hopena e hoʻopau i ko mākou kumuhana, makemake wau e'ōlelo aku i ka makemake maoli o nā wāhine i nā kāne'ōpio ma mua o lākou iho, aʻo ia mau pilina e hauʻoli ai nā kānaka he nui. ʻO ia ke kumu,ʻaʻole loaʻoe e hopohopo i nā lono a me nā'ōlelo a ka poʻe e hele pū ana me iaʻano pilina. No laila, ināʻoe aʻelua e makemake e hui pū, e pono e kau iā ia ma muli o kēlā mau pilina. Ma hope o nā mea a pau,ʻaʻole i nui iki keʻano o ka makahiki,ʻo ka mea nui i kēia mau manaʻo!