Heʻoiaʻiʻo, no ke aha lāʻaʻohe mea i hōhewa i kahi kanaka he 40 makahiki me kahi makuahine he 20 makahiki, akā, e kauʻia ka huahekili ma luna o ka wahine nāna e hoʻokaʻawale i kahi mea me kona kaikaina ma keʻano o ke kanaka? A iʻole ke kulekele o ka papalua o ka hoʻoponoponoʻana i ka pōleʻele?
Hoʻokomoʻia nā'ōpio no nā'ōpio e nā hui Hollywood. ʻO nā hiʻohiʻona nui loa ka mare ma waena o ka mea hana a me ka mea kākau a Joan Collins a me Perse Gibson (he 32 mau makahiki),ʻo Goldie Hawn lāuaʻo Kurt Russell (ʻeono mau makahiki a heʻekolu keiki),ʻo Susan Sarandon a me ke alakaʻiʻo Tim Robbins (12 mau makahiki o ka hoʻololi,ʻekolu nā keiki),ʻo Juliana Moore a me ke alakaʻiʻo Bart Freundlich (ʻeiwa mau makahiki, heʻekolu keiki),ʻo Raquel Welch aʻo ka mea nona ka haleʻainaʻo Richard Palmer (he 20 mau makahiki),ʻo Demi Moore aʻo Ashton Kutcher (15 mau makahiki). ʻO ka poʻe i manaʻo he mau kamaliʻi'ōpio a maikaʻi i kūpono i ke aloha maoli o nā kāne, ke makemake nei mākou e hoʻomanaʻo i nā moʻolelo o Josephine Bogarne, Cleopatra, Madame de Pompadour, Carla Bruni Sarkozy -ʻo kēia mau wāhine kahiko o Balzac,ʻaʻole iʻoi aku ka nani, i hoʻomanaʻia e ko lākou mau kāne. ʻO ka pōʻino i nā wāhine kahiko i hānaiʻia e ka Mō'īʻEnelani Henry VIII,ʻo Julius Caesar a me Benjamin Franklin.
ʻO nā kumu i koiʻia ai nā kāne'ōpio i nā wāhineʻelemakule. Hiki iā ia ke like me nā manaʻo hohonu maoli, a me ka makemake pākuʻi e ala aʻe i kahi kālā o kekahi. Eia naʻe, ua mālamaʻia kekahiʻano kūlike ma ka pilina o nā kāne makua a me nā kaikamāhine. No laila,ʻaʻole mākou e hoʻokolokolo pololei, akā, e hōʻea i kahi. ʻO ia, kahi iʻikeʻia.
No laila, i hea a pehea eʻike ai kahi wahine makua i kahi keiki'ōpio?
Ke hoʻoholo nei ma nā'ōlelo aʻo o nā pūnaewele pūnaewele, kahi kūpono loa no kēlā mau hoa eʻike ai he mau pūnaewele likeʻole. Ua maopopo nā pōmaikaʻi -ʻo ka manawa kūpono eʻike ai kekahi i kekahi ma ka palapala a me ka palena iki. Ma ke ala, eʻikeʻoe, e nā wāhine, he nui nā'ōpio'ōpio mai ka 18 aʻoi o ka makahiki mai ke ahi me ka makemake e hauʻoli me ka wela o ko lākou huhū wela a me ke kino o nā wāhine 30-40 mau makahiki. I ka hapanui o ka manawa, heʻano moekolohe kēlā poʻe iʻike, akā, he mea ponoʻole ka moekolohe. He hiki i ka manawa lōʻihi, e ulu ana ka pilina pilikino i kahi pilikino hohonu a pilikino. Ma waho aʻe o nā kahua pūnaewele, pono kākou e hoʻopoina i nā wahi o ka hōʻuluʻulu nuiʻana o nā mākaʻi o nā mea'ē aʻe - nā stadium, nā pahu likeʻole (pō, nā hāʻalo, etc.), nā kahakai, a pēlā aku. ,ʻaʻole pono e pilikia loa iāʻoe. Hiki hiki ke hana i kahi kanaka maikaʻi i ka hana a i ka wāʻoihana paha, akā,ʻo ka pilina ma waena o nā hoaaloha i ka hopena o ka wā hou a me nā mea'ē aʻe e hoʻoweliweli ai i ka wela o ke aloha, ka pilikia o ke kūlana a me nā mea'ē aʻe. No lailaʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hahaiʻana i ke kaʻina hanaʻole o nāʻoihanaʻoihana -ʻaʻohe palapala i ka hana. ʻOiai, he nui nā kānaka e hauʻoli nei i ka pāʻani, e hele pinepine ana i nā pāʻani a me nā pāʻani haʻuki, keʻole ka nānāʻana i ka wā o kahi hakakā a leel paha ma kahi kahua kaua ma mua o ka wahine e noho kokoke mai nei. Akā he meaʻole. Hoʻokahi like, heʻano likeʻole lākou, he wā-waho, e hoʻohanaʻia e lākou. Hiki iāʻoe ke noi aku i ke kanaka'ōpio āu e makemake nei e kōkua i ka weheʻana i ka wai a iʻole kekahiʻano pahu, a me ka mahaloʻana (nā kāne e like me nā mahalo,ʻoiai ua hōʻole lākou i kēia mea hōʻole), e hōʻike i ka hoihoi i ka pāʻani o ka mea pāʻani, i ka mea hope loa e lanakila loa aiʻoe ma konaʻano !!
Ma keʻano maʻamau, e pono a no ka pono e huli i nā kāne no ke kōkua. No laila, hiki iāʻoe ke pepehi iʻelua manu me kekahi pōhaku i ka manawa - a eʻike, a kōkua. No laila, e hoʻokomo i kou manaʻo a piʻi aʻe me kahiʻano hoʻopakele, no ka mea, e like me ka'ōleloʻana o nā wāhine kūlana e pili ana i kēia mau'ōlelo: "Ua nāwaliwali ko mākou ikaika, akā, ua pau ko mākou nawaliwali."
A i kēia manawa, e waiho ana ka kāleka i lalo. Inā makemake kekahi kāne i ka wahine a hoʻomakaʻo ia e lawe i ka pilina iho,ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ka hoʻouluʻana i ka pilina, a iʻole e hoʻohanaʻia nā hana male a pau. Maanei,ʻo ka mea nui loa, mai pākela i ka hana, iʻole e hoʻoweliweli i ka pāʻani ma mua o ka manawa. I ka hapanui o nā hihia, ma ka pilinaʻana me nā wāhineʻelemakule, nā kāne nui e komo i kaʻike pilina. No laila, no ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa a me ka pilikia nui o ka naʻau, pono ka wahine e noho makaukau no ka hoʻonuiʻana i nā hanana. Akā, i ka wā o ke kanaka makua,ʻaʻole i nui ka moʻolelo o kekahi wahine e pili ana i ka uhakiʻana o nā pilina, a ma keʻano nui i nā pilina. ʻOiaiʻaʻole pono e hoʻoleiʻia nāʻano o kēlā me kēiaʻano o ka wahine wahine, nā manaʻo pilikino, ka hoʻonaʻauao a me ka nānāʻana i ke ola.
Ma ke ala,ʻaʻole like nā kāne ma kahi e noho ai kaʻelemakule i nā mea a pau ma lalo o ka mālamaʻana a alakaʻi i kaʻohana, i pai pūʻia me ka wahine kahiko e ulu ana i nā pilikino aʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka pono a me ka hāʻawiʻana i nā kuleana. Eia kekahi, uaʻikeʻia nā hopena o kaʻimi i kaʻike i keʻano i ka nui o nā hihia,ʻaʻole i hoʻomaka wale kahi kanaka'ōpio i ka pilina, akā, ua hanaʻo ia i nā mōhai pilikino no ka huiʻana me kahi wahine iʻoi aʻe ma mua ona. Ma lalo o ka mana o ka hoaaloha mua, he kanaka'ōpiopio ia e lilo i "ma ke ala pololei": kohoʻo ia i kekahiʻoihana "ʻoihana," a me ka hanaʻana i kaʻoihana.
Wahi a Frank Pittman, ke kanaka noiʻi, he kanaka maoli maoli nō ka wahine - inā alohaʻo ia iā ia, ua maikaʻiʻo ia me ia, a hoʻonāukiukiʻo ia iā ia. A inā ua kauohaʻia ke ola e hānauʻia kekahi o ka hānau ma hope aku, aʻo kekahi ma mua, akā ua hauʻoli nā kānaka i loko o ka hui kaiaulu o kekahi, he mea pono anei ke hoʻolohe i nā hiʻohiʻona lōʻihi a me ka huhū, a pinepine hoʻi i ka haʻalulu puni?