Hāpaiʻo ia i kahi keiki i ka moeʻuhane: he aha keʻano?
ʻO ka hapa nui o nā weheweheʻana e pili ana i kēlāʻano hopena e lawe i nā manaʻo maikaʻi no ka mea moe. Eia kekahi laʻana, e like me ka puke moemoea a Miller, hānau ka pēpē he hōʻailona maikai, e hōʻoluʻolu i kaʻohana, ka pilikū kālā a me ka hana maʻalahi ma ke ola maoli. Akāʻo ke koena o ka manaʻo e pili i ka nui o nā makahiki o ka mea moeʻuhane, ka moekolohe o ke keiki, he mea paʻakikī ka hānau, a pēlā aku.
E hoʻomaka me ka makahiki o ka moeʻuhane moeʻuhane. ʻO nā kaikamāhine'ōhine i ka makuahine i loko o ka moeʻuhane he mau meaʻalua. E like me keʻano o kekahi'ōlelo, inā hānau ka wahine i ka pēpē, a laila, hiki koke iā ia ke mare aʻo ka moeʻuhane o ka moe ka mea e paʻa maoli ai. Hāpai ka mare i ka hauʻoli, ikaika a lōʻihi. Akā, ma nā'ōlelo'ē aʻe, hiki ke loaʻa i kahiʻokoʻa'ē aʻe o ka moeʻuhane, e like me keʻano o ka hoʻopunipuniʻana o ke kaikamahine i ka hoʻopunipuni a me ka kumakaiaʻana e kekahi hoaaloha a i waeʻia paha, aʻo ia hoʻi ke aloha. I ka mea unuhi'ōlelo o Medea, hiki i kekahi keʻimi i ka ho'ākākaʻana e wehewehe ana i kēia moe e like me ka pilikia e komo i loko o nā pilina piliʻole e liloʻole i kekahi mea maikaʻi. Ua mareʻia kekahiʻano likeʻole me nā'ōlelo hoʻohiki e pili ana i ka pilina me ka wahine a me konaʻohana. Akā, inā hele maʻalahi ka poʻe moeʻuhane a me ka pilikiaʻole, hiki koke iāʻoe ke hoʻonui i ka hōkele kālā. No nā wāhineʻelemakule, he moeʻuhane kēia e hiki ai i kaʻelele keʻoi aku ke olakino maikaʻi, e hoʻopau i nā maʻi.
Inā hānauʻia ke kaikamahine ma ka moeʻuhane, he hōʻailona ia o nā pilikia maikaʻi, he hālāwai me nā hoaaloha. ʻAʻole hiki ke weheʻia ma hope o kēlā moeʻuhane e lohe ai ka mea moe i ka mahalo a i ka hōʻoiaʻana mai kekahi mea nani. I loko o kekahi mau puke moʻolelo, ua weheweheʻia kēia hōʻailona e like me ka māmā wikiwiki o ka pilina a iʻole ka hōʻino. No ka hānauʻana i kahi keikikāne - kali no ka uku kālā a he mea kūʻai maikaʻi paha. Hiki i kēia mahele ke hōʻike i ka ikaika a me ka hoʻomauʻana i ka pono, i mea e kōkua ai i ka paleʻana i kekahi pilikia.
Inā ua paʻakikī ka hānauʻana i nā keiki i ka moeʻuhane he hōʻailona no ka hoʻomahaʻole i ke ola, heʻano nāwaliwali. ʻO nā wāhine e moeʻuhane nei i kēlāʻano kūlana ua pau i ka luhi i ke ola maoli, ua nui nā hana a me nā pilikia ma luna o ko lākou poʻohiwi.
ʻO ka paʻi hope,ʻo ia hoʻi, he hiki ke maʻalahi,'ōleloʻo ia ma kou ola he mea nāna e hoʻoponopono i nā pilikia a pau me kaʻoluʻolu, e pale iāʻoe mai nā pilikia.
Pehea e wehewehe ai inā hānau ka wahine'ē i loko o ka moeʻuhane?
No kaʻaeʻana a iʻole paha eʻikeʻia ka hānauʻana i ka moeʻuhane he hōʻailona maikaʻi loa ia no ka mea nāna e moe. A he meaʻole ka wahine i loko o ke ola maoli. ʻO kēia paha kou hoaloha, kou hoaaloha a mea malihini paha. Akā, ma kekahiʻano, ua hōʻike kēia moe i ke olakino ikaika, hoʻonui i ka pilina ma kaʻohana. Ma hope o ka mea āu iʻike ai, hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻonohonoho pono i ka huakaʻi makemake i kahi'āina mamao. ʻO ka mea hoʻomaka, pili i kaʻoihana a iʻole ke kuko, e holomua.
ʻO ka hānauʻana i nā keiki i ka moeʻuhaneʻaʻole i keʻano o ka manawa koke e aʻo aiʻoe e pili ana i kouʻano kūlana. Akā,ʻo nā mea i ho'ākākaʻia e hiki ke hoʻololi i keʻano o ke ola i ka wā e hiki mai ana.