ʻO ke keiki maʻamau, aiaʻo ia me kona makuahine i loko o ka'ōpū, e hoʻohana ana i nā lā mua o kona olaʻana wale nō,ʻaʻole like me nā māhoe i pili like me kekahi. A uaʻikeʻia kēiaʻano ma nāʻano he nui i ko lākou aloha i keʻano o "nāʻuhane ola".
Ma muli o ka pilina pili loa, hiki i nā māhoe keʻike i ka manaʻo o ko lākou hoa ma kahi lōʻihi a hopohopo paha i kaʻikeʻoleʻana o kekahi i kekahi no ka wā lōʻihi. Mai ko lākou hānauʻana,ʻike lākou iā lākou iho he hoʻokahi aʻaʻoleʻike! Akā i ka manawa like, ma mua o ka hānauʻana, hoʻomaka lākou e kaua no ke alakaʻiʻana. A i loko o ka'ōpū o koʻu makuahine, eʻaneʻane e "lanakila" kekahi o lākou. Aʻo ia ka mea e lilo i alakaʻi aʻikeʻia,ʻoiai no nā minuke he minuke, akā ma mua o kona māhoe. He meaʻoluʻolu ia,ʻoiai he kinoʻole lākou, e mau ana ko lākou hakakā ma kekahiʻano,ʻo ia ka manawa liʻiliʻi loa.
Pehea pono: "I" aiʻole "ʻO mākou"?
Inā he mau māhoe male ma kaʻohana, hoʻomaka koke nā mākua i kahi kūlana kaulana: pono nā keiki i nā mea a pau. Hoʻohālikeʻia nāʻaʻahu a me nā kapa, nā meaʻaʻahu a me nā mea'ē aʻe. ʻO ia hoʻi, nā mākua e hana maoli i nā mea aloha a kā lākou mau keiki aloha. Pēlā me ka nānā. Ināʻoe e pāʻani a kūkākūkā paha, a laila me nā meaʻelua, i kaulikeʻia kekahi o nā manaʻo. No laila,ʻaʻole ia he mea kupanaha ma muli o keʻano o ka hoʻonaʻauaoʻana i nā māhoe, i ka wā'ōpiopio,ʻike nā keiki i kā lākou "I" iʻoi aku ka paʻakikī ma mua o nā keiki'ē aʻe. ʻO ka manaʻo o "We" ua hoʻokumu muaʻia aʻoi aku ka wikiwiki ma mua o ke kumumanaʻo o kāna pono pono'ī. ʻElua mau keiki mai ka wā kamaliʻi mai i kaʻike nuiʻana o nā kānaka ma keʻano heʻoihana, akā, eʻike mua i ka likeʻana o kā lākouʻano likeʻole i ka mea maikaʻi.
No laila pehea keʻano?
ʻO ka like like o nā māhoeʻaʻole wale i ka hoʻopiliʻana i nā mea a pau e puni ana, akā hiki ke hoʻopōmaikaʻi i ka uluʻana o nā keiki, akā, ināʻaʻohe o lākou mau kaikuaʻana. Hiki iā lākou ke hoʻolālā i ka maʻamau o ka "huna"ʻana i kekahi i kekahi, no ka likeʻana o lākou, ināʻikeʻia he mau keiki likeʻole likeʻole. I ka hopena, e like ana kēiaʻano like me ko lākou pono nui, a hiki iā lākou ke hoʻohana mau, aʻo ia hoʻi ka manawa mau me lākou.
A i kekahi mau mea, hiki i nā māhoe ke kūkulu i kā lākou mau microcosm pono'ī iho, kahi'ōnaehana liʻiliʻi eʻole kekahi, aʻo nā mākua paha, e makemake eʻae i loko, e makemake e kamaʻilio wale wale kekahi me kekahi, no ka mea, uaʻoluʻolu lākou. Ma kēiaʻano hiki iā lākou ke hūnā mai nā mea a pau e hoʻopuni ana iā lākou, ae nānā pono kekahi i kekahi. ʻO ka manawa pinepine, he mau māhoe, akāʻaʻole lākou iʻikeʻole, e hana i kā lākou'ōlelo pono'ī, iʻike ponoʻia e lākou, no ke aha e hoʻomaka ai nā mākua e hopohopo no kā lākou mau keiki. No laila, pehea lāʻoe e pale ai i kēlā "neʻeʻana" i loko o kaʻohana?
ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, he mea maʻalahi nā mea a pau! Aia kekahi mau hiʻohiʻona o ka hoʻonaʻauaoʻana i nā māhoe, a ua lawa ia e pili ai.
ʻO ka mea mua , e hoʻoikaika i nā kūlana o nā keiki! Mai ka hānauʻana, e ho'āʻo i ka lole a me ka ulanaʻana iā lākou. (Ke lā laʻana, nā huelo Masha,ʻo Olya he puaʻa momona, he poho poluʻo Vanya, he'ōmaʻomaʻoʻo Petya). He mea nui e noʻonoʻo pono i kahi keiki e makemake i kahi kiko'ī, a he meaʻole inā he māhoe aʻaʻole paha. E hāʻawi i nā mea pāʻani a pau, nā puke, nā kīʻaha, nā lole, a pēlā aku.ʻO nā kiʻi pākahi o nā keiki e kōkua i ka hanaʻana i kā lākou iho "I". E hāʻawi i nā mea a pau i kā lākou kiʻi pono'ī pono'ī, kahi e hiki ai iā lākou ke waiho i kā lākou mau kiʻi punahele.
ʻO ka lua , e hoʻolālā manawaʻaʻole wale nō, akā, e loaʻa ai ka manawa no nā papa a me nā pāʻani me kēlā me kēia māhoe ma kahi kaʻawale, e hoʻomaka ana i ke kula'ōpiopio. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, pono ka manaʻo o ka pēpē i ka manaʻo o ka makuahine a me ka makua, e kau wale ana ma luna ona. ʻAʻohe meaʻino e hele ai inā hele ka pope e hele me Masha ma ka pā, aʻo koʻu makuahine e laweʻo Olga e hele i ka muliwai. Akā, i ka hoʻiʻana mai i ka home, hiki iā lākou ke kaʻana like i ko lākou heleʻana me kekahi i kekahi. Ma ke kaʻawaleʻana, e hiki i nā keiki keʻike aʻike i kahi'ōlelo maʻamau me nā keiki'ē aʻe, aʻikeʻoe he mau mea like'ē aʻe kekahi e like me ke kaikunāne.
ʻO ke kolu , e loaʻa iā mākou ka kuleana e koho i kēlā me kēia māhoe: he aha nā mea hana e kūʻai ai, he aha nā mea eʻai ai, pehea e heluhelu ai i kahi puke. ʻO ka kohoʻoi loaʻole ka mea e aʻo ai i ka pēpē e hana i nā hoʻoholoʻana a hoʻomaopopo i kona mau makemake pono'ī.
I ka manawa koke, he pono e'ōlelo he maikaʻi no ka pāʻani waleʻana iā lākou iho, aiʻole e hānai iā lākou, ma ka nohoʻana ma kaʻaoʻao o lākou, no. Hāʻawiʻia i nā hiʻohiʻona o nā māhoe, ua kokoke loa lākou. Akā, e hoʻomaʻamaʻa iāʻoe iho a me lākou, he kanaka hoʻokahi. Ke hiki i kahi keiki ke makemake i nā manaʻo hou a hiki i ka manawa e hiki ai, hiki i ka lua ke loaʻa iā lākou no ka mea maʻamau, no ka hui. No laila, hiki i ka lua ke pilikia nui. E like paha, ināʻoi aku ka luhi o kahi māhoe ma mua o ka mea maʻamau ("kū i luna o ka wāwae hewa", pane-paneʻia, pane i nā loli o ka loli, a me nā mea'ē aʻe), pono e hoʻokomo i kahi moe i mua, e hoʻoluliluli i nā lima a hoʻomaha iā ia. ʻO ka makuahine, he mea kānaluaʻole, e hoʻolohe pono, pono a me ka hanaʻino!
ʻO wai ka alakaʻi?
ʻElua, a lailaʻo ka pūʻulu i kēia manawa! A ua kūkuluʻia ka pilina ma loko o iaʻano, i kū i mua o ka hānauʻana. ʻO ka mea maʻamau i loko o nā māhoe mau māhoe alakaʻi i mālamaʻia e ke keiki hānau mua, aʻo ka lua o ka hoʻokani o ke kauā. E alakaʻi ana ke alakaʻi i kona kaikunāne, aiʻole ia kaikuaʻana, e hoʻonāukiuki i nāʻano a pau, aiʻole ka mea mua e hoʻomaka eʻike i ka pilina. Ma keʻano pilikino likeʻole,ʻaʻohe mea kū'ē i ka mea māmā i ka hana likeʻole aʻae i nā manaʻo o nā alakaʻi a pau. Akā pono nā mākua e hoʻopili iā ia inā heʻano maʻamau kēia. Eia kekahi laʻana, i ka hoʻokōʻana i kahiʻoihana, pono ke hoʻonohonohoʻia ke kauā ma keʻano heʻoihana nui. E hoʻokuʻu nā'ōhoe i nā kīʻaha, akāʻo ka hopena hopena e hōʻike i ka hana i hanaʻia i mua ou.
He meaʻoi aku ka paʻakikī e paio aku i nā māhoe. Aia kekahiʻano kuʻikahi! I loko o kēlāʻano likeʻole, makemake nā keiki e nui, a no laila ke kaua no ke alakaʻiʻana he moʻolelo maʻamau ia ma nāʻohana. Akā, e like me keʻano pilikino nui e hiki ai ke lawe mai i ka maluhia a me ka maluhia. ʻO kekahi o nā hāʻina, he'elike kūkā. E hōʻalo i ka paio, e koho nā mākua i ke poʻo kumu, akā me ke kūlana o ka manawa hou ke poʻo ka lua. Pono e mālama ponoʻia ke kauoha, iʻole e loaʻa nā huahua a me nā kūlike ma waena o nā māhoe. A inā hāʻawi pono nā māhoe i kekahi i kekahi i ke kuleana e alakaʻi, me kaʻole o nā kiʻi a me nā'ōlelo hoʻoikaika,ʻo ka mea nui loa,ʻo ia ke kākoʻo i keʻano o ka nohoʻana o ka'ikekala ma ko lākou huiʻana ma muli o ko lākou hōʻoleʻole i ko lākou mau pilina.