He nui nā kumu e makaʻu ai nā kānaka i kekahi manawa e hōʻike i ka manaʻo. ʻO kēia mau mea he makaʻu, he kānalua a me ka hilahila. Ma lalo iho kēia mau kumu.
ʻO Shyness. Hiki keʻikeʻia kāna mauʻike mua ma nā papa'ōpio, i ka wā e like nā kamaliʻi e like me nā keikikāne iʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o nā'ōpiopio me nā pōkole lōʻihi, akā, nele lākou i ka hoʻoholoʻana, i hiki ai ke hoʻokokoke a pili paha i ka hale. Heʻano like ka hilahila a me ka hilahila. A i ka wa e hana ke kanaka i ka hui me ka wahine, hiki i kēia ke kamaʻilio no ka nui. ʻO ka hapa nui,ʻo ke kumu no ke aloha,ʻaʻole e hōʻike i ka makaʻu i ka wahine'ē. ʻOiai hiki ke hiki ke nānā aku ke kanaka a nānā paha e noho ma kahi lōʻihi mai ke kanaka mai,ʻaʻole lākou e alakaʻiʻia e nā manaʻo māmā. Malia paha e hōʻeha ka wahine i ke kāne me kāna hana, aiʻole ia he meaʻoluʻolu iā ia he kanaka. Inā he wahine ka wahine a ke kanaka i hūnā i ka nānā i mua o kona alo,ʻo ia paha keʻano o kekahi mau mea huna mai ona aku,ʻo ia paha he kipi. Eia naʻe, pono e noʻonoʻo i ke kūlana, i ka hōʻailonaʻana o nā hōʻailona a pau loa i ke aloha o ke kanaka. No ka nānāʻana i kēia mau hiʻohiʻonaʻikeʻia e hiki i ka wahine wale nō ināʻaʻoleʻo ia e hopohopo e noho pū me kahi kanaka a hoʻolohe i ka nānāʻana i kāna mau hiʻohiʻona a me kona mau hiʻohiʻona.
Ka makaʻu. I ka nānā muaʻana, manaʻo pahaʻaʻole pono nā kānaka ke makaʻu, no ka mea, he mana nui ko lākou. Eia naʻe, he mea pinepine ka mea e hana aiʻo ia ke kanaka e makaʻu neiʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hoʻomaka a kūkulu i kahi pilina pilina, iʻole kona manaʻo e kuhihewa, aʻo kāna aloha e waihoʻia me ka nānāʻoleʻia. I ka wā kahiko, he mau kānaka koa, he poʻe hahai holoholona, ua hoʻolālā lākou i nā mea a pau e lanakila ai, e komo pū ana me ke aloha. ʻAʻole lākou i pale i ka hōʻoleʻana o kēlā mau wāhine i hiki iā lākou ke hoʻohuli i ko lākou mau naʻau. ʻO kaʻaeʻana o nā wāhine i nā kāne kāne i kapaʻia ka lanakila. I ko mākou manawa, manaʻo kekahi poʻe i nā wāhine e hele wale wale i ka nānā wale i ko lākou hiʻohiʻona. Akā, i ka manawa e hōʻike aiʻo ia i kona aloha, uaʻikeʻo ia ua lanakilaʻo ia, aʻo ia e mau loa ana no kona hoʻomanaʻoʻana. Hoʻohanaʻia nā kaikamāhine i ka hopena i ka hōʻoleʻana o ke kanaka, lele, hiki ke hana a haʻalele. No laila,ʻoi aku ka ikaika o nā wāhine maʻaneʻi. Akāʻo nā kānaka, maʻaʻole i ka haʻalulu, e ho'āʻo mua e hoʻomākaukau i ka "lepo" no ka hoʻokumuʻana i ka pilina, a no ka wahine i pane pānaʻi i ka aloha.
ʻAʻoheʻike. ʻAʻole maopopo, i mua o keʻano o nā manaʻo no kekahi kanaka, eʻaʻa i kou mau manaʻo aʻaʻa e hōʻike i ka manaʻo - e komo i ka mea mua, he mea paʻakikī. Ke kānalua nei kekahi kanaka i ke kūpono o kāna hana inā makemakeʻo ia e hele i ka wāwae mua i kahi wahineʻaʻole i aloha iā ia aʻaʻole i hana i ka hana e hiki ai ke hoʻomaopopo i kēlā mau manaʻo. A laila, i mua o ke kanaka, pono e hana i kahi koho paʻakikī ma waena o kaʻoiaʻiʻo a me ka hūnā. ʻO kahi o nā kumu o ka hōʻoleʻiaʻana o kekahi mau wāhine mai kahi pilina pilikino e lilo i mea kānalua. I kekahi manawa, manaʻoʻia he kanaka e hālāwai me kona kūlana maikaʻi a ua mākaukauʻo ia e hana i nā mea a pau iʻole e hoʻolohe ka wahine iā ia. Akā naʻe, hiki paha iā ia ke kānalua i ka hiki kokeʻana o kēia manaʻo, a inā pahaʻaʻoleʻo ia e hoʻoweliweli wale ana i kona manawa a hoʻolāʻihi i ka manawa a me ka ikaika e nānā ai iā ia iho.
Keʻikeʻoleʻia kaʻikeʻole i ka hopena o kaʻike maikaʻiʻole o ka ola, ke hopohopo o ka nāwaliwali ma mua o ka wahine a me ka hoʻomanaʻoʻana i ka nui o nā hihia i ka wā i loaʻaʻole ai i nā wāhine nā pānaʻi.
Hōʻalo nā kāne i ko lākou mau manaʻo, akāʻo nā wāhine ke hele muaʻole e hōʻike i kā lākou.