Ke kuʻi me ke kanaka i ka moeʻuhane: pehea e mālama ai?
ʻO ka mea kaumaha, akā,ʻaʻole iʻoluʻolu keʻano o kēia moe i konaʻano. No nā wāhine mare, he hōʻailona kūʻokoʻa a hoʻopunipuni paha kēia ma kaʻaoʻao o ka wahine. ʻO nā kaikamāhine e pili koʻikoʻi nei, e honi ana i ke kanaka e like me ka ho'ākākaʻana i ka moemoea ua mālamaʻia e like me keʻano hoʻokaʻawaleʻana. He mea hikiʻole ke pale i ka hopena kaumaha,ʻoiai ināʻaʻole he hoaʻike wale kāu hoa, akāʻo kāu kanaka'ōpio'ōpiopio. Inā lōʻihi ka kiss, a laila ua kokoke ke kaʻawaleʻana. ʻO ia paha ka mea nāna e hāʻawi aku e wāwahi i ka pilina.
No laila, inā he kiss ka wahine i kahi kanaka iʻoi aʻe kona kiʻekiʻe ma mua o kona,ʻo ia ka moeʻuhane mua. He mea kūpono paha ma hope o kaʻikeʻana, e hoʻolohe ana kahiʻelemakule i ke kaikamahine. Ma o ia iho, e maikaʻi paha ke kanaka, a he waiwai paha, akā, e pili i ka pilina me ia aʻaʻoleʻole - e pili ana i kāu mau pono a me kou mau manaʻo.
Ke huli nei i ka unuhi'ōlelo o Freud, hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻomaopopo i kēiaʻano moekala e pili ana i ka hōʻeha o ka hoʻopunipuniʻana. No nā kaikamāhine i kēia moe,ʻo ia keʻano o ka pilina o ke kanaka maikaʻi a me keʻano maʻalahi, akā, e like me keʻano, e lilo ke kanaka i mea hoʻonani.
E like me ka'ōlelo i loko o ka puke monekala a Miller,ʻo ka honiʻana i ke kāne he mea ia no ka wahine'ōpiopio i ka hōʻole o kāna mea i waeʻia. Akā, he mea kānalua, no ka honiʻana o ka wahine ma ka moeʻuhane me kāna kāne e'ōlelo ana ua maʻa ka maʻauna a me kaʻike pilina ma ko lākouʻohana.
E heluhelu i ka mea eʻike ai i ka moeʻuhane maʻaneʻi .
ʻO ka hōʻailona me nā hōʻailona mua e hōʻike anaʻaʻole i pau loa kāu lapalapaʻana. I kaʻoiaʻiʻo, hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻoikaika iāʻoe iho e like me kou makemake e hele nā mea a pau me ka hauʻoli, akā,ʻo kaʻuhane ma ka moe e'ōlelo aʻe. Mai kuhihewaʻoe. Ma ke ala,ʻo kēlā kiʻi i ka moeʻuhane hiki keʻano i kaʻoliʻoliʻole o kēia kanaka'ōpio i kona ola pono'ī a hoʻomanaʻo mau i ka hopena hopena meʻoe.
ʻO ka nui o nā manaʻo i loaʻa iāʻoe ma ka moeʻuhane. Inā uaʻoluʻoluʻoe i ka hana o ka honiʻana, a laila, he hōʻailona kēia e hoʻopili kokeʻia anaʻoe. ʻO kaʻike i ka hauʻoli,ʻo ia hoʻi, ka hōʻaleʻaʻole a me ka neleʻole i ka noho kinoʻana. ʻO ka hoʻokipaʻana a ma ka manawa like e hana ai me ka hoʻowahāwahā, he hōʻailona ia o ka hōʻoia i loko o kou kino he maʻi e pili ana i nā maʻi psychoemotional.
Ke ho'ākākaʻana i ka puke moe: honi me ke kanaka'ē
ʻO ka manawa pinepine o kēlāʻano hiʻohiʻona o ka hiamoe e hōʻike ana i ka maopopoʻole o ka mahaloʻole i kāna koho i kēia manawa. Ināʻaʻohe, eʻikeʻia kēia i hōʻailona i kou puʻuwai e makemakeʻoe e aloha a alohaʻia. E nānā ponoʻoe,ʻo ka mea āu i manaʻo aiʻo ia ka hui kūponoʻole,ʻo ia ka mea koa o kāu puke.
ʻAe,ʻo ka hapa nui o kēia mau ho'ākākaʻana,ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻohiki i nā moemoeke e hiki hou mai ana kēia ma ke ola maoli. Akā,ʻoiai,ʻo ka mea i honiʻia e kekahi kanaka i ka moeʻuhane he'ōlelo aʻo maikaʻi ia no nā kūlana pōʻino.