ʻO ka hoaaloha he manaʻo nui loa ia. Hoʻokumuʻia ma luna o nā mea pili loa i nā pilina ma ko mākou ola. Akā, he mea pono anei ke lilo i mau hoaaloha me ka mea āu i aloha ai?
ʻO ke aloha kaiaulu
I mea e kamaʻilio ai i kēia kumuhana, ponoʻoe e māhele i ka pilina me kāu mea aloha i nāʻanoʻelua: ke alohaʻo ia iāʻoe a i kona manawa e manaʻo ai iāʻoe he hoaaloha wale nō. E hoʻomaka me ka māhele mua.
Ināʻoe e launa me kahi mea aloha, a laila i kēia manawa,ʻo ka pilina ka mea kōkua piha i kāu pilina. ʻO ka meaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻo kahi hoaaloha he kanaka mākou e hilinaʻi nei a pau a hiki iā ia ke mālama i nā manawa i ka halaʻana. ʻO ka mea pōʻino,ʻaʻole lawa kēia i ka pilina o ke kāne. Me he mea lā he aloha a me ke aloha, akā,ʻaʻole i lawa ka aloha a me kaʻike. A no ka hikiʻole i nā kānaka ke lilo i mau hoaaloha. I ka laulā,'ōlelo lākou e loaʻa nā hoa maikaʻi loa mai nā hoaaloha maikaʻi. A heʻoiaʻiʻo. ʻO Delovʻo ia ka manawa i lilo ai ke kāne a me ka wahine i mau hoaaloha,ʻike lākou i kekahi i kekahi. Ma mua o kekahi i kekahi,ʻaʻole mākou e ho'āʻo i ka maikaʻi ma mua o mākou, e hūnā i ko mākou mau hewa a pēlā aku. He mau hoaaloha ia e hōʻike pinepine ai nā kānaka i ko lākou mauʻuhane. No laila, i ka wā e hāʻule ai ka ikaika ikaika i waena o nā hoaaloha'ē aʻe, he maʻalahi loa iā lākou ke kūkulu i ka pilina. Uaʻike lākou i ka mea e manaʻo ai kekahi i kekahi, nāna e makemake i nā mea a pēlā aku. Akā, ināʻaʻole he poʻe makamaka, he pinepine ka manawa e hōʻeha lākou i kekahi i kekahi, no ka mea, ma mua i ho'āʻo nui lākou e hōʻike i kekahi i kekahi, e hōʻike ana i ka mea i makemake maoli ai lākou, akā, i ka hoʻomakaʻana o ka pilina e pilina, pono e nalowale ka pono, , he nui nā hemahema o ka mea i alohaʻia, a he mea paʻakikī loa e hoʻolauleʻa.
ʻO ka pilina ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine i hālāwai a male paha, he mea nui a he mea nui. No laila, e ho'āʻo mauʻoe e lilo no kāu keiki,ʻaʻole wale kahi wahine i makemakeʻia, akā, he hoa maikaʻi nō hoʻi. He nui nā kaikamāhine, a me nā keikikāne, e hoʻopiʻi nei i kā lākou huna e hūnā ana i kekahi mea a me ka launa pūʻana me ko lākou mau hoaaloha, akā e halihali. ʻAʻole kēia he mea kānalua, no ka hiki i kahi hoaaloha ke hoʻolohe pono, manaʻo, akāʻaʻole e huhū a "e hoʻokuʻu i ka lele mai kahi elephant." ʻO ke kanaka punahele Avot ke huhū, hana i nā mea hōʻino, hana i kekahi mea,ʻo kaʻoiaʻiʻo maoliʻaʻole pēlā. Hiki i kekahi hoaaloha ke hōʻike maʻa mau i kona huhūʻole i kāna hana, a laila e kūkākūkā pono i nā mea a pau me ka makaʻuʻole e haʻaleleʻo ia me ka waimaka. Aʻo ka hapalua o ka hapalua e hana like me kēia.
No laila, inā makemakeʻoe e hoʻoikaika i ka pilina pili ola a me ka hilinaʻi ma waena oʻoe a me kāu mea i aloha ai, e aʻo e lilo i hoaaloha nona. E hoʻomanaʻo i kona wahi kūʻokoʻa. Mai poinaʻo ia he kanaka ola,ʻo ia hoʻi, ua mamao loaʻo ia mai ka maikaʻi, e like me mākou a pau. E ho'āʻo e nānā i kāna mau hana me ka noʻonoʻoʻole a manaʻoʻoleʻo ia iāʻoe nā mea a pau. ʻO ia nā mea a nā makamaka e hana nei, inā heʻano maikaʻi, a heʻoiaʻiʻo.
Pono nā kānaka a pau i ka makamaka pono a hilinaʻi, hiki iā ia ke hoʻokaʻawale i nā mea a pau, me ka hopohopoʻaʻole lākou e hoʻomaopopo iā ia, e hoʻohewa lākou i nāʻaihue. A inā no ka mea i alohaʻia uaʻano hoaaloha nei e like meʻoe, a laila, eʻelima mau pili me ka. ʻAʻoleʻo ia e wehewehe i kekahi mea, no ka mea, eʻikeʻo ia e maopopo ana iāʻoe a kākoʻo iā ia. E hoʻonuiʻo ia i ka manawa meʻoe ae kono pinepine i kona mau hoaaloha i ka hui,ʻoiai e hiki iā ia ke kamaʻilio pū meʻoe. E hoʻomanaʻo,ʻaʻole e hiki i ke aloha ke ola mau loa. ʻO ke kumu a iʻole ka lōʻihi e emi iho ana, a laila, ināʻaʻole he aloha a me ka launa pūʻana o ke kāne a me ka wahine, ua hoʻopauʻia nā pilina.
ʻAʻole aloha aloha
Kūkulu kahiʻano pokole i ka manawa e pilina ai kekahi kanaka aʻo kekahi mea'ē aʻe. Ma kēia hihia,ʻo ka mea mua, ponoʻoe e hoʻoholo inā pahaʻoe e lilo i hoaaloha pono na ka mea aloha,ʻoiai paha e hoʻopauʻo ia meʻoe aʻaʻole paha. Ma mua o nā mea a pau, he naʻau nui a no nā aʻalolo ikaika e nānā ai ma keʻano o ka pilina pili punahele me kekahi mea'ē aʻe. No laila,ʻaʻohe mea weliweli a hōʻinoʻia no ka haʻaleleʻana i ka pilina me kahi mea aloha. Inā makemakeʻo ia iāʻoe maikaʻi, a laila maopopo nā mea a pau. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻo ka pilina no ka lehulehu he pōhaku maoli,ʻaʻole eʻae i ka neʻeʻana. Makemake mau ke kanaka eʻikeʻiaʻo iaʻaʻole he hoa wale nō aʻaʻole e ho'āʻo e kūkulu i kona ola pono'ī. I ka hopena, noho olaʻo ia ma ke aka o kahi mea i alohaʻia a manaʻoʻo voobscheene e pili ana i kāna mua.
Ke ho'āʻo neiʻoe e hoaaloha me kahi āu e aloha nei, e noʻonoʻo ināʻaʻoleʻoe e hoʻopau i ka pilina me nā poʻe'ē aʻe.ʻO kekahi poʻe, e hoʻohana ana i kā lākou aloha, hoʻomaka e kāpae i nā mea aloha, e luku i kā lākou mau pilina me kekahi poʻe a pēlā aku. ʻAʻole pono. Inā makemakeʻoe i ke kanaka, e heleʻo ia a ola i kou ola, ināʻaʻole hiki iāʻoe ke nānā i kona hauʻoli me nā poʻe'ē aʻe. Ināʻole,ʻaʻole e maluhia iā ia, kevā. E pōʻinoʻo ia no ka mea,ʻaʻole i hoʻonui i kona ola pono'ī, akā e hoʻomaka anaʻoe e hōʻiliʻili i ka huhū a me ka huhū ma muli o kaʻike mauʻana iāʻoe he hoaaloha.
ʻOiai, aia nō i kēlā poʻe kānaka i hāʻawi i ka hauʻoli pilikino o ka mea i alohaʻia ma mua aʻe o ko lākouʻike a me nā pōʻino. I kēia hihia, hiki iāʻoe. Akā, ponoʻoe e hoʻomaʻamaʻa iāʻoe iho i ka mea he mea aloha wale nō ka mea i alohaʻia aʻaʻohe mea'ē aʻe. Ināʻikeʻoe e pono ana iāʻoe a manaʻoʻoe eʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka pilina me ia ma mua o ka meaʻole, a laila, aloha. Hiki maila ke aloha i ka pilina ma konaʻano maʻemaʻe. ʻO ia, ka hala o ke aloha, a me ke aloha, ka mahalo a me ka mahalo i ke kanaka. E hanaʻia kēia meʻoe. ʻO ka mea nuiʻaʻoleʻo ia e hana i nā mōhai. E hoʻoholo noʻoe iho i ka mea e loaʻa ai ka hauʻoli maoli noʻoe. Malia pahaʻo kēiaʻo kāu aloha manawa hoʻokahi no ke ola a he maʻalahi aʻoi aku kaʻoluʻolu no ka mea i liloʻoe i hoaaloha o kēia mea ma mua o ka kūkuluʻana i ka pilina me kekahi mea āu e hikiʻole ai ke hāʻule i ke aloha me ka nui.
Inā kohoʻoe i ka pilina me kāu mea aloha, e aʻo e hauʻoli i kāu mea. ʻOiai ināʻaʻoleʻo ia makemake iāʻoe, akā,ʻoiaʻiʻoʻo ia e hoʻolālā iāʻoe, e noʻonoʻo me kou manaʻo, e hauʻoli me nā swamisa - a ua maikaʻi kēia. ʻAʻohe o lākou i kēia. I kekahi hihia, ma kahi e pili ana i kahi mea aloha, loaʻa iā mākou nā manaʻo maikaʻi. No laila, i ka wā i koho aiʻoe i ka pilina me kāu mea aloha, e ho'āʻo eʻoliʻoli i kāu mea.
Manaʻo nui nā poʻe he manaʻo nui lākou e alohaʻia lākou. A ma kona pono iho. Inā kūpono kahi mea i alohaʻia i ko lākou mau manaʻo a me ko lākou mau manaʻo. Ma hope aʻe o kahi kanaka maikaʻi, ka mea a mākou i aloha ai, makemake mākou e noho maikaʻi, loaʻa i kekahi mea. No laila,ʻo ka pilinaʻana e hiki ai ke hoʻohua mai i ka hua, akā,ʻaʻole ponoʻoe e noʻonoʻo pono ke hiki i kēia manawa a iāʻoe paha. E hoʻoholo i nā mea a pau i ka hopena. ʻOiai, aia kekahi mau manawa e ulu ai ka pilina i ke aloha. A he mea kupanaha loa ia, ināʻo kāu hihia keʻano.
Akā ma nā hihia, he mau hoaaloha aʻaʻoleʻoe e launa pū me kāu mea alohaʻo kāu koho. ʻAʻole ponoʻo ia e hilinaʻi iā ia a ma luna paha o nā mea'ē aʻe. Ponoʻoe e koho i kahi e hiki ai iāʻoe ke maikaʻi, peheaʻoe e hauʻoli ai:ʻoʻoe he hoaaloha no ka mea aloha a haʻalele paha iā ia a mau loa aku.