Nā kāne :
1.ʻAʻole ka nui o nā kāne iʻike nui ma muli o ka hemoʻana, no ka mea, ua moe lākou i ka noho kaʻawaleʻana a no ka hoʻokuʻu i nā kuleana no kaʻohana a me nā keiki. Eia kekahi, makemake lākou e hui me kahiʻoi aku maikaʻi,ʻoi aku ka wahine'ōpiopio i hoʻohaʻahaʻaʻoleʻia e like me ka wahine, aʻike kēia mau kānaka i ko lākou manaʻo a me nā moe e like me ia. Manaʻo lākou he pilikia ka nohoʻana o kaʻohana i ka hoʻokōʻana i nā manaʻo. ʻElua mau makahiki "ma keʻano nui" e alakaʻi iā lākou i ka manaʻo eʻoi aku ka maikai o kaʻohana, no laila, i loko o nā makahikiʻelua i hala, ua mare hou kēia mau kāne (ʻo kekahi,ʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻo kā lākou mau wāhine mua), akā, i loko o nā makahiki, hoʻomaka lākou e hoʻomaopopo i ka wahine mua. uaʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o ka lua, akāʻaʻole lākou e mihi i ka haʻalele.
2. He aha nā hopena i ka hemoʻana ma hope o ke ola lōʻihi o kekahi, ka liʻiliʻi, ka mahele o nā kāne? Ua hauʻoli lākou i ke kuokoa, hoʻololi lākou i kā lākou hoa,ʻaʻole lākou e mare no ka manawa lōʻihi,ʻoiaiʻaʻole lākou i maopopo ua pau nā makahiki maikaʻi loa o ko lākou olaʻana, a ma ka piha o 50 mau makahiki i ka manawa hikiʻole iā lākou ke makemake i ka nohoʻana i loko o lākou, nānā ". ʻO kēia māhele o nā kāne, inā he waiwai waiwai,ʻikeʻia he wahine'ōpio no nā hoaaloha lili a me ka wahine. Akā,ʻo kēia "diamond o ka'ōpiopio, nani a me ka mea hou e pono ai i keʻoki maikaʻi,ʻo ia hoʻi, ka nui o ke kālā,ʻaʻole hiki i kahiʻohana ikaika, e hana ana i kahiʻano o nā hoaaloha a me nā hoa noho, me ka makaʻu mau loa no ka kumakaia. Aʻo kēlā mau kānaka i nele i ka pōʻaleʻona waiwai uaʻoluʻolu lākou i ka huliʻana no ka mea ua hoʻonele lākou i ka moekolohe ma luna o nā hoa launaʻole i koi ai i nā kumukūʻai o ka naʻau, ke kino, ka naʻau a me ke kāne (e like me kā lākou mau wāhine); ʻO ka manaolana no ke "ola olaʻole"ʻaʻole i'āponoʻia, a ma ka nohona o ka nohona paʻakikīʻaʻole i kākoʻoʻia, no ka mea, he pōʻino kēia kanaka, no laila, uaʻike kēia kanakaʻo ka mare muaʻana ma mua o ka lua.
3. Aia kekahi māheleʻekolu o nā kāne e hoʻohemo ke alakaʻi i ke kaumaha nui, pili pū me nā kumu i ka waiʻona, ka manaʻo ikaika o ka noho wale, ka hilahila, ka nele o ka hoihoi i ka hana a me ke ola i ka mea nui. ʻO ka kuleana o kaʻohana kahiko, kahi a lākou i hōʻole ai, lilo i kuleana no lākou iho, aʻaʻole hiki i kēlā me kēia kanaka ke kū i kēia. Ma kēia kūlana, hikiʻole i kekahi kanaka noikala ke hana me kaʻole. ʻO ka pilinaʻohana no kēia māhele o nā kāne e lilo hou i kahi mokupuni maikaʻi kahi āna e makemake ai e hoʻi mai, akāʻo ka manawa ua lōʻihi loa, no laila, uaʻikeʻoleʻia ka heluʻana o ka makahiki o nā kāne o 58 mau makahiki (ʻoiaiʻo ke kumu o ka make kokeʻana, heʻano nui nō ia, akāʻo kekahi o lākou, ʻo keʻano, ka male male).
Nā wāhine:
1.ʻO ka hemoʻana no ka hapanui o nā wāhine he pilikia i hele pū me ka hohonu hohonu. ʻO ka noʻonoʻo o "no ke aha e ola nei", "no wai e noho nei", alakaʻi pinepine i kahi wahine i ka hoʻoholoʻana e ho'ōki i kēia olaʻole, e hele nui lākou i kahi moena hoʻokipa,ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, a ma hope iho uaʻike lākou e ola ana ke ola, pono kākou e hānai i nā keiki aiʻole e hoʻomaka i ke kūkuluʻana i kahiʻohana hou.
2. Ma hope o ka hemoʻana,ʻaʻole loa eʻoliʻoli ka wahine i ka hauʻoli,ʻoiai inā he lua ka mareʻana, no ka mea, e mau ana ka hopohopo no ka makeʻana o kēia kāne, a hopohopo paha i ka pili o ka makuakāne me kāna keiki mai ka male mua. ʻO ka mea pōʻino,ʻo ka lua o ka mareʻana no ka wahine,ʻaʻoleʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o ka mea mua, akā naʻe he mauʻaʻohe.
3. ka ola lōʻihi o kaʻohana, kahi e kapaʻia ai ka poʻe "ulu" i waena o kekahi me keʻano psychologically a biologically: he mau leʻaleʻa likeʻole a me nā pilikia maʻamau, nā hoaaloha a me nā pilikā,ʻoiaʻiʻo, nā keiki - e hāʻule koke ana me ka hemo. ʻO ka hohonu o kēiaʻeha nui loa (ʻo ia hoʻi no nā wāhine),ʻoiai me ke kōkuaʻana o nā kauka o nā mea hoʻoikaika psychotherapist he paʻakikī ia i ka ho'ōla, a pēlā nō hoʻi nā "scars" e noho ai a hiki i ka hopena o ke ola i loko o kaʻuhane o ka mea i makemakeʻole i ka hemo.