He maikaʻi paha, heʻino paha? E pili ana kēia pilina ma kēia mua aku? Hoʻopuka nā kākoʻo a me nā mea kū'ē i nā manaʻo likeʻole.
He'ōpio ke kanaka ma mua o ke kaikamahine - maikaʻi?
"I ka wā'ōpio" e launa pū me ke kanaka'ōpio "i kona wā'ōpiopio" no ka manawa pōkole, e hauʻoli ana i nā honi mua, e hele ana ma lalo o ka mahina, e hoʻoholo kaʻakō ana i ke kūlanakauhale pō ... E hiki iā ia ke "make i ke aloha", mai ka meaʻaʻohe mea e hiki ke hanaʻia "ʻO ka hoaaloha maikaʻi e'ōlelo nei e like wau me kahi haumāna kula kiʻekiʻe - Ke holo nei wau i ka hula, ke haʻalele nei au i ka hale i nā lā ..."
ʻOiai, he kanaka'ōpio ke aloha. ʻO kahi kaikamahineʻoi aku ke kaikuaʻana i hiki iā ia ke lilo i hoʻokahi o kāna mua, ināʻaʻoleʻo ka mua.
- Ua loaʻa i ka 'elepiopio ka manawa e "ulu ai i kanaka maikaʻi." Ke kūkākūkā pū me ia, makemakeʻo ia e hōʻea i kona kiʻekiʻe, aʻoi aʻe ka ikaika, loaʻa nāʻano maikaʻi, hoʻololi i kekahi o kona manaʻo. A he mea maikaʻi kēia nona. Aia kekahi pūpū o nā kaikamahine i mua o nā'ōpiopio. He mea maʻalahi iā ia ke hoʻonāuki i ke kanaka, loaʻa iā ia kaʻike, uaʻikeʻo ia i ka hoʻopauʻana i nā paio a me ka nānāʻana i nā makapō. A inā lanakilaʻo ia, hiki iā ia ke hōʻoia ma muli o ka hoʻolālā heʻumi makahiki i kāna wahine aloha,ʻaʻole loaʻo ia iʻike i ke aloha a me ke aloha i ka maikaʻi. A no ka piliʻana i ka wahine,ʻo ka kaikamahine iʻoi aku ka mākaukau e aʻo nui i kahi mea aloha wahine.
-ʻO ka'ōpio, ke olakino a me ka nani - he kūlana ikaika loa i kahi'ōpio. ʻAʻole ia he mea kupanaha, no ka mea, ma loko o kona kino hormones a me ka hoʻopiʻi. ʻAʻoleʻo ia i loaʻa i nā maʻi lōʻihiʻole,ʻaʻole i hoʻonāwaliwali i ka'ōpiopio o ke kino me ka ikaika pinepine a me ka hana i ka hana,ʻaʻoleʻo ia i momona,ʻaʻole i'ōlele,ʻaʻole i hoʻomāʻona i kona'ōpiopio i ka nicotine a me ka waiʻona. ʻO ke kaikamahine e hui pū ana me ia,ʻaʻoleʻo ia e nānā e like me kona makahiki pono'ī. Loaʻa iā ia he mau mea hou e komo ai i loko ona, e kipa aku i ka lumi hoʻokipa nani, ka sauna, a me ka solarium, kūʻai i nā mea nani, akā i nā mea waiwai.
ʻO ke keiki'ōpio ma mua o ke kaikamahine - hewa?
- Loaʻa nāʻokoʻa ma waena o ke kālepa kāne kāne a me ka wahine, kahi i alakaʻiʻia ai ke kanaka, ma ka liʻiliʻi a hiki i ke 27 makahiki, ma kāna mau hana ma o "kahi'ē aʻe",ʻaʻole ma muli o ka manaʻo a me keʻano. Ua maʻalahi nā'ōpiopio i nā kaikamāhine, a ua alakaʻiʻia lākou e nā manaʻo a me nā manaʻo. Hoʻomalolei i ka māmā a me ke kino i nā kaikamāhine, i nā mea kahiko, e hoʻokau i ka "momona" no ke kanaka'ōpiopio iʻikeʻole i kona kino. ʻO kaʻikeʻole i ke kanaka a me ka pono no ka "soplevytiraniya" he mea nui loa i ke kaikamahine. ʻAe, a keʻano o kaʻike ma kaʻike ma nā pilina pili.
-ʻO iaʻano pilina me ke kanaka e lilo i mea maʻamau. ʻAʻole ia he mea pōpilikia i ka'ōlepele melemele e kūkākūkā ana i kēlā mau mea hōkū o nā hōkū. A ināʻaʻole he hōkū ke kaikamahine, a laila,ʻo nā hoaaloha a pau iʻike e pili ana i kona makahiki a me kāna mau pokii,ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke kūkākūkā wale i ko lākou pilikino, akā hoʻohewa pū nō hoʻi iā lākou. ʻOiai ke mareʻia ke kaikamahine, he mau keiki kāna, noho i kekahi kūlanakauhale liʻiliʻi a ma ka'āina paha, eʻoi aku kona'ōpio ma mua o kona mau makahiki, he nani kona helehelena a me kona mau kapa nani. ʻO ke kumu e hikiʻole ai ke lili wale wale nō, akā,ʻo kaʻike kuʻuna i ka piliʻana o ka pilina. I kekahi manawa ua hilahila kekahi kaikamahine eʻae i keʻano o ke kōpiopio: hoʻolohe mauʻo ia i nā manaʻo o nā mea'ē aʻe a hoʻopilikia i nā manaʻo maikaʻiʻole. Hiki paha iā ia ke hopohopo inā manaʻoʻo ia e hana hewa.
- Ka nui o ka hilinaʻi a me ka ikaika o nā pili. ʻO kaʻoiʻana o ke kanaka'ōpiopio i nā mea hou,ʻo ia hoʻi he hiki iā ia ke huli aku i ka kumakaia. Hiki iā ia ke neʻe aku mai kahi wahine kūʻokoʻa aku i kahi wahine'ōpio. ʻAʻohe hopohopo piliʻole: "Ināʻoe e mare i ka hoa .. ma hope o 5-10, e holoʻo ia ma kekahi ala i kekahi maloleletochke ..ʻo ia kaʻoiaʻiʻo o ke ola aʻaʻole loa kahi e hele ai i waho ..."
No laila,ʻo ka pilina me ke kanaka iʻoi aku ka'ōpiopio ma mua o ke kaikamahine i hāʻawi i nāʻano loiloi likeʻole. Ma ka hoʻouluʻana i nā pilina e pili i nā manaʻo o ke kino, ka manaʻo o ka lehulehu, ka hana a nā hoa. He aha kaʻu e hana ai? Nui nā'ōlelo e hikiʻole i ka makahiki keʻano nui,ʻo ke aloha. I ka hopena, inā hiki i nā kānaka ke hui aku me nā kaikamāhine, no ke aha lā eʻaeʻole ai nā kaikamāhine me nā'ōpio ma mua o lākou iho?
Eia hou,ʻaʻohe kūpono o ka makahiki passport i ka makahiki o kaʻike. I kekahi manawa,ʻaʻole i ulu kahi kanaka i nā makahiki he 18, noʻonoʻo, pono, hoihoi, mālama, hana e like me ke kanaka maoli a me kahi kaikuahine e noʻonoʻo iā ia me he pōhaku pōhaku. E hāʻawi i nā hiʻohiʻona i ka wā eʻimi ai kekahi kanaka'ōpio i kahi wahine i 20 makahiki ona. I kēlā manawa hoʻokahiʻaʻoleʻo ia he alfonso a mālama i kaʻohana pono'ī. I kekahi manawa,ʻo keʻano likeʻole o ke kaikamahine e hiki ai ke lilo i "keiki".
Hoʻokahiʻaoʻao aiʻole kekahi,ʻaʻohe noke. Ke hilinaʻi nei ia ma kahi kūlana kūikawā, nā kānaka kūikawā. He aha kāu e'ōlelo ai i kēia hihia? E hoʻolohe wale i kou mau manaʻo a me kou mau manaʻo no ka hapalua o ka hapalua, aloha a hauʻoli.