ʻO ia,ʻoiai e kū ana i ka pūnana ma ke keʻena o kaʻae'alele, hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻomaopopo mua i ka lohi o nā limahana, a me hoʻokahi hola ma hope aku - e huhū i nā wahine e komo i loko o ke keʻena me ka kaliʻole e "nīnau wale". Keʻike pinepineʻia nei ka huhū e nā mea loiloi e like me keʻano'ē aʻe i ka puʻuwai, no ka mea, inā he kumuʻole ia e hōʻino i nā mea'ē aʻe no ka mea i hanaʻia,ʻaʻole no ka pilikino. Eia kekahi laʻana, i ka wā e kiolaʻia ai mākou, hiki i ka inaina ke uhi i kaʻeha o ka haʻihaʻi. Ma keʻanoʻeleʻele, i ka paneʻana i ka pilikia, hiki ke huhū, he makemake e hoʻihoʻi. Ma muli o ka huhū he manaʻo e maʻalahi kaʻike (me ka makaʻu a me kaʻeha), pinepineʻo ia e hūnā ma hope ona i ka meaʻoi aku ka paʻakikī eʻike. A inā ma kēia hihia e hoʻomaka ai e hana i ka huhū (aʻaʻole hoʻi mai ka manaʻo mua),ʻaʻohe mea hikiʻole. He mea nui e hiki keʻike i ka mea i hunaʻia ma lalo. ʻO ka huhū, i laweʻia i ka pahu paila - he mea pepehi weliweli.
Pehea e hōʻike pono ai i ka huhū?
ʻO kaʻike mua mua wale nō ka huhū he manaʻoʻole a hōʻino paha. ʻAʻohe manaʻo o ia mau manaʻo i nā hana maikaʻi loa. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, hiki i ka huhū ke hoʻoikaika iā mākou e hōʻoki a hoʻololi i ka mea i loaʻa iā ia. ʻAʻohe manaʻo maikaʻi: "He hōʻailona kēia, kahi a mākou eʻike ai i ka mea e pono ai mākou a me ka mea iʻole, ka mea e paio ai, a me ka mea e haʻalele ai. ʻO ka huhū e kuhikuhi ana i kekahi mau mea nui a nele i ka wā i halaʻole. " Ināʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hōʻike akāka, keʻimi neiʻo ia i nā hana. Heʻoi aku ka palekana no ka huhū i ka porinelainʻohana, heʻoi aku ka pōʻino loa - no nā holoholona āpau, kūpono loa - no nā poʻe kokoke. Ma kā mākou moʻomeheu he mea maʻamau ke kāohi i ka huhū,ʻaʻole pololei i pololei. Hoʻomaopopo pinepine i ka huhū i loko o kaʻeha ma ke kua, ka naʻau, ka'ōpū. ʻO nā mea hoʻonaʻauao,ʻoiaʻiʻo, koi e huhū i ka manaʻo - ma luna o ke poʻo anu e nānā i ke kumu o ka huhū. ʻO ka hōʻike pololeiʻana i keʻano o ke aloha,ʻo ia hoʻi ka weheweheʻana iā lākou no ka mea nāna iho a me nā mea'ē aʻe, a pēlā e hoʻokō ai i ka makemake. Aʻo ka mea nui,ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka nānāʻana i ka hemahema ma hope o lākou, ma mua o ka haʻalulu i ka lewa me kā lākou'ōlelo. Akā, inā nui ka huhū, hiki iāʻoe ke "hoʻoulu" i nā koena ma nāʻano likeʻole. Ua kākauʻo Freud e pili ana i nā sublimation. Ināʻaʻoleʻoe, e hoʻolohe i nā manaʻo āu iʻike ai,ʻaʻole hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻoholo i kāu mau hoʻoholo iho,ʻo ia ka mea e hōʻeha ai iāʻoe.
Pehea e pale ai i ka huhū o haʻi?
ʻO ka mea mua āu e makemake ai keʻikeʻoe i ka mea huhū ua huli aʻe. A laila hele maila kaʻimi - a he aha kāna mea iā ia? ʻO ka makemake e kōkua i ka hopena aʻaʻole loa. E kūkākūkā i nā kumu o ka huhū me ka poʻe i lalo o ka mana o kēia manaʻo i kēia manawa, he meaʻole. A no ke kūkāʻana e pili ana i ka mea i hanaʻia iā ia, a pau keʻano o nā manaʻo, ua maikaʻi loa. ʻO kahi wale nō i kēia manawa eʻike mākou he ponoʻole i nā kuʻi lima ma hope o ke kaua. Akā no ka mea hoʻonāukiuki, a me kou mau pilina me ia (koe naʻe,ʻaʻole ia he malihini) he meaʻino ke hoʻohālikeʻaʻole i hanaʻia. Inā makemakeʻoeʻaʻole e hōʻea hou ka hopena, ponoʻoe e hoʻomaopopo i ka mea hoʻopiʻi:ʻaʻohe pono iā ia kāna mau hana. A laila hāʻawi i kahi manawa e kamaʻilio ai no nā kumu o kēia hana. ʻAʻole iʻike ko mākouʻelemakule kahiko i ke ala maikaʻi loa e hōʻike ai i ka huhū, ma mua o ka naluʻana i kahi lāʻau. ʻO ka mea pōmaikaʻi, i ka manawa lōʻihi, hoʻoholo nā kānaka i nāʻano kūpono i hilinaʻiʻia a pili i ka pilina o ka "hoʻokuʻuʻana i ka mahu" - nā hoʻolāʻau, ka hana kino, nāʻoihana, nā palapala moʻokalaleo, ka hana akamai, nā pāʻani rorohiko. Akā,ʻo ka mea maikaʻi loa o ia mau mea,ʻo ia wale nō ka'ōlelo i kou manaʻo i kēia manawa.