He poʻe keiki mākou a pau nā mākua. Manaʻo mākou iā lākou mai ke kula kamaliʻi - ma hope o kēia mau mea i hānai iā mākou a mālama iā mākou. I ka manawa ma mua, he nui nā mākua, a he mea e kahaha nei i kaʻike i ka hana paʻakikī. Akā me nāʻike a pau, loaʻa iā mākou, nā mea ma mua aʻaʻole pinepine i hoʻopaʻaʻia ka pilina - e like me keʻano momona a me ke kaikamahine.
Me ke kūlana kiʻekiʻe,ʻaʻole lākou e "hoʻololi" i nāʻano hou, akā, ua hoʻopau houʻia. Ua ulu ke kaikamahine, ua mau koʻu makuahine - ma hea ka hopena o kēia kaua a me ka hoʻoponopono pololeiʻana?
ʻO ka wā paʻakikī o ka uluʻana
Hoʻonuiʻia ka uluʻana o nā keikikāne, akā,ʻaʻoleʻoi. Eʻae like nā kaikamāhine me ko lākou makuahine, aiʻole ma ka liʻiliʻiʻaʻole e hakakā hou. Aʻo ka maikaʻi loa o nā keiki e haʻi aku i ko lākou kūʻokoʻa a me ke kaʻawale. No laila,ʻo ka nīnau "pehea e kūkulu ai i ka pilina o ka makuahine me ke kaikamahine makuahine?" Heʻoi aku ka nui aʻe ma mua o ka pili "son-father".
ʻO ka meaʻoi loa i hiki iāʻoe ke noʻonoʻo, aʻo ia ka hopena e pili ai i ke ola o ke kaikamahine, ka wahine e hiki mai ana -ʻo ia ke pale aku i ko lākou "makua kāne." ʻO ke kuleana e lilo aiʻoe iho, e loaʻa i kou mau manaʻo pono'ī a lilo i kumu o ka hakakā, ka pilina pili ma waena o ke kaikamahine ulu a me kona makuahine. A pehea e kūkulu ai i kahi pilinaʻana me kekahi kaikamahine makua, inā mau kaʻaoʻaoʻelua?
Nā wā pilikia
Makahiki 5-7. ʻO ka hoʻokūkū wiwoʻole no "Dad"
ʻO nā pilikia mua loa ma mua o ka'ōpiopio. Hāʻaʻia lākou ma ka hoʻokūkū ma waena o ka mom a me ke kaikamahine. ʻO wai ka mea e noʻonoʻo pono e hōʻoiaʻiʻo i ko lākou pono no kahi kaikamahineʻelima makahikiʻehiku?
A inā he mau kānalua paha ko koʻu makuahine i kona nani, ka pōmaikaʻi, kona manaʻo, hiki paha iā lākou ke hana i kahi pilina koʻikoʻi me kāna kaikamahine. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, eʻike mālie nā keiki i kahi e hikiʻole ai iā mākou ke hōʻoluʻolu, ma kahi o mākou e hoʻowahāwahāʻia aiʻaʻohe kūpono.
ʻO ka meaʻoi aku iʻoi aku ka hewa loa i hiki iaʻu ke hana,ʻo ia ke hoʻokūkū ikaika me kāna kaikamahine'ōpio. "Peheaʻo ia, ke kuhikuhi neiʻo ia iaʻu i koʻu mau hemahema!" - E huhūʻo Mom aʻaʻole hewa. Aʻo ka mea maikaʻi loa ke mahalo iā ia mai kaʻike mua loa i ka hana a ke kaikamahine.
Ua holoiʻo ia i kona pāpale, kanu i kānaʻaina i ka minukewe, aiʻole e holoi i ka lepo i loko o ka hale, lawe mai i nā meaʻelima - he mea kūpono kēia eʻike ai i kona holomua. E like me ia i loko o ka pīkani akamai: "Ua lawe aneiʻoe i ka'ōpala? E hoʻomaʻemaʻe i ke kaikamahine! "
Aʻo ke kaikamahineʻelemakule, ka mea i ola i kēia manawa me ka meaʻole, e hoʻomanaʻoʻo ia i ka lōʻihi o ka wā'ōpio, a hoʻomau i kēlā hakakā pupule me koʻu makuahine he mea naʻaupō.
13-19 makahiki. ʻO ka makahiki o ka honi mua
ʻO nā huakaʻi mua me nā keikikāne (ʻoiai ma ka lima, a ma ka lima o ka lehulehu) hiki ke hoʻoholo i nā pilikia me ka makuahine. ʻOiai inā ua hauʻoliʻo ia i ka holomua a me ka kaulana, e hoʻopauʻo ia i ka haeʻole. ʻO ka makuahine he wahine "kāne", aʻo ka mea'ē aʻe,ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻihoʻiʻia ka hou o nā manaʻo mua.
Pākuʻi iʻaneʻi i ka makaʻu makaʻuʻole "Pehea lā ināʻaʻole he kaikamahine hou kaʻu kaikamahine? A i ka hopena, e hōʻino kekahi iā ia? ", A eʻikeʻoe i keʻano o ka makuahine me kāna kaikamahine. Ma waho aʻe o ka hopohopo kūpono no ke ola, ke olakino (kino a me ka noʻonoʻo) o kona "koko", ua hoʻokauʻiaʻo ia eʻike i kāna wahine male nui. A pehea e kūkulu ai i kahi pilina me ka makua makua makua ma hope o ka hoʻokūkūʻikeʻole iʻikeʻoleʻia i kēia manawa o kona uluʻanaʻaʻole i hiki ke hoʻomaopopoʻia. Ma kekahi hihia, hana nā psychologist i ka hoʻohoihoiʻana i ka pilina ma keʻano o ke kūʻokoʻaʻana o ka makuahine a me ke kaikamahine. Ināʻaʻole, e like auaneʻi kēia: "Ua hoʻopau loaʻia kaʻu keiki! E hana i kekahi mea me ia! "
20 aʻoi. Ma hope o ke "kipi." ʻO ke olaʻohana
He aha kaʻoi aku o ke paʻi a me ka maikaʻi ma mua o ke kaikamahine i mare i ka laweʻana i konaʻohana iho? He kaikamahine wale nō i hanaʻole i kēia mea a pau!
He mea paʻakikī ka makuahine eʻae i keʻano like o kāna kaikamahine me ia. Hoʻokahi a (ʻino) - ma kahi kiʻekiʻe e mālama ana i kāna kanaka, mālama i ka hale a maʻemaʻe a hoʻomākaukau i nā meaʻano paʻakikī.
ʻO ka hoʻolālā hou e hiki mai ana ke hoʻonuiʻia e kaʻoiaʻiʻo ua hiki i ke kaikamahine ke hoʻolohe pono i nā koi, a me ka "kipi kipi"ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke koho. Ua ulu muaʻo ia. I kēia wā, ua noʻonoʻo nā mākua e pili ana i nā mea e ponoʻole ai kā lākou mau kaikamāhine. Akā, pono mau nā momi i nā manawa a pau!
ʻO kēia wā o ka hakakā ka mea nui loa, a pehea e kūkuluʻia ai ka pilina o ka makuahine me kekahi kaikamahine makua e hāpaiʻia e ka naʻau. He maʻalahi ka loaʻaʻana o kēlā mau "string", nā wahi e pono ai ka makuahine a hiki ke hāʻawi i ke kōkua kūpono. Nā mākua hānai? Kōkua maikaʻi ma ka pālua, ke nīnauʻia? Ke hele nei no nā waimaka a pau, kahi e ulu ai ka mea mua ma ka nohoʻana o kaʻohana?
Nui nā koho. Akā, eʻike kekahi makuahine akamai a maʻalahi i ka manawa e hoʻomaka ai kāna kaikamahine e "huki i" i kona makuahine, e hana i nāʻano likeʻole,ʻaʻole pili i nā "keiki." Nui piha, aloha, hoa (ʻoʻoe -ʻo wau -ʻoʻoe) - he mau hiʻohiʻona ia o ka maikaʻi o ka kūkākūkāʻana ma waena o ka mom a me ke kaikamahine.
ʻO ka mea nui e kōkua i ka makua e hoʻopaʻa i nā pilina me kekahi kaikamahine makua kāne:
- pono, akā,ʻaʻole maikaʻi;
- he hoaaloha, akā,ʻaʻole e noi i kaʻu kaikamahine e haʻi aku i nā pono o kona makuahine.
Mama momona, momona
"He penikala" Pensioner ". Akā,ʻoiai, me "kupunawahine". ʻAʻole makemake nā wāhine e komo iā lākou iho, akā,ʻo ka hānauʻana o nā moʻopuna a he hanana hauʻoli, i pohōʻia e kahi kūlana hou. Akā,ʻo koʻu makuahine, ka mea nāna i "ʻoi aku he kanalima" i ka holoʻana i nā mea kūponoʻole, e hana i nā pale a holo i nā mākaʻikaʻi -ʻaʻole hoʻohaʻahaʻa iki i kāna kaikamahine.
Ma kekahiʻaoʻao,ʻo ka "'ūpīʻona", i hanaʻia a puni ka penihana hana, hukiʻia. I kekahiʻaoʻao'ē aʻe, he pono keʻano haʻahaʻa o kaʻoihana. E mahalo nui ke kaikamahine i kona makuahine inā paʻaʻo ia a hana pono inā he kuleana nona. A ināʻaʻole e haʻalele ka makua i ke kōkua o kaʻohana'ōpio -ʻo ia ka momona gula, aʻo ka pilina me ia eʻoi aku ka nani loa!