1) Ka maikaʻi o ke kāne.
I ka mea kupaianaha, i loko o nā wāhine i loaʻa ai ka manaʻo lili hilahila,ʻo ka wahine kupanaha loa e hana. ʻO ia kahi kahi nui o ka hoʻokele a me nā manaʻo. He mea kupanaha loa ma hope o ka hopena nui o nā kānaka ke maʻalahi nui, akā, wehewehe nā meaʻepekema i nā mea a pau. ʻO ka meaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻo ka ikaika ke kōkua i ka hoʻokuʻu adrenaline i loko o ke koko. I ka wā e hakakā ai ka hakakā,ʻo ka mōhai koko no ka manawa lōʻihi, aʻo ka wahine he ala maoli o detente. ʻOiaʻiʻo,ʻo kēia hōʻailona me ka wahine maikaʻi ma hope o ka hopena maikaʻi,ʻaʻole hiki ke kūʻai iāʻoe i kahi liʻiliʻi o nā pūnana nerveʻole e ola hou ma hope o ka hapaʻumi o ka pō.
2) Hoʻomohala i nā mana.
ʻO ka lili e koi i ka hiki i kahi manawa. Ināʻaʻole he kanaka lawa piha o kāu kāne, a laila,ʻaʻole hiki ke loaʻa ka hihia. Ponoʻoe e nānā pono i kāu mea i aloha ai, e nānā i nā kumuhana e paʻakikī i ka pale. ʻOiaʻiʻo,ʻaʻole ia he mea loaʻa iāʻoe kekahi mea, akā eʻike maoliʻoe i kāu kanaka i nā mea hou. A ke hana hou nei kēia hana i mea e hoʻoikaika ai i kāu mau keiki, i ka manawa pōkole, eʻikeʻoe i kēlā mauʻano pono e hoʻohilahila iāʻoe. Eia naʻe, me kēiaʻano, hiki i ka manawa o kaʻeliʻana i kēlā pūpū i loko o kaʻaha kuhina, a laila,ʻaʻohe'ōlelo e pili ana i kekahi pilina.
3) Ma keʻano wahine.
Hoʻonohonoho i nā hiʻohiʻona o ka lili e hiki i nā wāhine a me nā kāne. ʻAʻole iʻikeʻia i ko wai o kākou he lili nui, akā, hiki ke hoʻomaopopoʻia,ʻo ia ka mea iʻoi aku keʻano o kona manaʻo. ʻO ka hōʻailona ma luna o kahi hakakā manaʻo -ʻo ia ka wahine. Ma ka mea eʻike ai kāu mea aloha. Aʻo ka hōʻailona'ē aʻe o kāna wahine pono'īʻaʻole iʻeha i kekahi. Ināʻole,ʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻaʻole hiki iāʻoe ke hele i kēlāʻaoʻao, a ma hope iho, e kali ana ka wahine haʻahaʻa e kali i keʻano o ka mākeke.
4) Hana pono.
Hiki ke hōʻoiaʻiʻoʻia ka lili e ka hōʻeuʻeu i kāu mea aloha iāʻoe, no ka lōʻihi o kou noho lōʻihiʻana,ʻaʻoleʻoe i pau i ka hopohopo i ka liloʻana. He mea maʻalahi loa ia i nā kānaka a kōkua iā lākou e mālama pono iā lākou. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ināʻoe e hoʻokiʻekiʻe i ke koʻokoʻo, hiki iā ia ke kumu o kona mahukaʻana. Aʻo ke kumu e neʻe ai i ka moekolohe naʻaupō -ʻo ia ka mea e loaʻa ai ka hōʻino.
5) E hāʻule hou i ke aloha.
Makemake pahaʻoe e lili i ke kanaka, akāʻaʻole hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻoikaika i kou ola. ʻAʻole pahaʻoe e noʻonoʻo ai iā ia i ka hopena o kekahi mea'ē aʻe,ʻikeʻoe a heʻawaʻawa paha a iʻole hikiʻole paha. ʻO ka lili "no ka pale" e hāʻawi iāʻoe i kahi e hoʻomau ai iāʻoe iho i kēia mau manaʻo, e manaʻoʻiʻo iā lākou. A i kēia manawa e lili nei, hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻomaopopo koke i kou aloha nui i kāu kanaka a me keʻano o kou makaʻu e haʻaleleʻo ia no kekahi. ʻO kahi wale nō ka pilikia nui o ka wahine akamai a me ka hauʻoli e liloʻoe i mea huhū huhū.
Ponoʻoe eʻike,ʻoiaiʻoiai ua'ōleloʻia i kēia manawa a puni ka honua,ʻo ka lili he hōʻailona o kaʻinoʻino, he mea maʻamau loa ia a heʻano kūlana no nā kānaka he nui loa. Eia kekahi laʻana, ua lili kekahi i kekahi i ka wā wale nō i ulu ai i kahi kūlana kiʻekiʻe o ka uluʻana. I nā manawa o ke kaiāulu - nā'ōpana lāhui,ʻaʻole i loaʻa i nā kūpuna ko lākouʻano hilahila. He kūpono paha e like me lākou ma kēia?
Eia hou,ʻo ka liliʻaʻoleʻoi aku kaʻino ma mua o ka waimaka e kōkua ai e kāpae i ka pilikia, keʻole ia he mania. A laila, e lilo ka lili i nā pōʻino a me nā hoʻohaʻahaʻa. Aʻikeʻoe e like me ka helu o nā kānakaʻepekema, ke lili nei nā kānaka iā mākou i ka 2 mau manawa pinepine. No laila, mai hopohopo e haʻi i nā manaʻo!