Ke kumu no ke kākauʻoleʻana o ke kāne i kahi male

ʻAʻole ia he mea pohihihi i ke olaʻana o ka nohona i ke kenekulia 21 ma mua o nā maka o nā kūpuna. ʻO nā leka uila, skype, chats ua hui pūʻia me ko mākou kino a me ko mākou mauʻuhane, me he mea lā,ʻaʻohe mea o mākou i koe mai ke kenekulia i hala. ʻAe,ʻaʻohe mea. Inā ma ka makahiki 19 i manaʻoʻia he hoʻokaeʻana i ka noho aupuniʻana he mea hōʻinoʻia aʻaʻole i noho i ka pilina, i kēia lā,ʻo ia kekahi o nā loina kaulana o ka noho kāne. ʻO nā kumu no ke kākauʻoleʻana o ke kāne i kahi nohona kūloko, e aʻo maiʻoe mai kā mākou puke.

Eia naʻe, i ko mākou hauʻoli aʻoliʻoli paha, aia kahi maheleʻole i loaʻa i ka hopena e hiki ke hoʻopōʻinoʻia e nā loli hou: kaʻike loiloi. A pehea kou manaʻo, pehea ka nīnau? Nāʻike e pili ana i ka hoʻokumuʻiaʻana o kaʻohana.

E hoʻomanaʻo i nā'ōlelo a kou mau kūpuna: lima i kou lima a pau, heʻelima mau keiki. Ma mua, ua pili ka pilina me ka hānau hānau keiki koke a lilo i ka hoʻomaopopoʻana i ka heluna kanaka i mea e ola ai ke kanaka hou. ʻAʻole i emi aku nā'ōpio i kēia mau lā kahiko. ʻOiai, he mau keiki liʻiliʻi i kēia lā, he nui nā poʻe i hānau, akā eia ke keiki mua i ka makahiki mua o ke ola puʻona - e maʻalahi! Akā naʻe,ʻo iaʻano makemake e hana i kaʻohana ikaika e lilo i mea pōʻino i kekahi mau mea: e wāwahiʻia nāʻohana, a haʻaleleʻia nā keiki.

1.Hochetsia hiki wawe ke komo i kahiʻaʻahu mare a me ke kūxedo maikaʻi loa? Loaʻa iāʻoe ka manawa, hikiʻole ke hoʻopauʻia ka OFFER OFFICE i kēia manawa kokoke.

2. E makemakeʻoe e nānā i ka lōʻihi e hoʻopaʻa aiʻoe i nā kui i ka pā o ka dacha, holoi holoi a hoʻomaʻemaʻe i nā kīʻaha? E noho i kahi noho maleʻana me kaʻike i nā leʻaleʻa a pau o ka noho pūʻana.

3. Ua manaʻo pahaʻoe e hoʻomaka i nā pēpē? Ke manaʻo neiʻoeʻaʻole lākou eʻoi aʻe ka paʻakikī e mālama iā lākou ma mua o ka'īlio o ka home, aʻo kāu pēpē e like me keʻano kūlana maikaʻi loa e like me ia ma luna o ka pahu poho? ʻAʻoleʻoe iʻikeʻole i ka pono, ke'ōlelo nei mākou iāʻoe e kū ma ke ao.

4. A inā no kekahi kumu e hikiʻole iāʻoe ke loaʻa nā keiki? He kumu kēia e make ai? E hoʻomanaʻo i nā mākua keʻole keikiʻole i loaʻaʻole i ka pōpilikia no ka nui o kēia maʻi.

Pehea kou manaʻo, e nā kaikamāhine, ke noi neiʻoe i kēia mau nīnau a pau? ʻO ka mea kākau o ka puke? ʻAʻole, nā kāne.

No ke aha i nīnau ai lākou i kēia mau nīnau? Nui nā kumu no kēia:

1. He'ōpiopio kāu i koho aiʻaʻole makemakeʻoe e kaumaha iāʻoe iho me ka maleʻana. Inā he'ōpiopio a maikaʻi pahaʻoe, no laila,ʻaʻoleʻoe e wikiwiki i kāu hoaaloha maikaʻi. E ulu ana ke ala. A inā ua makaukauʻoe e holoi i nā soka a hānau i kahi keiki? E alakaʻi wau i ke kāne male i ke keʻena o ke kākau inoa.

2. He kahu kālāʻo ia. Makemakeʻo ia i kahi manawa pilikino, aʻike iāʻoe ma kona'āina pono'ī, hiki iā ia ke huhū. Ka manaʻo pono'ī a me kaʻikeʻole. A iʻole paha makemakeʻo ia e inu i ka pia i ke ahiahi a iʻole, e'ōlelo aku, eʻokiʻoki i nā moku mai ka lāʻau mai, akā uaʻikeʻo ia e hōʻole pahaʻoe i ka bele? No laila, kohoʻo ia i ka mareʻana. Makemakeʻo ia e nānā iāʻoe.

3. Ua mare mua oia. ʻO ka lua "neʻe" a hiki i kēia manawa,ʻaʻohe lawa nā pūʻali. ʻAʻole paha he makana ka wahine mua a paʻi aku i kāu "cat" no ka hele hou i ke keʻena reikena hou.

4.ʻAʻoleʻo ia makemake i ka kuleana. ʻO kona ola kino ka mea e pono ai iā ia. A no ka mareʻana i kaʻaha kanaka,ʻaʻohe mea e pono ai, no ka mea,ʻaʻohe palapala e hōʻoia ana e "aloha a kōkua kekahi i kekahi me ke kaumaha a me ka hauʻoli".

5. Hoʻonohonoho kona mau hoa e kū'ē i ka male. Hoʻohui mau a me ka hōʻoia i ka ma hope o ka hōʻailona o ka palapala passport, e liloʻo ia i pelekane.

ʻO nā kumu o ka nohoʻana i ka noho maleʻana i nā kāne he nui loa. Ke manaʻo nei mākou he kumu makaʻu ka kumu kumu o nā pilikia a pau. ʻO ka hopohopo iā ia e lilo i ka pia aʻaʻoleʻo ia e kiaʻi i ka pāʻani, e hopohopo e lilo maoliʻo ia i mea kānalua, i ka hopohopo e hopohopoʻo ia no kaʻohana a pau.

E nā wāhine, inā he kanaka koʻikoʻiʻoe, ponoʻoe eʻimi i kahi kanaka e hele aku i ona lā ae ho'ōla iā ia i ka manaʻo o "kaʻaiʻana i kahi passport."