ʻO ka huiʻana o nā mea aloha ma mua o kēlā me kēia wahine maikaʻi ke kumu o ko lākou mau manaʻo kūikawā. A ma nāʻano he nui, hikiʻole ke hiki i ke kumu o kēia mau manaʻo. I ka manawa ma hope o ka hoʻokaʻawaleʻana o ka wahine i ka wahine ikaika, hiki iā ia ke hana i nā mea noʻonoʻoʻole, ma ke ala,ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke wehewehe i kēiaʻano iā ia iho.
Hoʻokahi wahine e hoʻomalu i ka mālamaʻana i ka pilina maikaʻi a me ka pilina me ka mea alohaʻole me ka pilikiaʻole, a aia nāʻano o nā wāhine, no nā makahiki a pau i hui pūʻia, e hūnā i loko o ko lākou mau naʻau i ka huhū nui a me ke alohaʻole i kā lākou mea aloha. No kēia kumu wale nō, e loaʻa ai ka pane hope loa i ka pehea e hana ai me kahi mea aloha mua a inā pono eʻaelike pū me ia no nā hālāwai, he mea paʻakikī. E ho'āʻo pū kākou a pau e hoʻomaopopo i kēia nīnau hoʻopono me ke kōkua o nā hiʻohiʻona o nāʻano nohona maʻamau.
ʻO ke kumu o nā hālāwai me ke kahu wahine
Ināʻo ia keʻano o ka mea mua i hele mai ma keʻano o ka mea nāna i hoʻokumu i ka uha o ka pilina, pono e alakaʻiʻia ka wahine e ke kumu nui -ʻaʻole e hōʻike i kona huhū a me ke kumakena no ka mea i hanaʻia. Aʻaʻole pono kēia mea ma luna o ka lōʻihi o ka pilina me kēia kanaka. Inā maikaʻi, inā ma hope o kahi manawa e hoʻolako ai ka mea aloha mua e hālāwai me ia,ʻo ka wahine, ma mua o kaʻae kūpono, pono e kaupaona i nā mea waiwai a mālamaʻole i ka pane. ʻOiaʻiʻo,ʻo ka wahine pono'ī paha nāna e hoʻokumu i nā hālāwai o nā mea aloha mua. ʻO kēia ka mea ma mua, hiki ke hilinaʻi i ka nohona hoʻonāwaliwali o kahi wahine e alakaʻiʻia e nā mea hoʻomanaʻo a me keʻano o kaʻikeʻana i kēia kanaka e pili ana iā ia. Akā, he mea pono eʻike i kēia mau hālāwai,ʻaʻole ia he hoʻomakaʻana o ka hoʻololiʻana i nā pilina a iʻole e ulu ai ka pilina ikaika. I kekahi manawa,ʻo kaʻokiʻana o nā mea alohaʻelua ma mua o keʻano: "Peheaʻoe e noho ai me aʻu?".
Inā he kāne male mua nā mea aloha mua
I kēiaʻano, he paʻakikī loa ka haʻaleleʻana i nā pilina ma waena o nā mea maʻamau, akā, no ka wahine maikaʻi. Maanei ua hoʻohuiʻia nā mea aloha ma mua ma ka moekolohe wale nō, akā ma nāʻano'ē aʻe'ē aʻe o ke ola. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻaʻole e hiki ke lilo i mau hoaaloha me ke kāne ma mua, akā,ʻaʻole heʻenemi.
Akāʻo kēlā mea kēia mea e'ōleloʻia he lohe, aʻo ke ola ma hope o kekahi manawa ma hope o ka haʻalēʻana i mua o nā hoa mua. ʻO ka hapanui pinepineʻana, e mālamaʻia kēia mau hālāwai ma kahi "ʻoihanaʻoihana" a ua hoʻolālāʻia e kahiʻoluʻolu wela (inā,ʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻaʻohe mea e pili like ai me ka wahine) a waiho i nā manaʻo maikaʻi.
Inā he mea hana i kēia manawa
He mea maʻalahi kēiaʻano i ka hui kaiaulu. ʻO ke kumu o ka wahine, i ka wā e mare ana, e hoʻomau ana e hālāwai me ke kanaka. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻaʻole hiki i nā hālāwai ke hele i kēlā me kēia manawa i kahi hana pilinaʻole, akā, heʻoluʻolu ia, akā,ʻaʻole pono e kamaʻilio i kēia i kāu wahine aiʻole e hāʻawi i nā mea a pau me kou mau manaʻo. No laila, inā hana kēia, mai haʻi aku i kāu wahine i nā moʻolelo lōʻihi e pili ana i ke ola o kāu kāne i kēia wā a me nā mea a pau e pili ana iā ia. Aʻoi aku kaʻoi aku,ʻaʻoleʻoe eʻimi i ke kumu e hōʻeuʻeu ai iʻelua mau kāne i kekahi i kekahi,ʻoiai inā he mau pilikino maikaʻi a he mau helehelena paha.
ʻO kekahi lā i ke ola o nā mea aloha kahiko
Wahi a ka poʻe loiloikala, inā noho nā hoaaloha mua i mau hoaaloha,ʻaʻoleʻenemi, i nā manawa he nui nā hālāwai i pau i ka moekolohe (keʻole ma ka hālāwai mua, akā, inā pēlā). Akā, ma hope o ka pō pōʻele, pinepine ka wahine e hoʻomaka i nā mea kānalua a me nā nīnau. No laila, inā makemake ka makuahine e hoʻomau i kēia mau hālāwai me ka mea aloha, he mea nui eʻole eʻae i ka hoʻokolowale aʻaʻole e hoʻomaka e hoʻokaʻawale i ka pilina a iʻole hou e huki i ka hala. Ma hope o nā mea a pau,ʻo ka ho'āʻoʻana e hōʻoiaʻiʻo i ke kanaka i kona hewa a me nā mea a pau e pili ana me ia,ʻo ia wale nō ka hui hope, a me ka pilina piliʻole. A i ka hope loa, inā kānaluaʻoe no ka pono o kēia mau hālāwai, e haʻaleleʻoe iā lākou ae hoʻomau i kou olaʻana!