Aia kekahiʻano maʻalahi o ka pilina o ke kāne hoʻokahi:
• nā loina maʻamau - kamaʻilio ka poʻe i kekahi me kekahi, no ka mea he hoihoi nui ko lākou, ua like lākou me nā meaʻono, nā makemake, nā makemake, he mau mea kā lākou e kamaʻilio ai;
• ka hilinaʻi - hiki iāʻoe ke'ōlelo i kekahi mea e hiki mai i kou manaʻo me ka makaʻuʻole e hōʻohewaʻiaʻoe;
• Ke hoʻokaʻawale i ka noho - nā hoaaloha e hoʻolimalima nui i ka manawa, akā he mau manaʻo likeʻole no ke ola.
Hanaʻia nā helu a pau i ka pilina ma waena o kekahi kāne a me ka wahine? Ehia ka lōʻihi? E noʻonoʻo kākou i nā mea likeʻole.
ʻO ka moeʻuhane a nā keiki
Loaʻa i nā kaikamahine a pau he keiki kāne'ōpio, a holoʻo ia a puni ka pākū i ka lā a pau, e pāʻani ana i kahi huna, eʻimi, e piʻi i nā lāʻau, a noho paha i kahi papa hana kula, e hana i nā haʻawina home a me ka holo wāwae i nā kula. Hiki i nā variants keʻano'ē aʻe, akā i loko o kahi papa kulanui,ʻo ka'ahamele a kula paha - he hoaalohaʻiʻo no ka maopopo iāʻoe. ʻOʻoe he mau hoaaloha me ia,ʻoiaʻiʻo! Ua pāʻani pū mākou, uaʻakaʻaka mākou,ʻo nā mea a pau e like me ia. ʻO ka pilina wale nō? Ke'ōlelo nei nā kākema noiʻi, i loko o 70% o ka pilina keiki i waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine, he'oniʻoli kino ka mea, akā,ʻaʻole nā keiki i maopopo i kēia, akā naʻe, ua hukiʻia kekahi i kekahi, makemake lākou e hoʻolimalima manawa. ʻO ka mea nui,ʻo ka pilina aloha o nā keiki me nā keiki e hele i loko o ka aloha aloha i ka wā'ōpio, a ke hoʻopau nei kēia i nā pilina aloha, e ulu ana i ka pilina pili me nā manaʻo kuhihewa a me nā mismatches ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine. Ināʻaʻohe hoʻokōʻana, hiki iā lākou ke hoʻopau i ka manaʻo o ka heleʻana i ka wahine a hiki i ka manawa e hiki ai iā ia ke huki. He lili hūnāʻia aʻoi aku hoʻi he hoa noho mau o ia mau pilina. A hiki ke hanana i nā hanana, e like me ia i ka pila "ʻO ka hoaaloha maikaʻi loa," kahi iʻikeʻia ai ka hoaaloha a kekahi hoaaloha he mea hoʻokūkū. A he mea maʻamau loa kēia, ma hope o nā mea a pau, no ka manawa lōʻihi e launa pū ana me kahi kanaka,ʻike i kona mau mea maikaʻi a me nā pono, hoʻomaka mākou e koi aku me kaʻikeʻole. E noʻonoʻo i kāu mea e hana ai inā makemake kou hoa e male a hele i kekahi kūlanakauhale'ē aʻe?
E kokoke
Ma waena o nā hihia he 95 ma waena o hoʻokahi haneli i loko o ka pilina aloha ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine, hiki i kekahi ke noʻonoʻo i kekahi ma mua o ke aloha, a ke manaʻolana nei ma ka wā e hiki mai ana no ka pilina koʻikoʻi. A i kēia manawa, a hiki i ka manawa eʻike ai kekahi hoaaloha, kokoke iā ia, i kekahi manawa e mālama iā ia, a ma ka manawa like e hahai ai i kona ola pono'ī, e hāʻawi i ka'ōlelo aʻo,ʻaʻole i nā manawa pono. Hiki iāʻoe ke pale aku a ma hope paha i kahi hoaaloha, no ka meaʻo wai ke makemake eʻike i lalo o ka "cap"? No laila, maikaʻi e hoʻokuʻu i kahi kūlana, e hāʻawi iāʻoe iho me kou hoaaloha me ke kuokoa - no laila, eʻike kokeʻo ia keʻoleʻoeʻaʻole he wahi.
Malia paha he puke?
No ka hoʻomaopopoʻana i kouʻano e pili ana i kāu kāne kāne, e pane i kekahi mau nīnau: 1. Ua makaukau aneiʻoe e pani i kou mau maka i nā hemahema he nui o kāu hoaaloha? 2. E hoʻololi paha kāu pilina ināʻaʻole "nā mea i loko o kouʻono". 3. Eʻike ana i kāu hoaaloha ma ka lā aloha, kākau mālieʻo ia i kahi SMS-ki? Ināʻoluʻoluʻoe e pane aku i ka'enehi o kēia mau nīnau, a laila,ʻo kāu hoaaloha he mea hauʻoli ia.
Lilo Exchange
Hoʻopaʻapaʻa kekahi mau psychologists a me nā mea 'ē aʻeo ke' ano o ka loina ma ka hoʻopiʻi e pili ana i ka pilina ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine 'aʻole ia he' ano hana kūlohelohe, no ka mea, i kēlā me kēia hihia e mahalo kākou i kekahi i kekahi me he mea 'ē. I nā minuke mua loa o ka wā e hoʻomana ai ke kanaka i nā hiʻona o waho o ka wahine, eʻike ai i kona ala a me ka paʻana. He mea paʻakikī ke pale aku i ka hoʻonaniʻana, a he mea hiki paha iāʻoe ke pale aku i ke aloha no ka manawa wale nō. Ke like ka mea like me ka wahine nani. A ma ke ala,ʻo ka pilina ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine he mea kūʻai kūikawā kūikawā maoli nō, no ka mea e pili ana nā meaʻelua i loko o ia mau pilina pili i kēia pilina. Akā, uaʻike lākou i kahi haʻahaʻa hoihoiʻana. Ke ala mai ka leo, nā papalina i'ōniʻomaʻo, aia ka maka i nā maka o nā meaʻelua, e lilo kaʻakaʻaka i mea lele -ʻo ia nā kānāwai o keʻano,ʻaʻohe mea e hiki ke hanaʻia e pili ana. No laila, ua hakakā nā mea loea ma ke kahua o ke kūkinoʻalea e hiki koke mai paha ma waena paha o ke kāne a me ka wahine i kahi pilina. A uaʻike maopopo loa lākou i kēia meaʻole mai nā minuke mua loa o kaʻike,ʻoiai ināʻaʻole lākou e hōʻoia ia mea no lākou iho.
Ma kaʻaelike
Aia kekahi mahele'ē aʻe o kahi pilina'ē aʻe. A ma ke ala,ʻo ka hale paʻa loa i ka manawa i lilo ai lākou i mau aloha, ma kaʻae likeʻana i kālepaʻia, akā,ʻaʻole makemake i ka hoʻopauʻana i ka kamaʻilioʻana i kaʻuhane. ʻO ka pilina e like me ka pono a me ka hāmama,ʻaʻohe mea pohihihi a pāʻani paha i waena o nā hoa. ʻOiaʻiʻo, no ka nānāʻana o kāu mau hapaʻelua i kēlāʻano aloha -ʻo ia kekahi nīnau'ē aʻe! ʻO ka hoʻomaopopoʻana i ka mea e moe nei ma hope o kahi pilina'ē aʻe e pili ana i nā hoaaloha. He mea maikaʻi kēia pāʻani, i kekahi manawa he pilikia. ʻOʻoe ke koho!