Aia koke kekahi keiki me nā'ōlohelohe maikaʻi i hōʻikeʻia i loko o ka lumi papa a hoʻololi koke ka lewa. ʻO kēia mau keiki e ho'āʻo nei no ka hōʻoiaʻiʻoʻana, akā, ma ka liloʻana o nā mea'ē aʻe,ʻo ia hoʻi, e hōʻino a hoʻohaʻahaʻa paha i kekahi, e hoʻololi i nā keiki i kekahi i kekahi. Ma kēiaʻano,ʻo nā haumāna o kā lākouʻano keʻano maikaʻi a maʻaʻole i ka hoʻomāinoino, hiki ke pilikia. No laila, i ka laweʻana o nā mākua i kā lākou mau keiki i ka papa mua, pono lākou e makaʻala i ka wā mua, aʻike lākou i ka hui a pau o nā keiki. Eia kekahi laʻana, inā manaʻo nā mākua he pilikia paha kā lākou keiki me kona mau hoa,ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ke kamaʻilioʻana me ia me ka hoʻomākaukauʻana iā ia no kekahi kūlana. Ma kēiaʻano e hoʻomaopopo ai ke keiki i kahi e kūpono ai me ka hanohano mai kahi nohona. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻaʻole ia he mea huna i kekahi mea i kekahi hihia,ʻaʻole hiki ke kū'ē i nā paio. ʻAʻole kūpono nā pono o nā kānaka, no laila he mea pono ke mālama i kēia mālie aʻaʻole e holo i ka hakakā a ho'āʻo e hoʻopaʻa i nā pilina me ka hakakāʻole o nā paio. ʻAʻole hiki iāʻoe ke makemake i nā mea a pau, maopopo lākou a pau i kēia. No laila, pono nā mākua e wehewehe i ke keikiʻaʻole he pono e makemake nā mea a pau iā ia,ʻo kekahi aʻaʻole paha aloha iā ia.
Aʻo ka mea nui loa,ʻo ia ke hōʻailona i ke keiki iʻole e ho'āʻo e loaʻa ka mahalo i nā keiki e nā mana ma o nā makana. Pono pono i ke keiki e pale aku iā ia iho aʻike i ka ponoʻole e hāʻawi i ka hakakā. ʻO kekahi o nā koho maikaʻi loa ka loaʻaʻana o ka pilina like me nā mea a pau. No laila, maikaʻiʻole ke kākoʻo i kaʻaoʻao o kekahi ma nā hihia. Hiki ke hana i kēia ma ka hanaʻana i kekahi kumu. Inā pili mau ke keiki me nā hoa, pono i nā mākua ke haʻi i ke kumu no nā pilikia o kā lākou keiki. Pono e mālama ponoʻaʻole ke keiki i ko lākou mau hoa. Ināʻaʻohe pili kahi keiki, a laila hiki iāʻoe ke hana i nā mākua. Aia kekahi mau keiki kuhihewa, i kēia manawa hoʻi, pono nā mākua e kōkua i ke keiki. I kekahi manawa'ōlelo lākouʻaʻole pono i nā mākua ke pale i ka pilina o nā keiki, no ka mea, pono lākou e hoʻoponopono i ko lākou mau pilikia. ʻAʻole i'āponoʻia kēia ma nā hihia a pau.
ʻO ka mea mua, pono ke kākoʻo mau ke keiki mai nā mākua. A he mea nui e hui like nā keiki me ko lākou mau mākua. E mālie nā mākua, inā ua lilo lākou i mea maʻamau. ʻOiai ināʻaʻole eʻae ke keiki i nā mākua e komo i loko o kēia kūlana, hiki i kekahi ke'ōlelo pehea e holo pololei ai. ʻO nā mākua a pau o nā keikikāne e makemake i kā lākou mau keiki e kū i luna no lākou iho, inā he mea pono a me ke kōkuaʻana o nā kula. Hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻouna aku i nā keikikāne i nā papa haʻuki no ka mālamaʻana iā lākou iho. Nui nāʻano pilina ma ka hui o nā keiki:
1. haʻaleleʻole;
2. ka hōʻoleʻana;
3. ka hōʻole hana;
4. ka hoʻomāinoino.
Eia kekahi laʻana,ʻaʻole i ukuʻia kahi keiki, no ka meaʻaʻole i loaʻa. ʻAʻole loaʻa iā ia kekahi kuleana,ʻaʻohe mea pāʻani aʻaʻohe hoihoi i kēia keiki. ʻAʻoleʻike ka keiki i nā helu kelepona o kāna mau hoa papa,ʻaʻohe o kona mau hoaaloha e kono iā ia e kipa. A ma ka home,ʻaʻoleʻo ia e kūkākūkā i kekahi mea aʻaʻole'ōleloʻo ia no kāna kula.
Pono nā mākua e kamaʻilio me ke kumu a ho'āʻo e hoʻokumu i ka pilina me nā keiki, i mea e loaʻa ai i kā lākou keiki nā hoaaloha. Aia kekahi mau hihia i ka manawa e makemakeʻole ai nā hoa papa e noho ma kahi papaʻaina,ʻaʻole makemake lākou e noho i kaʻaha kaʻani like, no lailaʻaʻole makemake kēia keiki e hele i ke kula, a mai ka lumi papa i hele mai i loko o kahiʻano kino. Mākua nā mākua e kōkua i kā lākou mau keiki. E ho'āʻo e hoʻohuli i nā keiki i kekahi papa'ē aʻe aiʻole i kahi kula'ē aʻe, e ho'āʻo e hōʻike i ke kūlana i ke kumu, hiki iāʻoe ke huli i kahi mea kālaika.
Aia kekahi mau hihia i ka wa e hoʻohenehene mauʻia nā keiki, i kapaʻia, i ka wa e hoʻomanaʻo mauʻia ai. I ka hahauʻia paha, hiki iā lākou ke lawe aku a hao i kā lākou mau mea. Hiki pinepine nā keiki i nāʻeha, nā pilikino, hiki iā lākou ke nalowale ke kālā. He pilikia nui kēia e pono e mālamaʻia iʻole e hoʻokaʻawaleʻia nā keiki mai ka hui. Hiki i nā mākua ke hele i kahi psychologist a kūkākūkā i kēia pilikia. Hoʻomaopopo nā keiki a pau i ka naʻau a he maʻalahi lākou e hōʻino ai, no laila, ponoʻoe e pale iā lākou. I kēia manawa uaʻikeʻoe pehea e aʻo ai i ke keikikāne e hoʻoholo i nā hakakā ma ka hui.