I kekahi manawa,ʻaʻole oʻu manaʻo e ala, e makemake wau e moe aʻike aʻike i kēia moe. Ua moe mau mākou a pau i kahi moeʻuhane paʻakikī, a ma hope o kekahi moeʻuhane weliweli loa, makemake wau e aʻo hou aku e pili ana i nā moeʻeleʻele, a me kā lākou moeʻuhane. No laila, he aha keʻano o nā moe nane?
'Ōlelo nā kānaka hoʻonaʻauao e'ōlelo ana nā moe maʻamau a me nā "moe e pili ana i ke aloha" i nā keiki, a ua lilo mākou i ka mea nui a me kaʻike nui,ʻo kaʻoi aku o kā mākou mau moe. Aʻike nā wāhine mai ka 25 a hiki i ka 40 makahiki moe. Manaʻo nā kānakaʻepekema e pili ana i ka 10% o nā moeʻuhane i loko o ka poʻe - keʻole. Pau ka moeʻeleʻele me ka'olikala no 55% o nā wahine a he 15% o nā kāne mai 25 a 35 mau makahiki.
No laila he aha keʻano o ka moeʻuhane waha? A he aha ka mea e moeʻuhane ai mākou no lākou? Hiki paha iā lākou ke hoʻokomo i ko lākou makemake nui, aʻaʻole paha lākou i makemake i ka makemake, akā kekahi mea i kēlā me kēia lā. Hiki paha iā mākou ke moeʻuhane no ka moekolohe, no ka mea, aia kekahi o nā wahi nui o ko mākou ola, aʻaʻole au e manaʻo e hōʻoleʻia.
A ke loaʻa nei kāua i kahi koraka ma ka moeʻuhane? ʻAe,ʻoiaiʻo kā mākou wahine maikaʻi eʻoluʻoluʻole i ka leʻaleʻa ma mua o nā kāne, akā i ka wāʻelemakule, eʻike nui ana nā kānaka i nā moe o keʻano'ōlohelohe. Ke moe mauʻia nei nā moe erotic e nā poʻe i hoʻonele maoliʻia i ka moekolohe,ʻo ia hoʻi, hōʻike ia i ka hoʻohaʻahaʻaʻia o kekahi kanaka. Manaʻo nā kānakaʻepekema he pilikino kaʻike o nā kāne i piha i ka iwakālua o nā makahiki, aʻo ka wahine ma hope o ke kanahā,ʻo ia wale nō kēia mau makahiki i manaʻoʻia he mau makahiki hilahilaʻole. Ma keʻano maʻamau,ʻaʻole i manaʻoʻia nā moeʻuhane o ka'ōlohelohe o ke kino, he mea hoʻololi, a no lailaʻaʻole lākou e makaʻu.
Uaʻike nā kāne kilokilo i nāʻano moeʻuhaneʻekolu. ʻO ka mea mua e weheʻia,ʻo ia hoʻi, he moekolohe ko ke kanaka ma ka moeuhane,ʻo ia mau moeʻuhane e hana pinepine i nā makemake huna, peheaʻoe e makemake ai, akā he aha kāu e paneʻole ai.
Hoʻokaʻawaleʻia ka lua o nāʻano,ʻo ka lolo e hūnā i ka moe, no laila, he moeʻuhane aʻaʻole ia e poino, akā,ʻo ka meaʻike i ka moe moe eʻike i nā mea a pau a ma muli o ka hopena o ka hopena o ka wahine.
ʻO ke kolu o nāʻano heʻole,ʻo ia hoʻi, nā moe e pili ana i ka hoʻololi kāne kāne a iʻole ka pili kāne kāne,ʻaʻole kēia mau moe i manaʻo i kekahi meaʻino aʻaʻole hoʻi e lawe i kekahi pilikia. E nā kāne, ma ke ala e moe mau ai i nā moeʻuhane, ma kahi eʻike ai lākou iā lākou iho he mau wāhine.
ʻO ka moekolohe he wahi hilahilaʻole ia e hiki ai i ka mea hiamoe ke moe me kekahi hoa moe e pili ana iā ia aʻaʻole hoʻi e ala. ʻO kēia kekahi o nāʻano likeʻole o ka moeʻana, me nā moe momona.
Hiki ke ho'ākākaʻia nā moeʻuhane e like me kekahi moeʻuhane - e like me ka laʻana, ināʻikeʻoe i ke kamaliʻi ma ka moeʻuhane, a laila,ʻoluʻolu kēia. Ke hoʻololi neiʻo Sigmund Freud i ka'āpana o ka moeʻuhane. Uaʻike nā kāne kilokilo i ka moe male a me ka moeʻuhane e pili ana i ka wahine. Eia ka wehewehe o nā moe maʻamau. ʻO wai kāu moe me ka moeʻuhane? A he aha keʻano o nā moe nane?
Ināʻoe e hiamoe me kahi kāne aloha a kāne paha - he nui nā wāhine e hoʻomaka e hopohopo a hopohopo paha i ka moekolohe ma ka moeʻuhane me ko lākou ex. ʻO ka mea nui,ʻaʻole ia he mea weliweli -ʻoiai āu i loaʻa ai i kekahi manawa wela no ia, a me ka huhū paha. Manaʻo nā kāne kilokilo e pili ana ka moekolohe me kahi mea i aloha muaʻia i kou mau kuko huna, kahi eʻeha ana i waho. Pēlā hoʻi, ka pili me ka hoa o ka papa aiʻole me kekahi hoa papaʻana, ka meaʻaʻoleʻoe i ka hanu maoli, e hōʻailona ana i kou makemake no ke kuokoa. ʻO ka moekolohe me kahi hoalauna hoahewa,ʻo ia kou manaʻo no nā māhoe i manaʻoʻoleʻia a huli i loko o kāu wahine ola, a makemakeʻoe i kekahi mea hou a manawaʻole, e like me ka wahine ma kahi i manaʻoʻoleʻia eʻoe, a iʻole kekahi mea i manaʻoʻoleʻia, akā me ka hope hope, ke aʻo aku nei au iāʻoeʻaʻole e hoʻokolohua inā Loaʻa iāʻoe kekahi hoa pili no ka wahine.
Inā piliʻoe i kāu kiʻi a iʻole wale paha me kahi kanaka kaulana , e like me Mel Gibbson aʻo Bruce Willis paha,ʻo ia hoʻi, he makemake hūnā kou e makemakeʻoe eʻike, makemakeʻoe e loaʻa ka mea āu i loaʻaʻole a lailaʻo kāu mea i loaʻaʻole. A iʻoleʻoe i loaʻaʻole i kāu kanaka maikaʻi loa, a no laila e pani ai me ke mele kaulana loa i kou manaʻo. Hmm, 'aʻole makemake e moe me Mel Gibbson a me Richard Gere?
Inā piliʻoe i kahi kanakaʻoluʻoluʻole a hoʻowahāwahā iāʻoe - manaʻo nā psychologists e makemakeʻoe e loaʻa iā ia nāʻano pono'ī i loko ona, makemakeʻoe e like me ia, akā manaʻoʻoe heʻuʻuku kēia noʻoe. A eia naʻe, inā he moeʻuhane kou e like me kēia, mai huhū, e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i nāʻano āu e makemake e lawe ai i loko ou.
A pehea hoʻi inā he wahine wahaheʻeʻoe ma ka moeʻuhane, a iʻoleʻoe e moe me ka wahine ? Mahalo wau i ka nui o nā kānaka e makemake e ho'āʻo i ka wahine me kekahi wahine'ē aʻe? Ehia mau wahine like? ʻAʻole hiki i nā mea a pau keʻaʻa i kēia mea, no ka mea,ʻo ka wahine,ʻaʻohe mea e like me kā mākou hana i ka moeʻana me ke kanaka. Akā, e hoʻi kākou i nā moeʻuhane, ka moekolohe me ka wahine he moeʻuhane no ka wahine i ke kaumahaʻole, a ināʻoe e moeʻuhane nei, e hōʻike ana i kou makemake e like me ia, e like me ia. Hoʻohālikelikeʻia nō hoʻi eʻoi aku ke akahai o kāu hoa i kēia manawa a hōʻike aku i ke aloha a me ke aloha, no ka mea,ʻo ka wahine o nā wahineʻelua iʻoi aku ka nui o ke aloha a me ke aloha.
ʻO ka manawa maʻamau i ka moeʻuhane, ua pili mākou i ka malihini. ʻO ka mea maʻamau,ʻaʻole e waihoʻia nā manaʻo maikaʻiʻole,ʻo ia mauʻano moeʻuhane keʻano o kou luhi i nā lā a pau, a makemakeʻoe e hoʻololi i kekahi mea i loko o kou ola, eʻike i kekahi mau mea. No laila, e hoʻoikaika i nā wāhine waiwai e hoʻololi i kekahi mea ma ko lākou ola, e hoʻokomo i kekahi mea hou i kāu hana maʻamau. Inā piliʻoe i ka malihini ma kahi ākea ma ka moeuhane, aiʻole inā i loaʻaʻoe i kēia hihia, ponoʻoe e inu i nā mea loea, no ka mea,ʻo ia mau moeʻuhane ke hōʻailona nei i kou hopohopo.
Inā moeʻuhaneʻoe e masturbate,ʻo ia hoʻi he haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻaʻoe, e hoʻomakaʻoe e mahalo iāʻoe iho. ʻO kekahi poʻe e moe nei i loko o ke kino o ke kāne,ʻo ia hoʻi heʻimi i ka maʻalahi, ke kānalua neiʻoe i ka mea a kou hoa e manaʻo ai i ka wā e pili ai i ka wahine.
Ma hope o kāu hanaʻana i kāu mau moeʻuhane no nā mea'eleʻaleʻa, e hele e pili i ka hopena o ka hopena, e manaʻo ana nā haumāna psychologists hiki ke hoʻonohonohoʻia nā moeʻuhane maʻamau. Ma mua,ʻo nā yogis wale nō, nā poʻe hana a me nā poʻe haole i hoʻokomo i kēia hana,ʻo ia hoʻi, ua kauoha lākou i nā moe. I mea e hoʻonohonoho ai i kahi moe maʻamau, ponoʻoe i ka hoʻonaʻauao a lōʻihi ka manawa. ʻAʻoleʻo ka loaʻa iāʻoe i ka manawa mua a iʻole ka manawaʻelua, akā hiki iāʻoe ke koho i kekahi pilina no ka hoʻokipaʻana i nā moe kolohe ma ka moeʻuhane.
A no laila, inā makemakeʻoe i kēia manaʻo, a laila hoʻomaka e hana i nā kūpono kūpono,ʻo ia hoʻi, mai inuʻoe i kaʻaina a me ke kope i kaʻaina awakea, pono loa kēia lā. E inu i ka wai, a mai inuʻoe i ka mea inu waiʻona. Ma mua o kou moeʻanaʻaʻoleʻoe e hana aʻaʻole e noʻonoʻo i kekahi mea - e ho'āʻo e hoʻomaha ākea. E moe no ke poʻo i lalo, aʻoi aku ka moe maikaʻi ma kou kua. ʻAʻole hiki ke hoʻonāukiuki i kahi walaʻau nui. Mai hiamoe hiamoe, e noʻonoʻo i ke kūlana, pehea a kahi e makemake aiʻoe e moekolohe, aʻo ka mea nui loa me wai! E ho'āʻoʻoeʻaʻole e hiamoe, akā,ʻaʻole ponoʻoe e makaala, eʻikeʻoe i kēiaʻano gula, ae noho ma kēia moku no ka hola heʻumi. ʻO ka pilikia me nā poʻe hoʻomaka,ʻo ia ke hāʻule koke i ka hiamoe. Aʻo voila, ma hope o ka hola a me ka hapalua ma hope o ka hiamoeʻana, e heleʻoe i kahi āu e moe ai ma kāu hōʻike, aʻo ka mea nui loa me kahi āu e noho nei. Eʻoliʻoli i kāu mau moe, e nā wāhine aloha!