He aha keʻano o kāu moeʻuhane mau?
ʻO ka wahine aloha ma mua o kahi hoaaloha mua a male kāne paha. ʻAʻole kēia manaʻoʻaʻole makemakeʻoe e hoʻopoina iā ia, a iʻole he makemake iā ia a aloha paha i nā manaʻo no ia. Loaʻa, he mau pilikia kekahi i pilikiaʻole ma waena o kāua me aʻu. Ua huhū pahaʻoe iā ia i kauʻia aʻaeʻole i nāʻaha. He hapa pololei kēia i ka uhakiʻana i kou mau pilina -ʻoiai,ʻaʻole i pau i ka hopena. He kūpono ka hanaʻana i nāʻano likeʻole o ka hālāwai e hiki ai keʻike i nā nīnau a pau a waiho wale kekahi i kekahi me ka manawa.
ʻO ka moe ma kahi ākea a inā i loaʻaʻoe i ka moekolohe. ʻO ka leitmotif nui o ia kūlana he hopohopo. Hiki ke hana ia i nā pilikia i kāu pilina me kāu mea i aloha ai, aiʻole i ka hopohopo i ka pili kinoʻana, a me nā mea makaʻu. E noʻonoʻo i kāu mea hopohopo no ka pili. Hiki iāʻoe ke hana i ka hopohopo iāʻoe iho, e hana, akā,ʻole - e hele i kahi loilokino maikaʻi.
ʻO ka wahine me kekahi wahineʻokoʻa. Ua hopohopo kekahi mau wāhine i nā moeʻuhane - kahi hōʻailona o ka moekolohe huna. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, he mea paʻakikī kēia. ʻO ka manawa maʻamau ka wahine iʻike iāʻoe ma ka moeʻuhane, e hoʻohuhu iāʻoe i kona helehelena, ke kūlana hana, ka hiki ke noho i loko o nā kānaka. ʻO kou mau "wānana" e hōʻailona ana i ka makemake e piʻi i ka kiʻekiʻe o kāu "hoa", e like me ia.
ʻO kahi moe kolohe me kekahi hoa hana a iʻole kekahi hoaaloha. ʻO ia mau moeʻuhaneʻaʻole ia i keʻakeʻa i kāu hiʻona huna i kahi kanaka. ʻO ka mea maʻamau, ua hoʻokū'ēʻia nā moe e like me ka hopena o ka pā, aʻaʻoleʻoe iʻoluʻolu i kekahi mea i loko o kou ola pono'ī, aiʻole ua hōʻehaʻoe i kāu hana (ināʻikeʻoe i kekahi hoa ma kāu mau moe). ʻO ka moe i loko o ia mau moeʻuhane, e like me keʻano, heʻano hōʻoluʻolu a ua hoʻohuiʻia.
Man vvshih moe kolohe
ʻO kāu kāne (mare 45% o nā wāhine). ʻO ka hapanui pinepineʻo kēia ka hiʻohiʻona o nā wāhine i hoʻopalau houʻia a ua noho like i ka male no ka manawa pōkole. Inā lōʻihiʻoe i maleʻana, a laila,ʻo ka moe koloheʻana me ke komoʻana o ke kāne e makaʻuʻoe e hemo loa. Ke makemake neiʻoe i kāu makemake, akā,ʻaʻole hiki iāʻoe ke pane aku i kāu kāne. Mahalo pahaʻoe i ka hewa i mua o kāu kāne no kekahi mea. Mai makaʻu, hoʻokolohua! He nui (ināʻaʻole nā mea) o nā kāne wale nō ka hauʻoli inā haʻaleleʻoe i ka hana a hāʻawi hou i kahi mea hou i ka wahine. E hoʻokuʻu iāʻoe iho, ma hope o nā mea a pau, kahi o ka kuʻuna o loko a me ka hoʻokuʻu.
ʻO ka wahine aloha mua (23% o nā wāhine) keʻikeʻia i loko o nā manaʻo o ke kanaka manaʻo e hoʻomau mau i ko lākou manaʻo. Akā,ʻaʻole kēlā manaʻo manaʻo e hoʻihoʻi i ka pilina kahiko (mai hana i kēia kuhihewa!). He mea ho'āʻo wale nō eʻike hou i nā manaʻo āu iʻike ai i kekahi manawa. He mea maikaʻi no ka hoʻiʻana i ka manawa o ke aloha aloha - no laila, mai hōʻoleʻoe iāʻoe iho i kahi lima lima.
ʻO ka poʻe kaulana (15% o nā wāhine) ua moeʻuhaneʻia e ka poʻe i aloha i ka hua i papaʻia. Makemakeʻoe e loaʻa kekahi mea e hikiʻole ke loaʻa iāʻoe ma ke ola. A,ʻaʻole ia wale nō e pili ana i nā kāne. ʻOiai,ʻaʻole i loaʻa iāʻoe he kanaka "ʻoiaʻiʻo" a hoʻopau iā ia i nā hilinaʻi me kona kiʻi pilikino.ʻO ia mauʻano haʻalulu i kekahi manawa ke kuhikuhi nei kekahiʻano infantilism.
ʻO kahi malihini (15% o nā wāhine) i ka moekolohe i loko o ka poʻe i hoʻolālā i ka manaʻo a keʻimi nei i ka hele. Uaʻikeʻia hoʻiʻo kēlā mau wāhine iʻike i ko lākou mau manaʻo hilahila o ka poʻe malihini, heʻano haʻalulu maikaʻi lākou.
Alohaʻoe i ke aloha?
I ke kakahiaka, i ka wā ma hope o ka hakiʻana. Ua hoʻokuʻu loaʻiaʻoe, e hilinaʻi iāʻoe iho a mai hōʻalo i kāuʻikepili waho. Hoʻopiliʻia ma hope o ka moeʻana o nā hoa moe i piha i ka ikaika, akā naʻe,ʻaʻole i maopopo i ko lākou manaʻo. Akā, e maʻalahi a paʻa ka wahine - e noʻonoʻoʻoe i kēia āu credo.
Mamua o ka moe, he wahine ponoʻoe, e like me ka hahaiʻana i nā kuʻuna. Hōʻike kaʻaina ahiahi i kāu wikiwiki a male mare. ʻO ia hoʻi, makemakeʻoe i ke ola i hoʻonohonoho ponoʻia.
I waenakonu o ka lā. ʻOʻoe kahi pilikino kūikawā, he meaʻokoʻa. Heleʻoe a me kāu hoa "e holo" e kū'ē i kēia manawa, e uhaʻi i nāʻano hilinaʻi aʻaʻole e hoʻolohe i nā rula. He kūʻokoʻaʻoe, me ka manawaʻole a me ka manaʻo kipi kipi. Ke huli nei kēlā poʻe i ko mākou Honua, me ka manaʻo nui.