ʻO ka mea kēia o ka nui o nā wāhine e hana nei ma kēiaʻano. Akāʻo ka mea makemake, ke hoʻomanaʻo neiʻoe, nā pāpale lōʻihi a iʻole ka lauoho lauoho? E noʻonoʻo kākou i ka mea e pono ai ke kaikamahine - ka lauoho lauoho a iʻole ke kīlele pokole. Akāʻo nā mea a pau.
He nui nā kaikamāhine hou i kēia wā e komo i nā lauoho loloa. Nani, kūpono, maʻalahi a me nā lā hou! ʻO kahiʻulu pale pokole e hana i keʻano o ke kuokoa a me ka kuokoa. Eia naʻe, pono e hoʻomaopopoʻia ua lōʻihi ka lōʻihi o ka hanaʻana i nā lauohoʻokoʻa. I kēia mau lā, he nui nā kaikamāhine me ka lauoho lōʻihi lōʻihi o ka leʻaleʻa, e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ana i ko lākouʻano male a me ke kiʻi likeʻole. Pēlā e maikaʻi ai i nā kaikamāhine ke lōʻihi o ka lauoho a iʻole ke kīlele pokole paha? A, no ka mea,ʻaʻole loa he pane paneʻoleʻia i kēia nīnau.
He mea hauʻoli e hoʻomanaʻo mau ana ka nui o ka wahine maikaʻi ma ka naʻau e makemake nā kānaka i ka lauoho lōʻihi ma luna o ke poʻoʻono o ko lākou hoa. ʻOiai, he lauoho lōʻihi mākou e hoʻohui ai me ka wahine, ka nani, ke kāʻei i ka mea hilahila a me ka maʻalea. I kēia hihia,ʻo ka lōʻihi o ka lauoho,ʻo ka maikaʻi. ʻO ka manawa hoʻokahi, kahi lauoho pōkole, he nui nā kānaka eʻike nei he lauoho like kanaka a he mea kūpono hoʻi i kāna hoa maikaʻi.
He nui nā kānaka e kū'ē i kā lākou kaikamahine i kahi pōkole pōkole. Eia kekahi, inā ua lōʻihi ka lauoho o ke kaikamahine, a nui loa i hele aku i ona lā. Aia kekahi poʻe kāne a ua mākaukau e hoʻopau i ka pilina me kā lākou mea aloha, inā e hoʻomau mauʻo ia iā ia a hele i ka pale pale no kaʻokiʻana i kona lauoho. Hōʻikeʻia kēia ma nā noiʻiʻana o nā kānaka ma kēia mau pilikia, i mālamaʻia e nā māhele wahine.
Akā hoʻi, he nui nā kāne iʻike i ka wahine i ka pololei. ʻAʻole lākou makemake i ka lauoho (ʻaʻole paha he lōʻihi a pōkole paha,ʻaʻole ia he mea), akāʻo ke kaikamahine i konaʻano holoʻokoʻa: kona hiʻohiʻona, kona hiʻohiʻona, ke akahele. A, no ka mea,ʻo ka hiʻona o kekahi kaikamahine, kona hilinaʻi wahine, a me konaʻano (ka pilina, ka lokomaikaʻi a me ka maʻalahi, ka lokomaikaʻi a me ke aloha) he mea nui loa ia (a he mea kūpono paha).
E noʻonoʻo pono mākou i nā kānaka i ka mahalo nui i nā kaikamāhine i ka mea a lākou e nele ai - ke aloha, kaʻoluʻolu o keʻano, ke aloha. Hiki iā ia ke hoʻopili i ka lauoho. Malia paha,ʻaʻole mākou e kuhihewa ke'ōlelo mākou e komo ka lauoho loloa o kēlā kanaka kēia kanaka i ka puʻuwai. Akāʻo ka pāpale pokole eʻoluʻolu i ke kanaka, keʻole inā he mea nui i kou maka. Eia kekahi laʻana,ʻo keʻano o ka lauoho pōkole ke hoʻolilo iāʻoe i'ōpiopio aʻoi aku leʻaleʻa, aʻaʻole e loli ka lauoho lōʻihi iāʻoe. I kēia kūlana,ʻoiaʻiʻo, makemake kāu punahele punahele i ka mea ulana palekana nou. A he mau mea nui aʻe. ʻAʻole hiki i ka lauoho lōʻihi wale ke hoʻoluʻolu i kahi kanaka, ināʻaʻole lākou i kāhiko maikaʻiʻia. No laila, inā makemakeʻoe e hoʻomālamalama i kou lauoho lōʻihi i mua o kāu mea i aloha ai, ponoʻoe e mālama i kekahiʻano kūpono, i maʻalahi kou lauoho, a hoʻopaʻaʻia a no ka manawa lōʻihi i mālama i ka nānā pono.
ʻO ka lauoho loloa maikaʻi i nā manawa a pau. ʻO kēia ka hōʻailona o ka moekolohe, a me kekahi māhele o ka hiʻona wahine kūikawā. I waena o nā mea'ē aʻe, e hiki i ka lauoho loloa ke hiki i ka mea nāna ke hoʻopili i ka lauoho. Loaʻa iāʻoe nā manawa a pau e lilo i mō'īwahine no ka hoʻolauleʻa, ma ka hanaʻana i ka lauoho kiʻekiʻe a me ka nani. Hiki iā ia ke koho iāʻoe e koho i ka mea nānā i ka lauoho akamai. E manaʻoʻiʻo mai iaʻu, eia keʻanoʻoihanaʻoihana iāʻoe e pono loa!
ʻAʻole likeʻole ka lauoho lōʻihi, kahi kīlele pōkole i hāʻawiʻole i ke kaikamahine i nā manawa kūpono e hoʻololi ai i ke kiʻi. Loaʻa iā ia kahi'ōmaʻomaʻi lauoho, hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻolālā nani i ka lauoho me ka lauoho a me nā mea palekana, me ka hoʻololi iki i nā pale o ka lauoho, e hāʻawi ana i ka nānāʻana i ke ahiahi. Akā,ʻo kaʻoluʻolu o ka lauoho a me ka maʻalahi o ka hana i kēlā me kēia lā, hoʻonāukiuki i nā kaikamāhine e koho i kahi'ōmahi lauoho.
He mea nui loa ke kaikamahine (no kaʻumi o kona hulu eʻoni nei)ʻaʻole ia e komo i ka lauoho i kona lauoho. ʻO ka mea a pau,ʻaʻohe kanaka e makemake, inā i ka moe a ma ke kauwela paha i ka mauʻu e hoʻomalu mau ka wahine i kona lauoho - ma kahi o ka hauʻoli o ka kamaʻilioʻana me kāna mea i aloha ai. Aʻo ka mea nui,ʻaʻole makemake nui nā kāne i ka hopohopoʻole o ka wahine (ʻo ia hoʻi, me ke kanaka) no nā kikoo o kona helehelena. ʻAʻole mākou e pena iā mākou iho aʻaʻole e lele i mua o kā kāua pokii! Pēlā i ka lauoho. He mea maikaʻi ke hana i nā mea a pau ma mua, e kiʻi i nā mea hana maikaʻi no ka lauoho, ma mua o ka wāʻaʻole e hoʻololi i ka pale i mua o ke kanaka, e koi iā ia e kali iāʻoe.
ʻO ka mea nui loa:ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ke kaikamahine i kona helehelena, ma kona alo! Inā he lauoho lōʻihi ko lākou, inā he maikaʻi a hoʻonaniʻia i nā wā a pau, ināʻaʻoleʻoe i maʻalahi e mālama iā lākou, e manaʻoʻiʻo mai iaʻu,ʻo ia ka koho maikaʻi. A i kekahi manawa e makemake anaʻoe e hoʻolei i nā mea a pau a loaʻa ka lauoho lauoho, e "hele wale a hele aku" - mai wikiwiki! ʻAʻole lōʻihi ka huhū aʻokiʻoki i kou lauoho. Hōʻike kaʻike wale he mea maʻalahi keʻokiʻoki i ke poʻo, a he mea paʻakikī hoʻi e hoʻi i ka lauoho lōʻihi. Pono pono ke kali, i ka wā e ulu nui ai ka lauoho a hoʻihoʻi hou i kona lōʻihi mua. ʻO ka meaʻino loa no kēlā kaikamahine,ʻo ia ke hele i kēlā manawa i ka uluʻana o kona lauoho,ʻaʻole iʻikeʻia ka lauoho, akā, ua mamao loa ka lauoho lōʻihi. ʻO kēia kahi e hāʻule ai nā kaikamāhine he nui a hele hou i ka pale o ka mea pale e hana i ka lauoho lauoho. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, he hikiʻole ke hele me ka "unformed" a me ka poʻoʻole! Eia naʻe, inā olaʻoe i kēia manawa maikaʻiʻole, a laila hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻi i kahi lauoho lōʻihi.
Akā, inā he lahilahi kou lauoho a palupalu, hiki i ka kohoʻana i kahi lauoho kūpono no kaʻano o ka helehelena a me ka maikaʻi o ka lauoho. Hiki iāʻoe ke nānā aku i nā loina a me nā manawa hou a mālama i ka manawa a me ka ikaika ma ka lauoho lauoho. ʻO ka mea nui,ʻo ka hopena ma kekahi hihia, e pololei loa kēlā me kēia. A ināʻo kou helepale (me ka nānāʻole i keʻano o ka lauoho lōʻihi a me ka lauoho lauoho) e kōkua iāʻoe i ka'ōpio, nani a me ke kūlana, e hōʻoluʻolu paha ia i kāu hoaaloha. Hiki ke mālama i kou'ilikala i kouʻano, aʻo kāu kiʻi e kōkua iāʻoe e hoʻomau iāʻoe iho. Ke ola ponoʻole a me nā mea hiʻona - he aha'ē aʻe e pono ai e mālama i ka hoʻonani i nā maka o nā kāne?