He aha ka mea iʻikeʻia heʻano nui ma waena o nā hoa? ʻO ka mea nui loa,ʻo ka nui o ka'ōpiopio ma kahi o ka 15, 25, 35, 45 mau makahiki,ʻo kaʻokoʻa ma waena o nā lā hānau o nā hoa. Hoʻokaʻawaleʻia nā hua'ōlelo pokole - 3, 5, 7, 10, 14 mau makahiki i keʻano likeʻole o ke kāne a me ka wahine i loko o ka pilina, no ke aloha a me ka hanaʻana i nā pilinaʻohana.
Eia nō hoʻi, kekahi mauʻaoʻao maʻaneʻi ke kūlana, aʻaʻole e hiki i kekahi ke noʻonoʻo i ke kohoʻana i ka hoʻokaʻawaleʻana o ka pilina ma nā pilina. Maanei, pono kākou e noʻonoʻo i ka papa helu wale nō, akā, i ka makahiki o keʻano hoʻonaʻauao o kēia mau hoa.
I kekahi manawa, hiki i kahi keiki'ōpio 18-19 mau makahiki ke pani i kahi kāʻei o ka noʻonoʻo,ʻike,ʻike ola, hanaʻoihana a mālama i kāna mea aloha 35 a he 55 makahiki paha, heʻano'ōpiopio, akā no ka pilikino a no ka hilinaʻi aloha hoʻokahi , koe wale no kāna mau noi,ʻaʻole makemake eʻike i kekahi mea a lohe iā ia.
A i kekahi manawa ua loaʻa kekahi kaikamahine'ōpiopio i ke aloha o Lovelace, a no ka manawa hoʻokahi,ʻaʻoleʻo ia wale nō e lilo i ka puʻupaʻaʻana, akā,ʻo kekahi hapa o kona manaʻo, me ka hoʻomahaʻoleʻo ia i kona "haku" a hula i mua ona ma luna o kona mau wāwae me he'īlio .
He mea kūponoʻole nā kānaka a pauʻole aʻaʻole e like kekahi me kekahi, no laila,ʻaʻole hiki ke'ōlelo pololei inā paha e hoʻokaʻawaleʻia ka hoʻokaʻawale o nā makahiki ma kahi piliʻana i kēiaʻano o ka wahine kāne.
Hiki i kekahi ke'ōlelo wale aku he nui nā kānaka i kuhihewa i ka "ʻaʻohe moekolohe o nā kāne he 60 makahiki". E manaʻoʻiʻo paha i kekahi mau mākua kahiko e hiki i kaʻelemakule ke hele i ka moekolohe aʻoi aku ka lōʻihi ma mua o nā kau.
ʻAe, a me ka haʻalulu o ke kino, a me nā wrinkle haʻalulu, a me ka moekolohe -ʻaʻohe pale. Hanaʻoe i nāʻano hemahema o ke kino a me ke kanaka wikiwiki. A inā paha i ka wā mua he mau meaʻike iki lākou, a laila,ʻaʻoleʻoe eʻike iki iā lākou. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo o ke kino o ka wahine a he kāne paha i piha i ke 50 o kona makahiki,ʻaʻole ia iʻokoʻa loa mai ka 25 makahiki, keʻoleʻo ia ke nānā iā ia iho. Aʻo nā kaikamāhine a pau o nā wāhine i hahai pinepine i kēia.
Ma muli o ka noʻonoʻo o nā pilina, inā heʻelemakule o ke kāne ma mua o ka wahine, a ua nuiʻo ia, a laila he kūikawāʻo ia. Inā uaʻelemakuleʻo iaʻaʻole i ka makahiki wale nō, akā i ka manaʻo o kāna hoa'ōpio, inā heʻano koʻikoʻi kona, a laila e pāʻaniʻo ia ma keʻano he makua a he kumu paha e pili ana i kāna mea aloha.
Inā he'ōpiopioʻo ia, nani a helehelena, a heʻelemakuleʻo ia, akā i kānalua i ka moekolohe, a laila hiki i ka pilina ma waena o lāua ke hiki, akāʻo ia wale nō ka mea e kaumaha ai i kānaʻaoʻao a me ka masochism - me ia.
ʻO nā kānakaʻelemakule, he poʻe wahaheʻe nui lākou. ʻO ia mau mea hiki iāʻoe ke kāhāhā. I kekahi o kāna mau hoa hanaʻo ia wale nō i'ōlelo aku ai i kaʻikeʻole makemake i ke kuleana N, aʻo ke kumuhana hoʻokahi H i 5 maukona ke hana nei i ka leasing pili maikaʻi "ma ke kelepona. A ināʻoe e nīnau iā ia - "Ua noaʻoe i kēia lā?",ʻehiku mau pane likeʻole e loaʻa i nā wāhine likeʻole. ʻO ka mea pōʻino,ʻo ka nui o nā kāne iʻoi aʻe ma mua o nā wāhine,ʻaʻohe o lākou manaʻo maikaʻi a me nā manaʻo maikaʻi.
ʻO nā wāhine wale nō iʻike i kēiaʻano, uaʻikeʻoe i ka hoʻoluhiʻia o kou kūlana haʻahaʻa ma muli o ka hikiʻole iāʻoe ke mare aʻo ka mea i kohoʻoleʻia e noʻonoʻo e mare iāʻoe. A hoʻomāʻehaʻehaʻoe iāʻoe iho me ka nīnau - "A inā makemake wau e mare? A he mau wahine e like me aʻu nei ke mare, a he mau haku wahine wale nō anei au i koʻu olaʻana? "
A i nā manaʻoʻehaʻeha i nā mana e hiki mai ana? He aha nā mea e hanaʻia i loko o nā malamaʻeono, hoʻokahi makahiki,ʻelua, a me 5 mau makahiki mai kēia wā aku? I lilo ia i haku wahine mau loa? Loaʻaʻole ka manaʻo, me nā keikiʻole, me kaʻole ola?
Inā nānāʻoe i ke kūlana i ka manawa o ka wahine ma mua o ke kāne, inā ma kēia hihia,ʻoiai,ʻaʻole kūpono nā hihia kūikawā. ʻO ka mea nui a ka wahine eʻike ai i kāna mea i waeʻia he hoaaloha maikaʻi a he hilinaʻi kūpono.
ʻO ka pilikia nui i loko o ka pilina, i ka wā iʻoi aku ai ka wahine ma mua o ke kāne,ʻo ia inā he 45, 55, 60 mau makahiki, uaʻikeʻo ia,ʻaʻole e hiki iā ia ke lilo i kāna keiki aʻo ka mea i waeʻia e hikiʻole keʻike i ka hauʻoli o ka makuahine. Eia nō naʻe, e like me ka hōʻikeʻana i kaʻoihana hana hou o kēia manawa, aʻaʻole hoʻiʻo kaʻoihana wale nō,ʻo ka hapanui o ka poʻe'ōpio ke hoʻololi maʻamau i nā pō moeʻole me nā uʻi a me ke kāheaʻana o nā keiki hou i ka kaulana a me ka kaulana, akā inā noho lākou i kahi pale gula.
No laila, i ka hōʻuluʻuluʻana,ʻike mākou heʻoiaʻiʻo, heʻano nui o ka makahiki, e like me keʻano, ke kumu o ka launa alohaʻole a me ka mareʻoleʻana, kahi e paʻi ai kekahi o nā hoa a iʻole nā hoaʻelua a pau mai ka lehulehu, ka noʻonoʻo, ka physiological, nā mea āpau a me nā pono'ē aʻe. I kekahi hihia,ʻo ke aloha ka pāʻani o ka roulette Rūma. Akā, inā heʻelemakule ka wahine ma mua o kāna kāne, aʻo kahi kanakaʻoi aku kaʻoi aku o kona mau mākua ma mua o kāna mea i waeʻia, a laila,ʻo ka hopena o ka pepehiʻana i ka hopena o nā pilikia e pili ana i kēia, he pāʻumi ka nui o ke kānāwai o keʻano, aʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa me ia. ʻOiai i kaʻoiaʻiʻo, aia nā kumu kū'ē i kekahi o nā kānāwai.