ʻO ka hōʻehaʻana i kēlā pilina a hiki wale i nā mākua a me nā kaikamāhine, ka mea hikiʻole ke hoʻomaopopo i ka mea i loaʻa i ke kaikamahine i kāna mea koho. Aʻo kaʻoiaʻiʻo - pehea?
No ka makahiki
ʻO nā wāhine'ōpio i aloha i nā kāne, uaʻoi aku kaʻoi o ko lākou mau mākua ma mua o lākou iho, eʻae aku i ka mea mua iʻikeʻole lākou a kūlanaʻole. Me kēlā hoa pilikino, uaʻoi aku ka maʻaʻoluʻolu o lākou ma mua o ka hoa me nā pilina a me nā wāhine. ʻO nā wāhine i loaʻa i kā lākou mau kāne aloha, he nui ka poʻe i hoʻomaopopoʻole, no ka mea, he aloha kēia.
ʻAʻole i nui ka nui o nā hoa i ke ola. Eia kekahi,ʻaʻole lākou iʻike pehea e mālama pono ai i nā wāhine, e hoʻolohe a mālama. A pinepine i ka hoʻohilahila i kā lākou poʻe aloha me ka ikaika nui a me ka wikiwiki i ka hiamoe, ka makemake e hana i ka moekolohe, aʻaʻole hoʻi eʻoluʻolu i nāʻano o keʻano o nā manaʻo.
Hāpai nā kāne'ōpio i nā makemake o ke kaikamahine, hiki iā ia ke hōʻike iā ia i nā mea huna a pau o ka wahine a me kāna mauʻike. ʻO ka hopena, uaʻike kekahi wahine'ōpiopio me ka makua kāne kūpono i ka leʻaleʻa ikaika o ka wahine, i hikiʻole i ka hoa ke hāʻawi iā ia i nā manawa a pau. ʻO ka mea a kekahi wahine i loaʻa ai i loko o kahi kanaka aloha, he nui ka hapanui o mākou eʻimi i ka pane i kēia nīnau.
ʻO kaʻaoʻaoʻaoʻao
Hoʻomaopopo nā kāne kilokilo i ka medal i kapaʻia he "kāne nui a paʻa"ʻo ia kaʻaoʻao hope - wā. ʻO ka mea pōʻino,ʻo ia me ke alohaʻole e lawe i ka ikaika a me ka olakino o ka wahine.
ʻO ka hoʻouluʻana i ka wahine, kahi e kū ai i kahi kanaka he kanahā mau makahiki me ka wahine'ōpio,ʻoi mauʻelua iʻekolu mau makahiki. A laila, ua ikaika kona ikaika a ma mua o kekahi kaikamahine'ōpiopio iʻikeʻole i nā meaʻoluʻolu o ka pilina pili, kahi kanaka nāwaliwali, kaumaha i nā makahiki, hana, a mālama pinepine i nāʻohanaʻelua. ʻAʻole hiki iā ia ke hana hou i ke aloha i loko o keʻano likeʻole me kāna hoa pili.
ʻAʻole nā mea he nui e pane i ka nīnau e loaʻa ai nā wāhine i kā lākou mau kāne aloha.
Wahi a psychologists,ʻo kaʻawaʻawa nui o nā pilina pilina ma ka mareʻana me ke kanakaʻelemakule,ʻo ia hoʻi ka hoʻololiʻana i nāʻoihanaʻike. ʻO ka manawa e like me kēia.
I ka wā mua, ʻike kekahi wahine'ōpio i kāna kāne i ka mea pale a me ka makuakāne, nāna i hūnā iā ia ma lalo o kona'ēheu, i ka wā e lele aku aiʻo ia mai ka pūnana āpau. ʻIkeʻia kahi kanaka'ōpio e like me ka wahine, a ma hope eʻikeʻo iaʻo ia ke poʻo maoli o kaʻohana, ka mea hikiʻole iā ia ke mare i ka mea i kēia manawa.
Akā, ma hope o nā makahiki he nui, e hoʻomaka ana nā kāne, e like me ke kānāwai, i ka mālamaʻana i nā kahu wahine. Keʻimi nei lākou i kahi "mom" i ka wahine makua kāne, nāna e mālama iā lākou. I kēlā manawa hoʻokahi,ʻo kahi wahine'ōpio iʻike i kona waiwai i ka wāʻelemakule, makemakeʻo ia i kēia manawaʻaʻole loa i loko o ke "keiki" aiʻole "ka makua". Makemakeʻo ia eʻike aku ma hope o kona hoaaloha,ʻo ia ka mea nāna e hoʻopili aku i kona mau kuleana a me nā pilikia me ia ma ke kūlana like.
Ināʻaʻohe mālama nā wāhine i nā loli e hanaʻia me ka hoa, ināʻaʻole lākou eʻike i kahi ala e hele ai, e pau ka mareʻana. A i ka manawa hoʻokahi, ua nui kaʻeha o ke kanaka ... He aha nā mea a nā wāhine e loaʻa ai i kā lākou mau kāne aloha, keʻike maopopoʻoleʻo ke kiʻekiʻena o ke kiʻekiʻena ke nānā aku? Malia paha, he mea aloha kēia.
ʻO ka lanakila
Akā naʻe,ʻaʻole ponoʻoe e noʻonoʻo i ka hikiʻole o kēia mau maleʻana. Inā mai nā lā mua o ke olaʻana, e huli nā hoa i ka pilina o kekahi me kekahi, e hoʻonui i ka'ōlelo maʻamau, e aʻo e hoʻoponopono iā lākou iho i mea e holo ai i ke ola ma ka poʻohiwi, a laila hiki i nā pilina ke pale i nāʻino ikaika loa o nā lā a pau.
Hoʻohana nuiʻia kekahi mea nui ma keʻono a me keʻano o ka nohona. Inā makemake nā hoaʻelua i nā mele a me nā palapala mele kūikawā e like me ka lawaiʻa a me ka holoʻana, makemake lākou i ka launa pūʻana a me ka hoʻolimalimaʻana i nā loime. He mea nui loa ka nohona:ʻo ke kākoʻo o nā hoaaloha, nā hoaaloha, a me nā pilina e hoʻopaʻa pū i ka loina.