Hoʻokahi hapakolu o ko mākou ola a pau mākou e moe ai. ʻO kekahi mau moe e hōʻike mai i ka manaʻo hohonu iā mākou a hoʻomanaʻoʻia no ka manawa lōʻihi, a ua poinaʻia kekahi poʻe e ke kakahiaka. I ka wā e kali ana no nā'ōwili, nui nā makuahine i ka wā e hiki mai ana i ka hiʻona koʻikoʻi i kā lākou mau moeʻuhane, a me ka loli maoli o nā moeʻuhane, he mea maʻamau. A he kūlohelohe kēia, no ka mea,ʻo ka hānauʻana kekahi o nā wā nui loa i ke ola o kēlā wahine kēia wahine. I kēia manawa, e hoʻohuli ana i nā manaʻo houʻole, nā manaʻo, nā manaʻo nui ... No laila, he aha kāu e noʻonoʻo ai i ka wā o ka hāpaiʻana a he manaʻo no ke kauʻana i kahi kūikawā nui i ia? Ma keʻano he kūlana,ʻo nā mea moeʻuhane ke kumuhana mai nā kumu likeʻole: mai kaʻikeʻana o ka wahine pono'ī i ka pāpā houʻana i nā hana o ka lā i hala. E noʻonoʻo e pili i ka mea iʻike pinepineʻia no nā wāhine hāpai a pane i nā nīnau e kū mai ana i nā makuahine o ka wā e pili ana i nā moʻolelo kupaianaha, nani, hoihoi a i nā lā a pau āna i moeʻuhane ai.
Kāhea mua
I ka wā iʻikeʻole ai wau no koʻu'ōpū, ua moeʻuhane au i kahi iʻa. Uaʻike wau i keʻano o kēia moe. No ke aha i iʻa?
ʻAe,ʻo ia,ʻo ko mākou mau kupuna wahine a me nā kupunawahine nui hoʻi i'ōlelo mai inā e moe ka wahine i ka iʻa, ua hāpai kēia. Uaʻikeʻia ke akamai o ka wā i kēia manawa. Hāʻawi ke kino i kaʻike e pili ana i ka'ōpū i komo i loko o ka lolo i mua o kaʻikeʻia o ka manawa hanana. Ma ke kumu o kēiaʻike, hāʻawi ka lolo i ke kauoha e hoʻololi i nā'ōnaehana a pau o ke kino i kahi hana kūpono no ka hānauʻana. I loko o kēia wā, hiki i kekahi mau hōʻailona ma ka moeʻuhane, e noʻonoʻo ana i ka launaʻole o ka hoʻouluʻana o ka kino wahine. Hiki i nā hōʻailona ke iʻa, nā pipi, nā holoholona liʻiliʻi a iʻole nā kamaliʻiʻuʻuku wale nō.
He manaʻo anei kēia inā inā moe kekahi i ka iʻa, a laila maopopo ka'ōpū o ka'ōpū? ʻAʻohe. Pono e hoʻomaopopoʻiaʻaʻole hiki i ka iʻa ke moe wale no ka hāpaiʻana, hiki i kēia hōʻailona ke loaʻa nāʻano'ē aʻe he nui. Ma ka manawa wale nō e pili ai kaʻike e pili ana i ka'ōpū i kekahi wahine,ʻo ia me he mea lā e loaʻa iā ia kēiaʻike ma kahi kiʻi e hiki ke hoʻomaopopo loa iā ia, no ka mea, ua lohe muaʻo ia i keʻano o kona manaʻo mai ka makuahine, ke kupunawahine, a me nā kaikamāhine paha. Eia kekahi,ʻaʻole iʻikeʻia ka kiʻi o ka iʻa ma keʻano paʻakikī:ʻo ia kekahi o nā hōʻailona hōʻailona o ke ola, mai ka hānauʻana o ka'ōpū i hoʻomaka.
Ua hānauʻo ia he mō'īwahine i ka pō ...
Ua moe au i kahi kaikamahine'ōpioʻekolu. Uaʻaʻahuʻiaʻo ia i kahi kapaʻaʻahu nani, me nā kakaka ma kona lauoho. Ma ka moeʻuhane, uaʻike wauʻo kaʻu kaikamahine kēia e hiki mai ana. A he mau lā ma hope mai, ua loaʻa iaʻu he hoaaloha i haʻi mai iaʻu ma ka moeʻuhane e loaʻa iaʻu kahi keikikāne. ʻAʻole hiki iāʻoe keʻike i ka papahele ma luna o ke kaha kiʻi. He aha ka moeʻuhane e manaʻoʻia he pololei aʻe?
ʻO ka nīnau i kaulana loa i nīnauʻia e nā wāhine iaʻu i ka wā o ke'ōpiopio mua: "E hiki anei keʻike i ka wahine o kekahi keiki e hiki mai ana ma ka moeʻuhane?" He mea maʻalahi ka pane: hiki iāʻoe keʻike, e like me kā mākou iʻike mua, i ka kino o ka makuahine kaʻike e pili ana i nā hormones (male nā wāhine) i ka nohoaliʻi ma ke keiki, no ka mea, he hana maʻamau lākou, akā,ʻaʻole hiki i kekahi keʻike aku. Hōʻikeʻia nāʻano hoʻowalewale e pili ana i ka mea e hānauʻia, he keikikāne a he kaikamahine, he mea waiwai wale nō.
Ma mua o kaʻole,ʻike ka wahine ma ka moeʻuhane i kahi keiki i makemakeʻia aiʻoleʻikeʻole paha i ka wahine. ʻOiai ināʻaʻoleʻo ia i hoʻomaopopo pono i kēia a'ōlelo mai neiʻaʻoleʻo ia i mālama i ka mea i hānauʻia,ʻo kēia moe, e like me keʻano, e hōʻike ana i keʻano o ka makuahine. Ua hōʻike mai nā haʻawina e pili ana nā moeʻuhane o nā mea like me ka wahine iʻike i ka waiwai o ka wahine i ka wā e hiki mai ana. ʻO ia,ʻo ia mau moeʻuhane he hōʻailona ia no ka hilinaʻi o ke kumuhana iho,ʻaʻoleʻo ka pili maoli o ke keiki.
ʻO kēia mau mea a pau,ʻaʻole e liʻiliʻi ka wahine me ka pēpē o ka wahine "ʻaʻole makemake"?ʻO ia,ʻaʻole pēlā!ʻO kēia mau moeʻuhane e hoʻomanaʻo wale nō i nā manaʻo hilahila o ka makuahine e hele mai nei,ʻaʻoleʻo ka manaʻo i ka pēpē maoli. Akā,ʻo nā makua i ka wā e hiki mai ana i loko o kā lākou mau moeʻuhane,ʻoi aku ka nui o nā "makuwahine i ka maka o ka bipi" aʻike pono i loko o ka moeʻuhane ka wahine o kā lākou keiki hānauʻole.
E moeʻuhane kēia!
Ua moeʻuhane wau i ka mea weliweli loa iaʻu. Uaʻike au i kahi keiki, akā, i koʻu hikiʻana aku i ona lā, ua likeʻo ia me he pāpani. Ua ho'āʻo wau e ho'āla iā ia a hoʻomaka e hoʻonā iā ia. He hewa paha kaʻu pēpē?
I ka wā o ka hāpaiʻana, he manawa mau nā wāhine i kahi e hopohopo ai lākou no ke keiki, e hopohopo paha e pili ana i ka moku'āina o kona olakino, hopohopo paha i ka hoʻopilikia iā ia a me ka hopohopo paha. ʻO ia mau moeʻuhane e hoʻomanaʻo i ka manaʻo nui o ka makuahine a me kona makemake e pale i ke keiki. Hoʻonuiʻia ka manaʻo nui i keʻano o ka hāpaiʻana: i kēia manawa, i ka makahiki mua paha, uaʻike ka wahine i ka hoʻonui i ka hopohopo no kona kūlana a me konaʻano o ka'ōhū i loko o ka puʻu. ʻAʻole ponoʻoe e hāʻawi i kēia mau moe i ka mea nui. E kamaʻilio me kāu mau kaikamāhine i noho hou i kēia manawa, a laila e hoʻomaopopoʻoe i ka wā o ka hānauʻana i kēlā mau moeʻuhaneʻaʻole iʻikeʻia, akā,ʻaʻole lākou e pale i ka hoʻomanawanui a me ka laweʻana o ka pēpē.
Hoʻopiʻi
ʻIke wau i kahi e alualu nei iaʻu, ua paʻi koʻu puʻuwai, ke holo nei au a he mea paʻakikī iaʻu e hanu. He aha keʻano o kēia mau mea a pau?
ʻO ka manaʻo o ke ala hou e pili ana i ka weheweheʻana i ka moe, i ke kumu o ka nohoʻana o ke kino. I loko o ka'ōpū, ma ka makahikiʻekolu paha, no ka uluʻana o ka pēpē, hiki i ka hanuʻana i ka makuahine ke lilo i mea paʻakikī, i kekahi manawa ua hoʻonuiʻia ka ulu o ka naʻau. I ka wā e hiamoe ai, e hoʻomau i nā hōʻailona mai ke kino e komo i ka lolo a hōʻike mai i mua o mākou ma keʻano o nā moeʻuhane hopohopo: nā manaʻo kaumaha, nāʻinoʻino, nā palpitations, etc. Ke hanaʻia nei i loko o nā moeʻuhane he mau moʻolelo e pili ana i ka manaʻo o ka hukiʻana ma lalo o ka'ōpū, e like me keʻano moeʻuhane no ka mahina. I loko o ka lā,ʻikeʻia nā hōʻailona kūpono o ka'ōpū ulu ma lalo o ka paepae o ko mākou manaʻo, akā i ka pō, ma ka moeʻuhane, hele lākou ma keʻano.
ʻIke mauna!
Ua moeʻuhane wau ua hele au i ka pāʻani a hoʻomaka wau e kau i ka meaʻai ma ka pā. Ua hoʻonui au i kaʻai, a hikiʻole iaʻu ke ho'ōki -ʻike wau i kēia pōloli nui. A laila,ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke loaʻa kahi kahi e noho ai i lalo, aʻai, a ke ikaika loa kaʻai ma nā pā aʻono,ʻo wau wale nō ka make no ka pōloli.
I ka wā o ka hānauʻana, e lilo i nā mea kani i nā mea kani. ʻO nā mākua i ka wā mua ke hoʻomaopopo nei i kahiʻike kūikawā i nā hamo, makemake i nā mea maikaʻi, ma kaʻike nui i hoʻonui i ka hili i nā kino kino.
ʻO ia mau hopena o nā hopena o ka hoʻoula houʻana o ke kino,ʻo ka mea a pau o kāna hana i kēia manawa e hoʻoholo i ka hana kūpono no ke keiki. ʻO kahi laʻana, pono ka makuahine e kali e koho i ka meaʻai me ka makaʻala e hāʻawi aku iā ia i ka'ōhū me nā meaʻai a me nā huaʻai pono a pau, a ua kōkuaʻia kēia e ka heleʻana o kaʻala a me ka meaʻono.
Eia kekahi, he nui nā wāhine eʻike i ka piʻiʻana o ka pōloli, ma kahi o ka hapalua o ka maleʻana,ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻololi wale i nā mea o nā moeʻuhane. Inā ua hiamoe mākou ma ka moeʻuhane, ua moe mākou i nāʻano meaʻai likeʻole. A inā i ka manawa hoʻokahi aia kekahi mau hua "pāpā", kahi e koiʻia ai ka makuahine e hiki mai ana no kekahi mau kumu e hōʻole i ka wā o ka hāpaiʻana, a laila hoʻomaka lākou e moe maʻamau, i loko o ia mau moeʻuhane he hōʻailona hōʻailona no nā pono o ka makuahine.
ʻO iaʻano malihini malihini
ʻAʻole wau e moeʻuhane no kaʻu keiki i ka wā e hiki mai ana. Ma keʻano maʻamau, i loko o kaʻu mau moe,ʻaʻole wau iʻike i koʻu hāpaiʻana. E haʻi mai iaʻu, heʻano maʻamau kēia?
Ma keʻano heʻano paha,ʻo ka wahine i ka wā e hiki mai ana a me keʻano o ka'ōpū keʻikeʻole i nā wāhine i kahi kūlana. ʻO nā moe e like me keʻano maʻamau no nā māmā e loaʻa ana nā keiki. ʻO keʻano,ʻo ia ke kumu o ka uluʻana o kaʻike makuahine e maʻalahi ka hanaʻana i ka manaʻo o ke keiki e hiki mai ana. Ma ke ala, pinepine nā keiki e moeʻuhane nei i kekahi mau kiʻi pani hou: nā pipi, nā puppies a me nā mea liʻiliʻi'ē aʻe.
ʻO kaʻike o kaʻike e pili ana i ka moku'āina o kēia ala hou i ka weheweheʻana i ka moeuhane o ka hānau keiki:ʻo nā wāhine nulliparous hikiʻole ke hāpai i ka hānauʻana, aʻo ko lākou mau manaʻo e pili ana i ka hopena kokoke e lilo i mea moʻolelo e pili ana i ka hoʻopaʻaʻana i kahi pēpē i ko lākou lima a hānaiʻana i kahi keiki hou me ka umauma.
Ināʻaʻoleʻoe e moeʻuhane
Uaʻike mau wau i nā moeʻoluʻolu, akā no nā pule he nui i kēia manawa,ʻaʻole wau iʻike i kahi moe. I kēia mau lā,ʻaʻole wau e hiamoe maikaʻi. Malia paha pili kēia i ka wā o ka hāpai (38 mau wiki)?
ʻOiaʻiʻo, e hoʻomau i kāu moeʻuhane. I kēia manawaʻaʻole lākou i hoʻomanaʻo. No ke aha mai kēia hana? ʻO ke kumu nui loa i hoʻomaopopoʻole ai nā kānaka i nā moeʻuhaneʻo ka luhi i loaʻa i ka lā. ʻO ka mea māluhiluhi o ke kanaka,ʻo ia nō ka nane moʻomanaʻo āna e hoʻomanaʻo nei. ʻAʻole ia he mea kupanaha i loko o kēia mau wā o ka hāpaiʻana ua nāwaliwaliʻoe ma mua o ka mea maʻamau. ʻO ke kumuʻelua he hoʻololi i ka pilina ma waena o nā moe o ka makuahine i ka wā e hiki mai ana. I ke kolu o ka makahikiʻekolu, ua hiamoe ka moeʻana o nā wāhine i ka hiamoe. Pono e hoʻohuiʻia ka hiamoe a me ka nohoʻana o ka makua me ka noho aliʻi o ka pēpē, a hoʻomākaukau ka kino o ka wahine no kēia ma mua o ka hānauʻana. ʻO ka wahine he mea ia e hoʻolohe i ka hōʻailona i nā hōʻailona mai ke keiki,ʻo ia hoʻi ma ka moeʻuhane. I loko o kēia wā, pōkole ka moeʻuhane me nā moe, a hiki ke moe i nā moeʻuhane, me kaʻikeʻole, a no lailaʻaʻole i hoʻomanaʻoʻia.
I kēlā me kēia hihia, i kēlā me kēia mea, e hoʻomanaʻo i kēia manawa noʻoe aʻo ka pēpē nui ka mea nui no ka malu a me ka maikaʻi o koʻu makuahine. Mai poina i ka nui o nā moeʻuhane he hōʻailona ia o kā mākou mau manaʻo i kēia lā, a ho'āʻo e noʻonoʻo pinepine e pili ana i ka mea eʻoluʻolu aiʻoe. Eʻoluʻolu i kou mau moe!