ʻO ka pilina maikaʻi ma waena o ke kane a me ka wahine


Manaʻo kekahi mau wāhine he hikiʻole ke hilinaʻi maikaʻi loa iaʻano pilina maikaʻi, akā, hōʻole kekahi i kēia koi. Eʻike kākou i kahi o lākou e pili kokoke ana i kaʻoiaʻiʻo.
ʻO ka pane i ka nīnau "He aloha i waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine?" Ua makemakeʻo ia i nā manawaʻelua, i nā manawa a pau. ʻAʻole he mea kupanaha no ka nui o nā aphorisms. ʻO kekahi laʻana,'ōleloʻo Otto Bismarck i kekahi manawa,ʻo ka pilina maikaʻi ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine ka nāwaliwali i ka hoʻomakaʻana o ka pō. He hoaaloha wau ma ke ala, he kanaka lōʻihi, ākea, kanaka maikaʻi, i moeʻia e nā wāhine heʻumikumamālua. Mahalo mākou me ia: ke kūkākūkā nei mākou i nā mea a pau o ka honua, mākou i kālepa i nā papa moʻolelo, hele mākou i ka hau hau a i ka kiʻiʻoniʻoni, inā pono, e kōkua mākou i kekahi i kekahi mau pilikia pili aupuni. Manaʻo wauʻo ka pilina ma waena o kākou he mea hiki wale nōʻoiaiʻaʻoleʻo koʻuʻano. Aʻaʻole wau no ia, no ka mea,ʻaʻoleʻo ia i ho'āʻo i "eʻike pono i kekahi i kekahi" (a ke manaʻo nei auʻaʻole e loaʻa).

ʻAʻole hiki ke hoʻololiʻia kahi kanaka-aloha
Ua'ōlelo ka hapanui heʻaʻohe maikaʻi maikaʻi ma waena o ke kane a me ka wahine. Akā i ka nānā muaʻana,ʻikeʻia paha heʻano paʻa mau ka pilina o iaʻano. ʻO ka mua,ʻaʻohe hoʻokūkū ma waena o kēlā mau hoaaloha, a ma muli o ka hopena. ʻAʻole hiki i kou hoa ke hoʻokae i ka lilo i 5 kilokani, hele i ka hoʻomaha ma Bali, aiʻole ua kūʻaiʻia i nā kāmaʻa mai Christian Louboutin ma kahi hoʻemi o 95%. Akā, eʻoliʻoliʻo ia a hāʻawi aku i ka mahalo ināʻoe, e hoʻomau pinepine i kona mau maka.
ʻO ka lua, e like me ka'ōlelo a koʻu hoa hana: "He kanaka lapuwale kahi meaʻole i ka home". ʻAe, he aha keʻano o ka hoaaloha e hōʻole e hoʻololi i ka hoaaloha maikaʻi o ka puka waho aʻike i ke kumu e'āʻole ai ka mālamalama i ka lumi kuke? A inā he pono, a lawe i ka holo ma kahi āu e makemake ai, a na ke kanaka e kuhikuhi. ʻO ka kolu, he mea nui ka hoa likeʻoleʻaʻole ma ka hoʻokele waiwai wale nō. Hiki iā ia ke hāʻawi i ka'ōlelo aʻo kūpono. Aʻaʻole e pili ana i nā pili pili "kāne" e like me kaʻenehana a me ke kālā. ʻAʻohe mea maikaʻi i ka weheweheʻana i ka hana a ke kanaka e like me ke kanaka'ē aʻe, no laila e hiki ai i kāu hoaaloha ke hoʻomaopopo iāʻoe i ke kumu o kāu mea i aloha ai he "naʻaupō naʻaupōʻole," a pehea e hana ai i kahi maikaʻi me ia. ʻAe, a ma kahi e koho ai i kahi koho lole, hiki i kahi hoaaloha ke hāʻawi i nā manaʻo kūpono.

ʻO nāʻano likeʻole
Auhea, pono wau e paipai i kēia meli me ka lele o ka tar. ʻO ka meaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻo ka hoʻokokokeʻana i ka pilina ma waena o nā kāne a me nā wāhine, heʻano likeʻole. ʻAʻole he mea kupaianaha lākou e'ōlelo nei, "He kāne aloha i ka manaolana o ka hoʻomauʻana, a he wahine - uaʻikeʻo iaʻaʻole e hoʻomauʻia." ʻO ka hapanui o nā kāne, i kā lākou mau'ōlelo pono'ī, keʻike mua lākou i loko o ka wahine i ka mea pili i ka wahine, aʻo ka manawa wale nō ka manaʻo, ka haʻaka, ke aloha i ka pāleka a i nā kaʻa kaʻa. Aʻaʻohe mea e hanaʻia,ʻo ka hana maoli ka hopena. ʻO mākou, nā wāhine, maʻaneʻi,ʻaʻole he mea maʻalahi nā mea a pau. Inā piliʻole kahi kāne kāne iā mākou, no ka meaʻuʻuku, e hihia mākou: he nani au? A inā inā pēlā, ināʻaʻoleʻoʻoe a hālāwai paha me kekahi, i ka manawa ma hope aku,ʻo ka piliʻana o nā hoahānau ma mua o nā palena o ka hoaaloha. Aia kekahi mau hanana likeʻole o ka hoʻomohala o nā hanana.
Ke mihi neiʻoe i kēia mea, a ma ka pilina o ka pilina heʻano pōʻinoʻole, ke emi iki neiʻoe a me ka emiʻole, a hikiʻole i ka launa alohaʻana.
ʻO kekahi oʻoukou e hoʻomaka ana e makemake i ka mea hou,ʻo ka lua o ka mea e hoʻonohonoho ana i kēlā wahine ma kahi alaloha. ʻO ka lili e hoʻomaka, e mālama, e wehewehe i nā pilina, ka hakakā. Ma keʻano laulā, a me ka pilina aloha, aʻaʻole i hoʻomaka ka pilina.
Ua maopopo iāʻoe ua hana waleʻiaʻoe no kekahi e kekahi. Loaʻa iāʻoe nā pono a me nā loina, nā hoa aloha paha, uaʻike ponoʻoe i kekahi i kekahi, aʻo ka mea nui loa - uaʻano maikaʻiʻoe. He aha ke kumuʻole o ka pilina aloha aloha?

Nā kānāwai palekana
Akā, e hoʻi hou i nāʻano likeʻole: he mau hoaalohaʻoe, a makemakeʻoe pēlā no laila a pau. ʻOiaʻiʻo,ʻaʻoleʻoe e kū'ē i nā mahalo a me nā makana liʻiliʻi,ʻo ka mea nui,ʻaʻole lākou e hāʻawi iāʻoe i kekahi mea. E hiki ke helu i kēia? Hoʻomaopopo nā kānaka hoʻonaʻauao i ka pane. Akā, aia ma kahi o nā wahi e loaʻa ai: ma waena oʻoukouʻaʻole pono e hoʻonāukiuki. Eia kekahi laʻana, ināʻoluʻoluʻoe a hauʻoli me kāu mau wāhine; he mau maleʻoe ma mua, e kala i kekahi i kekahi a makemakeʻoe e kamaʻilio wale i ka wā e hiki mai ana; He mau hoaalohaʻoe ma muli o ka'ōpiopio a liloʻoe i kaikunāne. ʻOiai, aia nō he mau pilina aloha me kekahi kanaka koloheʻole, akā, no mākou heʻoi aku ia, a kūpono i kahi kumuhana likeʻole.
Eia nō naʻe, ma nā hihia a pau, ka mālamaʻana i ka pilina aloha me nā kāne, he mea nui e nānā i kekahi mau'ōlelo pale "kaulahi" kūpono.
Ua hoʻoholo i ko lākou mau manaʻo no kēia kanaka. A inā he mea aloha kēia a me ka meaʻole wale nō ka pili aloha, hoʻokahiʻaoʻao aʻo kekahi paha, e hoʻomaopopoʻoe i kēia. Mai minamina i ka mea e hiki ke hana i waena o kāu, akā,ʻaʻole i loaʻa a hōʻea paha, akāʻaʻole naʻe e like me kou makemake. Mai liliʻoe i kahi hoaaloha i kāna poʻe i waeʻia.

No laila,ʻaʻole he kuhihewa a me kahi hilinaʻi, hoʻokomo i kahi hoaaloha i kāu mea i koho ai a mai kēlā manawa aku kēia manawa e haʻi mai ia i kāu mau kūkā. Akā, ma keʻano maikaʻi, ma kekahi hihia, mai'ōhumuʻoe no kāu mea i aloha ai. Hiki ke hoʻomaopopoʻia kēlā mau'ōlelo: ke'ōlelo nei lākou, keʻimi neiʻoe no ka "hōʻoluʻolu".
A i ka hopena, makemake wau e'ōlelo i kēia:ʻaʻole ia he koʻikoʻi ma hea a peheaʻoe i hālāwai ai, no ke aha i launa ai kou pilina maʻaneʻi a hoʻohuiʻia pahaʻoe. He mea nui e hoʻomanaʻo i ka pilina me ke kāne,ʻaʻole ia e like me ka pilina me kekahi wahine. Pono e hoʻopiliʻia kēia mau pilina ma keʻano like, a hānaiʻia me nā loiloi maʻamau, nā pono kīpau, pono e mālamaʻia,ʻaʻole wale nō i laweʻia, akā, hāʻawi pūʻia nō hoʻi. Akā he mea'ē aʻe. Ma ka pilina me ke kanaka,ʻo ka mea nuiʻo ia e noʻonoʻo pono i ka laina, no ka mea, inā makemakeʻoe e mālama i kēlā hoaaloha, ponoʻole e hele i luna.

Loaʻa i nā kaikamāhine e hoʻomau i ka pilina pilina me nā kāne ma ka manaolana nui. E like me kaʻu e aʻo hou aku ai iā ia, eʻikeʻo ia iaʻu aʻoi aku ka maikaʻi eʻikeʻole iā ia. ʻOiai, ua loaʻa nā hopena maikaʻi. Akā,ʻoi aku ka hapanui o nā mele likeʻole ma mua o ke ola maoli. Maanei hiki i nā mea a pau ke hoʻopau iki iki: he mau lā i hala kahi wahine i kona puʻuwai, e hoʻi houʻoe i ke kūlana o kahi hoaaloha maikaʻi. No laila, inā makemakeʻoe i nā manaʻo no ka hoaaloha, e hoʻomaopopoʻo ia iā ia ma kaʻaoʻao wahine ma mua o ka hoʻomakaʻana e nānā i ka pāʻani a me ke konoʻana kekahi i kekahi no ka pia.