ʻO ka hālāwaiʻana me kahi wahine hou e makemake i kahi kāne, he mea paʻakikī ia i kaʻuhane o nā kāne a me nā wāhine. A eia ma kēia, ka hālāwai lōʻihi i hoʻomaha loaʻia: ka pili aloha, nā makana, ke aloha .... Me he mea lā he hauʻoli kēia, akā, hoʻokahi makahiki aʻelua wale nō paha i ka wā e hele ai ke kāne me kahi wahine e like me ia he kūlana a me kaʻikeʻoleʻia. He aha ka mea hou i hana aiʻo ia i kēlā hana, he aha ka mea i kūponoʻole iā ia i loko o ka wahine, no ke aha i piliʻole ai kēia pilina me kēia wahine?
1. He hoa kino paha ka wahine , hikiʻole ke kākoʻo i ke kūkākūkāʻana, a me ka noho lōʻihiʻole a kamaʻilio wale paha ma nā kumuhana o kēlā me kēiaʻano e hoʻonānea ai ke kanaka. Malia paha ma kahi moekolohe, ʻaʻole i hoʻonāukiuki kekahi wahine hou iā ia . ʻO kēia mau meaʻelua: ka hoʻokipa wahine a me ka hiki ke hoʻomau i ke kamaʻilioʻana -ʻo ka hoʻoikaikaʻana i nā pilina lōʻihi he mea nui. I kēia mau lā, nui nā wāhine i loaʻa iā lākou iho nā mea pono'ī, nā mea akamai loa, aʻaʻole makemake nā kāne i nā wāhine iʻoi aku ka maʻalahi ma mua o lākou :ʻo kēiaʻano koʻikoʻi ka hanohano o nā kāne. No laila,ʻo kēia mau wāhine kūʻokoʻa ke hele i ka wā wale nō. ʻAʻole lākou makemake i ka "heluhelu" ma ka pilina pili wahine o nā kaikamāhine: he mea weliweli kēia kanaka a alakaʻi i ka manaʻo no ka moe kolohe o kekahi wahine i ka wā ma mua.
2. Inā makemake kekahi kāne e pili me kahi wahine,'ōlelo pinepineʻo ia iā lākouʻaʻole lākou eʻae me nā mea (ʻo kēia hua'ōlelo e kani mau ana i ka pā kahi e nānāʻia ai ka hihia hoʻokolokolo). ʻO ka manawa pinepine e like me ka wahine i ka pilau i hiki ke hōʻino i ka mea hōʻino, e hoʻomaka i ka hakakā, e'ōlelo i nā'ōlelo hōʻino e hikiʻole ke hoʻi i hope no ka mea,ʻaʻole ia e kūkulu i kaʻohana a me ka maluhia, ka hoʻomaopopo a me ka pilina ma waena o nā lālā o kaʻohana. He nui nā wāhineʻaʻole i maopopo i ka mālamaʻana i kaʻohana a me ka pilina me ka mea i alohaʻia e hiki iā lākou keʻae i ka hoʻoholoʻana. ʻO ka wahine nona kēiaʻoihana i kapaʻia he naʻauao.
3. Ke kāne e hele mai i ka manaʻo o ke kaʻawaleʻana me kahi wahine, ināʻaʻoleʻo ia e haʻaheo i kēlā mea, ai kekahi manawa ua hilahilaʻo ia e hele pū me ia i ka hui o kona mau hoaaloha a me nā hoaaloha no ka hana kūponoʻole o kahi hoaaloha (ʻoiai ma lalo o ka ikaika o ka waiʻona).
4.ʻO ka hui pūʻana me ka wahine he mea hikiʻole ke hele, inā eʻike kokeʻia he kanaka e ke aloha i kona mau hoaaloha.
5. I nā manawa a pau e haʻalele ke kanaka i ka wahine ināʻikeʻo ia iā ia i kēlā me kēia lā i ka home e like me ka wahine palaualeloʻole makemakeʻole e nani iā ia (ʻaʻole wale no nā mea'ē aʻe). ʻO keʻano helehelena, ka lauoho lauoho, he kapa'ahuʻula ke alakaʻi aku i kahi kanaka i ka manaʻo o ke kaʻawaleʻana me kēia wahine, inā ma ka manawa like,ʻo ia iho he maʻemaʻe a maikaʻi maoli.
6. Pono ka wahine eʻike i ke kanaka me ka hoʻomanaʻoʻole, ma keʻano o ka puʻuwai a me kaʻuhane, hāʻawi i nā makana , e kūʻai i nā pua wale nō ke aloha nuiʻo ia iā ia . Ināʻaʻole kēia hana a pono mākou e hoʻomaopopo iā ia no kēia, ināʻaʻole he aloha hou. A laila, i kāu mau noi,ʻaʻoleʻoe e hoʻonui i ka hana, iʻole e hoʻonāukiuki iā ia aʻaʻole hoʻi e hoʻoikaika iāʻoe e māhele.
7.We kōkua, (ʻoiai, inā makemake nuiʻo ia i kahi wahine a mālama iā ia), ʻaʻole ia e kala mai i ka wahine hoʻopunipuni, aʻikeʻo ia, ua haʻaleleʻo ia.
8. Ua manaʻo nuiʻia e nā wāhine he nui e hiki ke mālamaʻia ke kanaka ma ka hānauʻana i kahi keiki (hōʻole, e hanaʻia). Hōʻike ka ola e hikiʻole i nā kānaka ke mālama i nā keiki ma kahi kokoke i kahi wahine alohaʻole: makemake lākou e kōkua i nā keiki ma kahi lōʻihi aku mai kēia wahine.
Inā he wahine akamai, akamai naʻaupō, hiki iā ia keʻae i nā hakakā, mālama, a nui loa i ke aloha i ke kāne, a laila,ʻaʻole ia e kaʻawale me ia.