ʻAe,ʻaʻole nā'ōlelo āpau e pili ana i kēia kumuhana e kākau, me ka kū'ēʻole i nā pāʻani e pili ana i ka makuahōnōwai a me ka hūnōna kāne.
ʻOiai paha, no ka mea,ʻo ka pilina ma waena o ka hūnōna wahine a me ka makuahōnōwai kāne e hanaʻia i ka manawa kūpono a me ke aloha.
I Rusia, koho ka makua kāne i ke keiki kāne a kāna wahine, no laila, ma ke ala,ʻaʻole i mālama ka makuahōnōwai wahine i ka hūnōna wahine -ʻo ke kanaka nui i loko o ka hale he kanaka. Ke noho nei ke kanaka nui i kēia manawaʻo Rusia. I loko o Ukraine, kekahiʻano pilinaʻohana:ʻo ka mana o ka manaʻo wahine he mea maopopo ia, a ua hōʻoiaʻia ma o nā loina. I kēia manawa, ua nui ka ulu o ka wahine, no laila, a me nā paio ma waena o nā wāhine o nā hanauna likeʻole. Ua hopohopo ka makuahōnōwai wahine e pili ana i kāna hūnōna wahine, no ka mea, ua lawelaweʻo ia i kāna keiki i kahiʻano kūikawā (e like me kona makua kāne i kāna kaikamahine). A no ka mea paha,ʻo ka nohoʻana o ka wahine i kaʻaoʻao o ka wahine i ka manawa e hakakā ai me ka hūnōna wahine.
Ma ka pilina ma waena o ka makuahōnōwai a me kahi hūnōna wahine, aia kekahiʻano: hiki i ka makuahōnōwai ke mālama i ka hūnōna wahine ma nā hihia he nui. ʻO ka mua - ināʻo ia i kālaiʻia, e ho'āʻo ana eʻoluʻolu i kāna wahine ma nā mea a pau. ʻO ka lua - inā he launa maikaʻi ko ka makuahōnōwai a me ka makuahōnōwai wahine, a ua hoʻopā ka hūnōna wahine i nā pono o kāna hūnōna wahine. A laila,ʻo ka makuahōnōwai kāne, e mālama i kāna mea waiwai mai ka hoʻokahuliʻana o kahi wahine'ōpio.
Inā pili ka makuahōnōwai wahine i ka hūnōna wahine, akā,ʻaʻoleʻo ia iʻae i kēia manaʻo i kaʻike, no ka mea, ua kapu ka pilina i keʻano o ke aloha o ka lehulehu e like me keʻano o ka huhū. ʻO ia hoʻi, inā hoʻonāukiuki ka hūnōna wahine i ka pono o ka makuahōnōwai kāne. He nui nā wāhine'ōpioʻaʻole lākou e manaʻo he makua kāne ka makuahōnōwai kāne, a holo mai kahi lumi moe i ka lumi lumi ma kahi māmā eʻaʻahu nei i ke kapa'ōlohelohe. Ināʻaʻole he makua kāne o ka wahine'ōpiopio (ua haʻalele nā mākua aʻaʻole paha i make ka makua kāne), e nānāʻo ia iā ia i loko o ka pīpī, a hoʻopunipuniʻoleʻia e like me nā kaikamāhine e hana nei me ka pope.
Uaʻikeʻo ia i kona hoihoi aʻaʻoleʻo ia e hūnā i ka pilina ma waena o kona makuahōnōwai a me kāna hūnōna wahine. ʻAe, ke hana nei nō hoʻi ia, aʻaʻoleʻo ia he mea maʻamau. Ma keʻano heʻano hoʻoponoponoʻohanaʻohana, makemake au e hōʻoia e hiki keʻano o ia kūlana ma kahi o nāʻano i uluʻia i loko o ka'ōnaehanaʻohana, e komo pū ana me kahiʻohana liʻiliʻi o nā'ōpio a me kaʻohanaʻohana. Mai ka piliʻana o ka makuahōnōwai a me ka makuahōnōwai wahine i nā makahiki a pau o ko lāua olaʻana, pehea lākou iʻike ai i nā pilikia o kaʻohana (ka hānauʻana o kahi keikikāne, kona pilikanaka, ka wā'ōpio, kāna "mahukaʻana mai ka pūnana"), pehea nā manaʻo o lākou i ka manawa i waihoʻia ai lāua wale nō ua ulu ke keiki. Mai kēia mau mea a pau e pili ana paha i ka makuahōnōwai kāne ke ho'āʻo i ka hūnōna wahine i ka pono o ke kāne a me nā pili aloha ma waena o ka makuahōnōwai a me kahi hūnōna wahine.
Inā he pilikino maikaʻi ko kahi makuahōnōwai kāne a me kahi makuahōnōwai wahine, inā lākou iʻae like me keʻano o ka manaʻo e hoʻoulu pū me ia,ʻaʻole paha i laweʻia e kāna hūnōna wahine. ʻO ka henpecked, he moeʻuhane e pakele ai mai ka ikaika o ka wahine maʻamau, hiki iā ia ke nānā pono i ka hūnōna wahine ma muli o keʻano o ka kū'ē.
Eia kekahi , he mea nui i ka wā o ke ola ka kanaka pono'ī. Uaʻike pahaʻo ia i ka pilikia o ka middlelife, a he mea paha, he hapa ia o ka menopause o nā kāne -ʻo ia wale nō ma kaʻano o kona moekolohe, ke kakahiaka nui a me ka hopena. ʻO Climax ka emiʻana o ka mana?
ʻAʻole wale nō ka nui loa o ka hikiʻole, no ka pilikia o ka pilikia, kaʻikeʻanaʻaʻole i mamao loa kaʻelemakule, a ma laila ke make. Inā paha eʻike mua ana ka makuahōnōwai kāne i ka hopena,ʻo ia hoʻi he pono e hōʻoiaʻiʻo iā ia iho a me kekahi poʻe (me kāna keiki) e hele mau anaʻo ia!
Aia kekahi ma ka hakakā me ke keiki ma kēia kūlana? ʻOiaʻiʻo. Ma kekahiʻaoʻao,ʻike ka makua i ke keiki e hoʻomau i kona manaʻo a noʻonoʻo: no ka mea ua koho kaʻu keiki i kēia wahine, a laila he mea i loko ona. ʻAʻole e like me kona makuahōnōwai wahine, hiki iā ia ke mahalo i nā kīʻaha a me nā talewai waiwai o ka hūnōna wahine, akā,ʻo kona mauʻano wahine. Eia hou, ua hoʻoikaika nā mākua e hoʻolale i kā lākou mau moeʻuhane i hanaʻoleʻia, kahi olaʻole, i nā keiki. Nānāʻo ia i kāna hūnōna wahine a noʻonoʻo: makemake pahaʻo ia e loaʻa ka wahine like me ia? A iʻole paha paha kāna wahine me ia, akā i kahi 30 mau makahiki i hala aku nei ... Ua kokoke i nā manaʻo weliweli a me nā pilina ma waena o ka makuahōnōwai kāne a me kahi hūnōna wahine. Akā,ʻaʻole i makaʻu kona makuakāne i ke aka o ka hoʻokipaʻana i kēia kūlana. ʻO nā mea a pau e pili ana i ka pilina pilina me nā pili pili (ʻo ka hūnōna wahine i kahi kokoke i ke kaikamahine) ua kapu loa ia i loko o ke kaiaulu!
Eia kekahi , ma nā'āina he nui nā kānāwai e pili ana i ka pilina ma waena o ka makuahōnōwai kāne a me kahi hūnōna wahine. ʻO kekahi laʻana, ma Pelekania, ua pāpāʻia nā mareʻana ma waena o ka wahine a me kona makuahōnōwai mua, oiaiʻo ke kāne e noho ana. Hoʻokahi nō ka piliʻana i nā male ma waena o ka hūnōna kāne a me kahi makuahōnōwai. I kēia manawa i hala aku nei, hoʻokahi kāne, he 60 makahiki a me kāna hūnōna wahine 40 makahiki, i ko lākou makemake e mare, ua hoʻomau lākou i ka heleʻana aku i ka Halealiʻi o Strasbourg a loaʻa kaʻae e mare. ʻAʻole i hana kaʻu keiki me kēia wahine, akāʻo koʻu makuakāne a ua maikaʻiʻo ia. Ma ke ala, e hōʻike kēia hihia i kēiaʻano, ke hele ka hūnōna wahine i ka makuahōnōwai kāne. ʻO kahi kanaka'ōpio wale nō ka'ōlelo hoʻohiki, he kiʻi kiʻi kanaka, aʻo ia ma kahi e pili ana iā ia, he kanaka kūpono aʻike, iʻike i kāna makemake no ka wahine a no ke ola. Ma kēia kumuhana aia he'onikala maikaʻi loa "Damage" me Juliette Binoche ma ka mea nui - no ke kuko i hoʻopiha i ka luna kālai'āina kiʻekiʻe o ka makahiki waena a me ka wahine male a kāna keiki. ʻO ia koke nō i nā mea he nui.
ʻO ka mea mua , hiki keʻikeʻia ka manaʻo pilikino a me ka pilina ma waena o ka makuahōnōwai kāne a me kahi hūnōna wahine (inā naʻe paha) kaʻike a me kaʻikeʻoleʻana o kahi kanaka haʻahaʻa. ʻO kahi kanakaʻelemakule, i laweʻia e kona mau manaʻo, ua hiki iā ia me nā pāpā a me nā kapu, ke'ōlelo iā ia iho: "Ke hoʻomaka nei kaʻu keikikāne, akā, aia nō iā ia nā mea a pau ma mua ona. Ua hala aku koʻu ola. I kēia manawa aloha wau a makemake wau eʻike i koʻu aloha. ʻO koʻu ola kēia,ʻaʻohe mea nāna e keʻakeʻa iaʻu mai ka nohoʻana i kaʻaoʻao aʻu i makemake ai. "
ʻO ka lua,'ānō e pili ana i ka pehea e hoʻoholo ai i ko mākou mau mākua. No kāna keiki,ʻo ka hana a kona makuakāne, he mea kupaianaha ia, uaʻikeʻo ia i ka weliweli, a hikiʻole ke hōʻoia i ka hōʻeha i ke kūlana maikaʻi, ua pepehiʻo ia i ke ola. Pono mākou e hoʻomanaʻo i nā mākua like nō mākou me mākou, aʻo lākou hoʻi nā nawaliwali o lākou, a ua hiki iā lākou ke hana nui loa. Ua hiki iaʻu ke hoʻomaopopo i kēia mau'ōlelo hōʻoki e pili ana i ka hūnōna wahine a me ka makuahōnōwai kāne (a me ka piliʻole i ka hūnōna wahine a me ka makuahōnōwai wahine) no ka mea he meaʻeha ka kumu,ʻaʻohe kūpono eʻakaʻaka.
Akā, hiki paha i kekahi mauʻano "palupalu" o ka paʻi ma waena o ka makuakāne a me ke kaikoʻeke ke hiki paha? Hiki iā lākou, i ka laʻana, ke hōʻike i nā mea likeʻole. Hoʻomaopopo wau i ka moʻaukala o kekahi mau hoaaloha. I ka hōʻeaʻana o ke kanaka'ōpio i ka home e hoʻolauna i kona hoaaloha, ua alohaʻo ia i koʻu makuakāne. He kanaka hoʻonaʻauao maikaʻiʻo ia, he loea, ua hoʻopuehuʻia, e mau loa ana i nā ao. Ua waihoʻo kāna wahine iā ia iho i ka home,ʻaʻole ona manaʻo kiʻekiʻe,ʻaʻoleʻo ia i hoʻolohe i nāʻano.
ʻAʻole ia he mea kupanaha no ka makemake o ke kauka no ka'ōpio, nani, a,ʻo ka mea nui loa, he kaikamahine akamai. Noho lākou no nā hola i loko o ka lumi hoʻomaha a ua kūkākūkā i nā pilikia o ke ao holoʻokoʻa, ka hoʻomohalaʻana i nā moʻomeheu honua - i ka pōkole, nā kumuhana i hikiʻole i ke kauka'ōlelo ke kamaʻilio pū me kāna wahine. Ua haʻiʻo ia i kāna keiki ua maikaʻi ka kaikamahine, a mahalo iā ia. Ke manaʻo nei wau ināʻaʻole i haki ke kāne'ōpio, akā ua male,ʻo ka piliʻana me ka hūnōna o ke kauka he mea maikaʻi ia, akā, he mea lili paha koʻu makuahōnōwai wahine.
ʻO kekahi kumu'ē aʻe. Aia i loko o kaʻohana kekahi "hoʻopiʻi": makuahōnōwai. Ua haʻaleleʻo ia i kāna wahine, ua piliʻo ia me kona makuahine (a ke ola nei kona makuahine me kāna hūnōna wahine,ʻo ia hoʻi kona makuahōnōwai wahine). Me kāna keikikāne,ʻaʻole i mālama kēia kanaka iā ia. Akā hoʻokahi manawa i kēlā me kēia makahiki, i ka lā o ka hānauʻana o ka hūnōna wahine, keʻike mau neiʻo ia i kona puka, uaʻaʻahuʻia, me ka pua nani a me ka pā kālā $ 100 i loko o kekahi enveloppi.
Uaʻaeʻo ia i kēia mau makana, a me kāna kāne ua lilo i nā mea henehene -'ōlelo lākou,ʻaʻohe $ 100 i pilikia. Ke manaʻo nei wau e hui pūʻia nā kumu o ka pilina ma waena o ka makuahōnōwai kāne a me ka hūnōna wahine: he makemake e hōʻeha aku i koʻu mauʻohana, a me ka paio me kaʻu keiki, a, paha paha, ke aloha no ka hūnōna wahine. E hoʻi kākou i ka leka heluhelu. Nonoiʻo ia i ka'ōlelo aʻo - pehea e hana ai, iʻole ai e paʻi ke kaua ... Ua ho'āʻo pinepine nā kānaka e pale i ka paio, me ka manaʻo heʻino kēia. Eia naʻe, he pākahi ka hakakā, me ka hōʻailona hōʻailona. Pono pono e ho'ākāka i ka pilina.
ʻO ka mea mua , e kūkākūkāʻoe i ke kūlana me kāu kāne. ʻO kāna mau hopena ua pili i ka pilinaʻana o ka pilina me ko lākou makuakāne. Inā hoʻoponoponoʻo ia i kona makuakāne, eʻikeʻo ia i kahi mea weliweli, aʻaʻole paha e manaʻoʻiʻo i kāna hūnōna wahine. Akā, ma nā hihia, pono e kūkākūkāʻia. Eia kekahi, pono ke hoʻomaka e kūkulu i nā palena kūpono -ʻoʻoe a me kouʻohanaʻuʻuku. He kuleana kona e noʻonoʻo i kona manaʻo, e noʻonoʻo i kona manaʻo, e ola i kona ola e like me konaʻike he pono, aʻaʻole hoʻi e hewa.
"ʻAʻole au e kau i kekahi mea ma luna ou, akāʻaʻoleʻoe e kau mai i kekahi mea ma luna oʻu",ʻo ia kona kūlana, ma kēiaʻano a me ka pilina me nā mākua o kāna kāne a me nā kānaka ākea. Hiki paha iā mākou ke kamaʻilio me ka makuahōnōwai kāne iā ia iho. Akā,ʻo kēia mau hana kūʻokoʻa wale nō, ponoʻoe e koi e hoʻopaʻa i kahi kaʻawale.
Eia naʻe,ʻo nā mea a pau e pili ana i keʻano o ka pilina ma kaʻohana. Eia naʻe, e hoʻopōmaikaʻi ka paio i nā mea a pau - e loli ana kekahi mea, e kahe ana ka holo. ʻAʻohe kūpono e hūnā i nā pūpū i loko o ke keena mehameha - i ka manawa a ma hope paha e loaʻa ana.