ʻAʻole hiki i ka hoaaloha e hoʻomaha,ʻaʻoleʻo ia e noi i kahi mea nui,ʻo ia ka meaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻo ke alohaʻo ka hoaaloha ...ʻO kēia mau'ōlelo mai kahi mele a nā keiki e hōʻike i ka manaʻo nui e hoʻokūkū ana i ka manaʻo o "hoaaloha". Akā,ʻokoʻa ka pilina.
Inā maikaʻi nā kāne, he mea hoʻohanohano kēia i ka wahine, akā, inā he hoaaloha ke kāne a me ka wahine,ʻo ia ke kumu o ka hilinaʻi, makaʻu a me kekahi manawa huhū. Ma mua o ka hopena a me ke kumu "no", e noʻonoʻo kākou.
ʻO ka mea mua,ʻo ka manaʻo nui o "ka pilina" no nā kāne a me nā wāhine he mea likeʻole konaʻano.
Inā pili ka wahine i ka pilina hilinaʻi,ʻo ia hoʻi, nā wāhine e like me ka nininiʻana i kaʻuhane o kēlā me kēia, e hāʻawi i ka'ōlelo aʻo, e kūkākūkā wale i nā wāhine wale nō, akā,ʻo nā mākau kāne paha, a laila, pili ka pilina ma nā hana -ʻaʻohe kanaka makemakeʻole, ma ka manaʻo nui,ʻaʻole lākou e'ōlelo nui, hiki ke maʻalahi iā lākou ke hana. E hoʻomanaʻo, keʻike pinepine neiʻoe i kahi kanaka e kamaʻilio ana ma ke kelepona me kāna hoaaloha hoʻokahi hola aʻoi aʻe paha? A iʻole nā kānaka e kūkākūkā ana i kahi holomua e hiki mai ana no ka pāʻani pôpeku.
ʻO ka lua,ʻo nā hiʻohiʻona, e like me ka taboos, ikaika loa i loko o ko kāua mau manaʻo. ʻO ka pilina ma waena o nā poʻe o ka wahine hoʻokahi, he mea maʻalahi iā mākou, mahalo, heʻano maoli kēiaʻano. ʻOiai,ʻo ka hiki i ka pilina ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine he mea maopopo ia,ʻaʻole hiki keʻaeʻia, no ka mea he wahi kahi. ʻO kekahi kumu no ke aha eʻimi ai kekahi mau kāne i ka pilina me kekahi wahine ma kaʻaoʻao, a makemake nā wāhine e hoʻokaʻawale i ko lākou mau manaʻo likeʻole me kahi hoa kāne, a noʻonoʻo ponoʻo iaʻo kā lākou hoaaloha?
Ua maopopo a maopopo ka maopopo inā heʻohana kaʻaoʻao o ka paona. Hāʻawi pinepine nā hoa iā mākou i kekahi mea, akā,ʻaʻole hiki i kaʻohana ke hāʻawi: no ka laʻana, hiki iā mākou ke kamaʻilio pū me lākou ma nā kumuhana a kaʻohana i hoʻopuka ai. ʻO kēia mau kumuhana e pili pinepine nei i kā mākou maikaʻiʻole i nā hana, nā manaʻo a me nāʻike. ʻO kekahi laʻana,ʻaʻole e noʻonoʻo ke kanaka i ka haʻiʻana i kāna wahine ua makemakeʻo ia i kekahi wahine'ē aʻe, aiʻole ua nui kona nui i loko o ka casino, ai kekahi manawa e haʻiʻo ia i kāna wahine a me nā poʻe kamaaina ua maʻiʻo ia. No laila, paʻakikī i ka wahine e haʻi aku i kāna kāne, ua lōʻihi ka lōʻihi o kā lākou moekoloheʻana maiʻole maikaʻi a iʻoleʻo ia e makemake e noho kaʻawale.
ʻO kēiaʻano puka, no ka kāne a me ka wahine, ke hānau mai nei i kahiʻano likeʻole o ka pilina, kahi iʻike ai kaʻike maoli o nā poʻe "haole" i ke apo o ka pilina aloha loa. ʻAʻole kēia he mea pōʻino:ʻoiaʻiʻo, hiki i nā kāne ke hana i kekahi mea no kekahi i kekahi, akā,ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻokaʻawale i nā mea huna. Haʻalele lākou i ko lākou manaʻo no kā lākou wahine. ʻAʻole i kēlā manawa kēia manawa e hele aku ana kēia wahine i wahine nāna.
I nā kāne kāne, hiki i ka wahine ke hoʻololi i "nāʻoiʻoi" o ke kino wahine, e hōʻike iā lākou i ka mea i hūnāʻia e kāna mau hoaaloha. "ʻO nā pilina pili aloha ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine, ua hūnāʻia kahi moe ma kahi'ē," wahi a Lilian Rubin, ka mea kālaihonua o ka mea, "ʻo ia ka mea eʻoluʻolu loa ai me kaʻoluʻolu, akā,ʻo ka hapanui o nā kāne a me nā wāhine eʻae aku i ka pilina pili loa ka hoaaloha, no ka mea,ʻo ka moekolohe ka mea e hoʻokau i ka makemake no ka waiwai, a me ke alohaʻole. " ʻAʻole hiki i nā hoaaloha maikaʻi a pau ke lilo i mea aloha. Hiki i nā kāne a me nā wāhine ke hoʻohui maikaʻi i ka pilina a me ka hoʻokipaʻana i ka wahine, akāʻo ka hapanui o nā hoaaloha likeʻole e palekana i kēia manawa kūpono.
I kēia wā, heʻano koʻikoʻi ka pilina maoli, e nīnau iāʻoe iho i kahi nīnau maʻalahi:ʻo wai kou mau hoaaloha maikaʻi? Manaʻo wau e kali mākou i kēia pane, no ka mea, ua nui ka manaʻo o mākou i ka manaʻo o ka hua'ōlelo "aloha". ʻAʻole hiki ke hoʻokaʻawaleʻia ka pilina ma muli o ke kāne,ʻo nā kānaka a mākou e manaʻo nei he mau hoaaloha ka pono, akā ināʻaʻole hikiʻole.