Pehea e ola ai i ka haʻaleleʻana i ke kanaka?

ʻO kaʻaʻaiʻana me kahi kanaka i alohaʻia kekahi o nā ho'āʻo nui loa i ke ola o kekahi wahine. Manaʻo nā kānaka psychologists i ka nui o nā kānaka e hopohopo nei i ka hanaʻana i nā pilina maikaʻi, no ka mea, ua hoʻohuliʻo ia iā lākou i ka wā kamaliʻi. Ua like lākou me kaʻike houʻana i nā mea weliweli o ke kaʻawaleʻana me ko lākou mau mākua.

E hoʻohaʻahaʻaʻoe iāʻoe iho.

I kekahi manawa, he lōʻihi loa ka lōʻihi o ka kaʻawaleʻana, me ka manaʻoʻole i ka hilinaʻiʻole a me ke kaumahaʻole. ʻO ka mea hoʻokomo i ke kaʻawaleʻana, me ke aloha pū me ka hoahana i haʻaleleʻia, hele pū me ia me ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa loa i ke kaʻina hana no ka hemoʻana. Mai hōʻoluʻolu i kēia. He mea maikaʻi ke ola i kekahi mau lā wale nō, aiʻole he mau hebedoma, ma mua o kekahi mau mahina i ka lālani. ʻO ka manawa pinepine,ʻo kekahi mau meaʻehaʻeha e hiki ke hana i ka manaʻo o kekahi hana i hoʻopauʻoleʻia. I kēia hihia, ponoʻoe -ʻo ka hope - e kamaʻilio kūkākūkā me ka mea aloha. Pono pono e ho'āʻo e kau i ka momona ma ka pilina ma ka manawa hope loa. No laila pehea e ola ai i ka haʻaleleʻana i ke kanaka?

"Aloha" e hoʻomaikaʻi

ʻO ka pinepine,ʻo ka hewa o kahi hoa i haʻalele iāʻoe, hiki iā mākou ke hoʻopaʻa iā mākou i loko o ka hale paʻahao no ko mākou manaʻo, a hiki i ka wā e ola aiʻoe i ka kaʻawaleʻana mai ke kāne. He mea paʻakikī ka kalaʻana, a inā nō paha i manaʻoʻoe ua kalaʻiaʻoe, hiki i ka hihia ke hoʻi mai iāʻoe i 5 mau minuke, 5 mau lā aiʻole nā ​​mahina. Eia naʻe, e ola ai nā manawa, aʻo nā manawa a pau āu e kala ai i nā mea a pau, e maʻalahi. ʻOiai,ʻo ka paepae hōʻailona o ka māhele kōkua e kōkua i ka hoʻokaʻawaleʻana i ke kanaka. Hiki iāʻoe, no ka laʻana, e kiʻi wale i kahi pōhaku kaumaha, a laila hoʻolei aku me kāu mau pili piliʻole. A iʻole e hoʻomālamalama i ke kukui a noʻonoʻo i kou uluʻana, ua pau kou aloha. ʻO kēiaʻano maʻalahi loa, e like me ka hoʻowelipeluʻana i nā kiʻi a pau, he hana maikaʻi nō hoʻi ia. A maikaʻi ka puhiʻana iā lākou i ke ahi, a laila, mihi, e holoi iā ia mai kahi halepaku - e ola ia no ka kaʻawaleʻana. ʻAʻole ponoʻoe e moku. ʻO ka manawa pinepine, nā wāhine e mōhai aku i kā lākou mauʻoihana pono'ī no ka aloha o ke aloha, akāʻo kaʻoiaʻiʻo -ʻaʻole iʻole, no ka hoʻohana wikiwikiʻana o nā kānaka.

Mai hana hou i nā kuhi hewa i hala.

No ke aha mākou e hoʻohuli ai i ka poʻe o ka manaʻo like iā mākou iho a hana i nā hewa likeʻole me ka piliʻana iā lākou? I ka hapanui o nā hihia, kū kēia ma keʻano o kā mākou kamaʻilio me nā kānaka. Keʻae like kāuʻano kamaʻilio me keʻano o ka kamaʻilioʻana a kāu hoa, laila,ʻoiaʻiʻo, e loaʻa iāʻoe kahi pilina aloha me ia. A ināʻaʻole, aia hoʻi, mai kēia manawa a me kēia manawa e hoʻomakaʻoe i nā pilikia, a hopohopo pahaʻoe no ka maopopoʻole iāʻoe. Inā hoʻomau houʻoe i ke aloha me nā "pōʻino" e pili like i kā lākou hana i nā hoahānau māhoe, ponoʻoe e kahaha no kou hopenaʻana? E ho'āʻo e nānā me ka nānā pono i nā pilina ma mua: he aha kāu hana hewa, a he aha ka mea i hewa ai ka hoa. E ho'āʻo e hoʻololi i ka manaʻo me nā kāne. Mai hele i kahi hāke hoʻokahi. ʻO kahi hiʻohiʻo maikaʻi o nā mākua he ikaika nui loa i ka ola a pau o kā lākou mau keiki.

E ikaika.

He meaʻono ia, e like me ka noʻonoʻoʻana o nā kānakaʻepekema, i mea e pale aku ai i nāʻano kolohe a iʻole mau mea hōʻalo paha,ʻo ia ka hemoʻana a me kaʻike puaʻahi, he 21 mau lā wale nō! Pono kēia manawa no ka lolo e hana hou i kāna hana. Hiki iāʻoe ke kōkua i kou lolo e hana hou i ka wikiwiki, ināʻaʻoleʻoe eʻae i nā manaʻo maikaʻiʻole e like me "ʻAʻole au eʻike hou i kēlāʻano kanaka!" Akā, e'ōlelo pinepineʻoe iāʻoe iho, "E hālāwai koke ana au me kekahi kanaka nui!" He maikaʻi loa nā manaʻo, a me keʻano kūikawā, hoʻouluhua, aʻo wai ka mea nāna eʻike, e kali ana paha kou aloha aloha iāʻoe ma ke kihi. ʻAʻole hiki iāʻoe ke hopohopo wale no ke kaʻawaleʻana me kahi kanaka? Ponoʻoe e wehe i nā manawa a pau.